Weekly Randoms w/o Dec 4

doxiemoxie212

@izza2 @krashke I think there's like one woman on May who seems to think that an ounce of sarcasm is the most disrespectful thing on the planet, in which case, I am the most disrespectful person on the planet. 

ffw0617

@jsl82 our families live in different states (We live in TX, my family lives in FL/GA and his family lives in Louisiana). I talk to my mom about once a week, but when we talk its for 1-2 hours, we catch up on everything. My dad is not a big phone person at all. So I talk to him through my step mom, and I'll talk to him directly on birthdays and holidays. DH talks to his mom (from what I see 3-4x a year) and his dad a couple times a month.

Today's random: MY BUMP IS IN FULL EFFECT. I wore a dress I haven't worn in about 2 years to work today. Its been tight for a while, but now with the bump it looks like its on purpose. Added a cardigan bc its chilly out. I want to post a picture SOOOOO bad (I almost did like 5x today) but I want my first bump picture to be for a reason, but just here's a random picture on a random Tuesday of me and my bump. 

ramblebee

doxiemoxie212 said:

@izza2 @krashke I think there's like one woman on May who seems to think that an ounce of sarcasm is the most disrespectful thing on the planet, in which case, I am the most disrespectful person on the planet. 

Other's opinions always make me think of this quote...

"I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all." - Coco Chanel

catlady1215

So late to all convos today so just going to throw my thoughts all together...

wtf to us being some drama board. It's been pretty tame around here!

the name Evelyn is pretty doxie! Those responses are why so many people want to keep names a secret anymore. Damn shame.

as for us talking to our parents. Inlaws, we don't talk to fil often. Their relationship hasn't always been good so they're just not close. Mil, we talk often... she watches DS about once a week. So that helps. We don't talk daily or anything. My parents, we live super close but talk a couple times a week probably.

doxiemoxie212

@catlady1215 yea I don’t mind the comments which is why I told DH he could share but I guess I should’ve considered how much more sensitive he is than I am. Sigh. Lol #liveandlearn 

sunshineandwhiskey

Soooooo ya guys know how I was moving DD into her big girl room this weekend? Well last night was her first night. We were up between 1a to 4a dealing with a screaming/crying toddler. Took her to the pediatrician today - turns out she has strep throat. I have awesome timing.  And who knew a 16 month old could get strep? Fun fact. 

krash_

@sunshineandwhiskey I hope your daughter feels better soon! Not great time but maybe some extra cuddles will help. 

Miz_Liz

@sunshineandwhiskey aww poor girl!!! At least you know there was a reason for the screaming and hopefully she’ll be feeling better in no time.  I hope tonight is better for you.

sunshineandwhiskey

@krashke @Miz_Liz thanks ladies we got antibiotics and FX she sleeps through 

hjungk84

Since when are we a drama filled board? We could do with a little drama to spice things up! JK! 

BurlapandLace

@sunshineandwhiskey ~ awe. Poor thing. Strep is awful. Hope she feels better soon and you all get some rest 

lrichhx05

@doxiemoxie212 my daughter is named Evelyn so I just wanted to say I think it's a great name!   

megara5

I love the name Evelyn,  and if I didn't have a living aunt named Evelyn would have used it for one of my girls. 

I HATE being a newb. Hate it anywhere in life and definitely hate it on message boards. You have to learn everyone's names and stories and miss out on all the past history. In also horrible at remembering names, so it makes it even harder to acclimate to a new situation.  

bkrahn

@sunshineandwhiskey oh no! Poor girl!!  sick kiddos are SO sad to see. Hopefully she feels better soon and you can have better success with the new room! 

glitterfingers

Me when I see a comment in  May about June:


They need to to check their own recently closed thread and stop arguing about bump cream. *mic drop*

BurlapandLace

Between the cookie thread, Facebook and Pinterest, I was doomed today. I may or may not have decided at 9:30pm that I needed to make a batch of oatmeal chocolate chip cookies. 

amys614

Drama and cussing? I cuss a lot in real life, so I really watch myself around here as to not let it slip. I do not remember seeing people cuss unless you consider "ish" a cuss word, which also means you must be like...12 to consider such. 

Meh, to each their own. I think we have a pretty chill thing going on over here. 

Miz_Liz

I know it’s been said before, but I really wish TB would have reactions like FB instead of just love tits.  

krash_

@amys614 I swear A LOT in real life! At Thanksgiving I turned to my sister and said "I feel like I've been saying fuck too much." She disagreed. But unless you count Monday Bitchfest or the random swear word here and there but otherwise I keep it to a minimum. And for the most part IRL or on TB I never swear AT someone or use it for name calling (unless were talking about rush hour traffic or just people who can't drive in general but they can't hear me from my car). 

doxiemoxie212

krashke said:

@amys614 I swear A LOT in real life! At Thanksgiving I turned to my sister and said "I feel like I've been saying fuck too much." She disagreed. But unless you count Monday Bitchfest or the random swear word here and there but otherwise I keep it to a minimum. And for the most part IRL or on TB I never swear AT someone or use it for name calling (unless were talking about rush hour traffic or just people who can't drive in general but they can't hear me from my car). 

This. My mom is constantly telling me that I need to stop swearing because my kids are going to swear (admittedly I do swear a lot; I'm one of those people who often uses f*ck in place of um). I don't care if my kids swear, though, as long as they use the words correctly, and they don't use them at someone. If they want to say oh sh*t - I'm fine with it. If they want to say f*ck you - not so much. 

jsl82

Catching up on this thread...

1) Thanks for all the parent phone call responses.  DH drive A LOT for work, and tends to be one the phone most of his drive home- so everyday when he comes home he is on the phone.  It's just irratating me that it's everytime he walks in the door he is talking to someone- most often his parents.  He talks to them for over 1/2 hour EVERYDAY... I don't talk to him that much anymore.  And DD is basically ready for dinner/bath/story/bed by the time he gets home, so I feel like he's wasting he's time with her on the phone with his parents.  I just want him to spend more time with our family.  I just wanted to gage if I was horrible for thinking that he talks to them too much before I say something to him.

2) Doxie I love the name Evelyn.  We didn't share DD's name before she was born and it turns out my mother hates her name so it's a good thing we didn't.  Once the baby has been born/named people are much more likely to hold their tongues. 

3) I missed the post that started the cussing conversation here- so I'm not sure how it started but I will say that you learn just how much you curse when your child starts learning to talk.  I feel like everyday I have to say "language" to DH (maybe that's why he talks to his parents more than me).   As for cussing on this board, I haven't noticed it.  I feel like on here and IRL when it's appropriate to use- use it (not in front of the small child though). 

krash_

So I was lurking on Nov 17 BMB and there was a thread about gifts for L&D staff. Is this a thing??? Like, I'm in labor, I don't have time to bake you cookies before I come in to the hospital. I could see if you had a particularly difficult delivery or complications or received truly exceptional care but that would be after the fact. 

Also maybe I should save this for my UO but why should I bring you treats and trinkets for doing your job? I know its a hard job and I would be will be very thankful and express my gratitude and maybe let a supervisor know if one of care team went above and beyond but I don't get a cookie for doing my job.   

doxiemoxie212

@krashke I saw that and it's already giving me anxiety. It's like this ambiguous tip or something that I don't know the rules for. Except, really, if you think it's going to mean they're nicer to you, then you have to do it upon arrival right? And like, who in my life am I going to designate as the "Don't care about the woman in labor; care about bringing the treats for the staff" person? Also, under any other circumstances I would be all for bringing a ton of treats, but I WON'T BE ALLOWED TO EAT and that is the definition of torture.

LaceyBee522

@doxiemoxie212 Honestly, you and I (and anyone else in major city) might be in the best position here for treats for the staff/nurses. We can get pretty much anything delivered in NYC in about an hour.

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 exactly! I would not want to look at the treats in my room that aren't for me. 

Maaaayyyyybe if I have been in labor for a long time and gotten to know some of the staff and a family member shows up and is like "what can I do for you?" I might tell them to go get a little something for everyone. But I would never have thought to plan or bring something a head of time. 

Miz_Liz

@krashke I learned about said gifts when I had DD, didn’t know it was a thing when I had DS.  I didn’t do gifts (and won’t this time either).  I don’t think it’s expected or even THAT common.  I saw a lot of nurses chiming in on the post on my last BMB saying basically how they don’t expect them but if someone wanted to do something food for the nurses is always appreciated.  Some kept candy in their room for the nurses, some had SO get donuts for them.  I wouldn’t stress about it at all.  I certainly had amazing care even without bringing a gift either time

kmurdock925

@krashke and @doxiemoxie212 - I definitely didn't do this with my first but from what I hear it is becoming more and more common.  I feel like you would have to have everything ready ahead of time and sitting in your car ready to go with your hospital bag because who knows when "go time" is.  I know people do it in an attempt to receive extra special care, or if they know they're going to be high maintenance...but yeah...its their job.  From everything I've been told they 1) don't eat anything home made and 2) appreciate kind words and treatment/respect more than anything else.  If you go out of your way to say thank you or to be nice to them they'll let the next shift know and be sure to get you what you need asap.

On a side note...I told my L&D nurse friend yesterday about the lil bean on its way so I'm pumped to have her as a resource again.  She was actually a nurse at the hospital with my doc was in his residency so that is pretty cool.  My doc ended up getting married to one of her friends.  Small world.

Miz_Liz

@doxiemoxie212 and any other Sephora/ebates lovers - Sephora rewards are out AND ebates is currently 8% cash back at Sephora!!!!!!!!!  Happy shopping

doxiemoxie212

@LaceyBee522 yea but I still don’t want food in my room lol lol unless they’ll give in and let me eat it 

sunshineandwhiskey

@krashke I didn't do a L&D gift with DD only because i procrastinated too much and just never did.  My plan was to get a fruit basket/ a box of donuts or something to them so they can share.  Even though I was there over the weekend, the nurses i had Fri compared to Sat/Sun were different.  I LOVED my weekend nurses, and i still feel sad that i didn't have time to send them a thank you note or something.  

lisa2589

Honestly, nurses don’t expect gifts and sometimes puts us in an awkward position as we’re definitely not supposed to accept anything of monetary value. I remember on my last BMB people were saying they were bringing gift cards and things like that- I would not recommend. Food is less frowned upon as it’s something that can be shared around and not just for 1 or 2  particular nurses. I CERTAINLY dont think it’s necessary and didn’t do it myself when I had DD.

A nurse I work shared a story from the L&D unit of a new mom who came back a few weeks post partum with a pan of brownies. After several nurses had taken a bite and complimented her on how good they were, she stated she was glad they turned out well as she hadn’t tried making them with breastmilk before 

Miz_Liz

@lisa2589 OMG I would barf!!!  I don’t eat anything homemade if I don’t know the maker and their kitchen/cleanliness/hygiene but something like that wouldn’t have crossed my mind 

kmurdock925

I've heard of people ordering pizza for the nurses- that seems more practical I guess...but I still wouldn't do it.  Same as @doxiemoxie212 - I get hangry...if I can't eat neither can you.  My plan was to go through a drive through on the way to the hospital.  We left the house at 6am so was going to get a bfast sandwich.  From the time my hubs threw on clothes to the time we walked to the car he looked at me and said "We don't have time to get food do we?"  I didn't realize it but I was definitely transitioning and said oh no...go straight to the hospital (he considered pulling off at Ohio State because it was a bit closer but my doc didn't go there).  I didn't have time to worry about eating because I was pushing within 30 mins of pulling into the parking lot.

lisa2589

Eek you’d be surprised how many people like to bring baked goods and it’s always really sketchy and sadly doesn’t get eaten. 

krash_

@lisa2589 OMG! Idk if I could have kept a straight face and not just spit it out right in front of her. While breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing it is for infant consumption not adults. 


@Miz_Liz I gave MH my Sephora reward and set up my loves list with a bunch of things I want. Then I was looking for them at the store nearby to make sure they were in stock and almost nothing that I want is available in store. So I told him he can order them online and there's free shipping over $50. I will also have to tell him to use my ebates account lol. Now I have to wait to not peak at my Sephora account. I also told him that it expires the 13th and if he doesn't use it he BETTER let me know so I can use it lol. 

doxiemoxie212

@krashke install the ebates button on chrome so it prompts you for any store that participates. Install it on YHs too! So. Much. Cash. Back. 

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 I have it installed on mine but MH would probably do it from his work laptop and I don't think I can just bust in there an install it on his computer lol

doxiemoxie212

@krashke lol I just installed it on his home computer and it follows him anywhere he’s logged into chrome. So since he logs into gchat etc at work, it’s there. Sneaky sneaky. 

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 MH doesn't have a computer at home. He just uses his iPad. I wonder if there is a widget for Safari on the iPad or an app that would make it pop up. But regardless that wouldn't follow him onto his work computer. 

amys614

@krashke oh yes, cussing in the car is a common occurrence. But yes totally agree. Never otherwise at someone. Just as general vocabulary.

"I feel like s%it today" or "traffic was fu&king horrible" 

Sometimes my mother does side eye me when I drop the F bombs.