Weekly Rants Welcome Here (w/o Feb 5)

lisa2589

Monday BF, TW Tuesday, & WTF Wednesday 

krash_

It's kind of a rant but like a really good rant I guess...I have been feeling LO kick and move around. I have even felt it on the outside with my hand but whenever I tell MH to put his hand there the little stinker stops! They were moving around a lot in the mornings this weekend so we would sit in bed and he would hold his hand there for like 10 mins and nothing. The second he would move it away they would kick. 

I can tell already they're going to be just like me...

May14th2011

Went to a party yesterday, with only like 5 small kids, two being mine. One little girl, about the same age as my son (he's 2) was so violent! She tackled my son, put a blanket over his face and had him in an actual chokehold and I had to pry her off of him. My son was hyperventilating and crying. Not only did she ignore every adult who told her to stop, her Mom completely ignored her. We ended up leaving early because of her, and even as we were leaving, she kept hitting/pushing my kids and trying to block their way. I finally had to physically move her, so we could get through the hall. And of course, suddenly her Mom is there all up in my face for touching her kid. Good grief.

Sorry for the long rant, lol

stephcat421

@krashke OMG ^ me too! I turned 22 weeks last Thursday and it was like clockwork.... Boom I'm feeling baby like crazy, and not flutters... Kicks! I have been feeling with my hand and I'll call DH over after like 2 or 3 and then nothing. He's so disappointed but hasn't given up hope. I guess the good part is we can feel! I was thinking with this anterior placenta I'd never feel anything but it's been so cool.

LaceyBee522

I hate to rant about something that might be a non-issue, but I really must. MH speaks at conferences pretty often. His boss recently left the company and MH was given his boss's speaking opportunities as well. These are really awesome opportunities for him to add to his resume and network/make connections. HOWEVER, the two he got from his boss are at the end of April/in the first two weeks of May in California and Las Vegas. He would be gone from April 26 to May 9th. I'm sort of freaking out. My doctor keeps insisting I'll likely deliver early because twins and MH is traveling to the other side of the country at like a month out from due date. Ack! I hope I'm worrying over nothing and the LOs just keep on cooking....but this feels like it is cutting it close.

doxiemoxie212

@krashke DH can definitely feel mine, but I have the same experience of when she's going bonkers, I'll grab DH's hand and put it on my stomach, and she'll stop. I've actually started doing it when I want her to stop because sometimes it's just too much. lol 

doxiemoxie212

@LaceyBee522 yikes - does YH have contingency plans in place if he needs to cancel? Even if he thinks he won't have to, I feel like he should have some ideas in case he does, especially because of the twins thing. 

LaceyBee522

@doxiemoxie212 No contingency at this point. Last night he said it was fun f*cking with me....you can imagine how well that comment went over. 

stephcat421

@LaceyBee522 I think your worry is valid for sure, but hopefully it's just that and those LO's do keep cooking. If your OB checked you before his trip and felt you'd be in labor within the week, would YH be able to cancel? I'm assuming he would? From my understanding, though not full proof your OB can get an idea of how soon they expect you'll deliver so hopefully you can get checked before his departure.

LaceyBee522

@stephcat421 Yes. I did tell him that if my OB checked and my cervix looked shorter/more open, he'd have to skip it. He kind of rolled his eyes like it was a non-issue.

This is the same man who was worried about us taking a trip to Key West the first week of March because I might go into labor! WTF??? 

stephcat421

@LaceyBee522 lol, guys! At least he'd be with you on Key West as opposed to Vegas where you're alone for like 2 weeks! I'm sure it'll all work out though, try not to spend too much time worrying about it!

aharv77

My rant is that I'm coming down with another cold/sinus infection for the 4th time since Thanksgiving! It's all in my chest and I've had a hacking cough since yesterday morning. I've been doing all I can to wash hands, sanitize the house and my work station often, amp up my vitamin c. Aside from never leaving the house even for work, I don't know what else I can do to avoid the sickness! Is there any supplements we can take to boost our immune system?

krash_

Just remembered my other rant. I was talking with my step mom yesterday, we were talking about the nursery and she asked what we are doing so I said a neutral woodland creature thing with grays/whites/browns and sketched woodland creatures. 

She is also planning my shower with my mom, my moms wife, my MIL and my sister, which is spring garden party/floral themed. We were talking about decor and she said she found a box of my stuffed animals that she things would be great decor for the shower because they would go with the woodland creature theme. Like...wut? The shower and the nursery are different. Also, I never really bonded with stuffed animals as a kid so these have no sentimental significance for me, some of them I got in high school. 

I need to stop being a twat and a control freak and be thankful that people want to throw me a party but I am finding it really hard. 

To add to that, I found out my step-cousin (said step-mom's niece) is having her bridal shower the same day, in the same building. It will be great because their family can kill two birds with one stone and attend both but I feel like they will be compared and I feel like her friends/family have a much better eye for the aesthetics of the instagram/pinterest parties and party planning in general. 

MoonOverGoldsboro

@LaceyBee522 Um, I already had my husband tell his work that he will not be traveling after May 1, no exceptions. (I went into labor early with my first.) So I don't have advice for you or anything, just commiseration. I know how you feel, and I don't think you're crazy to feel worried! Fingers crossed those babies get close to term and everything works out great. 

doxiemoxie212

@krashke I thought of you this weekend because my friend confessed to me that she and some of DH's friends have talked about throwing us a surprise shower but none of them are good planners so she wanted to tell me in case I could help or something lol. And instantly my control freak kicked in and was like WAIT NO ALL YOUR IDEAS ARE WRONG AND BAD AND TERRIBLE but then I had to be like, Doxie, breathe, step back. This will be what it will be. Your friends will get married/have kids at some point and you can throw them a Pinterest worthy shower yourself, just let this be what it will be. lol But it's so hard! Even today, I keep thinking about things she said they'd discussed as ideas, and I'm like, "Ugh, so stupid, why would anyone think that's a good idea!" And I have to remind myself, like, no it's nice they want to do something nice, let them do their version of nice if you agree to let them host a shower, etc., etc. lol I have no advice, only commiseration. It just sucks because it does sort of reflect on the guest of honor, but the guest of honor is not supposed to be a crazy control freak about anything! Sigh. 

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 solidarity fellow CF! It was nice for her to let you in on it and maybe if you could point her in the direction you are thinking if she asks for ideas but it sounds like you are stronger than I am because so far I have pretty much dictated everything 

It's pretty funny though because my mom forwarded me an email that I was taken off of and she used her work conference call line to set up a conference call for tomorrow night with all the mom's/sisters. It's really nice that they are taking the time and spending the money to do something nice for me and you're right que sera sera!

mytinc

Oops - I put my rant about ads in the random's thread.

lrichhx05

My rant is last week my H had a spontaneous pneumothorax (collapsed lung). Like wtf?! So he's been in the hospital with a chest tube because that's should fix it and he should be good to go, but nope. His lung won't stay inflated so now he needs surgery today. 

lisa2589

@lrichhx05 umm wow that sucks! Hope surgery goes well and he heals quickly!

doxiemoxie212

@lrichhx05 that's so scary! Sending good vibes!

catlady1215

@krashke same exact thing here. I reeeeally want DS to feel him, but he's never fast enough. DH hasn't had any luck either.
are the showers at the exact same time or staggered?

@laceybee522 I wouldn't be comfortable with that either! keep cooking babies!

marcus7676

My rant is the partner I work for. He's stressed, so he's taking it out on me by being an asshole.  He forwards me emails for me to forward to our vendor / asks me to make calls for him / can't breathe on his own - - I'm not his assistant!  I have my own sh*t to take care of.

profmcgonagall

My rant is my OBs office. I go in every Monday for my progesterone shot. I show up today and they’re closed. No one told me nor where there any signs up last week when I was in. I spent 20 min crying in the parking lot because this shot is so damn important. I managed to get a hold of my friend who is a labor Nurse and she convinced me I would be ok until tomorrow morning. So now I get to be late to work tomorrow because they don’t open until 9am. They will be getting a piece of my mind tomorrow. I know it wouldn’t have changed whether the office was closed but I could have at least been expecting to know I was going to get it a day late. 

rnielsen321

@krashke @doxiemoxie212 - My DH's inability to feel DDs kicks, as she would calm down actually helped me avoid an emergency C section. No joke. 

My rant is DH is all "woe is me" and "I am so tired" and "this house is a mess" but literally will do nothing to change the situation. Won't look to change his job he dislikes, or the 15 hours he spends commuting or even like, IDK, pick up toys, tea towels, socks, or other floor bound items, change sheets, bring laundry upstairs, load the dishwasher, leaves his clothes and wallets, and other paperwork all over every available surface or take out garbage (until it is piled and in extra bags). But looks at me like i am slacking when I am chasing our 2 yo all day Sat and Sun, and home while he works til midnight MTW. Oh, and I work 40 hours a week too ya know. Le Sigh. If he tidied, I would be able to get some cleaning done... but I spend all weekend picking up and picking up and putting away and never get a head. So tired. 

krash_

@lrichhx05 sorry to hear about YH! T&P for a speedy recovery! 

@catlady1215 The showers are staggered mine is from 10 am- 1 pm (brunch) and her's is 1 pm - 4 pm. I think I have decided that I wont go to her shower. I will likely be tired, need to clean up/pack up gifts from my shower, and all my friends and family will be in town so I won't want to just ditch them right after my shower. We could hang out for the afternoon if people want to. And for my sanity I won't have to see her shower and inevitably compare it to mine and make myself feel bad for whatever stupid reason.  

mytinc

Am I allowed to say that I roll my eyes at showers/parties/events that are overly themed and obviously pinteresty (I think I made up a word)?  Personally my shower was about seeing friends and family, talking excitedly about the new baby and possibly opening some gifts.  I'd never judge a shower (mine or someone else's) according to decorations, themed foods, games, etc.   Judging parties is an aspect of the mommy wars that annoys me.

doxiemoxie212

@mytinc I don't think it's necessarily about judgment so much as it is about envy or missed opportunities or whatever. It's difficult when you're really into planning parties and also fairly good at it (ie, are a control freak who loves lists and research lol) to watch people essentially eff isht up.

In my case specifically, while our friends may all be 30, they still behave like they're 20, so my friend had talked with DH's friends about having essentially a shitty house party, which I just wouldn't be game for under the best of circumstances but certainly not super pregnant and not allowed to drink. They also didn't understand that it would be weird to invite people that DH and I don't know, etc. So redirecting all of that is.......a strugglefest. 

doxiemoxie212

@marcus7676 DH has one partner he works for who will send him emails (content all in the subject line), "Can you send this to my assistant for her to save?" DH is like WTF? lol Some people are terrible teammates. 

krash_

@mytinc I totally get that and especially when you get to the kids birthday parties and it seems like everyone is just trying to one up each other. But I agree with @doxiemoxie212 I just really like throwing parties. I like looking up ideas and making little signs and things to use throughout. The same group of women hosted my bridal shower and it didn't really have a theme and it was just fine. I'm also a huge planner and excel spreadsheet lover and I know not everyone thinks the same way I do and I would hate for someone to not get invited or something to be forgotten. 

ffw0617

@mytinc I agree. Everything is over the top these days. I'm all for over the top if you can afford it but so many parties/ showers/ weddings ignore the important aspects just to have the pretty pictures.

MoonOverGoldsboro

@profmcgonagall Solidarity on the weekly progesterone shots. They suck and I would have been so pissed if my OB's office did that to me.

catlady1215

@krashke well atleast she staggered them. annnd atleast yours is first, I'd rather that! Better chance of your guests coming, cause who wants to sit through back to back showers?!
and there is no possible way I'd stay for hers. you're pregnant. and will absolutely be tired by the time yours is over.

Austenista

Ugh. Showers were the main source of my stress last pregnancy. Glad I don't have to deal with it this time. My great aunt and my best friend wanted to throw the shower together but couldn't seem to communicate on it without involving me. GA kept calling BFF by the wrong name, they changed dates over and over, took way too long to send out invitations, got into a power struggle, and eventually my dad (haha) got frustrated and started calling both of them trying to get them to communicate, set a date, and stop. 

All of this could have been avoided if I could have just set a date, made my own invitations, did my own decorations and food, and whoever could come could come. But that's not considered good etiquette. It was so stressful and I'm not a control freak. I just wanted someone to do the party and the entire time, it felt like the person who had the most time and interest in the party happening was actually me. 

And you aren't allowed to say what you feel when it comes to showers. Literally one person bought something off our registry at the shower my husband's family threw us. Everything else was clothes that were obviously used* and stuffed animals. Someone gave us a pack of diapers from the dollar store. But you aren't allowed to have hurt feelings or feel annoyed. Nothing but gratitude because etiquette. You should just be thankful someone did anything for you at all. 

But I'm not a robot and it did hurt my feelings that my GA and BFF were too busy fighting and changing dates to spend much time on the party and it did hurt my feelings and bother me that the things they brought to the other shower were all things that I hadn't asked for and didn't really need.

If I could do it over again I would have only made a registry for the discounts and thrown my own party once he was born for people to meet him and not worried about showers and gifts at all. 

*I think used clothes are a great option for kids and I thrift a lot myself. I just thought it was kind of weird to give thrifted clothes as a shower gift. Wouldn't have been my choice. 

May14th2011

@Austenista I thrift a lot for my kids too and think that's a weird baby shower gift! You can buy a set of onesies at walmart for like $10...

ffw0617

@Austenista wow that's a first, used gifts at a shower. Any kind of party planning needs to be headed up by one person. I can't imagine two people who don't even know each other working well together on an event.

katie121209

My crown just fell out . I was eating a soft muffin too. 

lisa2589

A 2.5 year old in an ice house is my idea of hell. She’s too busy to be cooped up and keep away from the holes. But today is DH’s birthday and all he wanted was for us to come fish with him, so here we are. 

lrichhx05

@lisa2589 @doxiemoxie212 @krashke thank you ladies! 

chartermama

I must have a ninja because this baby does gymnastics in there. My husband feels baby but not every time. It’s surprising bc about two weeks ago I could barely feel movements. They came out of nowhere. I’m excited for my older two to feel little one as well.

On to my rant...if one more person ask if I’m having twins, if I’m sure I’m not further along or says how big my belly is I’m going to flip! Nope there’s just one and I’m 21 weeks. Thanks for making me feel like a beach whale lol.

hjungk84

I'm starting to feel baby kick more, but definitely not strong enough on the outside...doesnt help that I have some extra "fluff" in the stomach region...lol

My rant is I have to sit in this stupid production meeting at work which barely has anything to do with me. Complete waste of an hour or so

marcus7676

My rant is that I still have 4 months left of work before this baby comes, but I'm already mentally checked out.