I need to come back tomorrow when I'm not feverishly typing in bed in the dark and can tag everyone who loves the Challenge!
Let's absolutely do a thread for it weekly! I usually watch the next day and then have to wait until my husband gets a chance to watch it so I can lose my shit over the insanity. Now I'll have all of you!
The Challenge is seriously nothing too crazy exciting. What MTV did was take people from Real World and Road Rules and make a season out of them competing and being eliminated for money. Kind of like Survivor, but different? Now they do crazy Challenges, but it used to be more basic. This is their 30th season and there are some contestants who have been on like half of them. Obviously, the ones that stick around get majors fans or haters. Now that Road Rules is gone, they use people from Are You The One as well. It's definitely a guilty please show. DH thought I was a wacko. We ended finding a fewseasons on Hulu for him to binge and get to know more people.
The Challenge is seriously nothing too crazy exciting. What MTV did was take people from Real World and Road Rules and make a season out of them competing and being eliminated for money. Kind of like Survivor, but different? Now they do crazy Challenges, but it used to be more basic. This is their 30th season and there are some contestants who have been on like half of them. Obviously, the ones that stick around get majors fans or haters. Now that Road Rules is gone, they use people from Are You The One as well. It's definitely a guilty please show. DH thought I was a wacko. We ended finding a fewseasons on Hulu for him to binge and get to know more people.
They also bring in people randomly- like the fresh meat season and relatives, like bloodlines which was last year or the year before? I don't want any show on MTV anymore besides the challenge so any new contestant is a random to me.
@sharkmama39, thank you. I did forget they do that, which is a shame I forgot. One of our favorite lines is from bloodlines when Jenna and her cousin fought. Jenna said something like "you only have a job because your dad owns the bakery!" (Or was it deli?) We about died. We say it during every episode she's on.
arteduc8 said: You are missing my point. You're going a little overboard assuming I don't want to get to know people. I want to engage with other members. That's why I'm here. I find the umbrella threads don't lend themselves to be easy to follow if you can't be on the board constantly. The format is restrictive. I'd like to engage in the topics that are relevant or meaningful to me. My last bmb here on the bump had structure but fluidity. Did we like drive bys? No. Did they upset me? No. I don't have time in my day to care about policing others on a public forum.
Not sure if you realize this, but your last sentence comes across as very “holier than thou” to anyone who does put effort into trying to keep some sense of organization on this board. I think it’s nice that people care; you don’t have to put them down for it.
Not trying to be holier than thou. I think it's great some people take leadership to direct others to the correct threads. I just don't understand the level of snark and how some people seem to legitimately get upset about fly bys. I'm a part time teacher toddler chasing momma and I literally don't have time or energy for that. You gotta pick your battles IMO.
I'll go check out the poll thread. I like any idea that'll help get the board moving. I lurk a bit but try to jump in when I can.
I've never seen The Challenge, but now I might need to find a way to watch it because you've piqued my interest.
Also not a fan of the new tswift songs.
My FFFC- I side eye people who are disappointed about the sex of their baby.
You can watch it on mtv.con if it’s part of your cable package. And 100000% agree about the side eye. Imagine if your kid ever found out you were disappointed that he/she was not what you “wanted”. So sad. All I want is a healthy baby.
I'll go check out the poll thread. I like any idea that'll help get the board moving. I lurk a bit but try to jump in when I can.
I've never seen The Challenge, but now I might need to find a way to watch it because you've piqued my interest.
Also not a fan of the new tswift songs.
My FFFC- I side eye people who are disappointed about the sex of their baby.
You can watch it on mtv.con if it’s part of your cable package. And 100000% agree about the side eye. Imagine if your kid ever found out you were disappointed that he/she was not what you “wanted”. So sad. All I want is a healthy baby.
We don't have cable. Sad face. We cut I think out years ago and haven't looked back. I'll have to find another way to check it out.
I think it's fine to have rules on this board, but is there a way we could be more gentle with moms who are spotting? Yes of course, it usually doesn't mean anything, but it seems a little cruel to jump on women who may be experiencing an early sign of miscarriage. I don't know, it kind of breaks my heart to think that a woman came here for support and ended up being mocked by gifs, even if they are a little rude.
I think it's fine to have rules on this board, but is there a way we could be more gentle with moms who are spotting? Yes of course, it usually doesn't mean anything, but it seems a little cruel to jump on women who may be experiencing an early sign of miscarriage. I don't know, it kind of breaks my heart to think that a woman came here for support and ended up being mocked by gifs, even if they are a little rude.
Honestly, if it's a legitimate concern, they should call their doctor- not ask a bunch of Internet strangers.
Plus, a quick search- either in this board or even google- would have provided them with the answer.
Personally, I prefer to handle "acceptable" drive-bys (someone spotting, etc) by saying something along the lines of "Spotting can be totally normal during pregnancy, why don't you read xyz threads, there is a lot of great info included. Also, if you'd like to stick around, read the *Read this first* thread, introduce yourself and join in." Based on their response is how I determine my responses thereafter. Or, if I'm feeling particularly snarky or annoyed, I'll just ignore it.
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Of course, but we also don't have to respond to posts we find unecessary or annoying. It seems kind of hostile to me, but then again, I haven't spent a lot of time on these types of forums.
Of course, but we also don't have to respond to posts we find unecessary or annoying. It seems kind of hostile to me, but then again, I haven't spent a lot of time on these types of forums.
I usually ignore things that bother me. I’m going to go against that now. Why do you keep telling us what to do, how to respond, and what is worthy of our time??
I think it's fine to have rules on this board, but is there a way we could be more gentle with moms who are spotting? Yes of course, it usually doesn't mean anything, but it seems a little cruel to jump on women who may be experiencing an early sign of miscarriage. I don't know, it kind of breaks my heart to think that a woman came here for support and ended up being mocked by gifs, even if they are a little rude.
I agree with you. A little empathy can go a long way with people who are probably a bit freaked out and in their haste to find reassurance may have overlooked some pinned posts. I don't think they deserve snark. A kind nudge to an appropriate thread is totally ok.
ETA I have seen several other momma's show that kind of empathy here but not in all cases.
Personally, I prefer to handle "acceptable" drive-bys (someone spotting, etc) by saying something along the lines of "Spotting can be totally normal during pregnancy, why don't you read xyz threads, there is a lot of great info included. Also, if you'd like to stick around, read the *Read this first* thread, introduce yourself and join in." Based on their response is how I determine my responses thereafter. Or, if I'm feeling particularly snarky or annoyed, I'll just ignore it.
I really like your approach. It's similar to the old "Oreo cookie" method. Start w kindness/answer their query and then put in some direction/constructive criticism. It's so simple and much more palatable as compared to beginning with redirection. Nice. Reading that reminded me of my psych 101 class
I understand both sides of this argument, however going back and forth and debating amongst ourselves won't change much. Some women will be against the snarky and some will be for it and some will be in the middle. It is the Internet and people can and will respond how they feel.
@gildah no one responded to her original question with snark. She was directed to the appropriate place kindly and directly. It was obvious after her strong negative reaction she did not want to join the community. If you want answer drive by after drive by of the same questions feel free. I do not.
@gildah no one responded to her original question with snark. She was directed to the appropriate place kindly and directly. It was obvious after her strong negative reaction she did not want to join the community. If you want answer drive by after drive by of the same questions feel free. I do not.
In all fairness, your comment "perfect example of what we were just discussing!" while tagging another member in your initial response was a bit snarky.
@arteduc8 I think we'll just have to agree to disagree on this. It's obvious we have different ideas of how to respond to those posts. I'm not sure this debate will ever get settled one way or another. I stand by what I said earlier though, if you want to put your effort into those posts, feel free.
We don't have broadcast/cable tv bc we are cheapskates so the Challenge show escapes my understanding but I'm jealous since a lot of you seem to enjoy it! Damn, I would kill to binge watch some Murder, She Wrote and House Hunters.
We don't have cable either but I use the internet browser app on the smart TV and login to MTV.com to watch The Challenge. It's glitchy and usually buffers a bunch of times but I can't live without it!!
We JUST ditched DirecTV and use Sony Vue now. Highly recommend if you want cable without cable prices.
The snark is often a bit too 'mean girls' for me. But I don't like the attitude that you are either a regular or don't matter, either. If the post is ignored the person will probably go away...
They're closed for the 'unwelcoming tone' a lot, but i've notice in the last year that the admins seem to be using the excuse less. Usually it just stirs everyone up and makes them take the discussion to another thread lol
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Can we just make a spotting sticky? Yes, people should see it in the read this first, but I agree that spotting is in a different category.
Do you honestly think they're going to search for a thread labeled that? The issue lies with women not reading anything in the group, and posting a question as it's own thread. We have a symptoms thread, and we have several one off of this question that are ignored.
@ivyvines6@mileswithmyles agreed, they might not. But we could at least just paste that link each time.
I don't really understand people posting that over and over especially when there are 3 other like it on the same page. Just so odd.
Same, also, the answer should always be “call your doctor,” and if they don’t like that answer, any google search will bring up 200 threads of the exact same question from the past 10 years from every site, all with different causes and outcomes, so again, “call your doctor.” I don’t understand starting your own thread for one of the most common side effects of both normal and complicated pregnancies, and I’m someone who has bled heavily with this pregnancy and my last one. If I’m worried, I call my doctor (and yeah, also Google), I don’t tell random people my life story out of nowhere and expect to trust their opinion over all others.
Unfortunately, nothing will change the frequency of drive-bys. Not even stickies. Right now it is symptoms and spotting. Soon will start random ultrasound photos with questions about nub theory and skull theory. After that will be "the u/s tech said it's a boy, but I still think it's a girl, what do you think" and it will have a photo of either genitals or the child's profile or both. There will also be random post saying things "I felt a kick", "it's a boy", "is this a contraction?" They'll get the answers they want and some they don't want and then they'll disappear into the fog like it's Brigadoon.
It honestly will be never-ending, but the thread names and contents will slightly shift.
There are 7 frequent posters I adore and would probably girl crush on IRL and 3 posters that really annoy me and I roll my eye at all their posts and secretly hope they don't get any love tits....
There are 7 frequent posters I adore and would probably girl crush on IRL and 3 posters that really annoy me and I roll my eye at all their posts and secretly hope they don't get any love tits....
I really hope I annoy you... I make better friends out of people I piss off at first
Just saying I appreciate some snark when it's deserved but there is a difference between delivering snark with grace and straight up being rude to look "cool" on the board. But this post might have been better suited for a UO thread. Y'all can go on and judge me now.
I've noticed that people seem to be trying harder to use hyphens in the last year, and I have to admit that it bothers me more than it should when they get it wrong. To be clear, when hyphenating a phrase, only do so in order to treat the phrase as a word or to indicate a transition, so as to replace the word 'to' in semi-abbreviated language. For example, instead of saying that your system interfaces brains with computers, you could say that it is a brain-computer interface. The most frequent offense on the pregnancy boards occurs in stating age. You can say, "My one-year-old is walking now," or, "My daughter is one year old," but the two phrases are not interchangeable. In the first sentence, the phrase is treated as a single word, and so two hyphens must be used to connect the three words. In general, if you use the word 'is' immediately before the phrase, hyphens might not be needed, but if 'a' immediately proceeds the phrase, you'll probably want some hyphens.
Language has tended away from the use of hyphens lately anyway, so I'm not sure why we're all being tortured with improper and somewhat-unnecessary usage. See, that last one could have gone either way. I'm just a general homeroom teacher, not an English teacher, so I may not be remembering the proper terminology or certain aspects of grammar. Feel free to correct me if you think you're qualified.
I've noticed that people seem to be trying harder to use hyphens in the last year, and I have to admit that it bothers me more than it should when they get it wrong. To be clear, when hyphenating a phrase, only do so in order to treat the phrase as a word or to indicate a transition, so as to replace the word 'to' in semi-abbreviated language. For example, instead of saying that your system interfaces brains with computers, you could say that it is a brain-computer interface. The most frequent offense on the pregnancy boards occurs in stating age. You can say, "My one-year-old is walking now," or, "My daughter is one year old," but the two phrases are not interchangeable. In the first sentence, the phrase is treated as a single word, and so two hyphens must be used to connect the three words. In general, if you use the word 'is' immediately before the phrase, hyphens might not be needed, but if 'a' immediately proceeds the phrase, you'll probably want some hyphens.
Language has tended away from the use of hyphens lately anyway, so I'm not sure why we're all being tortured with improper and somewhat-unnecessary usage. See, that last one could have gone either way. I'm just a general homeroom teacher, not an English teacher, so I may not be remembering the proper terminology or certain aspects of grammar. Feel free to correct me if you think you're qualified.
I've noticed that people seem to be trying harder to use hyphens in the last year, and I have to admit that it bothers me more than it should when they get it wrong. To be clear, when hyphenating a phrase, only do so in order to treat the phrase as a word or to indicate a transition, so as to replace the word 'to' in semi-abbreviated language. For example, instead of saying that your system interfaces brains with computers, you could say that it is a brain-computer interface. The most frequent offense on the pregnancy boards occurs in stating age. You can say, "My one-year-old is walking now," or, "My daughter is one year old," but the two phrases are not interchangeable. In the first sentence, the phrase is treated as a single word, and so two hyphens must be used to connect the three words. In general, if you use the word 'is' immediately before the phrase, hyphens might not be needed, but if 'a' immediately proceeds the phrase, you'll probably want some hyphens.
Language has tended away from the use of hyphens lately anyway, so I'm not sure why we're all being tortured with improper and somewhat-unnecessary usage. See, that last one could have gone either way. I'm just a general homeroom teacher, not an English teacher, so I may not be remembering the proper terminology or certain aspects of grammar. Feel free to correct me if you think you're qualified.
In my elementary school we were not explicitly taught grammar or spelling our ideas were speshul snowflakes that did not need to abide by the laws of grammar. To this day I have HORRIBLE spelling, don't know when to use a ; or : And certainly do not ask me to use quotes with commas. I also overuse "..."
Re: FFFC 10/13
Let's absolutely do a thread for it weekly! I usually watch the next day and then have to wait until my husband gets a chance to watch it so I can lose my shit over the insanity. Now I'll have all of you!
Now they do crazy Challenges, but it used to be more basic. This is their 30th season and there are some contestants who have been on like half of them. Obviously, the ones that stick around get majors fans or haters.
Now that Road Rules is gone, they use people from Are You The One as well.
It's definitely a guilty please show.
DH thought I was a wacko. We ended finding a fewseasons on Hulu for him to binge and get to know more people.
Plus, a quick search- either in this board or even google- would have provided them with the answer.
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BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Its getting old.
ETA I have seen several other momma's show that kind of empathy here but not in all cases.
I haven’t seen that before? I’ve usually seen threads closed for “change of topic” or violating TOU.
Also, insomnia is real so I’m just reading through everything I missed today and trying to catch up while awake at 4 am.
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BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
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I don't really understand people posting that over and over especially when there are 3 other like it on the same page. Just so odd.
(*temporarily holds off on love tits*)
Just saying I appreciate some snark when it's deserved but there is a difference between delivering snark with grace and straight up being rude to look "cool" on the board. But this post might have been better suited for a UO thread. Y'all can go on and judge me now.
Language has tended away from the use of hyphens lately anyway, so I'm not sure why we're all being tortured with improper and somewhat-unnecessary usage. See, that last one could have gone either way. I'm just a general homeroom teacher, not an English teacher, so I may not be remembering the proper terminology or certain aspects of grammar. Feel free to correct me if you think you're qualified.