@nktrodden826 - good!! Maybe my doctor accidentally was too rough or something. I'll see how this week's check goes! How'd it go? Are you dilated at all?
@ginger1228 yeah must be! I find the male obgyns are SO gentle and the females know how much we can take so they're not as gentle! Lol
No dilation, but cervix is very soft but i didn't ask if softness meant anything exciting. My dr office doesn't do cervical checks until 36 weeks (I'm 35 weeks, tomorrow) but she wanted to make sure so I can still fly this week!
@satsumasandlemons and whoever else is worried (it is a common COMMON worry) please do not stress about the state of your pubic hair. It's like a weird mindfuck that were supposed to be "clean" and that somehow pubic hair equates to dirty. Don't let it get in your head. No one cares. Literally no one cares. I have NEVER heard a doctor or nurse say "omg did you see her bush????" Never. Not once. I only had DH trim me up before my GBS swab because I was concerned they wouldn't be able to swab without weed whacking. You have enough things to worry about.
I'm in the camp of cervical exams not being too uncomfortable I guess. I don't know why. It was the same with my prior pregnancy. I mean is it the most fun? Absolutely not. But if you totally relax all your pelvic muscles it makes it much less painful, quicker and easier. It's like a mind over matter thing.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
I didn't even know about cervical exams until this thread. Now I'm dreading it.
I'm afraid of waxing. I have a terribly low pain threshold. Last month, I went in blind with a razor. Ended up with two very painful ingrown hairs that took a while to heal. But I still want to "clean up" that area before delivery so I'm probably going to just pop on a new razor and try again.
I have an electric trimmer that looks like the same one DH uses on his beard. I just trimmed recently because we went to the beach this weekend, and I shaved my bikini line using a hand mirror.
My doctor's office waits until 38 weeks to do any cervical checks. Man, you guys have some different experiences! I'll just hope for the best. I'm sure it won't feel very comfortable, but hopefully it won't be painful. I wish I had just one OB/GYN because I typically go to a male gynecologist, and I've had some rough exams with female gynecologists. There's only one male gyno I see, and the rest are a combination of lady nurse practitioners and OB/GYNs.
I'm declining all cervical checks this pregnancy. Until I go in for my induction, of course. Its just not worth it to get undressed just for that, when normally it's a quick easy appointment.
I feel like we've talked a lot about pubic hair here. Last time I did zero maintenance and went in with a full bush. Never thought anything of it. This time I decide to trim a little, but now I'm regretting it because my electric shaver died (I think for good) so now I have to either buy a new one or find another method and I don't really feel like it.
Will someone PLEASE tell me write out my thank you cards? My shower was around 3 weeks ago and I haven't done it yet. I addressed the envelopes but that's as far as I've gotten. I haven't been too busy or anything. I just don't feel like doing it.
I've been shaving blind for a while now. I coach swimming and I'm not comfortable wearing a bathing suit without my daily upkeep.
@ginger1228 I'm terrible at thank you cards! My shower isn't until Friday and I know if I don't get them out right away, I'll end up procrastinating for far too long. I sent out my bridal shower thank you cards in combination with my wedding...
@chiquita928 - that's actually a great idea and makes me feel less overwhelmed at the thought of doing it. Thanks!
@jkbrownstein - I remember feeling more motivated with my wedding/bridal shower thank yous. But I just have no desire to do these and I don't know why - I'm probably also a lot more tired this time around though!
@ginger1228 Umm is three weeks a long time? Because the shower MIL threw for me was at the end of April, and I only started doing thank you notes on Friday.
I hate writing thank you notes. I am not ungrateful. I just think the idea that it's rude for me not to send a thank you note even though I thanked the people at the shower profusely when they gave DH and me the gift is dumb. And it pisses me off that the bride/mother is expected to write the thank you notes. MIL will not stop nagging me about them, but never once said a word to DH. She even wanted us to write a thank you note to her. Is that normal? I have very little experience with these things.
@Twinkiedoll - I actually don't think 3 weeks is long at all. I just meant to do them right away so I feel like I've put it off for three weeks. I want to do them before baby comes and I'm due in three weeks (!!!) so I feel like I need to get on it!
I feel the same way you do about thank you cards for my mom and MIL. I'll do it, but I feel like it's silly when I see them all the time and have been able to thank them over and over and they know that I've already got their gifts set up and ready so I obviously love it and am using it.
All that said, I judge the heck out of people who don't send out thank yous. I do see how it can be different for a shower bc you told them thanks in person. But it drives me crazy when a wedding gift doesn't get acknowledged. Or once I mailed a gift for a baby shower that I couldn't attend and I never received any kind of thank you. I'm not even sure if they received the gift since it wasn't acknowledged.
@ginger1228 my shower was about 3 weeks ago now and I just sent my thank-you's out, so don't feel bad! I hate writing them too, and exactly like @twinkiedoll it's not that I'm ungrateful! For me, it's just finding time to sit down and write a personal note to everyone.
Kudos to everyone taking the time and effort to get waxed before birth!! I'm in the "couldn't care less" camp. My OB has been doing this for 40 years, I figured I'm a rather boring patient compared to some others he's probably seen. Occasionally I'll do some bikini-line touch up, but I don't care about being bare down there during labor.
@ginger1228 DH helped me write a few of the thank you notes and that was a big help. Maybe you can enlist your DH to write ones to his family members/friends? I only had like 20 to write and I just sat and cranked the notes out and then addressed the envelopes afterwards.
No @cait32 - I love that idea! We did that with our wedding thank you notes. I thought about doing that this time too. I did a thank you photo card and then also included a handwritten thank you note that was specific to each person.
@crzyforbabies - I might have to enlist H! His family is so small and they're all far out of town so he only had around 4 people there that were specific to his side of the family. But he can do some others. My friends would probably love his cards - he has a really silly sense of humor so his cards would probably be entertaining!
@cait32 That's a great idea! When my friends threw me a shower for my first DD they insisted that I not bother with thank you notes. That's when I knew I had some awesome people in my life. Honestly, I am so bad at thank you notes that I'd almost rather not have a shower at all.
@julybaby17-2 I don't think pap smears are painful, and I didn't find the cervical check to be painful either.
Re: thank yous: I didnt send mine out for my wedding until three months after. Tons of people gave us money, and we used the money to go ti Italy, so I wanted to send a photo of us from the wedding and from Italy.... ergo I had to wait until we took the trip. I had my baby shower at the end of april, and I still havent finished them. At this rate, Ill be sending birth announcements before the thank yous. And I agree with @Twinkiedoll. I already thanked you at the shower, probably multiple times. Why must I kill trees and send you a note you're only going to throw away? Such a waste
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@cait32 I did that for our wedding! It came out really nice.
I had thought about doing that again for the baby. But since I'm a FTM, I didn't want to assume I would have my act together after the baby comes to get the cards printed, written out, and mailed in a reasonable time after the baby comes. Plus, MIL's baby shower was already two months ago and MIL is antsy about the fact that my thank you cards haven't been sent out already.
@ginger1228 I agree with you on the thank you notes for the people who were unable to attend the baby shower, wedding etc. I think those are appropriate. I was just thinking about the thank you notes for the people who did come and whom I already thanked in person profusely and repeatedly.
I don't think anyone actually enjoys sending out thank you cards. But, I totally judge people who don't send me one, and my family would freak if I didn't. My family can be over dramatic when it comes to saying thank you. Super childish, in my opinion anyway.
For one of my showers, they had everyone fill out the address of thank you cards durIng the shower. I wasn't sure how to interpret this. Was is super pushy or convenient? I'm still unsure.
@julybaby17-2 I have to disagree with you. My grandmother 100% enjoys sending out thank yous. She sends us thank you notes just for seeing her on holidays. No one would do that unless they enjoy it.
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@julybaby17-2 I have to disagree with you. My grandmother 100% enjoys sending out thank yous. She sends us thank you notes just for seeing her on holidays. No one would do that unless they enjoy it.
One of the bright spots in not having a shower for my second baby (or receiving any gifts at all, now that I think about it ) is not having to write thank you cards!! I hate them!
I've mentioned it before - I use the app Ink to send photo postcard thank yous. It probably isn't good for a big baby shower, but maybe if you buy a bundle. It's then suuuuper easy to snap a picture of baby on your phone and use the app to send the postcard. Like literally one minute. I do it for everything DS gets now. (I also have done it for parties - sending people a picture of them with DS or even a pic of their own kid at the party.)
It's 99 cents for the card, which includes postage. Cheaper if you buy a bundle. So a little more expensive than regular cards + postage. But the convenience factor is massive. It feels like writing a text message. And even old people who are sticklers for cards seem to love it.
I have the cards all done and addressed, but I keep forgetting to get stamps. Ultimate fail!
This lady at church the other day asked me if the baby was sleeping through the night. I did my best not to give her a death glare (since we were at church lol) and kindly replied that it's hard to tell since she's still inside, but probably not. Apparently my large abdomen and the lack of an infant in my arms weren't clues enough that I haven't delivered yet.
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
@manillabar I had someone ask me the exact same question lol. ... I think what they mean to ask is if the baby is kicking you at night ? I was so confused Lol
@busyzee I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt but after I told her the baby was still inside she was actually surprised. Like "oh, you haven't delivered yet? When are you due again?" -_- No excuse lol
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
New random topic...I'm 36 weeks as of today. Is it too soon and too harsh to tell DH he can't drink? I'm worried I'll go into labor and have him show up all tipsy. He's "taking it easy" but he sometimes gets carried away.
New random topic...I'm 36 weeks as of today. Is it too soon and too harsh to tell DH he can't drink? I'm worried I'll go into labor and have him show up all tipsy. He's "taking it easy" but he sometimes gets carried away.
Nope, just make sure you tell him when he's sober lol.
My random is, I saw a few birthing videos, and they all look like they are handling raw chicken and not a baby and it freaks me out! It looks like such rough handling! I thought new borns were all delicate and you had to be very careful with them.
@julybaby17-2 I have to disagree with you. My grandmother 100% enjoys sending out thank yous. She sends us thank you notes just for seeing her on holidays. No one would do that unless they enjoy it.
That's the cutest thing ever! I stand corrected, haha.
My random is, I saw a few birthing videos, and they all look like they are handling raw chicken and not a baby and it freaks me out! It looks like such rough handling! I thought new borns were all delicate and you had to be very careful with them.
Im actually horrified.
Rule number 1, NEVER watch birthing videos! Yes, babies are delicate, but not as delicate as we think.
@BusyZee I'll never forget my doctor saying "honey, he's not going to break" when I first had DS!
And I never thought about the drinking thing until I was talking to a girlfriend a month or so ago whose husband got so drunk he ended up passing out at a friends house and she gave birth in like 3 hours and by the time he woke up he had a 6hr old daughter. My husband doesn't drink or if he does it's like a beer or two with his buddies so I won't say anything but I'd wait to see if you're dilated at your next appt and if they say baby could be coming I'd give him a heads up of your expectations. But I'd imagine "uh babe my water just broke" would be an instant buzz kill for him anyways!
Re: Randoms 6/18-6/24
How'd it go? Are you dilated at all?
No dilation, but cervix is very soft but i didn't ask if softness meant anything exciting. My dr office doesn't do cervical checks until 36 weeks (I'm 35 weeks, tomorrow) but she wanted to make sure so I can still fly this week!
I'm in the camp of cervical exams not being too uncomfortable I guess. I don't know why. It was the same with my prior pregnancy. I mean is it the most fun? Absolutely not. But if you totally relax all your pelvic muscles it makes it much less painful, quicker and easier. It's like a mind over matter thing.
I'm afraid of waxing. I have a terribly low pain threshold. Last month, I went in blind with a razor. Ended up with two very painful ingrown hairs that took a while to heal. But I still want to "clean up" that area before delivery so I'm probably going to just pop on a new razor and try again.
My doctor's office waits until 38 weeks to do any cervical checks. Man, you guys have some different experiences! I'll just hope for the best. I'm sure it won't feel very comfortable, but hopefully it won't be painful. I wish I had just one OB/GYN because I typically go to a male gynecologist, and I've had some rough exams with female gynecologists. There's only one male gyno I see, and the rest are a combination of lady nurse practitioners and OB/GYNs.
I feel like we've talked a lot about pubic hair here. Last time I did zero maintenance and went in with a full bush. Never thought anything of it. This time I decide to trim a little, but now I'm regretting it because my electric shaver died (I think for good) so now I have to either buy a new one or find another method and I don't really feel like it.
thank you, thank you, thank you.
@ginger1228 I'm terrible at thank you cards! My shower isn't until Friday and I know if I don't get them out right away, I'll end up procrastinating for far too long. I sent out my bridal shower thank you cards in combination with my wedding...
@chiquita928 - that's actually a great idea and makes me feel less overwhelmed at the thought of doing it. Thanks!
@jkbrownstein - I remember feeling more motivated with my wedding/bridal shower thank yous. But I just have no desire to do these and I don't know why - I'm probably also a lot more tired this time around though!
I hate writing thank you notes. I am not ungrateful. I just think the idea that it's rude for me not to send a thank you note even though I thanked the people at the shower profusely when they gave DH and me the gift is dumb. And it pisses me off that the bride/mother is expected to write the thank you notes. MIL will not stop nagging me about them, but never once said a word to DH. She even wanted us to write a thank you note to her. Is that normal? I have very little experience with these things.
I feel the same way you do about thank you cards for my mom and MIL. I'll do it, but I feel like it's silly when I see them all the time and have been able to thank them over and over and they know that I've already got their gifts set up and ready so I obviously love it and am using it.
All that said, I judge the heck out of people who don't send out thank yous. I do see how it can be different for a shower bc you told them thanks in person. But it drives me crazy when a wedding gift doesn't get acknowledged. Or once I mailed a gift for a baby shower that I couldn't attend and I never received any kind of thank you. I'm not even sure if they received the gift since it wasn't acknowledged.
Kudos to everyone taking the time and effort to get waxed before birth!! I'm in the "couldn't care less" camp. My OB has been doing this for 40 years, I figured I'm a rather boring patient compared to some others he's probably seen. Occasionally I'll do some bikini-line touch up, but I don't care about being bare down there during labor.
@crzyforbabies - I might have to enlist H! His family is so small and they're all far out of town so he only had around 4 people there that were specific to his side of the family. But he can do some others. My friends would probably love his cards - he has a really silly sense of humor so his cards would probably be entertaining!
Re: thank yous: I didnt send mine out for my wedding until three months after. Tons of people gave us money, and we used the money to go ti Italy, so I wanted to send a photo of us from the wedding and from Italy.... ergo I had to wait until we took the trip. I had my baby shower at the end of april, and I still havent finished them. At this rate, Ill be sending birth announcements before the thank yous. And I agree with @Twinkiedoll. I already thanked you at the shower, probably multiple times. Why must I kill trees and send you a note you're only going to throw away? Such a waste
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I had thought about doing that again for the baby. But since I'm a FTM, I didn't want to assume I would have my act together after the baby comes to get the cards printed, written out, and mailed in a reasonable time after the baby comes. Plus, MIL's baby shower was already two months ago and MIL is antsy about the fact that my thank you cards haven't been sent out already.
@ginger1228 I agree with you on the thank you notes for the people who were unable to attend the baby shower, wedding etc. I think those are appropriate. I was just thinking about the thank you notes for the people who did come and whom I already thanked in person profusely and repeatedly.
For one of my showers, they had everyone fill out the address of thank you cards durIng the shower. I wasn't sure how to interpret this. Was is super pushy or convenient? I'm still unsure.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
It's 99 cents for the card, which includes postage. Cheaper if you buy a bundle. So a little more expensive than regular cards + postage. But the convenience factor is massive. It feels like writing a text message. And even old people who are sticklers for cards seem to love it.
This lady at church the other day asked me if the baby was sleeping through the night. I did my best not to give her a death glare (since we were at church lol) and kindly replied that it's hard to tell since she's still inside, but probably not. Apparently my large abdomen and the lack of an infant in my arms weren't clues enough that I haven't delivered yet.
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
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Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Im actually horrified.
And I never thought about the drinking thing until I was talking to a girlfriend a month or so ago whose husband got so drunk he ended up passing out at a friends house and she gave birth in like 3 hours and by the time he woke up he had a 6hr old daughter. My husband doesn't drink or if he does it's like a beer or two with his buddies so I won't say anything but I'd wait to see if you're dilated at your next appt and if they say baby could be coming I'd give him a heads up of your expectations. But I'd imagine "uh babe my water just broke" would be an instant buzz kill for him anyways!