It happened so fast

maggiebakescakes

I joined this app because my husband and me were starting to try this month. I stopped my pills last month cause I read it takes a while for them to get out of your system and  I was worried cause I am 37 and I was thinking it would take a long time or I would have to do ivf or something.  but we had sex one time and BOOM I got a digital positive on 3 days before my period!!!!!!!!!  I'm so excited and scared too because this is my first time.  I've got vitimans that my doctor called in when I called and told him I got a positive.  I'm going to see him next week for blood work and other checks.  What else should I do?  I just can't believe it becUse of being 37.  Any other old ladies in here get surprised?  And yes I read that after 35 you are now advanced age and it is different.  So we are pregnancy old SMH.  Can't wait to hear you guys stories.  I wasn't ready for it to happen so soon.  Sending some good luck to all you guys waiting on your tests.  And I just lost 30 pounds for my wedding dress and now I'm going to gain it all back.  Oh well it will be worth it!
 

Redpuma119

maggiebakescakes said:

I joined this app because my husband and me were starting to try this month. I stopped my pills last month cause I read it takes a while for them to get out of your system and  I was worried cause I am 37 and I was thinking it would take a long time or I would have to do ivf or something.  but we had sex one time and BOOM I got a digital positive on 3 days before my period!!!!!!!!!  I'm so excited and scared too because this is my first time.  I've got vitimans that my doctor called in when I called and told him I got a positive.  I'm going to see him next week for blood work and other checks.  What else should I do?  I just can't believe it becUse of being 37.  Any other old ladies in here get surprised?  And yes I read that after 35 you are now advanced age and it is different.  So we are pregnancy old SMH.  Can't wait to hear you guys stories.  I wasn't ready for it to happen so soon.  Sending some good luck to all you guys waiting on your tests.  And I just lost 30 pounds for my wedding dress and now I'm going to gain it all back.  Oh well it will be worth it!
 

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glitzandglitter

@maggiebakescakes - you do realize this is the TTGP board right? Meaning we are not pregnant yet. I would reccommend finding your BMB and posting there.

maggiebakescakes

I know I'm scared and happy.  Are you older too?

maggiebakescakes

Oh I thought you all were taking tests too.  Allright I'll move it over

doxiemoxie212

@BumpAdmin can you please update the UX of the app? The way it's laid out makes it extremely confusing for new people. There needs to be a TTC and a pregnancy section so that newbs don't get lost. This happens too frequently, and the app format is more than partially to blame. 

maggiebakescakes

The app told me to go here when I clicked that I was trying 

zwink1

Hmm. Nope, not older. And over 2 years later, nope, still not pregnant, so thanks for this. What part of a board titled: Trying To Get Pregnant implies a subtitle of: "so come tell all of us how easily you got pregnant!"?

What is in the water today?


Edit: fixing typos I didn't notice in my initial annoyance.

maggiebakescakes

The app
told me to go here when I signed up 

paleoprincess

Thanks for understanding, there are pregnancy boards and birth month boards where this would be more appropriate.

This is a board of women TRYING to get pregnant, and it can be hurtful to log on and see stories of women getting their bfp immediately, when some people here have been trying for months or years.

Enjoy the April baby month board, or the 1st trimester board. 

kiki75

@maggiebakescakes I'm pretty sure what you meant to say is, "Holy crap. I'm sorry that I got confused on the app and posted something that inadvertently really hurt a lot of people. I feel terrible. My sincere apologies."

maggiebakescakes

Are y'all all trying too?  I don't know why two years but it can happen so fast. I thought it would take a while for the pills to stop working.

50Wife

We're being punked, right??? 

fishsticks-n-custard

maggiebakescakes

I don't know how getting pregnant when everyone is trying to be will hurt anyone because that is the name of the room 

lalala2004

maggiebakescakes said:

The app told me to go here when I clicked that I was trying 

But you AREN'T trying to get pregnant. You had a positive pregnancy test. You ARE pregnant. Please go to your Birth Month Board to discuss these things.

zwink1

50Wife said:

We're being punked, right??? 

My thoughts exactly....

lurvleybunchococonuts

Obviously we're all TRYING to get pregnant.  As many stated, most of us for months to years.  Not so "fast" for all of us.  Seriously, congrats, but please move on to 1st trimester or April 2018.  You're, while likely not intentionally, hurting a lot of ladies with your ignorance.

looeeze

**lurking**

If you got a positive test, you're no longer Trying To Get Pregnant, which is the name of this board and is right there at the top of your screen. And there is also a big READ THIS FIRST post that you clearly didn't read. There's no decent excuse for your thoughtlessness so you should probably just say you're sorry, own it, and join us in April 2018.

maggiebakescakes

Then why does the app say to go here if I can't be 

50Wife

maggiebakescakes said:

I don't know how getting pregnant when everyone is trying to be will hurt anyone because that is the name of the room 

#Becauseyourefuckingpregnantandwerenot...still 

lalala2004

maggiebakescakes said:

Then why does the app say to go here if I can't be 

You said yourself that you told the app you are trying to get pregnant. Don't blame the app.

KariAnn323

lurvleybunchococonuts

Because the app has faulty programming and poor design layout.  Do you really want to hang around a bunch of empty womb'd ladies who don't want to talk to you about how lucky you are to get KU so fast?  We don't have anything in common.  You'd likely have a better response and things to talk about with the ladies in 1st Trimester.  Ya know, the ones that are pregnant just like you.

50Wife

beachbunnyxo123

@maggiebakescakes I would hardly call having sex one time "trying" to get pregnant. There are women here who have been "trying" for over a year and I'm sure none of them wanted to see a stranger barge in announcing they are pregnant after one time of having sex and continually repeating how it happened so fast. That is completely insensitive and inconsiderate of the feelings of women who haven't had it "happen so fast"  Move on to your BMB. 

maggiebakescakes

What is a bfp? I'll go on to April but the app tells you when you click the box what room to go to.  It told me to go here cause I was trying to just be nice and happy and find some other friends.  You will get yours soon too.  How do I move it?

Redpuma119

TROLL

paleoprincess

maggiebakescakes said:

Then why does the app say to go here if I can't be 

Because there's no law against it, but it's considered inconsiderate.

As for why it can be hurtful, it's because trying desperately to get something and seeing it fall into someone's lap is, generally, hurtful. No one thinks you did anything on purpose, and we hope you have a healthy pregnancy, and enjoy discussing it in the appropriate place. If you lurk, you see this board is only for women who are trying to get pregnant. If you get pregnant quickly, you jump to your birth month board - sometimes silence is kindness. 

50Wife

maggiebakescakes said:

What is a bfp? I'll go on to April but the app tells you when you click the box what room to go to.  It told me to go here cause I was trying to just be nice and happy and find some other friends.  You will get yours soon too.  How do I move it?

Why don't you ask your app? Seems to be telling you a lot already. 

zwink1

looeeze said: 

**lurking**

If you got a positive test, you're no longer Trying To Get Pregnant, which is the name of this board and is right there at the top of your screen. And there is also a big READ THIS FIRST post that you clearly didn't read. There's no decent excuse for your thoughtlessness so you should probably just say you're sorry, own it, and join us in April 2018.

This. OP, do you commonly just do whatever a computer/app tells you to do without utilizing some critical thinking? Serious question.

kiki75

Look, @maggiebakescakes, no one here actually works for The Bump. No one does the coding and no one is in charge of user experience. But, they've all managed to figure it out. This is a community of people who've been trying really hard to get pregnant so it's hurtful AF to have a stranger waltz in and go "LOLZ getting pregnant was SOOOO EASY!!!" People are trying to tell you in a nice way that this is not okay and yet you keep telling them...in their house... that they're wrong. Why won't you just listen to them?

GO TO YOUR BMB. IF YOU CAN'T FIND IT, ASK A TECH SAVVY PERSON FOR HELP. Here, I'll even link it for you: https://forums.thebump.com/categories/april-2018-moms

Post your intro in the Introductions thread. Read the pinned posts. Lurk before posting and save yourself from another faux pas like this one. 

zamoraspin

maggiebakescakes said:

I don't know how getting pregnant when everyone is trying to be will hurt anyone because that is the name of the room 

maggiebakescakes said:

Are y'all all trying too?  I don't know why two years but it can happen so fast. I thought it would take a while for the pills to stop working.

Many of the women here have been trying for a long time ttgp and they also do not know why it is taking so long. Many women both here and in my IRL struggle with unexplained infertility, meaning, despite trying desperately to get ku for a very long time, they cannot. Others of us (including me) were indeed able to get ku, but we lost our babies due to miscarriage and have to start all over. 

I was going to leave this alone and chalk this up to a mistake on your part, but when you posted again, I had to reply. You know how you doubted you would be able to get ku because you are 37? Well, many of the ladies here have those doubts and they are based in the reality of trying, sometimes for years, to have a baby without success. Some of us have spent tens of thousands of dollars on fertility treatments, taken all the supplements, all the relevant medication, had month after month of perfectly timed procreation sex, and, no baby, or, again, a baby that we have then lost. When those among us see posts like yours it reads as LOOK AT ME, IT IS SO EASY TO GET PREGNANT! And it gives us all the sad feels. 


Please find your BMB (Birth Month Board) and stop torturing us. 

maggiebakescakes

I didn't want to make anyone mad I was trying to do what it said when you click the front page.  Thank you for helping me some of you but How do I move it?  You don't have to be mean to me because I was trying to make friends.  Your babies are coming soon too.  I'm praying for everyone to get big and healthy babies.

zamoraspin

maggiebakescakes said:

I didn't want to make anyone mad I was trying to do what it said when you click the front page.  Thank you for helping me some of you but How do I move it?  You don't have to be mean to me because I was trying to make friends.  Your babies are coming soon too.  I'm praying for everyone to get big and healthy babies.

You don't need to move your post. Just say you're sorry to the ladies here and move on to your Birth Month Board. You are probably due in March or April 2018 if you found out recently. 

maggiebakescakes

Zamora I'm sorry you lost your babies.  I am trying to move my post but I will ask the help button on how to move it.  Sometimes god goes fast and sometimes slow but you all are going to get your babies soon.  Praying for everyone too.

paleoprincess

You can't move a thread, this will just stay here but fall down the page if people don't comment. Just ditch the thread, go to your birth month board. A lot of us are really hoping we get to do the same sooner rather than later. 

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glitzandglitter said:

@maggiebakescakes - you do realize this is the TTGP board right? Meaning we are not pregnant yet. I would reccommend finding your BMB and posting there.

Unless it's the March board in which case maybe not.

fishsticks-n-custard

You can't move a post. And one off posts are usually frowned upon no matter the board. 

maggiebakescakes

I'm sorry for not understanding all the letters that are short for something.  I said I was sorry and that I am praying and I'm trying to move it.  I hope you all get healthy babies soon 

maggiebakescakes

I'm sorry for not understanding how ir all works.  I am just scared and excited too and I will change rooms. I hope you all get your babies this week too