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Weekly Randoms - Week of October 2
kiki75
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Me: 34 DH: 38
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Re: Weekly Randoms - Week of October 2
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
He has literally never made dinner for us before. Okay. Maybe a few times. But it was nice to sit and relax.
And the leftovers are great!
I am SO TIRED.
I have to move two kids to different bedrooms and repaint those before I can get started on the nursery plus we are getting new windows hopefully this week so I want to wait for that to be done too.
The other half of me has nearly doubled her butter intake...
edit: Well, maybe not quite yet. This is the latest update on TMZ:
@mdfarmchick Ive also been going to bed at 8:00 every night. Ain't nobody got time to stay up with a 2 year old these days
*TW* *long ass rambling W*
I know I've heard about gender disappointment. With my first two, I truly did not give a flying f what they were. It happened to be boy, and girl. One of the things that excited me about having a girl was the (lack of) mother-daughter relationship my mother and I had. I wanted the opportunity to do it right. Wellll, Leah passed away unexpectedly when she was a few days old.
I went through about 11.5 months of never wanting children again and about 2 weeks before we got pregnant I realized how desperately I wanted another baby. Lo and behold, we were told it was twins.
It just hit me HOW bad I want one of them to be a girl. I was given the opportunity to raise a girl and foster that relationship that I wanted growing up (I know things don't always follow a plan) and it was taken away from me. I was thinking about it all night and sure enough, I dream about it. I kept having different scenario dreams where we found out we were having two boys. I hate to admit that I was devastated.
I'm sure, regardless of genitalia, I will be thrilled to have the healthy babies.... but shit I'm going to be very disappointed if they tell me there are two boys in there. I know how great raising boys is. My boy is my heartbeat he's the best thing about my world. But fuck, I want a (living)daughter again and two was supposed to be my max for having kids so 3 (4) most definitely puts me at my max. This is stressing me way more than it should. The fact that I know these feelings are unsavoury is also making me feel guilty. Anyway.... rant over.
We have a 3/d ultrasound on the 19th
It it sounds like maybe she is trying to return the favour? since she was your MOH and all.... I would just very gently explain that your calendar over the next pregnancy and newborn stage does not allow enough flexibility and away from home time to plan and execute all of the events to go along with a wedding.
Don't feel bad, we are adults and have families and have to put our needs first sometimes.
@HappyMonkey817 I forget which thread had me take a step back. But there was one that I stayed away from for a day or two.
@jack_bauer I was supposed to be just a bridesmaid in a wedding on the other side of the country 2 weeks after my due date and asked the bride, gently, if I could duck out more than 6 months after I had agreed to be in it (about 7 months before the wedding itself). I felt guilty about it, but I knew I would be so stressed that I would be a downer mess on the day itself. It's awkward to back out, but justified, especially in your case with three at home! Brides have enough good stuff going on. They'll make it without us.
@DDRRT1982 @justkeeptrying @heatherdubrow @kalawa @gh515
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
EDD March 12, 2018
@jack_bauer I'd definitely bow out of this. There is a fair chance that she made you MOH as a return for you making her yours. Alternatively you could be MOH but be honest about what you can and can't do and talk to other bridesmaids about helping you out. My sister and I were each other's MOHs but we lived states away and one of the other BMs ended up doing the bulk of the duties for both of us. Also my BM who did the bulk of the duties for my wedding understood when I was real with her about my inability to return the favor in full (I was living far away in a difficult degree program and her wedding was a few weeks before finals). I think as long as you don't back out way late in the game it's totally acceptable to find a way to lessen your duties now.
@HappyMonkey817 Yup, I agree. I feel like there has been an influx of people lately and though I'm sure some of them are just fine it makes me a bit nervous too.
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I had a customer ask me how far along I was today... which for one second made me feel amazing that people are starting to be able to tell I'm actually pregnant and not just putting on weight.... but when i answered 4.5 months she said "Oh- I assumed you were much further along - I want showing like that until Much later... I'm fact, you look like I did around that time but with my twins... are you sure it's not twins?". I wanted to smack her. She then told me to brace myself for childbirth and described how awful it was..... thanks lady.
On a much much happier note - I think I felt the baby move today for the first time. I'm not 100% positive - and i think it will still be a while before I'm certain, but it didn't feel like gas .... just a small little jab. i find whenever i focus to hard on it though ..i just end up feeling my own heartbeat. I only notice it when I'm not trying to feel movement.
@bb3vj3n wow. Your customer sounds like an @$$. Ha. My one piece of unsolicited advice for first time moms is DON’T listen to anyone else’s horrific birth story. You will have your own story. And it will be magical even though it most likely won’t go according to your plan. And that’s okay. And even if parts of it are things that you weren’t ready for, at the end, you will have a baby. And it will be okay.
@HappyMonkey817 although I don't like stranger danger I'm glad to see you was just trying to fall back for a bit. I was looking around like where'd she go?!
I can’t wait for you to tell me that your DD got to feel kicks though!