I have a question about weight gain if anyone has any insight. I forgot to ask my provider at my appointment. I started out at an obese classified weight and the recommended weight gain in total is 10 to 20 lbs I believe from Google. I lost 5 in my first trimester and since the second trimester I've gained that 5 back. This may sound trivial but weight gain is a huge anxiety of mine. Since I'm only at my pre pregnancy weight now, does that mean I can still gain the 10 to 20 or that I've gained 5 already? I know some people are like who cares? But this is very anxiety inducing for me and I have to always watch my weight or I will just explode up.
Since you lost 5 pounds, I would say you are even. IIRC, obese women can safely not gain any weight during pregnancy and their babies will do fine! Here’s the deal though, and I’m going to be completely honest with you. Some women find it impossible to control pregnancy weight gain. I am one of those women. I gain a lot of weight and it comes off fairly quickly after birth. This is my 5th pregnancy and I have gained 17 pounds already and I’m only 18 weeks. I’m also diabetic and am on an extremely restrictive diet AND I exercise for at least 45 mind a day. My point is that there isn’t a lot you can do to control your weight gain besides avoiding junk food. I also have a lot of anxiety around pregnancy weight gain, mostly because they really, really don’t want diabetics to gain too much weight. But, I’m telling you, your hormones will change and you will either gain or not, and worrying about it will just make you miserable. So, do what you can, like taking brisk walks a few times a day and avoid starchy and sugary foods, then say to yourself “my weight gain is not a reflection of my worth as a human or a mother” Also, if you need help with your diet ask to see a nutritionist. He or she can help you know what to eat, so at least you know that your getting the best nutrition for you and your baby. Also-creepy internet hugs. I’m right there with you with the anxiety and it sucks so, so much!!!
@gildah thank you. Weight has been an issue my whole life and I even worry about creating issues for my child due to weight. Luckily I'm a healthy person otherwise. But anyway, thank you.
@gildah@charlestonchew Gildah had some great points. I think you're "ok" to gain the 20 pounds as I would think of it from start to finish. There will be fluctuations throughout too. It's good to monitor but try not to obsess about it too much. For example if you gain 23 pounds it's not the end of the world and it wouldn't be bad. I share some of the same anxieties, so really I should be taking my own advice haha, but I am starting to care less. My midwife and my mom (ok I get she isn't a professional) both said to just eat healthy and when I want and my body will do whatever it wants. Do whatever you think is best for baby and you and I'm sure you'll be good Goodluck!
@charlestonchew in my mind, I would count the 5 as total weight gained so far. I’m like @gildah though. I gained almost 50 pounds with DS then I “lost” 30 pounds in 2 weeks after having him.
@charlestonchew with DS, I was at the top end of a “healthy weight” when I got pregnant. I was running and weisght lifting 6 days a week and eating a relatively healthy diet. I still gained 40 pounds. This pregnancy, I was about 10 pounds heavier starting than with DS. I’ve gained about 17 pounds so far and I’m almost 20 weeks. I’m not working out as much, but I’m following the same weight gain trajectory I did with DS and that’s with throwing up multiple times a day. I feel like a part of it is predetermined.
I totally uhderstand the anxiety about weight. It’s something I struggle with. I think you are supposed to use your PP weight as your starting point. To me, you “haven’t gained any” because you lost 5 and then gained it back.
@charlestonchew I am in the exact same boat as you. I am classified as obese and have a ton of anxiety around pregnancy weight. My family has a history of gaining a bunch of weight with pregnancy and never losing it. I am hoping to keep my weight gain to 20 lbs over my pre pregnancy weight. I am still down about 4 from before pregnancy so in my mind I can gain 24 and still be within my range. For now I'm just trying to eat as healthy as I can and stay active daily.
@charlestonchew yeah. The weight gain recommendations refer to overall weight gained over your starting weight. I think for my starting weight I can gain 15-25 lbs. But, I lost 20lbs so far. I would not think that now because I lost those 20lbs that I can only go over 5lbs over my starting weight. That's not a realistic expectation of myself. So that being said. I agree with everyone above, if you are at your starting weight right now then you have gained 0 lbs.
Has anyone tried a support belt for RLP? I have an office job so I don't really need it at work but evenings and weekends chasing a toddler are really kicking my RLP into high gear.
@Poppy0419 This all sounds terrible. I'll be thinking of you. I really hope you get some answers. If you do start feeling better try magnesium supplements...it helps ease inflation.
Has anyone tried a support belt for RLP? I have an office job so I don't really need it at work but evenings and weekends chasing a toddler are really kicking my RLP into high gear.
Thinking about it. Past couple of days have been pretty bad.
Question about baby movement. Earlier this week I was finally certain i felt baby moves, I felt slight taps on the outside. Past day I have not. Now I even drank some caffeine and had sugary things, I laid down and still don’t feel any dostictive moves. Anytime I feel like it might have been a wiggle, I start doubting it was gas. I am 17 weeks 5 days right now. Anyone has felt the movement and then it was quiet for a while?
Question about baby movement. Earlier this week I was finally certain i felt baby moves, I felt slight taps on the outside. Past day I have not. Now I even drank some caffeine and had sugary things, I laid down and still don’t feel any dostictive moves. Anytime I feel like it might have been a wiggle, I start doubting it was gas. I am 17 weeks 5 days right now. Anyone has felt the movement and then it was quiet for a while?
When I started feeling movement (the very gentle movement), I would go days without feeling it.
@onesmallcoconut I used a support belt last pregnancy and it was helpful. Not a total game changer, but certainly helped.
@cupcakeforme I've been having that for a few weeks. I had an appointment on Monday and we saw baby and got some measurements. That night I felt a lot of movement. I'm not sure I felt any yesterday. I think I felt a wiggle this morning. It's hard not to feel nervous about it, but I think it just depends on where baby is and how active it is and you are at any given moment. I just keep telling myself that all I can do is take care of myself.
I have an effing anterior placenta and have felt nada. (20 weeks tomorrow). Totally not fair because I can more than feel all my gas bubbles and other pains and stretches. I just want a little kick every now and then. Is that too much to ask?
Question about baby movement. Earlier this week I was finally certain i felt baby moves, I felt slight taps on the outside. Past day I have not. Now I even drank some caffeine and had sugary things, I laid down and still don’t feel any dostictive moves. Anytime I feel like it might have been a wiggle, I start doubting it was gas. I am 17 weeks 5 days right now. Anyone has felt the movement and then it was quiet for a while?
I felt flutters early on. Like 13 weeks I think? Now I barely ever feel LO and it drives me bonkers! The only time they get really active is when I’m exhausted and am laying down about to sleep. I felt J constantly from 15 weeks on, so this is tripping me up a good bit.
Question about baby movement. Earlier this week I was finally certain i felt baby moves, I felt slight taps on the outside. Past day I have not. Now I even drank some caffeine and had sugary things, I laid down and still don’t feel any dostictive moves. Anytime I feel like it might have been a wiggle, I start doubting it was gas. I am 17 weeks 5 days right now. Anyone has felt the movement and then it was quiet for a while?
I felt baby before 12 weeks and then a few weeks ago I felt worried that I couldn’t feel him as often and when I did it didn’t feel as strong as my girls were at this point. At my AS last week I found out I have an anterior placenta, which I didn’t have with the girls, so that explains that.
@justsuzie I had an anterior placenta with DD. I couldn’t really feel her until 23/24 weeks. It drove me nuts and then she’d keep me up all night partying in there. It’ll happen!
@charlestonchew same boat here basically. Started obese, lost 8 lbs in the first tri. I have gained 6 of them back in the second tri. I figure all I can do is pay attention to my diet as best I can, and exercise as much as I’m comfortable with. The rest isn’t really up to me. It’s hard when you are already overweight/obese to see the scale go up and not immediately panic but my dr has been very reassuring that steady and slow weight gain is perfectly healthy and normal. She also said losing weight slowly is ok and staying the same is ok. As long as I’m doing what I’m supposed to do and feeling good the rest is up to nature. This is what I keep telling myself.
My boobs have been growing quite a bit over the last few weeks and suddenly my bras feel really uncomfortable. I have big boobs to start with which means finding bras that fit is hard and usually expensive, so I'm a little hesitant to go out and buy new ones now when I don't know how much I might keep growing before this is all done. But I also don't want to be uncomfortable forever! What are you ladies doing to manage to boob growth situation?
@thunderberry, I'm in the same situation! Mine are uncomfortable, but still fitting-mostly, anyway LOL I think last pregnancy I got one of those "comfort" sports-bra style type of bra that came in S, M, L, XL sizing instead of band and cup size. It was comfortable, but I have to admit I was super happy to put my normal underwire bra back on when I was done nursing, though.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I haven't stayed the same size longer than six months in four years. I have two soft stretchy ones that are okay for around the house right now. I hate buying new bras, they're so expensive in my size and won't fit in six months. I'm hoping some of the ones I used after #2 was born still fit, but I was a totally different size after #2 than after #1 so I'm not sure.
@thunderberry with DD I switched to supportive nursing bras around 20ish weeks, but this one I'm going to have to switch in like a week. They're not the prettiest things, but the Lamaze nursing ones (not soft, but no underwire) did the trick. They come in sizing like S, M, L, XL which helped a lot.
@thunderberry and @loko08 in my pre-baby naive days, I was so sure I would buy and wear all the "cute" nursing bras I saw in stores. Yeah....not even close. The underwire and non-flexible sizing does not go well with boobs that change size almost literally by the minute, depending on whether it was before or after a feeding.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 I had that issue with nursing tanks - before a feeding (or after 3 hours) my boobs would be coming out the side, and after there would be a ton of extra fabric. It was really attractive, let me tell you.
@thunderberry I bought new ones a few weeks ago. With DS, I did the same thing and I was okay until I needed to switch to nursing bras once he was born.
I have like 4 real bras that fit well right now. Unfortunately, they're my cute/sexy ones that I bought awhile back to boost my confidence. Now whenever dh sees me in one, he thinks I wore them for him. Nope, sorry dear. It was this or a sports bra. And I'm back to wearing bras 24/7 unless I'm showering. And last night at the gym, my sports bra was too loose so I had to stop and fix it in the bathroom because it was hurting to bounce. The one owner was working out and she stopped to ask if I was ok. We're close enough that I just said "yeah, my bra was too loose and these puppies needed to be tied down better". Then we laughed at how weird pregnancy is.
Lol, I’m stilling waiting for my boobs to grow. they are a bit fuller, but my usual bras still fit fine for the moment. I’m small on top, so I’m really looking forward to having boobs! Someone please remind me I wanted big boobs when I complain about my back hurting at some point in the future!
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
I went into a maternity store and they thought it was too early for me to be buying a nursing bra (which is all they sold) but suggested I try a bra extender to tide me over for a little bit. I grabbed some at Victoria Secret and it's not perfect, but it definitely helps!
TMI medical question: I suspect I *might* have a BV infection, which *TW* Dr Google says may cause 2nd trimester loss *END TW*. My next appointment is not until Jan. 8th. I just spoke with the nurse at my OBs office and they are prescribing me antibiotics without seeing me. The nurse said it is safe to take, even if I don't have BV. Is that normal? I'm not 100% comfortable taking it without an actual diagnosis. Since I've already called my doctor's office, I'm not sure what else to do. Am I being overly cautious? Should I just trust the nurse? I've had BV before and I'm honestly not sure if that's what this is. The nurse even said it could be "normal pregnancy" symptoms. Ugh.
@desertdweller21 I just went through this same scenario, almost exactly, but not quite. When I talked to my midwives, they said they test for it because it can increase the risk of pre-term labor, but not necessarily 2nd trimester loss (although if the pre-term labor is early enough, of course.....) They actually tested me for it, and my test came back positive. They wanted to put me on antibiotics, even though I have no symptoms and most of the medical journal articles I read (not just random web articles or blogs) said that treating asymptomatic patients is not recommended because some of the treatments for BV have just as high a risk of causing pre-term labor as the BV itself. They wanted to put me on Flagyl which I've taken before and I'm convinced is the WORST medicine ever invented as far as side effects go, so I fought with them until they agreed to do clindamycin instead. Honestly, I didn't want to take the Flagyl because of my horrid experience with it in the past, and ultimately decided that if they could give me a more "pleasant" antibiotic, I would rather follow their recommendations than feel the guilt if I did have pre-term labor and would forever wonder if the antibiotic could have changed the outcome. All that being said, if you truly are worried you have it, but don't want to take the antibiotics without a diagnosis, could you go to your regular PCP or an urgent care and have them test you for it? That might put your mind at ease over whether you need the antibiotics or not.
Also, to answer your question about being given prescriptions for something without being seen by staff, the answer is yes, if it's something like a UTI, BV, yeast infection- especially if the patient says, "I've had it before and I'm pretty sure this is what it is", it's been my experience that a lot of doctors don't have a problem prescribing antibiotics without seeing the patient first.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 Thanks, I think I will call my regular gyno (though I know they won't perform pap smears during pregnancy, so I'm not sure if they will for this either). I completely trust my gyno and my RE, but I've only seen this OB since week 12 or so (my regular gyno does not do OB). I'm just paranoid because I'm honestly not sure if I even have it. And *TW* this is my 4th pregnancy (FTM) so I think I'm potentially being more paranoid than needed.
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Also, if you need help with your diet ask to see a nutritionist. He or she can help you know what to eat, so at least you know that your getting the best nutrition for you and your baby. Also-creepy internet hugs. I’m right there with you with the anxiety and it sucks so, so much!!!
I share some of the same anxieties, so really I should be taking my own advice haha, but I am starting to care less. My midwife and my mom (ok I get she isn't a professional) both said to just eat healthy and when I want and my body will do whatever it wants.
Do whatever you think is best for baby and you and I'm sure you'll be good
I totally uhderstand the anxiety about weight. It’s something I struggle with. I think you are supposed to use your PP weight as your starting point. To me, you “haven’t gained any” because you lost 5 and then gained it back.
Anyone has felt the movement and then it was quiet for a while?
@cupcakeforme I've been having that for a few weeks. I had an appointment on Monday and we saw baby and got some measurements. That night I felt a lot of movement. I'm not sure I felt any yesterday. I think I felt a wiggle this morning. It's hard not to feel nervous about it, but I think it just depends on where baby is and how active it is and you are at any given moment. I just keep telling myself that all I can do is take care of myself.
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Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
DH has promised I can get a reduction once we're 100% sure we're done with kids.
And I'm back to wearing bras 24/7 unless I'm showering. And last night at the gym, my sports bra was too loose so I had to stop and fix it in the bathroom because it was hurting to bounce. The one owner was working out and she stopped to ask if I was ok. We're close enough that I just said "yeah, my bra was too loose and these puppies needed to be tied down better". Then we laughed at how weird pregnancy is.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
TTC #1 since September 2015
*TW*
BFP #1: CP, April 2016
BFP #2: 10/5/16, MMC 11/3/16 at 7w5d (embryo stopped @ ~6 weeks), misoprostol 11/11/16 (EDD 6/16/17)
Dx: Luteal phase defect, uterine polyps, stage 2 endometriosis, low morphology
Uterine polyp removal (laparoscopy) 3/28/17
BFP #3: 6/19/17, MMC 7/11/17 at 6w3d, misoprostol 7/17/17 (EDD 3/1/18)
BFP #4: 8/25/17 EDD 5/4/18
Also, to answer your question about being given prescriptions for something without being seen by staff, the answer is yes, if it's something like a UTI, BV, yeast infection- especially if the patient says, "I've had it before and I'm pretty sure this is what it is", it's been my experience that a lot of doctors don't have a problem prescribing antibiotics without seeing the patient first.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
TTC #1 since September 2015
*TW*
BFP #1: CP, April 2016
BFP #2: 10/5/16, MMC 11/3/16 at 7w5d (embryo stopped @ ~6 weeks), misoprostol 11/11/16 (EDD 6/16/17)
Dx: Luteal phase defect, uterine polyps, stage 2 endometriosis, low morphology
Uterine polyp removal (laparoscopy) 3/28/17
BFP #3: 6/19/17, MMC 7/11/17 at 6w3d, misoprostol 7/17/17 (EDD 3/1/18)
BFP #4: 8/25/17 EDD 5/4/18