Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@WorkinWeezel you are not necessarily the minority lol. I think it is pretty split evenly or a lot of us just don't have a very strong opinion either way.
I for one am happy to be friends with someone who has different opinions than me I have no issue being friends with someone who circumcises their children just because I don't.
If you look broadly across the US the circ rates are a bit over 50% but it varies a TON from region to region, so you can't assume half of boys in your son's locker room will or won't be (I'm not saying that should be a deciding factor, just the truth). Where I'm from they are performed 77% of time, I have friends in another part of the country where it's less than 20%.
@WorkinWeezel I feel as though I must clarify my drinking stance...I love beer and wine, and before 2017 happened I would have a beer or a glass of wine to wind down every single day. Even now, I will typically have 3 or 4 a week. I just can't bring myself to post the memes about drinking to wind down because there are people in my family who would be like, "Oh, see its NORMAL to do this!" and while it is for most people, there use goes way beyond normal and I just don't want to give them any excuse from me to continue their behavior. Does that make sense? I swear I'm not judging those who love alcohol, I just love it quietly away from social media (most of the time) lol.
And thanks Girls! I just enjoy my cocktails with friends. I miss buzzy nights with my husband, mostly on the few warm days we've had here and there the past few weeks!
@WorkinWeezel I'm late to the party, but I think you'd find a lot more like-minded gals here that are just not speaking up. I have anxiety issues and I totally miss my glass of wine after dd goes to bed to unwind after a hard week (and shh I still eat lunch meat and sushi) - after the couple comments over the weekend about the adult cake smashes (which I have admitted this morning I had one for 30th) I may be joining you with no friends here ;-) we can hang out together in UO land.
- DS is circumcised. It really did not occur to us to NOT do it, and as I've stated when this topic has come up previously, I worry about infection and having to have it done as an adult. If DH had an opinion on it to not do it, I'd have listened to him
- I LOVE having a cocktail or two or three. I miss going to dinner and having a drink with my husband. I absolutely have posted on social media about wanting/needing a cocktail at the end of the day. Being pregnant before, it never bothered me, but now with kids that are almost 8 and almost 5 and our crazy schedule, I miss being able to relax with a glass of wine. It's not every day, and it's actually gotten easier now that hockey season is basically over (this is what parents do at hockey tournaments!), but having a drink is pretty much my only vice in life. And I do think some of the memes are funny/true. And I've definitely gifted a bottle of wine and liquor store gift cards to my kids' teachers!
- I curse. I've tried to table it, but I do curse. Probably too much for some people's tastes. I know my audience and do not do it around certain people/ages, etc...
@gspmom21 I totally agree. I am very accepting of pretty much everyone. DH is not as accepting, but is not a bully. He has certain religious beliefs, whereas I'm more liberal in my thinking (even though we are the same religion). I just simply do not get what people get out of outwardly judging other people, making broad statements/opinions, and using that against others. I try to raise my kids to be strong- you don't have to be friends with everyone, some people will agree with you and some will not, you are allowed to have your own interests, etc... but you are NOT allowed to hold it against other people. Because I work with kids with special needs, this is really a sensitive issue for me.
**Soapbox** speaking of which, next Wednesday, March 7 is Spread the Word to End the Word Day. It is a day to recognize that hurtful way people use the "R" word, and to stress the word "Respect". There are online petitions you can sign in support of it, and ways to help others ban using this derogatory term for good. LMK if you want more info **Climbing off of Soapbox**
ALLLLL OF THIS!!!
Especially the piece on tolerance/celebrating differences/different strokes etc. Whatever you want to call it. It's amazing. The world would be a very boring place if we all did things the exact same way.
Also, I love the idea of the Spread the Word to end the Word day. I have already talked to my 5 year old about this (not about the R word, but about the word "stupid"). They are not allowed to say it at school and he asked me why. I told him because it is a word that is so easily replaceable with something that makes more sense. Instead of stupid, try to use a word that is more appropriate, like frustrating, or confusing, or difficult. It will make you sound more intelligent, and you get your point across even better than using the word "stupid". I feel the same way about the R word. I have never heard that word used when I couldn't think of three more appropriate words that could have replaced it. #wordnerd
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@WorkinWeezel we may be! I'll totally rock it on one of our hdbd threads when I get it! I seriously miss wine! I'm not a heavy drinker, however I do love a good wind down drink. mmmm...or whiskey.
Re: UO 3/1
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
And thanks Girls! I just enjoy my cocktails with friends. I miss buzzy nights with my husband, mostly on the few warm days we've had here and there the past few weeks!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Especially the piece on tolerance/celebrating differences/different strokes etc. Whatever you want to call it. It's amazing. The world would be a very boring place if we all did things the exact same way.
Also, I love the idea of the Spread the Word to end the Word day. I have already talked to my 5 year old about this (not about the R word, but about the word "stupid"). They are not allowed to say it at school and he asked me why. I told him because it is a word that is so easily replaceable with something that makes more sense. Instead of stupid, try to use a word that is more appropriate, like frustrating, or confusing, or difficult. It will make you sound more intelligent, and you get your point across even better than using the word "stupid". I feel the same way about the R word. I have never heard that word used when I couldn't think of three more appropriate words that could have replaced it. #wordnerd
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
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Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018