As someone else said, my DH likes to be at the doc appointments when he can because he has other questions or just likes to hear what the doctor says firsthand. I'm the same way - we just rescheduled her 2 year appointment so that we can both be there because I was going to be travelling and didn't want to miss it. We don't take off work afterwards.
@acunamatada - check your manual for your specific car seat. A certified tech will likely tell you to never wash the straps because the chemicals in the soap and cleaning supplies can break down the elasticity of the threads. I've definitely spot treated ours though. So I say - just do your research and decide if you're comfortable still using or not.
@MichelleAG05 yeah they look completely fine and they were washed in gentle detergent. I think I’m leaning towards replacing them. I feel like it’s a little overkill though, I wouldn’t have even given it a second thought if I didn’t google lol. But $50 beats LO getting hurt in a crash, that’s for sure.
ETA scratch that, called customer service and it’s only $12.50 to replace.. Score!
Nooooo! Hahaha! My sister facetimed me last night and I couldn't stop staring at how round my face is. I mentioned it to her and she didn't disagree with me. FML.
I guess we are the lucky few that put on weight in our faces first. YAY
@SmashJam - what is it with husbands relating "liking" your job to "importance" of doing your job!? Mine does the same thing...yet when I try to make the same argument about his OT not getting him out of house/kid work because he LIKES his job the argument doesn't fly lol
@gingerbride26 yes! DH spends time working on "his network" downstairs in his free time and works late weekends sometimes on computer projects as a choice...bit when I bring up my need for free time he says, " I don't get any Either! All that time downstairs is partially for work! "
@SmashJam yea it's our recurring "discussion". I get extra cranky because before kids I was a workaholic myself, pulling 60 hour weeks and 13 hour days. He said he felt I was putting work over family. So I thought about it, and cut way back - but since DD was born it's not uncommon for him to work weekends and not come home until after 7. He'd gotten better about it after a long talk but the past month he's been 7 days a week and 11 hr days again. Luckily he's approved for OT on anything over 45 hours right now, but I'd rather have him home than the extra cash.
I ordered a burger at a relatively upscale restaraunt last night. I asked for medium well. It tasted fine and the light was dim. I got halfway through and realized it was very pink inside! It was a thin patty, but even so, the inside of it was pink. I freaked out and stopped eating it.
The chef told me they don't check the temperature before serving and my doctor's office told me to call back if I have any symptoms. I don't, I don't think - I'm just so anxious I feel sick to my stomach. I'm really worried about listeria, ecoli, and toxomoplasis... I know undercooked beef can carry all of those things and often there aren't any symptoms.
Anyone else accidentally (or purposefully?) eat medium burgers and been just fine?
@texasmainer I'm sure you are completely fine, relax. I eat my burgers and steaks medium, pink on the inside during pregnancy. Your risk, especially from a reputable restaurant is so so so tiny.
@texasmainer yup. all the time. I can't eat steaks more done than medium and while I have been trying to eat well done burgers I have definitely eaten some that were medium rare... I'm fine. If you start to feel sick (other than anxiety) I would call your doctor, but you will probably be perfectly fine.
@texasmainer I have been begrudgingly ordering my steaks medium as a compromise to pregnancy (I’m very much a medium rare person generally) and everything’s been fine. Granted, the only steak we go out for is the best steak restaurant in nyc and probably one of the highest rated in the world so I feel very confident in quality but I really wouldn’t stress out about it
@texasmainer if its a reputable restaurant I wouldn't worry at all! I eat medium burgers and have accidentally gotten the occasional medium rare and its been fine!
Footed long sleeve newborn sleepers. Babe will likely be born in august our house has no air and my babies have been 9 and 8lbs. No right? Should I keep long sleeve onesie since I can go no pants? I only have a few newborn sleepers I bought last time (June baby) so I must have survives without but just checking to see what others thought. Going through hand me downs
@SmashJam I probably wouldn’t. DS was born in late July and we also had no a/c except the bedroom that year. I didn’t do footed sleepers until he was out of the swaddle, at least. So like 3+ mo, it was cooling down by then anyways. But he was a warm baby in general so I kept him in the bare minimum, diaper and swaddle or even just a short sleeved onesie.
My son lived in his footed newborn sleepers but we have central air so it would have likely been different if we didn't. He didn't only sleep in them though, he would wear them during the day, so maybe if you were going out somewhere with ac they could still be useful. But I guess it depends on how long he/she would stay in newborn size - my son was 7lbs and stayed in them for at least a month. @SmashJam
So Maybe more experienced daycare moms can answer this for me...my son recently transitioned into the toddler room as of March 6th and he turns 18 months of March 24th. We prepaid the infant rate for March and then he fully started the toddler room a few days later. Daycare is telling me he will not "officially" be listed in the toddler room until April 24, after his 18th month, and we have to continue paying the higher infant room rate until then since that is where he is officially listed. Does this sound crazy and unreasonable to anyone else? Is this normal? I have to check the contract when I get home but I'm pretty sure it says nothing about tuition cost or transitioning. Also they are trying to say he was supposed to have a 6 week transition, but he really only spent 2 weeks transitioning and then went in there full time, so how can they try to justify it that way? I'm frustrated because my mom offered to watch him full time to help us financially while my husband looks for a job but we wanted him to stay in daycare so we've been scrimping to make it work. If they are going to do this I want to pull him out but then I'll lose our deposit.
@zande2016 it might depend on their licensing. If a toddler room is licensed for kiddos age 18 months and up a child cannot legally be officially in that class until they are 18 months. So it would make sense that you'd pay the baby room rate through March 24 but not April 24, April sounds unreasonable. I would speak with them again to clarify.
I'm not an expert but we have been a day care/preschool family since DD was 6 months old and this doesn't sound right at all.
If they can't legally have him in the toddler room then fine, why is he in there? I just find it really shady that they're asking me to pay for infant care when he's not receiving infant care. I'll see if I can look up their licensing/state requirements
@zande2016 it sounds like something shady might be going on. Another thing. maybe the toddler room is at capacity so they can't officially say he's in there? I would discuss this with the director, either way you're trusting them with the care of your child, you should be comfortable with what they are doing/telling you.
@zande2016 I would definitely say something especially bc I bet when they moved him up so someone else could have an infant spot. Making you pay for that is crazy if that is the case.
Yeah it's my feeling they moved him into the toddler room early to make room for another infant, I will also make sure to ask how many kids are in the toddler room. She is now saying they are still transitioning him until he turns 18 months, so I'm asking exactly what transition activities they're doing with him. I will also speak to her in person when I'm back next week. I'm an education attorney so I don't think she knows what she's dealing with here lol. Thanks for feedback, glad I'm not crazy.
I had signed up for an expectant mommy pre sale consignment for today but looks like I’ll have to miss out unless i take DS. DH has made plans with his dad today and they can’t take DS. Idk what to do. I had told him about this like 3 wks ago!
@zande2016 My daycare moves my son up early all of the time. My State requires that a certain teacher / child ratio is maintained in liscenced facilities. They are pretty good about that unless they are scrambling if someone calls out sick or quits. There was no price difference for infant versus toddler. Toddler class started after 1 year. So maybe the daycare is still legally following what they are supposed to. But if there is a price reduction for moving up early, you should get it. Hopefully they will offer a credit once you speak to them.
@zande my daycare tried to do the same thing to us when DD moved. At first I questioned it and they said they’d look into it. But then I did the math on what we’d actually be saving if they had prorated the care based on the two rates, and it was like $30, so I decided to let it go. On principal, I think it’s crap, but in my case I decided I didn’t want to cause a scene over such a small amount (compared to what we were paying overall). So, I agree it’s ridiculous but you may want to do the math to see if it’s worth the fight if you’re otherwise happy with the care.
@tarheelgirl8 it's about $150 difference since they are saying we still have to pay the infant rate for both March and April. if it was just March I would care as much, especially since we already paid it, but it's two months and comes at a time when we are in a tight financial situation. I also just find it unprofessional and don't want my son in a daycare that is potentially doing something illegal. I will talk to the director next week and find out what "transition" they are still doing with my son and go from there. I honestly wouldn't make a big deal if it was just financial but I feel I'm being lied to or they're trying to fool us and that doesn't sit right with me.
@zande2016 I would definitely pursue it further. I agree with @runsomewhere that if the magic number is 18 months then you shouldn't have to pay the different rate after he's 18 months. Does the child/teacher ratio change for toddlers? I would demand doing the ratio you're paying for or getting the discount. Instead of doing all daycare or no daycare, could you go down to part time daycare so he still has a spot and the kid interaction and do the rest of the week with your mom to cut down costs? We're part time daycare family and DD does great with the mixed schedule and we save a little on daycare costs.
@zande I missed the part where it was two months. Yeah that feels weird. I hope the conversation with the director goes well. I might talk with the teacher first. Maybe casually ask if he’s in the room full time and how’s he’s adjusting, something like that. It’d be interesting to know what the teacher says vs. what the director says
@zande2016 I was just thinking about this again and maybe you stated this in your OP but why would they move him up if they can't list him until he's 18 months? Was there a reason they chose to do that? It would be another thing that made me wonder if they did it for a spot to open in the infant room, otherwise why not just accept no new toddlers and move your kid up at 18 months, as per the rules?
Sorry to bring this back but I just have to update for anyone interested because I still can't wrap my head around it.
i had a conversation with the director today, and she told me that my son is NOT in the toddler room full time, he is still transitioning and spending time in both rooms. I informed her that we were told by the assistant director (who was sitting right next to the director during this phone call) that as of Monday 3/5 he was in the toddler room full time. Toddlers get meals provided so we were told not to bring in his breakfast and lunch anymore, only snacks. We were told to drop him off and pick him up in the toddler room, and that's where he'd be from now on. In fact we did just that the whole week. No one ever said "he's in the wrong class". We signed him in and out, he was listed on the attendance sheet, the toddler teacher even gave us a class letter welcoming Eli into the toddler room! They sent us a note asking for bedding for his toddler cot that they nap on, we got sent home toddler room reports all week. There was absolutely nothing whatsoever to make us think he was still transitioning. The director told me there must have been a miscommunication because legally he cannot be in the toddler room until 18 months and he is still in he infant room. She told me he should be dropped off and picked up in the infant room, and we still need to bring his meals in. Umm he ate the toddler meals all week, they wrote them down on his little sheet every day. She was playing dumb and acting like it was just a misunderstanding. No, either a) she's lying to cover her tracks for doing something illegal or b) the assistant director and teachers accidentally put him in there not knowing his age. Either way it's not acceptable. Either they're lying or the director has no oversight over what's going on right under her nose. It's a tiny place, for her not to have known he was in the wrong room for an entire week?
Oh also, she still Says no toddler rate discount until he's been 18 months for one full month. She basically provided no explanation for that one but I didn't press because I think after this I've made the decision to give our one months notice.
Trying to decide if I should report this to the owner, to the state, or both.
Edited to add: I fully intended on trying to get into out of his teacher at pick up today, but the director made sure she was in the room when I picked him up. Hah. Also, they sent home a letter today addressed to "all expectant parents" asking us to secure infant spots now since they are filling up fast. I lol'ed at that one.
@zande2016 I would.be.livid. WTF? That entire story is BS. I know you were torn about taking your child out to save money but this place sounds crazy. Report to everyone you absolutely can. I know daycare places don't have it easy, finding good workers, keeping everyone happy, following ever changing state regs, but for them to just play it off like a misunderstanding is unbelievable!
@SmashJam yeah thinking back I should have known when our neighbors pulled their kids out of there and put them somewhere else. I never got the full story on why but now I think I'll ask them.
@zande2016 something fishy is definitely going on. Sounds like it’s time for a new facility. The director definitely didn’t want to admit they did something illegal. They put him in the toddler room too soon. Plain and simple. Whether it was on purpose or by mistake that’s still unacceptable. You can definitely file a report with the state and they will get investigated
@zande2016 that’s ridiculous! I’m so sorry you’re going through that. Part of me understands trying to cover their asses, but I’d have way more understanding if she just came out and said “we made a mistake and moved him up too early and we have to move him back”. Lying is a HUGE issue with me. I’ll forgive a lot of mistakes but don’t lie to me! Especially from someone I’m entrusting with my kid. To me, accidentally moving him up a little early isn’t that big of a deal, it’s the lies and dishonesty afterwards that’s a huge red flag. Good luck in finding a new place!
@zande2016 great job handling all that BS. i feel for you - no where near your level but we've been having some daycare grief lately too. We've been through 3-4 directors in 20 months, and I can't STAND the new/current one. The only real thing keeping me was my love for the assistant director who made me feel heard and she just transferred to another town. We do love her current todd's teacher but she won't be in that room forever and we like some of the parents, but she's not quite 2, we'll all make new friends.
@gingerbride26 I think we are going to keep him home for now, especially while my husband is looking for a permanent job, and my mom offered to watch him while we work full time until we're back on our feet. It sucks because there's only a couple other local daycares and last we checked one was full and the other is way more expensive (but excellent reputation). I think the plan is to hire a nanny once # 2 comes anyway since 2 in daycare will be more expensive in my area, so maybe he won't go back to daycare at all. Finding good childcare is so hard.
@zabde2016 I was thinking you should ask the teachers the questions to get the truth! I have learned to poke around first before going to the director. A lot of times the staff is frustrated or disagree with management and have no problem spilling the beans. But of course the director was there when you picked him up! Too bad they couldn’t just be honest.
@chaser61 I could message the teacher on facebook....I am not friends with her but have seen her comment on things on the daycare's facebook page. I don't want to make her uncomfortable though. She's a great teacher and I really doubt she's at fault and I feel bad getting her mixed up in this mess.
anyone else with a frank breech (feet over head in a full V fold) baby? I know it's still super early and babies will flip a few times. More just curiosity than concern right now - I'd never seen/heard of a frank breech before my anatomy scan! Kiddo kept sucking on hands AND feet lol. Hands were flailing all over the place but no matter how many times they had me roll, jump, cough, etc they couldn't get the legs to budge so it took 90 min to get all the required shots lol.
Re: Weekly Questions 3/5 - 3/11
@acunamatada - check your manual for your specific car seat. A certified tech will likely tell you to never wash the straps because the chemicals in the soap and cleaning supplies can break down the elasticity of the threads. I've definitely spot treated ours though. So I say - just do your research and decide if you're comfortable still using or not.
ETA
scratch that, called customer service and it’s only $12.50 to replace.. Score!
Nooooo! Hahaha! My sister facetimed me last night and I couldn't stop staring at how round my face is. I mentioned it to her and she didn't disagree with me.
I guess we are the lucky few that put on weight in our faces first. YAY
I ordered a burger at a relatively upscale restaraunt last night. I asked for medium well. It tasted fine and the light was dim. I got halfway through and realized it was very pink inside! It was a thin patty, but even so, the inside of it was pink. I freaked out and stopped eating it.
The chef told me they don't check the temperature before serving and my doctor's office told me to call back if I have any symptoms. I don't, I don't think - I'm just so anxious I feel sick to my stomach. I'm really worried about listeria, ecoli, and toxomoplasis... I know undercooked beef can carry all of those things and often there aren't any symptoms.
Anyone else accidentally (or purposefully?) eat medium burgers and been just fine?
I'm not an expert but we have been a day care/preschool family since DD was 6 months old and this doesn't sound right at all.
Instead of doing all daycare or no daycare, could you go down to part time daycare so he still has a spot and the kid interaction and do the rest of the week with your mom to cut down costs? We're part time daycare family and DD does great with the mixed schedule and we save a little on daycare costs.
i had a conversation with the director today, and she told me that my son is NOT in the toddler room full time, he is still transitioning and spending time in both rooms. I informed her that we were told by the assistant director (who was sitting right next to the director during this phone call) that as of Monday 3/5 he was in the toddler room full time. Toddlers get meals provided so we were told not to bring in his breakfast and lunch anymore, only snacks. We were told to drop him off and pick him up in the toddler room, and that's where he'd be from now on. In fact we did just that the whole week. No one ever said "he's in the wrong class". We signed him in and out, he was listed on the attendance sheet, the toddler teacher even gave us a class letter welcoming Eli into the toddler room! They sent us a note asking for bedding for his toddler cot that they nap on, we got sent home toddler room reports all week. There was absolutely nothing whatsoever to make us think he was still transitioning. The director told me there must have been a miscommunication because legally he cannot be in the toddler room until 18 months and he is still in he infant room. She told me he should be dropped off and picked up in the infant room, and we still need to bring his meals in. Umm he ate the toddler meals all week, they wrote them down on his little sheet every day. She was playing dumb and acting like it was just a misunderstanding. No, either a) she's lying to cover her tracks for doing something illegal or b) the assistant director and teachers accidentally put him in there not knowing his age. Either way it's not acceptable. Either they're lying or the director has no oversight over what's going on right under her nose. It's a tiny place, for her not to have known he was in the wrong room for an entire week?
Oh also, she still Says no toddler rate discount until he's been 18 months for one full month. She basically provided no explanation for that one but I didn't press because I think after this I've made the decision to give our one months notice.
Trying to decide if I should report this to the owner, to the state, or both.
Edited to add: I fully intended on trying to get into out of his teacher at pick up today, but the director made sure she was in the room when I picked him up. Hah. Also, they sent home a letter today addressed to "all expectant parents" asking us to secure infant spots now since they are filling up fast. I lol'ed at that one.
kids out of there and put them somewhere else. I never got the full story on why but now I think I'll ask them.