Starting this one a little selfishly but a one have experience with polyps on the cervix? I’m currently admitted to the hospital for observation because I either have a polyp or part of the placenta sticking out. Had some bleeding I considered light but they consider heavyish so they want to watch me overnight. Apparently the polyp? Is right at the cervix and my cervix is highly irritated. Hoping it gets unirritated so I can head home tomorrow!
I posted this on the weekly randoms but maybe I’ll get more answers here - didn’t know there would be a questions thread
just wondering if anyone with an anterior placenta barely feels any movement? I’m 27 weeks and might feel 10 kicks in a day, all very subtle and internal or very low. I could never do kick counts because I can go hours without feeling anything. But baby has been fine at all my ultrasounds!
Me: 27 // DH: 30 Married 05/21/2011 TTC Since Feb 2016 RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS 5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018 IT'S A BOY!
@peppersmith22 no experience but that sounds really scary and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it! I really hope it resolves quickly and without further complication so you can go home very soon.
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@peppersmith22 Polyps are generally harmless - although right on your cervix is unfortunate placement. I'm sorry you're dealing with that and I hope you can get it squared and go home soon!
Me: 27 // DH: 30 Married 05/21/2011 TTC Since Feb 2016 RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS 5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018 IT'S A BOY!
@vintageandrea90 My last pregnancy that was my experience with movement. It wasn’t until I was Maybe 30-32 weeks that the movement was more noticeable and consistent. I have an anterior placenta again this time. Felt the first movement at 13 weeks. For a while, I only felt movement very low and on the sides. I’ve been feeling pretty major movement consistently now for about 2 weeks (I’m 25w4d today) as well as movement from the outside. I do still feel most of the constant movement really low, but baby is breech.
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
@vintageandrea90 I have an AP this time around and I definitely don't feel him as much as I did with DS1. I'm 25+5 today. Yesterday was a very low activity day. Around midnight I started pushing on my belly a lot just to make him move (finally did) because I didn't really feel him all day. But a few days prior he was all over the place most of the day. The placenta is sitting low so I feel him most when he's a bit higher and sideways. It's frustrating because I loved the constant reassurance during my first pregnancy. I haven't felt him at all yet today. I'm going to bring it up at my next appointment later this month and see if this is what's to be expected for the duration due to AP.
Eta: after typing this out I got paranoid so I broke out the Doppler. HB strong in the 140s and I must have woke him up because he's jumping around in there now
@sapphires-and-diamonds If you ever want your kiddo to wake up and move, put something cold on your belly. I used to chase my other kid off my cervix with cold items when she was mule-kicking my crotch. She scooched pretty quickly to get away from it! I am a mean mom .
@sapphires-and-diamonds Ask and you shall receive!!! @peppersmith22 Thinking of you today. It sounds like you are being super brave and level-headed... we are all keeping our fingers crossed this resolves quickly!
Hey guys, does anyone have experience with baby nurses/night nurse the first couple weeks? I'm getting a lot of pressure from my mom and husband and friend to get one. I hate to spend the money on it when we're going to be spending so much later on child care when I go back to work. I'm not really sure why I'm so resistant to the idea, honestly. But I also know I don't have a clue how hard it's going to be to have a baby home from the hospital.
@ngolimento thanks for the tip! I'll definitely try that out.
@stalkinghorse to each their own, but the idea of anyone else caring for my newborn is unfathomable. Especially someone for hire that I don't even know well. Yes the first few weeks are hard. Yes you will be sleep deprived. Yes you will cry. But never once was I like "I need to hide in my bed all night while some rando nurse lady deals with my tiny, fragile baby". But like I said, to each their own. Everyone is different and you may relish help in the beginning and find someone you're comfortable with.
@stalkinghorse I've heard of the concept before but it is not really something I'd personally pursue. I have a night nurse, his name is DH, and his job is to care for #1 and #2 while i take care of #3
Joking aside, I breastfeed so a night nurse wouldn't work for us at all. If you plan on breastfeeding, skipping nighttime feedings could have a negative impact on your supply, especially in those few early weeks.
If I were interested in a night nurse I think I'd wait until I reach my breaking point with the MOTN stuff. I'm usually good for six months... after that I need more than two hour intervals of sleep...
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@stalkinghorse What reasons have your H, mom, and friend given as far as why you should get one? Is this something that is commonly done in your family/social circle? Does your suggesting friend have kids herself? Aside from hating to spend the money, is it really a cost prohibitive thing or something that you can actually afford to do? Do you plan to BF or FF? Is it assumed that this night nurse will be with you from day one?
Sorry for the rapid fire questions. I need more information before I can comment!
Does anyone have experience with restless leg syndrome during pregnancy? I think that's what I have going on. I wake up every night to stabbing pains in the outer thigh of my right leg. It starts off with numbness, then tingling, and eventually pretty intense pain the longer I'm sitting/lying down. I notice it gets better when I'm up and moving around.
@kaymaroo I don't have experience but SO has restless legs. He usually lays on the floor or the couch for a little bit. He finds that moving and changing where he sleeps helps the most.
@stalkinghorse what I have needed to feel human after doing nights with my babies is (ideally) 3 hours of preferably uninterruptible sleep the next morning. The good news about having just one baby is that you can sleep whenever the baby sleeps - with my first baby I took advantage of this and kept very strange hours. With all my other kids, mom came over every morning during the week (and DH on the weekends) from about 7-10 to keep the baby/other kids so I could get some decent sleep, and that worked for me (with really poor sleeping babies and BFing).
If you want to go the night nurse route, I would only go with someone someone you know well has used and can highly recommend - I wouldn’t feel comfortable going through an agency. Screaming babies up at all hours of the night can be incredibly frustrating/maddening, and even when you have a huge investment in the baby - ie it’s yours - there are times when it’s really hard not to lose it. Not to fear-monger, but I imagine a stranger in that situation with my baby while everyone else is sleeping... and I just can’t. I agree with everyone who said try it without one; if you need it for your sanity, then the risk/reward calculus starts to look entirely different.
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Late to the party, but @stalkinghorse I have several acquaintances from college that have used night nurses and swear by them. To be totally honest the entire concept is very foreign to me (and kida creepy!) but I know it’s done and many people love it.
That being said, if your husband is hell-bent on employing a night nurse, might it make sense to hold off until you go back to work? One kid is hard, don’t get me wrong, but as @lindsye mentioned you’ll be able to nap during the day when you’re home on maternity leave. It’s when (and if) you go back to work and baby still isn’t sleeping well that some extra help may be appreciated.
If — in your gut — a night nurse isn’t something you want or are comfortable with, I’d hit the brakes on the entire thing now. Def don’t need your husband or mom trying to push something on you all the way until you’re due.
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate all the feedback and support against the night nurse peer pressure.
@kbamomma33 To answer your questions, I think everyone is worried about how tired I will be. I sort of feel like I have already accepted that the first few months are going to be BRUTAL, but that I am capable of managing... you know, seeing as how billions and billions of women before me were able to do it...without Amazon prime no less.
Plus my mom lives literally five minutes away from us, I know she will be very supportive and present during the day while I'm on maternity leave. I think my mom just wants no one to suffer, so that's her suggestion. I think my husband wants one bc he is kind of a baby himself about sleep. And I think he gets sucked into the keeping up with the Jones' nonsense.
In my social circle, yes, lots of people do get night nurses. But I live in LA and roll my eyes on the daily for most of what I see, so that doesn't feel like the standard I need to aspire to! We can afford it and all, but why! I do plan to try breastfeeding but if I can't make it work, I will happily transition to FF. My understanding is that the night nurse will bring the baby to you to breastfeed in bed before taking him back to his room... I think?
My friend who is pushing this the hardest is a stay at home mom, who has three kids and two nannies. Her husband's family is very wealthy. She's a sweet girl for sure but completely out of touch with reality. She's the one who calls me at work at 10am just to shoot the breeze... I'm friendly with her bc my husband and her husband are friends and my husband struggles making friends. Unfortunately, she's gotten into my husband's head a little.
I would definitely skip the night nurse. The first few weeks exhaustion wasn’t so bad in my case. It was way worse around 2-3 months. Like everyone said, you’ll have to wake up and BF and unless you have a high need baby, my son was pretty much waking up, changing diaper (which took 2 min) BF and back to sleep in the early days. I didn’t even want my mom to do nights so I can’t imagine a stranger. Also like @lindsye said, I would just take a bunch of naps during the day. Your mom could always come over and help during that time. Also, for your husband, I’m team « sorry dude but you’ll have to suck it up » nobody with a newborn sleeps 10h a night
When does everyone start appointments every two weeks? I was surprised that I'm starting them now! I had my last monthly appointment today and then have to go back in 2 weeks for another appointment, my glucose test, and my rhogram shot. I can't believe I'm already reaching 3rd tri! Yikes!
@stalkinghorse I get having some resistance about having a night nurse b/c it does freak me out a bit to have someone in my home while I sleep. However, if I had the budget for it, I would 100% totally do it. I tend to have babies that don't sleep and are colicky, so I nearly lost my mind the first 4 months both times. I don't function well without sleep. Is it a necessity? No, absolutely not. But if I had that kind of of money available to me, I'd do it. Why not? Doesn't make you any less a good mom if you hire and/or ask for help. Good luck!
ETA: I have NOT had a night nurse, but totally would if I could.
@fancybelmont I don't think every 2 weeks starts until 32 weeks for me. I was at a different office for my first pregnancy and it was around the same time. Seems a little early to me right now!
@fancybelmont I don't think every 2 weeks starts until 32 weeks for me. I was at a different office for my first pregnancy and it was around the same time. Seems a little early to me right now!
It was definitely later at my last office. But they said every two weeks at 27 weeks and then every week at 36 weeks.
@fancybelmont mine start this week. I have an appt on Friday and then they are every 2 weeks after that. I'll be 28 weeks tomorrow so starting 3rd trip (depending on how you count the trimesters, the never-ending confusion )
@stalkinghorse we didn’t do a night nurse, although I’ve only heard good things from friends who have. We seriously considered it after hardly sleeping—but I was breastfeeding and baby slept in our room, so it didn’t really make sense. This time we’re thinking about hiring a nanny/sitter to come for a few hours in the mornings Monday through Friday for the first few months. I think as long as I get a small block of guaranteed sleep, it won’t matter if it’s at night or in the morning.
@ekendall09 when’s your 28 week appt? I go on Monday and since I’m old I’ve got an ultrasound as well. My parents are in Florida so the entire family will be coming with us. Should be a circus.
@fancybelmont I go at least every two weeks but I’m high risk. Do you see your regular OB or MFM? I see my OB at normal intervals plus MFM every 1-2 weeks. Starting at 32 weeks I’ll go in twice per week.
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
@fancybelmont I'm 27 weeks and with a midwife...I'm at 3 weeks right now but I believe I go to every 2 weeks around 30-32 weeks.
Me: 27 // DH: 30 Married 05/21/2011 TTC Since Feb 2016 RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS 5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018 IT'S A BOY!
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate all the feedback and support against the night nurse peer pres@kbamomma33
@kbamomma33 To answer your questions, I think everyone is worried about how tired I will be. I sort of feel like I have already accepted that the first few months are going to be BRUTAL, but that I am capable of managing... you know, seeing as how billions and billions of women before me were able to do it...without Amazon prime no less.
Plus my mom lives literally five minutes away from us, I know she will be very supportive and present during the day while I'm on maternity leave. I think my mom just wants no one to suffer, so that's her suggestion. I think my husband wants one bc he is kind of a baby himself about sleep. And I think he gets sucked into the keeping up with the Jones' nonsense.
In my social circle, yes, lots of people do get night nurses. But I live in LA and roll my eyes on the daily for most of what I see, so that doesn't feel like the standard I need to aspire to! We can afford it and all, but why! I do plan to try breastfeeding but if I can't make it work, I will happily transition to FF. My understanding is that the night nurse will bring the baby to you to breastfeed in bed before taking him back to his room... I think?
My friend who is pushing this the hardest is a stay at home mom, who has three kids and two nannies. Her husband's family is very wealthy. She's a sweet girl for sure but completely out of touch with reality. She's the one who calls me at work at 10am just to shoot the breeze... I'm friendly with her bc my husband and her husband are friends and my husband struggles making friends. Unfortunately, she's gotten into my husband's head a little.
Ah, yes! I remember you mentioning this friend before! As far as taking her mothering advice, I'd say do it only if you want to have a journey/setup similar to hers. If you see yourself being a different type of mother, (not better- just different) then smile, nod, ignore, and do what you want. It does miff me a tad that your mom and H are pushing for this right off. I mean, newborns are hard but, you can handle it by yourself at first. Like, they should have more faith in you than that, you know? I also agree with @danjoly that YH should also be ready to suck it up and get in there during the nights. It's part of it. Night nurse or not, his life is about to change, hard, and he needs to embrace that- sleep deprivation and all. I'll also agree with these points that @lindsye made-- (quote function fail)
*snip* "If you want to go the night nurse route, I would only go with someone someone you know well has used and can highly recommend - I wouldn’t feel comfortable going through an agency. Screaming babies up at all hours of the night can be incredibly frustrating/maddening, and even when you have a huge investment in the baby - ie it’s yours - there are times when it’s really hard not to lose it. Not to fear-monger, but I imagine a stranger in that situation with my baby while everyone else is sleeping... and I just can’t. I agree with everyone who said try it without one; if you need it for your sanity, then the risk/reward calculus starts to look entirely different."
Also, I'll share this-- and I feel like I've shared it somewhere before, (maybe on another thread where we talked about night nurses?) but my SIL had one for her third baby that was a lifesaver for her. She had bad PPD and needed the sleep to be able to function in front of her other children. She ended up just pumping milk for overnight, (this was after the first 6-8 weeks when her supply was already established) so there was no bringing baby to her while she slept. It was someone that she knew well from her church and felt comfortable with. They did not decide to hire this person until after the baby was born and she was really struggling. It ended up being a really good and helpful situation for everyone in her case. So, it's my opinion that you don't need one but, if after the first several weeks/months you feel like it would help your mental health/sanity/quality of life and you can afford it, there's definitely nothing wrong with considering it or trying it out then. IMO, keeping up with the Joneses isn't a good enough reason for a night nurse, but I'm also not trying to judge another mother for choosing whatever either. I do think that you should take the first several weeks on with just YH and mom's help though. Then you can make a more informed decision about what's right for you. I definitely don't think that you need to make this decision now.
Update: thank you for all the positive thoughts! Apparently it is a really weird looking/huge polyp right on the cervix which is irritating the cervix. They kept me overnight and did 2 NSTs and gave me steroid shots just in case something develops. I'm on pelvic rest (@bttm013@mmmmkay pelvic rest buddies? ugh) and 10 pound lifting restrictions and will likely bleed the rest of the pregnancy. Apparently the bleeding I had which I would have called minor was considered significant so don't ever hesitate to call if anything funky is happening to you!!
@kbamomma33 I agree with the other ladies here - you can always get one after you see how the first few weeks go. The sleep deprivation portion is definitely not to be underestimated and I could see how a night nurse would be really wonderful even if it was like 1 night a week or something to just get some solid sleep.
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just wondering if anyone with an anterior placenta barely feels any movement? I’m 27 weeks and might feel 10 kicks in a day, all very subtle and internal or very low. I could never do kick counts because I can go hours without feeling anything. But baby has been fine at all my ultrasounds!
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
IT'S A BOY!
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
IT'S A BOY!
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
I'm going to bring it up at my next appointment later this month and see if this is what's to be expected for the duration due to AP.
Eta: after typing this out I got paranoid so I broke out the Doppler. HB strong in the 140s and I must have woke him up because he's jumping around in there now
@peppersmith22 Thinking of you today. It sounds like you are being super brave and level-headed... we are all keeping our fingers crossed this resolves quickly!
Hey guys, does anyone have experience with baby nurses/night nurse the first couple weeks? I'm getting a lot of pressure from my mom and husband and friend to get one. I hate to spend the money on it when we're going to be spending so much later on child care when I go back to work. I'm not really sure why I'm so resistant to the idea, honestly. But I also know I don't have a clue how hard it's going to be to have a baby home from the hospital.
@stalkinghorse to each their own, but the idea of anyone else caring for my newborn is unfathomable. Especially someone for hire that I don't even know well. Yes the first few weeks are hard. Yes you will be sleep deprived. Yes you will cry. But never once was I like "I need to hide in my bed all night while some rando nurse lady deals with my tiny, fragile baby". But like I said, to each their own. Everyone is different and you may relish help in the beginning and find someone you're comfortable with.
Joking aside, I breastfeed so a night nurse wouldn't work for us at all. If you plan on breastfeeding, skipping nighttime feedings could have a negative impact on your supply, especially in those few early weeks.
If I were interested in a night nurse I think I'd wait until I reach my breaking point with the MOTN stuff. I'm usually good for six months... after that I need more than two hour intervals of sleep...
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
Sorry for the rapid fire questions.
If you want to go the night nurse route, I would only go with someone someone you know well has used and can highly recommend - I wouldn’t feel comfortable going through an agency. Screaming babies up at all hours of the night can be incredibly frustrating/maddening, and even when you have a huge investment in the baby - ie it’s yours - there are times when it’s really hard not to lose it. Not to fear-monger, but I imagine a stranger in that situation with my baby while everyone else is sleeping... and I just can’t. I agree with everyone who said try it without one; if you need it for your sanity, then the risk/reward calculus starts to look entirely different.
That being said, if your husband is hell-bent on employing a night nurse, might it make sense to hold off until you go back to work? One kid is hard, don’t get me wrong, but as @lindsye mentioned you’ll be able to nap during the day when you’re home on maternity leave. It’s when (and if) you go back to work and baby still isn’t sleeping well that some extra help may be appreciated.
If — in your gut — a night nurse isn’t something you want or are comfortable with, I’d hit the brakes on the entire thing now. Def don’t need your husband or mom trying to push something on you all the way until you’re due.
@kbamomma33 To answer your questions, I think everyone is worried about how tired I will be. I sort of feel like I have already accepted that the first few months are going to be BRUTAL, but that I am capable of managing... you know, seeing as how billions and billions of women before me were able to do it...without Amazon prime no less.
Plus my mom lives literally five minutes away from us, I know she will be very supportive and present during the day while I'm on maternity leave. I think my mom just wants no one to suffer, so that's her suggestion. I think my husband wants one bc he is kind of a baby himself about sleep. And I think he gets sucked into the keeping up with the Jones' nonsense.
In my social circle, yes, lots of people do get night nurses. But I live in LA and roll my eyes on the daily for most of what I see, so that doesn't feel like the standard I need to aspire to! We can afford it and all, but why! I do plan to try breastfeeding but if I can't make it work, I will happily transition to FF. My understanding is that the night nurse will bring the baby to you to breastfeed in bed before taking him back to his room... I think?
My friend who is pushing this the hardest is a stay at home mom, who has three kids and two nannies. Her husband's family is very wealthy. She's a sweet girl for sure but completely out of touch with reality. She's the one who calls me at work at 10am just to shoot the breeze... I'm friendly with her bc my husband and her husband are friends and my husband struggles making friends. Unfortunately, she's gotten into my husband's head a little.
ETA: I have NOT had a night nurse, but totally would if I could.
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
IT'S A BOY!
Ah, yes! I remember you mentioning this friend before! As far as taking her mothering advice, I'd say do it only if you want to have a journey/setup similar to hers. If you see yourself being a different type of mother, (not better- just different) then smile, nod, ignore, and do what you want.
It does miff me a tad that your mom and H are pushing for this right off. I mean, newborns are hard but, you can handle it by yourself at first. Like, they should have more faith in you than that, you know? I also agree with @danjoly that YH should also be ready to suck it up and get in there during the nights. It's part of it. Night nurse or not, his life is about to change, hard, and he needs to embrace that- sleep deprivation and all.
I'll also agree with these points that @lindsye made-- (quote function fail)
"If you want to go the night nurse route, I would only go with someone someone you know well has used and can highly recommend - I wouldn’t feel comfortable going through an agency. Screaming babies up at all hours of the night can be incredibly frustrating/maddening, and even when you have a huge investment in the baby - ie it’s yours - there are times when it’s really hard not to lose it. Not to fear-monger, but I imagine a stranger in that situation with my baby while everyone else is sleeping... and I just can’t. I agree with everyone who said try it without one; if you need it for your sanity, then the risk/reward calculus starts to look entirely different."
Also, I'll share this-- and I feel like I've shared it somewhere before, (maybe on another thread where we talked about night nurses?) but my SIL had one for her third baby that was a lifesaver for her. She had bad PPD and needed the sleep to be able to function in front of her other children. She ended up just pumping milk for overnight, (this was after the first 6-8 weeks when her supply was already established) so there was no bringing baby to her while she slept. It was someone that she knew well from her church and felt comfortable with. They did not decide to hire this person until after the baby was born and she was really struggling. It ended up being a really good and helpful situation for everyone in her case.
So, it's my opinion that you don't need one but, if after the first several weeks/months you feel like it would help your mental health/sanity/quality of life and you can afford it, there's definitely nothing wrong with considering it or trying it out then. IMO, keeping up with the Joneses isn't a good enough reason for a night nurse, but I'm also not trying to judge another mother for choosing whatever either. I do think that you should take the first several weeks on with just YH and mom's help though. Then you can make a more informed decision about what's right for you. I definitely don't think that you need to make this decision now.
@kbamomma33 I agree with the other ladies here - you can always get one after you see how the first few weeks go. The sleep deprivation portion is definitely not to be underestimated and I could see how a night nurse would be really wonderful even if it was like 1 night a week or something to just get some solid sleep.