@cups4 I would think because it's close enough to the end of the year you wouldn't have to go back. Sucks your HR person isn't helpful I don't have much of an opinion. I get zero sick days at my job already so I just have to deal with being sick at work or take the hit in a paycheck. My employer's benefits suck. I think since I work full time by next spring I might have like five days of "vacation" earned...
Finally got connected to the damn wifi in our hotel room! Sorry I've been absent We've spent a lot of time in our hotel room watching tv because we're boring. We watched a Challenge marathon on Monday... I'm now annoyed that we won't know who won until next week because we won't be able to watch it.
@ivyvines6, I Googled to see who won because I wanted to know. I also Googled other stuff when I found out Camilla wasn't at the reunion and read she said WAY more to LeRoy than MTV chose not to air.
Im a teacher too and I would definitely talk to your union rep. I know we have to take sick days and personal before we can use FMLA...we can bank a certain amount, but after that we have to take FMLA. We also can take 1 sabbatical for every 10 years we teach too, which my friend took this year.
It's a shame as women that we don't get paid time off after having a baby without using our days. Having a baby is stress on our bodies and we usually aren't cleared to work until after 6 weeks. I had a friend who went back after less than 6 weeks off because her husband was laid off and she couldn't afford to be off. Other countries have years off, paid, where as we are way behind other industrialized countries. It's a terrible.
While I agree that people deserve way more paid time off than is common in the US I also think this has to be funded through the government not employers directly. My husband runs a small business and paying for someone (but not getting any work done) for months (or a year!) could kill the business. And we really don’t want to create an economic environment that only large corporations can survive.... that’s bad enough already
While I agree that people deserve way more paid time off than is common in the US I also think this has to be funded through the government not employers directly. My husband runs a small business and paying for someone (but not getting any work done) for months (or a year!) could kill the business. And we really don’t want to create an economic environment that only large corporations can survive.... that’s bad enough already
I completely agree with this. There is no reason why funds can’t be shifted around to make this work. Even if it was only done on the state level, we should have this implemented. I’m kind of a socialist at heart though, so I might not be the best person to have this discussion with
So at what point is everyone telling work about being pregnant?! I think I am going to wait till I am pretty much unmistakably showing...(I wear scrubs so the tiny little bump I have now at 13 weeks (tomorrow) doesn't show at all)
@nikky8 I told at 13 weeks because I'll be having multiple appointments per week that I need to be out of the office for. If that weren't the case I probably would've waited as long as possible. It depends on your work environment though. Mine is particularly awkward with all older men, most childless, so I dreaded it. If it was an office of more women or younger people I gossiped with or something, I'd be excited to share.
Somehow the questions thread disappeared but is anyone avoiding dying their hair?
I got some highlights before we moved to Wyoming and I kind of hate them. I’m scared to dye my hair though because of the pregnancy. Is this a dumb concern? I could google this but we always complain the board is slow so here it is.
Somehow the questions thread disappeared but is anyone avoiding dying their hair?
I got some highlights before we moved to Wyoming and I kind of hate them. I’m scared to dye my hair though because of the pregnancy. Is this a dumb concern? I could google this but we always complain the board is slow so here it is.
You can definitely colour your hair in second trimester. Just make sure if you're not going to a salon that you're doing it in a well ventilated area and don't leave the product on any longer than you're supposed to.
@abhphilly I can def. see why you are telling them, hard to not give an explanation when you need that much time off. I work with a small group of people, mostly older women...half of which don't have children and all over 50. I don't really think it's going to be a very supportive environment. This is the time I wish I worked with a younger group.
@nikky8 Last time I told my boss at 12 weeks and she said she wished I had told her earlier because she would've let me take it easy while I was feeling sick. So I totally took advantage of that this time and told her at 8 weeks. I'm lucky she's so great about these things. I probably won't tell anyone else until I'm noticeably showing.
@lincbeesmom, my ob said I could "continue to color the hair as usual as long as you didn't go overboard before getting pregnant". DH and I laughed as I could see a grey hair poking out as he said that, so clearly I'm too lazy to color it.
Had the scariest moment of my entire life today. At my appointment the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat. I started to panic and cry, it was terrible. She finally found it 3 times, as baby was moving. It was between 161-168, so nice and strong. Thankfully my husband was there to help calm me down but I'm still a mess. Just so thankful she found it and baby is healthy.
I could use some thoughts/prayers. My progesterone level is being monitored and I’m on a supplement. My level was already on the lower end of normal and dropped from two weeks ago to yesterday. I am going to go for an ultrasound hopefully Monday (I need to call first thing Monday morning to schedule). I know levels can fluctuate so I’m trying to tell myself that everything is okay but it’s going to be torture until I get an ultrasound done.
I need to do mine... I haven't done it since July, looks terrible but I have been waiting till the second trimester. Lol probably still be awhile cuz I hate doing it.
I am sorry guys, I have issues getting into the app and even posting comments sometimes. I "love" most comments I read just to let ppls know I am around. The bump app is a pain in the butt for me and I have an android phone. Apparently the app isn't friendly with my phone. Anyways I am trying to stay involved and just kind of waiting for a FB group now cuz it will be easier. I wasn't looking forward to that until recently.
Oh and random... my son took scissors to his beautiful hair today while I was in the shower. He told on himself and brought me a huge clump of hair. I told him I would have to cut his hair and he cried for 20 minutes. I still don't know what he was thinking, he loves his hair. :'( I miss it already! Here it is before the cut, now it's about 1.5-2inches long. I couldn't salvage it.
@Kendrajos oh NO! He’s 3, right? It seems like it’s always 3 year olds who think this is a good idea. I just adore little boys with curls just about that long. The shorter cuts make them look too grown up!
@MissusTexas nope.... He's actually 6, and in first grade. So I was quite shocked! I thought we were past that stage. And yes the ringlets are amazing! We generally keep his hair trimmed up to the length in the picture, it's what he likes. I don't get the buzzing of boys hair either. Hair in purdy!
Mine cut her hair at 2.5 (about a year ago) still trying to grow it back, but maybe it’s for the best because she is a bit rabid and washing/brushing are always a huge battle.
@Pearlvirus oh no! How badly did she butcher it? And lol glad it's not just mine that doesn't like the brushing. I think we get the suave brand detangling spray. It helps, also the fact that I had him trained that if he wanted his hair longer, we had to brush it everyday or it would get frizzy and have to be cut. At 3.5 though, it's probably still a battle?
Yes, she is not a fan of being still. I’d probably threaten her with a buzz cut except she’d probably say, fine do it and then I would and then DH would be mad at me because I made her look like a boy
@sparklingdiamond we're having a terrible time with girls names! We don't know the sex yet so we might not have to worry, but NOTHING sounds good. I feel like there is way more judgement societally on girls names vs boys. Like something classic on a boy is seen as "simple" and "strong" but a classic name on a girl is "old lady" and "boring". Same with more popular names- there seem to be way more girl names that are seen as "ditzy" or "bitchy". Like people are way quicker to attach a stereotype to a girl name than a boy name? Or maybe I'm overthinking it because I can't come up with very many girl names I like.
@k5678 We are having the same issue! Dh does not like any girl names. He says they are “trashy”. We have 2 boys and don’t know the sex yet, but girl names should be easy!!
So after the most confusing week where DH's car was damaged beyond repair and my car going on the fritz we got everything worked out I think! We traded in my smaller SUV and got a minivan (ready to be a soccer mom now!) and my parents are passing my dads car down to us so we have another car for work. My dad was actually kind of excited because he got to pick out a car he likes more anyway. It was a very chaotic week and plans kept changing. We pick up the other car next weekend. I can live with one car for one more week.
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Im a teacher too and I would definitely talk to your union rep. I know we have to take sick days and personal before we can use FMLA...we can bank a certain amount, but after that we have to take FMLA. We also can take 1 sabbatical for every 10 years we teach too, which my friend took this year.
It's a shame as women that we don't get paid time off after having a baby without using our days. Having a baby is stress on our bodies and we usually aren't cleared to work until after 6 weeks. I had a friend who went back after less than 6 weeks off because her husband was laid off and she couldn't afford to be off. Other countries have years off, paid, where as we are way behind other industrialized countries. It's a terrible.
I got some highlights before we moved to Wyoming and I kind of hate them. I’m scared to dye my hair though because of the pregnancy. Is this a dumb concern? I could google this but we always complain the board is slow so here it is.
DH and I laughed as I could see a grey hair poking out as he said that, so clearly I'm too lazy to color it.
I need to do mine... I haven't done it since July, looks terrible but I have been waiting till the second trimester. Lol probably still be awhile cuz I hate doing it.
@MrT723 fingers crossed for you, keep us updated.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I feel like there is way more judgement societally on girls names vs boys. Like something classic on a boy is seen as "simple" and "strong" but a classic name on a girl is "old lady" and "boring". Same with more popular names- there seem to be way more girl names that are seen as "ditzy" or "bitchy". Like people are way quicker to attach a stereotype to a girl name than a boy name? Or maybe I'm overthinking it because I can't come up with very many girl names I like.