June 2018 Moms

Weekly Rants Welcome Here (w/o Feb 5)

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Re: Weekly Rants Welcome Here (w/o Feb 5)

  • @marcus7676 - Ditto, but also add in school. I'm checked out everywhere. :lol:

    Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
    PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023

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  • Okay my rant is long and hopefully no one gets upset by it, but I am just so annoyed/pissed off. 

    One of my friends (same friend from story in alcohol thread for context) is married to a marine and they're stationed at Pendleton and live on base. I visit her all the time and she has me on the sponsor list but without fail the person at the gate gives me 20 questions and a bunch of shit every time I visit. I went over there last night after work and they wouldn't let me on. I told them I was sponsored, gave the name and address of who I'm visiting but the guy said he needed her to come down and vouch for me. She has a baby and her husband wasn't home so she had to ask her neighbor to watch him just to confirm that she knows me. 

    Now here's the kicker, this bs only happens to me. None of her other friends and her neighbor said they don't ask her friends/family anything. One time MH was driving and they waved us right through. My friend jokes that they don't trust me since I'm a "California hippie" but yesterday I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt with my hair in a ponytail. Hardly hippie atire. Honestly the only difference between me and everyone else they wave through is that I'm not white. I hope I'm reading into it, but I can't think of any other reason and it boils my blood to be fcking profiled every time I want to go to my friend's house. 
    Me 30 Him 30
    Married
     August 2015
    DS born 5/23/2018
    TTC #2 July 2020



  • @Amphibious22 I'd trust your instincts on that; I doubt you're wrong. DH's mom is black, and she complains all the time about how if she was alone with the 4 boys (3 look fully/mostly white, 1 looks black) going through an airport or something, she'd get the third degree about "are these really your kids??" but if DH's dad (white) went through with just the one son who looks black, no one cared so it clearly wasn't just like "these kids don't look as much like you as I'd expect." It infuriated her (with good right). Sorry you have to deal with that (and it makes me effing livid that it's something that exists at all to deal with). 
  • @doxiemoxie212 that's horrible about your MIL. I just don't understand why this exists and hate that it's becoming more prevalent. I'm low key a little scared to be moving to a red state where it could get worse. Yesterday was just me dealing with racist bs all day though. At lunch I commented on how I'm not a huge churro fan and my coworker goes "but you're Mexican". It took all my will power to not throw my fork at her. Not Mexican, Puerto Rican but thanks anyways. 
    Me 30 Him 30
    Married
     August 2015
    DS born 5/23/2018
    TTC #2 July 2020



  • @Amphibious22 I don’t blame you for being worried, but I hope it turns out to be fine. For all the crazy racist stories coming out of Arizona I also know a lot of really great people who are equally horrified by what some of their neighbors think,  so my fingers are crossed for a big thought shift. 
  • My rant is that I was about to leave for my anatomy scan and my car won't start. I swear I had dreams that this would happen and now I'm so mad. My husband can come and pick me up (he was going to just meet me there from work) but now we'll be cutting it close to get there on time and it's just stressing me out. *deep breaths* *serenity now*
     
    DD born 6/21/2018
    DS born 9/24/2020
  • @marcus7676   OMG!!!!!!!!!! I'm never knowing getting pregnant with a full-time job again. This is torture. I've checked out. I'm in pain. I'm tired. I don't want to be here. And to top it all off I'm pretty sure I'm getting more assignments with shorter deadlines simply because I'm pregnant.
    Me:27 DH: 31 Married Since: 08/2016
    TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
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    Me:27 DH: 31 Married Since: 08/2016
    TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
  • @Amphibious22 It sucks when this happens and I hate it. I’m sorry the guard gate people are profiling you for whatever reason. 

    I’m half Mexican and my mom would get the same questions as @doxiemoxie212 MIL. She was constantly asked if she was the nanny. My kids are fair skinned and I’ve been asked once in the grocery store if DD was mine. It’s so sad that this still happens and people are such a-holes. 

    As for Phoniex, my entire Mexican side of the family lives there and they have a huge Hispanic population. I know they are always gonna be racists and a-holes but I think the city it’s better than the more country areas. 
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  • @ffw0617 I’m only part time and with DD I didn’t work at all so I can’t imagine full time :/

    my mouth is killing me after dental work today after my crown fell off. I had decay underneath and it took 3 times to get me fully numb and Tylenol is a joke. 
  • @katie121209 ouch. A crown is the only dental work I’ve had done (besides braces) and it wasn’t pleasant. Sorry for you  :#


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  • +4 or whatever on baby movement.  I can definitely feel him a lot more since last week.  I haven't felt him on the outside yet and I'm thinking it's because of anterior placenta and some extra fluff.  

    At least my anxiety brain is appeased since I can finally feel him in there dancing on my bladder.
    We are so excited to grow our family!
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  • @profmcgonagall I feel you.  Earlier in my pregnancy we went in for a follow-up ultrasound.  It was our 2nd ultrasound after discovering two weeks prior that we had actually had a twin pregnancy but one twin had stopped growing (I guess it's called vanishing twin syndrome).  So I had been on pins and needles for two weeks hoping everything would stay fine with the surviving baby.  So we go in for the ultrasound - mind you the ultrasound is the whole point of the visit - and their freaking ultrasound machine is broken!  What?!  You couldn't have called us to let us know that?  I had taken off work early and everything.  Which meant I had to take off work again a couple days later for the rescheduled appointment.  I'm a little more patient but DH was furious.  We ended up switching OB practices, not just because of that but that was a contributing factor.
  • @ffw0617 I wish I was getting assignments with shorter deadlines - - all my deadlines are way out, but they keep pushing them up rather than having me start handing off cases.  It's ridiculous!
  • @chartermama The same thing happened to my pharmacy technician two years ago when she was pregnant.  It made me so angry because she got so frustrated when people kept saying how big she was.  At one point a patient came up to our window and just blurted out "wow, you're big!"  When the patient sat down to wait for her prescriptions I made some comment to my tech about how rude that was or something.  When I rung the lady out she said something like "I hope I didn't make her feel bad I wasn't trying to be mean."  I hadn't meant for the lady to hear my comment and I think maybe I made her feel bad, but I didn't feel bad at all!  Don't tell a woman she's big just because she's pregnant!  If it made her feel bad enough that she won't do that again to some other poor pregnant woman, then I'm happy she heard my comment!  Anyway I'm sure you look wonderful so don't listen to stupid people!!
  • @May14th2011 I didn't see anyone ask, but what did you say to the mother when she got all up in your face?


    My rant is actually about my house and nesting {or me vs nesting?}
    I swear to gawd, I cleaned my kitchen last Sunday while H was watching movies. Like full on take out burner pans from stove, clean underneath, clean those, move the microwave, clean IN the microwave ....

    I feel like my next task will end up being under my sink because every time I open the doors, it's a disaster! Pans, pots, lids .... I thought I had a good organized system but apparently not lol!

    Anyone have good under-the-sink organization for pots, pans and lids? I've seen some on pinterest but I'd rather see what others are doing first!
    {before i destroy my entire under sink area}
  • @MissKittyDanger I'm pretty non-confrontational, so I just said "she's blocking the hallway, can you please keep her out of the way?" Luckily DH was outside already  otherwise he would have said something far more interesting. 
  • @taykc90 thank you! I’m glad you said something loud enough for that woman to hear. I bet she won’t do it again. For some reason people feel like they can say whatever to a pregnant woman. We are growing a person and we are very well aware of how big we get lol.
  • @May14th2011 I don't know how I missed your rant on page one (pregnancy brain?). But, this is one of the things I'm most nervous about as a new mom: Other Parents. I'm confrontational and would probably confront other parents, but MH is totally the opposite. He would do anything not to have to deal with the other person. 
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  • I've been feeling her for about 3 weeks, and just last night MH got a good kick in the hand. But mostly she stops when he puts his hand on my belly. 

    My MIL is bothering me some about her shower....she texted me after I was in bed about where I'm registered (which I've told her...) because she had a discount code for invites. I feel bad that I missed her text. But I was in bed because I had to be out of the house by 545 at the latest. Overall she is doing fine with it, but she tends to go way overboard and I don't want her to make herself crazy. 

    My rant is people who drive like maniacs in the snow. I have lived in the Chicagoland area  my whole life, so I know how to drive in the snow. And it's been bad up by us this year because they aren't really plowing, which makes 1-3 inches of snow a total mess. I had a guy in a pick up up my a$$, honking, flashing his lights, and gesturing at me because I was driving 5 under. On an unplowed road. He ended up passing me in a turn lane through an intersection. Was sort of hoping to see him in a ditch further along the road. grrr
  • @May14th2011 My H and I are similar to you and yours. Although, in your situation idk what I would have done - likely the same tbh
  • @bearmoons
     We are dealing with a ton of snow up in my area too... And I hear ya!  Like be sensible people... 
    I mean gesture and flash and what have you, but 5 under on an unplowed is completely reasonable! It's called driving according to weather conditions!!! 

    I had a heck of a commute this am... And we are still slogging through it, and unplowed roads at noon. Not looking forward to the commute... 
    Mama to a wonderful DD - Sep 2015, Wife to my DH since 2011, 2 dogs, a cat, and hoping to add No. 2 in May/June 2018. Canadian.
    5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD. 
    3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice. 
  • @aharv77 maybe just tell her, We don’t have room for so many things right now, or, We're making a conscious effort not to have so many things in our house this time. That way it’s not that her stuff isn’t good enough (although I definitely don’t blame you for that) but more so we’re trying to minimalize. 


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  • @aharv77 my sil is the same way. 2 years ago she started unloading crap at my house, without even asking if I wanted it. It was all broken/dirty etc. I finally just told her I didn't have room for it and asked her to stop. I threw out everything she gave us, it was all in such bad condition 
  • Ok. Jumping on to the shower rants. My MIL had texted me last night, but I was already in bed, asking if I was just registered at Amazon and Target. I answered her this am and emailed her a list of family to invite with addresses. She just emailed me and said she ordered her invites and put that I was registered at Amazon, Target, and "Bye Bye Baby". But since I'm not, can I just register there too? Ughhhh. I don't even know what to say to this.  
  • @srb1028 both of my SILs are like that with their kids. It drives us nuts so we don't see them often. 
  • @bearmoons lol is that how she spelled it? I would be so tempted to just say no but you could register for just a few things there or basics like diapers, crib sheets, burp cloths and onesies that you’ll need extras of anyways.
  • @glitterfingers she did spell it that way....which makes it even more interesting...
  • @bearmoons +1 for registering there too... as a STM, I can say that if you want stuff off your registry, make it as EASY as possible for people to find it, buy it, and for you... return it. We got duplicates of stuff, and more small things than needed, so we traded them in for credit, which helped us complete the registry.  If you can register on line, just make it easy... People want to gift  things to you and celebrate... 

    AFM, I would love a sprinkle for DS this time round. Ain't gonna happen. 
    Mama to a wonderful DD - Sep 2015, Wife to my DH since 2011, 2 dogs, a cat, and hoping to add No. 2 in May/June 2018. Canadian.
    5 - IUIs, 3 - IVF retrievals, 2- failed transfers (fresh, and frozen), PGS on second IVF resulted in 1 perfect emby, and DD. 
    3rd IVF w PGS resulted in 3! perfect embys. 1st transfer - Sep 2017 2 more on ice. 
  • @doxiemoxie212 I've hit that same thing this week. I tried bending over to put boots on and almost fell. its just in the way. DH helped me. sitting here in my work chair is even bothering me... like the top of my bump is just squished. I told DH last night that I wondered what it was like to be pregnant with a not so ridiculously short torso. but I guess its not much easier then!


    me:35 DH:34
    DS: born oct 2012
    TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
              BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
              BFP #3 sept17  EDD 5/31/18
    fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
  • @rnielsen321 the main problem with me registering at Buy Buy Baby is that the nearest one to me is about a 45 minute drive, which I feel is totally inconvenient, especially when I'm 9 months pregnant or after the baby is born. Also, I have two full Target and Amazon registries....I thought these would be easiest since there are Targets everywhere and Amazon is so easy. I think what really bothers me is that she just decided herself I would register there. 
  • We are supposed to get a foot of snow over the next 24 hours.  :s I grew up here, but that shit still makes me nervous. Being in healthcare makes it practically impossible for me to miss work, so I just booked the hotel up the street from work to save myself the headache and 2 miserable drives. On the bright side, there's an ihop right next door to hotel so after check out at 11 and before work at 2, you know where you'll find me  ;)
  • bearmoons - I did a basic buy buy baby registry with my first (along with BRU and Target).  Similar to you, there really aren't any BBB's convenient to where anyone attending the shower live. Very few people bought anything from there...actually- I think my mom was the only one and she bought online.  People will gravitate to the stores that are easy to get to and/or order from.  My Target registry was the big winner followed by BRU.  I just monitored what was being bought at each place and adjusted my registries online accordingly (ie: put the same stuff on each registry and just took stuff off as it was bought). 
  • @catlady1215 I think I’m carrying super low which I didn’t expect because I have fairly strong stomach muscles. A massage therapist (who knows if she knows what she’s talking about) said it’s because I have such a wide pelvis there’s plenty of room so no need to carry high or something? I don’t know but my stomach has been v v rigid for a few weeks now, and now it’s big enough that it is just completely in the way. 
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