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    I really hope kid2 is how it goes for me, I tore the last time and had little to no milk production. Fingers crossed this one goes better for all of us!! 
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    Does anyone have decent milk production with their first? I plan to breast feed exclusively, but it seems like I hear nothing but horror stories! Are serious breast feeding issues really that common? I'm getting nervous.
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    @derbysquirrel I'm having the same fears over here. Is there some system to ensuring your supply works? Do you pump, don't you pump, agh!

    I haven't been carrying around these DDD's for 30 years now just to have them be udderly useless to me. ;)
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    I had no problems with milk production with #1 or #2. I had a lot of excess milk actually and was able to store a lot of milk, and I donated a lot of milk the second time to my bff. Drink lots of water and feed that baby on demand. Just know if it doesn’t work how you envisioned, that a fed baby is best, no matter how you feed them.
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    @derbysquirrel @neeraja_k I know some moms who had a great time with their first! I really really struggled but I hope it was due to inexperience and that this go round I have an easier time. My mom and my MIL said it got easier for them production wise and just easier in general with each kid. They each had 3. FX for you guys that it goes great!

    my TMI is that after we have sex I get that vagina falling out feeling. And I pee a little every time I sneeze which did not ever happen with my first. I keep teasing DH asking him if he will pay for reconstructive surgery after this baby because we are most likely done.
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    @derbysquirrel  @neeraja_k I had no issues with my first breastfeeding. I actually went into it not really wanting to do it, but I have this breastfeeding die hard friend. I committed to 3 months because I just knew I would hate it and it would be difficult. I ended up breast feeding with such ease and breast fed my daughter for a year and a half. I also had a deep freezer filled to the brim with milk. Make sure you have a lactation consultant help out initially. Also push through the pain and soreness in the beginning. Use LOTS of nipple cream and no soap on the nipples, it drys them out. Don’t put any expectations on breastfeeding and just take it a day at a time. I think that was my saving grace, I didn’t  have any expectations so it made it easy to adjust to. 
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    I had great milk supply with my first. Don't be scared. I let her nurse on demand for the first month while my supply was regulating. there will be some pain or discomfort for a  month or two, but it should get better. If it's incredible painful or last longer than a couple months, seek help from an LC. My problem was that DD had an undiagnosed lip tie. It hurt like hell for me to breast feed for about 6 months. Maybe I wasnt vocal enough, but my LC didn't diagnose it correctly, so I thought I was doing something wrong. Finally when we discovered it, she had grown and it stopped hurting, so nothing was done about it. They have a quick and easy surgery to take care of tongue and lip ties. Needless to say I went on to BF for over a year with zero milk supply issues. Stay hydrated, eat, and try not to stress about it. 


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    Breastfeeding was really rough the first few weeks, and I got clogs, mastitis and blebs a few times, but I had no supply issues. I hope breastfeeding is easier the second time, but I’m not worried about supply. Heck, I plan to nurse both my baby and my toddler.
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    I had no issues either. Read all of the things, get a good pillow to help with positioning (we used ours for 3 weeks tops, but it was worth its weight in gold those first couple of weeks!) 

    I used coconut oil to keep from chapping, and pumped from the get-go to bump my supply enough to build a decent stash (in addition to feeding on demand/every 2-3 hours). I still breastfeed my daughter who is 13 months, but the hormonal soup from being pregnant is seriously doing a number on me. I'll probably wean soon and if she's interested when LO arrives I'd be okay with tandem nursing. I actually started pumping colostrum at 37 weeks to get familiar with the pump, parts, and feeling of it. It can definitely cause contractions but I still ended up going over term; had a good amount of colostrum to donate though!
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    I had the same experience breast feeding #1 as @lalala2004.  I actually had an over-supply at first but it was really rough the first few weeks as far as pain...don't mean to scare people but I wish someone had heads up'd me that it could be challenging because it was definitely a challenge I hadn't expected.  Nipple shields were life savers and there were a few points I had to pump because it was less painful than nursing.  My son was also tongue tied so this could've contributed.  I'd let leftover expressed milk just air dry on my boobs because it seemed to help the pain, BUT, it did go away and ended up being an awesome experience!
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    I will say... it SHOULDNT hurt. Uncomfortable maybe at first but if baby is pinchy, you are bleeding, or it’s actually PAINFUL you have latch issues and/or tongue tie and lip ties. You don’t have to suck it up and bear it because it shouldn’t be that bad. 




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    pghctwife said:
    I will say... it SHOULDNT hurt. Uncomfortable maybe at first but if baby is pinchy, you are bleeding, or it’s actually PAINFUL you have latch issues and/or tongue tie and lip ties. You don’t have to suck it up and bear it because it shouldn’t be that bad. 
    This! 

    I know many FTMs who had wonderful supplies and no issues whatsoever. If you are having issues, or feeling like it’s just not working well, I highly recommend finding a lactation consultant. One of my L&D nurses who I befriended is one and she was immensely helpful. 
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    @derbysquirrel I had lots of friends who had no issues nursing their first kid.  That just added to my own feeling of being a failure and not knowing what was wrong with my body.  Some of the comments above that lack of resources, education, or experience were the cause are pretty hurtful.  Our latch was great.  When I was nursing on leave everything was perfect. 
    My struggle was when I returned to work and my body didn't respond the same to the pump.  I took so much Fenugreek I couldn't stand my own smell and was pumping up to 4x a day at work and then trying to pump after his evening feed to get enough for the next day.  I was killing myself trying to stack up to my own expectations.  Adding that guilt on top of the struggle of returning to work and leaving a 3m old at daycare was really emotional.

    Looking back I know now that the only issue was in my head.  You'll be a great mom.  Tell yourself that.  And don't let false expectations bring you down. 
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    @derbysquirrel I had lots of friends who had no issues nursing their first kid.  That just added to my own feeling of being a failure and not knowing what was wrong with my body.  Some of the comments above that lack of resources, education, or experience were the cause are pretty hurtful.  Our latch was great.  When I was nursing on leave everything was perfect. 
    My struggle was when I returned to work and my body didn't respond the same to the pump.  I took so much Fenugreek I couldn't stand my own smell and was pumping up to 4x a day at work and then trying to pump after his evening feed to get enough for the next day.  I was killing myself trying to stack up to my own expectations.  Adding that guilt on top of the struggle of returning to work and leaving a 3m old at daycare was really emotional.

    Looking back I know now that the only issue was in my head.  You'll be a great mom.  Tell yourself that.  And don't let false expectations bring you down. 
    So much this. I struggled with BF my first, I had untreated PPD, and he was a colic baby. I was educated, I reached out to all the resources I could, and still nothing. No amount of research or resources could help and it made me feel like a failure. I ALSO took my weight in Fenugreek and still to this day cannot smell maple syrup without feeling sick. It was almost a blessing when I was hospitalized when DS was 5 months old and I couldn't nurse anymore after that. 

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    @livinthesunnylife I’m very sorry if anything that I said above was hurtful to you—that was definitely not my intention. I can relate about returning to work and the anxiety that comes with pumping and knowing that you are your child’s sole food source at that point. It can be mentally and physically exhausting. Again, I apologize and I hope that anyone who chooses to nurse is successful, and that everyone has a strong support system no matter what method you use to feed your baby. 
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    I bought a book on breastfeeding instead of taking any classes. It focused so much on bad latches, like that was the fix for any issues. I'm sure that fixing a bad latch will help immensely, but it isn't always the issue. DD had a great latch and it still hurt to BF for a solid month. Your nips just aren't used to all that action for hours and hours each day. So don't freak out if you feel sore, totally normal. Also, there are some Lactation consultants that will come to your home! They can check baby's latch, any tongue tie issues, do a weighed feed. All at home. Those first few weeks were a little hairy for me and this was super helpful. 
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    @derbysquirrel I felt the same way, and here I am basically dry nursing a 22mo. How did I end up so crunchy? :lol: But really when it comes down to it, he doesn’t take a pacifier, and I don’t want to hear him whine all day, so as hard as breastfeeding can be, it’s still somehow related to how lazy I am! 
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    Am I the only one who doesn’t breastfeed? I’m not saying that in a particular way, just curious after the above posts. I have no stance either way on it either, I feel like I should say. Whatever works is whatever works for everyone. 
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    @scottishlass1213 My sister couldn't breastfeed her first DD despite trying. She chose not to breastfeed her second DD at all. As a FTM, I am curious why you don't breastfeed if you don't mind sharing. I want to try and breastfeed, but I've heard so much about feeling guilty from people who do it and those who struggle that I'm trying to go into it open minded. If it doesn't work for me, then it doesn't work for me.
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    @melbel0824 honestly, I just found it weird for me. I didn’t like it. I tried to pump too and that was just awful so formula worked well for us. DS has not been a sickly kid at all. He never got sick until he went to daycare at 3. Both me and my sister were formula fed babies and were never sick either as kids. 

    I have ave no strong feelings either way. I think both are great ways to feed your child but for me I just wasn’t comfortable breastfeeding. 
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    @derbysquirrel I felt the same way, and here I am basically dry nursing a 22mo. How did I end up so crunchy? :lol: But really when it comes down to it, he doesn’t take a pacifier, and I don’t want to hear him whine all day, so as hard as breastfeeding can be, it’s still somehow related to how lazy I am! 
    My 20 month old is still nursing and I feel exactly the same way!! Except I’ve just started getting really sore when he latches—hoping it will pass soon!
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    @kburg15 I get sore, too. What really drives me crazy is he likes to pinch me while nursing for some reason.
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    @derbysquirrelI yes for breastfeeding being more convenient if it works for you.  Getting up 5x a night is hard enough with just whipping out a boob.  Screw having to make a bottle too.  Also traveling, your boobs go everywhere with you so you don't have to plan ahead or deal with prepping anything. 

    It sounds like you totally have the right mentality!
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    Am I the only one who doesn’t breastfeed? I’m not saying that in a particular way, just curious after the above posts. I have no stance either way on it either, I feel like I should say. Whatever works is whatever works for everyone. 
    I don't.  I tried for about 3 weeks but we had numerous issues and we moved on to formula pretty quickly.  Formula was expensive, but it was sooo easy and nice for DH to be able to help.  I plan to try to breastfeed #2 but also secretly kind of hoping we have to use formula again for my own sanity.
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    Eh, I stand by if it is consistently painful, seek help because it shouldn’t be. Doesn’t mean that it is easy or it won’t hurt - but you shouldn’t feel like that’s just how it is, and it can get better. its certainly easier/harder for some mamas and babies than others of course.

    And dry nursing sucks! I weaned my youngest few weeks ago bc it was really hurting and I was getting aversion-y about it. But he’ll be 3 in June so it was time lol.




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    Nursing is harder in the beginning than formula. But once you get the kinks worked out, and find your groove it’s sooo easy, convenient. Your boob is always there lol.




    11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
    05/2017 cp
    08/03/17 no hb 8w

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    pghctwife said:
    Nursing is harder in the beginning than formula. But once you get the kinks worked out, and find your groove it’s sooo easy, convenient. Your boob is always there lol.
    This really depends. I nursed and pumped for L 4months. E was almost 7 months. Still was never easier than a bottle of formula and we had 90% of the kinks out in the first month. It wasn’t confident or easy.


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    The ease and convenience is a pretty common experience after the newborn days. Of course everyone is different, and that’s fine. 




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    I’m with you @juliebird6 I will try it again with this baby but also kinda hope I can switch to formula early on because breastfeeding gave me so much anxiety and made my ppd so much worse but maybe it will be different this time around
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