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IF Treatment and Testing Check In Week of 7/17
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This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have started infertility testing and/or treatments. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on infertility. TTC can be a long journey naturally, then add in the difficulties associated with infertility and it becomes a whole new ball game. The road to infertility can be lonely, frustrating, and complicated, so let's make this a place where we can vent, ask questions, and support one another. Feel free to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say, and treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Diagnosis (If you've been):
Cycle/CD:
Cycle/CD:
Status (WTO/TWW/TTA):
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)
How are things going?
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
Re: IF Treatment and Testing Check In Week of 7/17
Cycle/CD: About to start on 14
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? A comfy mattress in a waterproof/bugproof liner, some sort of fire starter, a good knife.
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
Cycle/CD: 14 (I think?) /19 4DPO
I'm also working to rid our house of BPA and as many phthalates as humanly possible
Not great. My RE isn't impressing me in the least, and trying to figure out what our other options are is exhausting. Healthcare in this state is depressing, so we'd probably have to look at going out of state for other IF treatment options. I sent my RE a message on Friday with 3 questions, and they responded but pretty much didn't answer anything. Like, I asked if I should start progesterone at 3 or 4 DPO, and they responded "yes start your progesterone after you ovulate". And I asked about IUI vs IVF and listed a bunch of sub-questions related to our insurance coverage and my BW, family planning, etc. and they responded "Dr. Christensen thinks its reasonable to try IUI first." They also send me conflicting instructions on my progesterone - one nurse said to insert it 2x per day, the other said 1x per day.
I was, however, able to spend a lovely weekend visiting my sister and her ILs (her ILs live about 4 hours from where I live, so when she visits them I drive to visit them and her too). I stayed with her BIL, who lives on a beautiful tree farm, so it was a lot of fun. The only tough thing was watching all the cute kids run around and play together.
Oh, and it turns out that rapidly unloading the clip of an AR 15 is very therapeutic. And I'm SO not a gun person.
Any questions? what are some of your favorite paraben and phthalate free products???
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? fishing pole, and my cell phone/charger (you didn't say the island didn't have electricity!)
@lund Your RE is so frustrating!!! Are you still considering seeing one in CO when you visit next month? I like Acure and Tata Harper for paraben/phthalate free face products. Method makes the best foaming body wash that is paraben free! I haven't found great hair products yet.
body wash: https://www.walgreens.com/store/c/method-foaming-body-wash-ruby-orange/ID=prod6318908-product?ext=gooPLA_-_Beauty&pla&adtype=pla&kpid=sku6267451&sst=17aad19f-ced7-4d7d-ad21-847d507ef99b
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
@lund Glad you had a nice time with your "in-laws"! Sorry you get such a run-around from your RE office. That sounds incredibly frustrating, I can't imagine having to deal with that. Ugh.
Cycle/CD: 8/22
Any questions? Anyone's partner push back on doing the SA? My husband will do it, but he's dragging his feet so hard. I think it's less about being worried that something is wrong with him, and more about being embarrassed about the actual act of getting the specimen in the cup
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
Cell phone and charger, because my deserted island has electricity and wifi, plus a flint to start fire. Ain't nobody got time to rub some sticks together.
@lund so much side eye to your RE office. But I'm so glad that you had a nice, relaxing weekend!
AFM
Cycle/CD: 17/30
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
The Harry Potter box set
Um survival tools?
A boat?
@lund I would be so annoyed at those "answers". They didn't help at all!
@kmalls maybe you should go into detail about all the testing you have to do--his is relatively easy!!
@antoto it has to be harder than normal to wait now!!
Cycle/CD: 8/21
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? Cell phone, charger, lighter to light fires
@lund Your RE makes me annoyed for you!
@AlohaKumu Enjoy your last week before the craziness begins!
@antoto Keeping all the things crossed for you!
Diagnosis (unofficially) MFI
Cycle/CD 12/3
Status WTO
What are you doing this cycle? Waiting for RE appt 7/25
How are things going? Ok so far. Just anxious for the appt and what treatment he is going to suggest. Good news is our IF insurance coverage is excellent, so that helps
Any questions? I know it's different for everyone, but how long after your initial RE appt did you start with treatment? Next cycle? I will be CD 11 on the day of my appointment, I've had cd22 BW done twice in the past 5 months
GTKY:
unlimited books on kindle
sunscreen
water
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
@lund sorry for all the frustrations with your RE's office. I would call and let them know so they can hopefully get their act together.
@kmalls my DH complains about the process of the SA as well. His first one was awful and took forever. He could hear the doctor talking on the phone in the next room the whole time. Some offices will let you collect at home then drop it off it you live close by (at my office you have to live 30 mins away or less) so maybe you can look into that.
@antoto I can't even imagine how hard this tww is for you. Big hugs to you and I hope you can hold out until Thursday. FX for you!
Diagnosis (If you've been): severe MFI, low AMH
Cycle/CD: ?1.5yrs, CD 15 I think
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? Unlimited supply of fresh water, tool box, lots of books to read.
@safire3 yup we live less than 10 mins from the hospital where the labs are done, so he can do this at home. He's still embarrassed. Such a prude.
@AlohaKumu you are so close to get started! Enjoy the calm before the storm
@lund yikes. Your RE office is scary sounding. I hope it all gets magically better or destination ivf is in your future (hmmm maybe a new travel agency idea?)
@kmalls my DH was the exact same way. I had to promise a mind blowing bj the day after the SA
@RVAmom315 congrats on the coverage! It's so huge to make plans on real medical advice and not cost
@antoto FX so hard
Cycle/CD: 13/28
Any questions? I'm sure there will be as the week goes on
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
Phone and charger
Water purifier
DH (assuming he is a thing)
Together: 11/2008, married: 3/2014
DH: Type 1 Diabetes, (dx 4/15) Celiac Disease (dx 11/14), Treatment induced Neuropathy of Diabetes (dx 7/15)
DH SA: 11/16: low count and low motility
DH SA: 12/16: borderline low, count and motility
1/20/17: BFP, 1/24/17: CP
5/17:low AMH (0.89)
6/17: first IUI cycle, 50 mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI: 2 follies, BFN (count 58 million, 97% motility)
7/17: second IUI, 2.5 letrozole, OPK, IUI: 1 follie, BFN (count 9.5 million swimming- dont know percentage)
8/17: third IUI, 5.0 letrozole,
@safire3 FX they have the results for you!
@WillRunForWine21 so sorry about bfn
@kmalls My DH was embarrassed about bringing his sample to the hospital (we did it through my OB-GYN and not RE). I told him to suck it up because every time I go to an appointment something is being put up my vagina. He didn't say much after that and finally did it.
@antoto oh longest tww ever! I hope you find something to keep yourself busy! Keeping you in my thoughts that you have the best end of the week!
Diagnosis (If you've been): Secondary Infertility/RPL/ Bicornuate uterus
Cycle/CD: 15/ CD22
Any questions? I know this isn't rational but is anyone afraid to do anything like working out? Maybe it's because of my history but I've been afraid to workout since I took the ovidrel because you know my uterus might reject my egg if there's too much stress on my body...sigh..
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
I don't even camp so I have no idea where to start.
1.water
2.shelter-tent?
3.food
Edit: Words.
@kmalls DH didn't really drag his feet about the SA, but he drags his feet about every other medical issue. He had strep for almost a week before he gave it to me and I made him come to the clinic. Even now he insists that he wasn't "sick" because it was just an "infection." (An infection that required minor surgical intervention because he waited so long.)
@antoto We are all anxiously waiting with you!
@purplg8r Teachers start on July 31 and the kiddos start August 7. I'm glad I have so much prep time, but I know half of it will be eaten by meetings. I hope all goes well dropping off your paperwork.
@WillRunForWine21 Super bummer about the BFN. It sounds like you are being a great advocate for yourself. I hope your RE will be aggressive for the final IUI.
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
@AlohaKumu enjoy your calm week! Excited for you that things are starting to happen!
@purplg8r I'm sorry your body is so out of it's norm. That's a great plan, hopefully you don't miss anything!
@RVAmom315 We waited a cycle after our initial appointment because I didn't want to do a medicated cycle on top of a SIS. It will be all personal preference and what the RE office wants to get done before they will do anything. FX you don't have to wait long.
@safire3 I hope you can get those results soon!
@WillRunForWine21 I'm so sorry about your bfn. Hugs
@WillRunForWine21 I'm so sorry about the BFN
@mispanda FX so hard for you!
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
@lund fellow "hooha" referencer here! Sorry for the confusion and poor follow up from your RE. Are there any other options or states that would be close for better care?
@kmalls I know MH did not feel comfortable doing the SA at all, especially since we live an hour away from the RE he had to produce a sample there. I just would give him a lot of encouragement before he went but he's gotten through it. I'm sure it's super uncomfortable for them
@antoto girl I can only imagine how you feel waiting being how eager I am for you to test! Fx so hard for you!!!
@purplg8r glad you're getting started with EOD to be proactive! Hopefully FW comes quick!
@RVAmom315 so glad you have good IF coverage, definitely a rare thing unfortunately!
@WillRunForWine21 so sorry for the bfn girl, hugs
@mispanda I can definitely relate to the fear with working out. I think some of it is just me avoiding it but definitely concerned at the same time even though I know it might not be rational. Sorry I don't have more helpful feedback for you!
Cycle/CD: 20/18
letrozole, ovidrel, IUI, prayer
Things are going okay. We've been busy at home with the repairs and everything so that's been keeping me occupied although I am having a really hard time staying distracted during the TWW.
Any questions?
None
GTKY: Boat, fishing pole, phone
@saralee797-2 thanks! I need to look at the Honest Company products when I go to the city - right now I have a few of their products in my cart on Thrive Market. And it's nice to hear that I'm not being unreasonable by being annoyed/disappointed in my RE. Of course it would be even nicer if I didn't have to be annoyed/disappointed in my RE....
@antoto I'd love to know what you're doing to keep yourself from going nuts during this "tww"! I'd be in a ball on the floor lol.
@purplg8r I'm impressed by your dedication to EOD! I swear DH and I do EOD for a week and I never want to see a penis again lol.
@RVAmom315 FX for your appointment! By "treatment" do you mean completing your testing? Or moving forward with meds/IUI/etc? We had our first RE appointment in June, and we still haven't done anything other than complete the diagnostics.
@safire3 FX for your next appointment and DH's SA!
@WillRunForWine21 OMG that's the best travel agency idea!!! And, so sorry for the BFN
@mispanda yeah I decided (on my own thanks to Google) to start my progesterone at 3DPO. I also decided on my own to split the suppository in half and insert 2x per day. I figure this is a decent way to do things since one person at my RE's office said one pill 2x per day, and one person said one pill 1x per day. I'm a renegade of progesterone lol. I used to work for Aveda! I love their products but can't bring myself to pay retail for them since i used to get them 40% off lol.
@kmalls I think a good portion of DHs push back in some way about the SA. It's an awkward thing, and of course they don't want to end up being the problem. When I approached the subject with DH I caught him in a "good" moment because I'd just cried about a BFN so he was trying to make me feel better. So, getting him to agree to it wasn't too hard, and then I had my obgyn order the test and I scheduled the appointment for him...... so I guess I didn't give him much choice!
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
Cycle/CD: I don't even know..cycle 21 or some crap. CD 7
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? Tent, Kindle w/ unlimited battery life, sunscreen
@AlohaKumu Girl I feel you on shelling out all the moneys. We've been putting all of our IF treatments on our travel rewards card (to actually get something fun out of all the $ we're spending) and I just checked the statement balance. Big mistake. I hope you find some peace in this last week of somewhat restfulness!
@lund Ugh that is frustrating!! I've been considering a second opinion and switching to another office as well. I have many issues with our RE. But we are severely lacking in options as well, unless I drive into NYC. Glad you had a great weekend!
@kmalls My DH hates anytime he has to have some fun into a cup, but he knows I don't want to hear any complaints any more. If that's the only 'procedure' he has to do (and it has been, so far), I say he can deal. But then, I've been a pretty bitter betty lately so maybe don't take my advice.
@antoto Girrrrrl I'm so excited for your beta!! I haven't been posting as much, but I'm still stalking my ladies in their TWW's!
@RVAmom315 We had the first appt in Sept 2016 but didn't begin testing until Dec, mostly because I was in denial that I needed the help and was too scared to move forward with it. If you are ready to move forward then your RE will start you as soon as possible based on your cycle. My RE did all of my initial BW on CD3.
@WillRunForWine21 I'm so sorry for BFN
@beachbunnyxo123 Rooting so hard for you in this TWW my friend
@mispanda the box says 1 pill inserted 2x per day. You're right that I should probably follow that...
@TravelingCouple HUGE HUGE throat punch to your MIL. Like WTAF??? I'm glad you're feeling good about the adoption meeting, though!
Cycle/CD: Cycle 22 (16AL)/ CD18 (5DPO)
Status: TWW
What are you doing: Just had my very first IUI last Wednesday night, plus a turkey baster load on Thursday morning
How's it going: I'm going BSC, of course. I was pretty crampy Thursday, and have had a mild crampy pressure since. I vacillate between wondering if I got some sort of infection to thinking I'm a unicorn who can tell right after insemination that something is going on in there. Other than that, I'm good. The process went well, and since I managed to pick the correct day, I'm feeling better about my ability to do this with the midwife going forward. Now I just worry about whether I'm picking the right time...should it be later in the day or earlier? Should I have done the turkey baster sooner? Like I said, BSeffingC.
GTKY: Apparently I think less about survival and more about emotional well being. I'd bring good books, good music, and enough chocolate to keep me going, LOL.
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
Cycle/CD: 20ish/20ish
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? absolutely chapstick is my number one, water, chocolate
@lund I use Avalon Organics for a lot of face products. I also use the whole foods 365 fragrance free shampoo, conditioner, and body wash (all para/phlalate free). I use the pacifica brand make up. I also use Alba body lotion.
@safire3 That is so annoying that you don't have the results considering you know they had them an hour after you dropped off the sample!
Dating 7/2008
Married 7/2014
H Type I Diabetic
TTC 1/2016
1/10/2017 initial appt with RE (all BW results WNL)
1/17/2017 SA DX Virtual Azoo (3 sperm 0%morph 0%motility)
1/18/2017 STP tubes clear
2/1/2017 initial appt with Urologist
2/15/2017 DX H Robertsonian Translocation
H is on clomid and Theralogix Supplements
6/26/17 repeat SA: 47 sperm 0% morph 13% motility
7/26/17 IVF Consult, repeat SA (4 sperm)
8/21/17 Starting IVF cycle with Donor Sperm backup
9/1/17 ER ICSI PGS: only 2 donor embryos made it to freeze
9/13/17 Started cycle for IUI with donor and clomid
9/27/17 IUI canceled for overstim
October Plan IUI with donor and low dose clomid
@kmalls my husband was the same way, and he had to come back for a second! The first one he had to come out mid way and ask to change rooms because their DVD player was broken LOL
@lund sorry to hear about the terrible RE. That's so unfortunate, like having someone who knows what they are talking about and is responsive is the one thing that should be guaranteed in this whole awful process!
@WillRunForWine21 so sorry about the BFN
@TravelingCouple if there is one thing more overwhelming than IF treatment, it is the house buying process. And you are going through both! Chin up, one step at a time, we are all here to support you (even if your MIL isn't! what a witch)
Diagnosis (If you've been): azoo
Cycle/CD: trying not to keep track, gets upsetting
Any questions? I know we are still far out from this discussion, but for those of you who have needed to have that discussion with DH about the possibility of sperm donors, how do you even approach that??
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring? Lighter, machete, never ending bottle of wine (that's a thing, right??)
@Aurora1973 hope this TWW flies by for you! I know I'm struggling too and just with all the excitement from so many treatment cycles happening this month!
@JuneRoseRuby sounds busy and like you have a lot going on! I don't know how you do it all! Hope next week goes well and gives a lot of good information!
DH and I both made a short list of potential sperm donors once we were informed of our options and had private conversations with those two individuals. We told them that we didn't need/want an answer immediately, but that it was a decision we were asking them to consider, if it comes to that. If we do the surgery and don't find sperm for DH next month, I'm going to need a few months off before we re-approach our known donors.
This is so nerve-wracking, but you are not alone.
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
Cycle/CD: 12/16 I think?
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
My dog, the Harry Potter series and a shit ton of sunscreen
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
@TravelingCouple Your MIL sounds like a peach. All of your friends in the computer think you're amazing and that the decision to adopt is beautiful. And some of us, me for sure, send this her way:
@LeilaK9288 I can't imagine the waiting. I hope you find out soon! @AlohaKumu it's so cool that you have not one but two potential known donors. I hope it doesn't come to that for you, but that if it does, at least one of them agrees!
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
@RVAmom515 We didn't come up with a plan at our initial RE appt. It was mostly talking, and then BW and she ordered my H's SA.
@safire3 Sorry for the wait. FX you get some sort of plan in place soon!
@WillRunForWine21 Sorry for the BFN. Lots of hugs
@beachbunnyxo123 Sorry if I missed it, but when is your TWW up?
@TravelingCouple Sorry for the failed IUI. You have so much going on right now, I am so sorry your MIL is adding to everything with that BS
@AuroraRose FX for IUI success!
@JuneRoseRuby GL at your upcoming IUI consult!
@LeilaK9288 Glad you like your Dr so far. Sorry that you are feeling so stressed.
Cycle/CD: 19...
Any questions?
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
My dog
A shotgun
Alcohol lots of it
@lund I use Renpure Tea Tree & Lemon Sage shampoo and conditioner and like them for the most part (I have super fine wavy hair). I'm obsessed with Lotus Moon Vitamin B hydrating gel moisturizer, and the brand in general is really upfront about which of their products contain parabens, etc (though they try to keep products as natural as possible). I know I've mentioned it before, but I also subscribe to Yuzen to find new products. It's a quarterly subscription box with an emphasis on providing eco-friendly/natural/organic products.
@kmalls mine did at first as well...he's a pro now, but he was so embarrassed the first time he had to do one. I have no advice other than to say that, if they have to do it a lot, they eventually get over the embarrassment, lol.
@RVAmom515 it's been 7 months and we still haven't started treatment...but that's our fault, not our RE's. We're exhausting the process with the RU first, so I'd say it depends what you want to do. Our RE is ready to move whenever we decide what we want to do.
@WillRunForWine21 sorry about the bfn.
@TravelingCouple that love tit is a hug. I'm sorry that you had to deal with that crap from your MIL this weekend.
Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI & ov dysfunction
Cycle/CD: month 28/CD17
Testing (slash maybe treatment...)
Any questions?
Nope.
GTKY: If you were on a deserted island and could only have 3 things what would you bring?
1 - HP because reading material is a must.
2 - a tent
3 - a fire starter
ETA: @lund (and anyone else who might be looking for products). There's also this list from EWG which is fairly new. All of the products listed (and carrying the mark) must meet stringent criteria, including being paraben/phthalate/a bajillion other chemicals free.
@beachbunnyxo123 how are the repairs coming?
@TravelingCouple I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. And your MIL needs to mind her own business! I would have been do pissed!!
@Aurora1973 I'm sure it's extra hard NOT to be BSC right now!
@JuneRoseRuby what kind of part time job did you get?
@LeilaK9288 I'm glad you liked the Dr! FX the BW comes back with something that can be fixed
@kiwi2628 oh I'd totally bring my dog too!
@leekat14 FX for you!!
@zwink1 hopefully the results come back soon!