March 2018 Moms

Weekly Randoms - Week of October 2

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Me: 34 DH: 38
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18

Re: Weekly Randoms - Week of October 2

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  • We have about an hour worth of painting left to do in the nursery and then it's DONE!! I see relief in my near future! We also bought the SOFTEST carpet for the room. I can't wait to lay on it and snuggle my babe! It's the little things that are so exciting, lol! Hope you ladies had a wonderful weekend!
  • My DD hates me. She woke up at 1:30am and didn't go back to sleep until 4:30. She slept in a bit but certainly not to skip nap today. But she's skipping nap anyway. 

    I am SO TIRED.

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  • @crossfitbabybump good for you guys!
     I have to move two kids to different bedrooms and repaint those before I can get started on the nursery plus we are getting new windows hopefully this week so I want to wait for that to be done too.
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  • @jeanbean15, you're speaking my language! Today I walked to the grocery store to get some exercise. And then bought Reese peanut butter cups which I ate on the way home. Sigh. 
  • So wait. Is Tom Petty dead?  Or no? I'm seeing conflicting reports.

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  • I'm really not feeling well today so I left work a little early so I could lay down for awhile before having to pick up DS from school.  Well, right as I was drifting off to sleep, my phone rang and it was his school saying that he fell off the monkey bars and hurt his arm.  Now he's running around the house with a light saber   :s  Obviously, I'm glad he's fine, but I reeeaalllly could have used that nap today.
  • ashleyf911ashleyf911 member
    edited October 2017
    @mylovelittlelove Yeah, everything I'm reading now says he had no brain activity so they pulled him off life support and he's now dead.

    edit: Well, maybe not quite yet. This is the latest update on TMZ:
    Sources tell us at 10:30 Monday morning a chaplain was called to Tom's hospital room. We're told the family has a "do not resuscitate" order on Tom. The singer is not expected to live through the day, but he's still clinging to life. A report that the LAPD confirmed the singer's death is inaccurate -- the L.A. County Sheriff's Dept. handled the emergency.

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  • @justkeeptrying The walk totally cancels the Reece's cups out. Typically there are 2 in a pack, right? So one for the walk there, one for the walk back.  Even Steven.

    @mdfarmchick Ive also been going to bed at 8:00 every night.  Ain't nobody got time to stay up with a 2 year old these days :lol:
  • Ground bologna sandwich with a layer of butter are my jam right now. I eat one every night before bed since it's a good amount of carbs and protein for my blood sugar to stay low.
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  • @jeanbean15 lol. I wouldn't be surprised if we saw something like that eventually.
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  • Ladies, I am a total jerk. A friend, who I've mostly lost touch with for the past five years, and see in person maybe once a year (if even that), has asked me to be her maid of honor. I SHOULD be thrilled, excited, over the moon with this honor. She was my MOH almost a decade ago and we used to be really close. Fast forward in time, and we've drifted apart due to distance and being in different phases in our lives. I faked being absolutely thrilled when she asked me. The reality is, I'm overwhelmed with the duties that will be expected of me. I will have three kids by the time the wedding date arrives and I live nearly three hours away from her. Having to plan (and pay for?!) her bridal shower, bachelorette party, and the thought alone of giving a speech at her wedding gives me serious anxiety and stress. She's already shared with me that she wants a girls trip to Las Vegas for her bachelorette. I can't fathom being able to leave my family for a weekend... if I'm completely honest with myself, I don't even want to leave them for a weekend. Hating my negative self right now. I wish I felt differently about this honor that she has given me. Mostly I just keep saying "shit"'out loud when I start thinking about what this is going to entail.
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  • *TW* *long ass rambling W*

    I know I've heard about gender disappointment. With my first two, I truly did not give a flying f what they were. It happened to be boy, and girl. One of the things that excited me about having a girl was the (lack of) mother-daughter relationship my mother and I had. I wanted the opportunity to do it right. Wellll, Leah passed away unexpectedly when she was a few days old. 

    I went through about 11.5 months of never wanting children again and about 2 weeks before we got pregnant I realized how desperately I wanted another baby. Lo and behold, we were told it was twins. 

    It just hit me HOW bad I want one of them to be a girl. I was given the opportunity to raise a girl and foster that relationship that I wanted growing up (I know things don't always follow a plan) and it was taken away from me. I was thinking about it all night and sure enough, I dream about it. I kept having different scenario dreams where we found out we were having two boys. I hate to admit that I was devastated. 

    I'm sure, regardless of genitalia, I will be thrilled to have the healthy babies.... but shit I'm going to be very disappointed if they tell me there are two boys in there. I know how great raising boys is. My boy is my heartbeat he's the best thing about my world. But fuck, I want a (living)daughter again and two was supposed to be my max for having kids so 3 (4) most definitely puts me at my max. This is stressing me way more than it should. The fact that I know these feelings are unsavoury is also making me feel guilty. Anyway.... rant over. 

    We have a 3/d ultrasound on the 19th 

  • @jack_bauer I think you can pull the life circumstances card in as a valid "thank-you, but no thank-you." 

    It it sounds like maybe she is trying to return the favour? since she was your MOH and all.... I would just very gently explain that your calendar over the next pregnancy and newborn stage does not allow enough flexibility and away from home time to plan and execute all of the events to go along with a wedding. 

    Don't feel bad, we are adults and have families and have to put our needs first sometimes. 
  • @syssa-o, I agree with above. We all know you will be happy with healthy babies. But it's totally understandable why you would want a daughter again. You lost a huge valued relationship and I can completely understand your desire to have that again. Prayers for you that no matter the outcome, your heart will be overjoyed when the time comes!
  • DDRRT1982 said:
    @syssa-o **TW** I think you are dealing with more than your average disappointed.  For your situation, it's more than reasonable to understand why you might want the experience of raising a daughter due to losing one. We all know you will be happy with whoever is born.  Be easy on yourself.  
    All of this.
  • @syssa-o It's ok to have those feelings. You're dealing with a difficult situation. Let them out, and validate them. 
    @HappyMonkey817 I forget which thread had me take a step back. But there was one that I stayed away from for a day or two.
  • @syssa-o Your feelings are always okay and important and valid, even if they're socially uncomfortable. I hope and imagine your partner can understand/empathize in a very real way too. I'll cross my fingers you feel happy and satisfied soon. <3

    @jack_bauer I was supposed to be just a bridesmaid in a wedding on the other side of the country 2 weeks after my due date and asked the bride, gently, if I could duck out more than 6 months after I had agreed to be in it (about 7 months before the wedding itself). I felt guilty about it, but I knew I would be so stressed that I would be a downer mess on the day itself. It's awkward to back out, but justified, especially in your case with three at home! Brides have enough good stuff going on. They'll make it without us.
  • Last night DH started talking about how we needed to get going pretty quick when this one is 12-18months to try for #4. I want 4 and he just wanted to stick with 2. And then decided to go for 3 and said we were done after this one so I was shocked at this conversation. I had gone into this thinking this was my last one.... 
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  • @syssa-o: Nothing but love and hugs. **tw** I have a friend who lost a daughter to T13. She went on to have healthy sons but also had those feelings of wanting another daughter. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. 

    On our way to baby #2!
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  • vflux33vflux33 member
    edited October 2017
    @syssa-o I agree with what others have said. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you're having fraternal twins there is a 75% chance at least one of them will be a girl, and if they are identical it is a 50% chance both will be. Those are pretty good odds that there's at least one rainbow girl in there. I hope your scan comes soon  <3

    @jack_bauer I'd definitely bow out of this. There is a fair chance that she made you MOH as a return for you making her yours. Alternatively you could be MOH but be honest about what you can and can't do and talk to other bridesmaids about helping you out. My sister and I were each other's MOHs but we lived states away and one of the other BMs ended up doing the bulk of the duties for both of us. Also my BM who did the bulk of the duties for my wedding understood when I was real with her about my inability to return the favor in full (I was living far away in a difficult degree program and her wedding was a few weeks before finals). I think as long as you don't back out way late in the game it's totally acceptable to find a way to lessen your duties now. 

    @HappyMonkey817 Yup, I agree. I feel like there has been an influx of people lately and though I'm sure some of them are just fine it makes me a bit nervous too. 
  • @mdfarmchick I can't wait for that!!! I'm jealous that your H got to feel them already. TBH, mine isn't as patient and will probably wait to feel them (and then awkwardly squirm about how it's still "weird" to him) until I'm almost in labor. I love baby movement, and DD is super excited to feel it!!
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  • @bb3vj3n people say some of the worst shit while talking to preggo ladies. The rudeness is so real! It's like positivity can only come in the form of some back handed compliment. Although I don't even see the compliment in she made me mad!

    @HappyMonkey817 although I don't like stranger danger I'm glad to see you was just trying to fall back for a bit. I was looking around like where'd she go?!
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  • I have some bagels/pizza/tacos/burritos hanging out too. I don’t know that little kid would have known what they were feeling last night—it was less of a kick and more of the moving/jabbing? I think when I’m doing kick counts officially it’ll be easier for a kid to feel. Movement over here is not consistent at all but Squish is definitely moving around in there. I’m 19 weeks Friday and even 5 days ago I would have told you that I haven’t felt anything in over a week that I was willing to bet was baby and not gas. For the toddler though, it was just magical when he heard the heartbeat at the OB’s office last week. He had his iPad out and was playing his game and then when he heard it he walked over to see what it was. I don’t know if he’ll understand really that there’s a baby and what that means until Squish shows up and totally disrupts his life. 

    I can’t wait for you to tell me that your DD got to feel kicks though!
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