@kns1988 I think you'll know if you're overdoing things. I really didn't take it too easy once I got out of the hospital. In the first 4 days home, I did 2 pediatrician appts, 2 target runs, 3 restaurants and a park trip (where I mostly sat and my mom chased DD). If I started to feel sore or tired, I went home and sat on the couch.
So I chose today to start wearing a corset. It's 87 degrees outside with a forecast of over 90. It's only May so there's no ACs in the windows yet. It's 77 in my living room.
Wow @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I can't even imagine doing all this! It's been nine days and I'm still sore. Lol. I can barely go places in a car as a passenger.
In other news: baby Paul has gained weight up to the birth weight plus a couple ounces! So happy! We got a baby scale yesterday, I was a little anxious because he's cut down the feeding times (from a solid hour or more to like 15 minutes a side and sometimes just falling asleep in twenty minutes or so).
I believe that you are at risk for increased bleeding by overdoing it post-partum. I also have been very active since delivery (being very pro-active about depression that I had last time) and I notice the days I'm more active i might have a little more bleeding but still nothing abnormal. If your noticing lot of bleeding then I would tone it down a little but otherwise I just go based on how I'm feeling.
Little man had his 2 week check up today and has jumped over his birth weight, from 7-4 to 7-12 now which makes me happy. I haven't been waking him up to eat at night, just letting him wake up on his own so it's reassuring to hear he is still gaining appropriately!
Yay for all the babies today/yesteday!! So exciting!
@ShadeofGreen816 I'm going to switch mine out with my fake set I wear when travelling etc. just in case. That's what I did last time too but it would have been fine just to leave my real set on I think it's just one less thing to worry about if there were some emergency situation.
@ShadeofGreen816 we did all jewelry off but that lead to them asking if we were actually legally married for something some form. I can't remember everything. Do we get the social security card in the mail and have to pick up the birth certificate?
@ShadeofGreen816 Yes, I took my rings off before I went to the hospital.
@Yiggle09 Yes, social security card should come in the mail and then depending on where your located you either have to go pick up the birth certificate or you can apply for/order it online. The hospital gave us all the info on where to get it.
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@ShadeofGreen816 all of my jewelry will stay in my bag in the car until we get to our post part room. With my unexpected CS with DD, they wanted me to remove all of my jewelry and I was panicking because I couldn't get my cartlidge (sp?) earring out. So for me, I think it's better to remove ahead of time than be trying to rip something out/off last minute.
@Yiggle09 yes, SS card was mailed and we had to go pick up the birth certificate. I remember having to pay $25 to get the birth certificate the day that I went to put in the request if I wanted it that day, otherwise you could not pay and come pick it up another day. I don't know if that is true everywhere.
@kns1988 - my mom says the same thing. She says your uterus can detach if you overdo it during the pp period. Definitely an old wives' tale and I agree to just go by amount of bleeding. If you see an increase or you go back to bright red bleeding, then you know it's time to put your feet up and take it easy.
@shadeofgreen816 I left my ring at home last time and once we got settled in, I asked DH to bring it to hospital (we live less than 5 mins away). I had to quit wearing my ring this week so I cleaned it, put it in its box, and packed in my "keep close" hospital bag. I know I'll want it again. I feel so naked without.
I plan on taking mine off in the near future so I don't have to worry about it in the hospital. My ring is due for its cleaning soon so it can just stay shiny longer!
@kns1988 That sounds wild to me. What does "go back to normal" mean? I didn't really take it easy with DS1 and really haven't this time because 2 under 2 and one of them is closing in on 35 lbs.
Man I am the odd lady out on the rings. I took my rings off months ago and am trying to figure out when I will feel required to wear them again. I love my rings, but I don't like wearing jewelry and never wear them at home anyway.
@kns1988 That sounds wild to me. What does "go back to normal" mean? I didn't really take it easy with DS1 and really haven't this time because 2 under 2 and one of them is closing in on 35 lbs.
Man I am the odd lady out on the rings. I took my rings off months ago and am trying to figure out when I will feel required to wear them again. I love my rings, but I don't like wearing jewelry and never wear them at home anyway.
Same here! I never wear my rings around the house, even when not pregnant. I'm terrible.
Is there still a thread for moms of multiples? I can't seem to figure out a schedule that leaves time for anything other than feeding and I'm wondering if that's normal for this stage
Also camille had a hard time breathing at first and we were told to keep an eye on it and call the Dr if she was flaring her nose, her color was off, or her chest was compressing harder. She is an extremely grunty baby and breathes very loudly most of the time So i don't even know if she is having a hard time BC she always breathes diff than sofie but since yesterday she is sleeping a ton and not eating as much ( maybe like a half ounce less per feeding but I'm having to work really hard to get that in her) and between that and how much she is grunting, would you take her in??
I just hate to bug the drs so often... Ive had to call three days this week bc we just realized sofie has a milk protein allergy and she had blood in her stool. With my dd1 we were there all the time and i felt like i was being annoying but i dont like to just guess id rather the dr see and normally my intuition has been right, but in this case i just cant tell. Im used to very colicky babies so is sleeping allllll day normal??? Idk and the decrease in food isnt much but its enough to bother me, and her breathing has scared me since day 1 so with the exhaustion and worrying idk if im just going overboard or not. Ill most likely take her to ease my mind.
@Jkp7749, it's normal for some newborns to sleep a lot, but if it's a change in behavior in addition to eating less, I'd be calling about it. Plus, breathing issues aren't something I would mess with. If I were in your shoes, the doctors would be hearing from me a lot! It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Twins would be hard enough without having extra health problems to watch for. I hope everything is fine and you get some rest soon!
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@Jkp7749 - don't worry about bugging them. If you have a concern, I'd call! That's why we pay them in the long run. Also I don't think you can ever discount Mothers intuition. If something feels different, there's no harm if finding out it different is ok.
@Jkp7749 I know everyone worries about being a bother but just think...people call a ton more than you have and they just have one baby! You have two so you get at least twice as many calls!!! I would call to make yourself feel better!
@Jkp7749 I would call and ask about it. I agree with the others that there are likely people who call more than you and if not who cares- you're a momma concerned about her babies.
Does anyone have experience with silent reflux in infants? DS gets really fussy about 10 mins after eating. He doesn't spit up, but he arches his back, fuses, grunts, and, after initially falling asleep post meal, wakes up 10 mins later and won't settle back down. I have a pediatrician appointment on Monday and will ask then. But I'm losing faith in our current doctor. She's really great about most things, but she has a personal vendetta against cow's milk. When DD turned one, she told us kids (or anyone) shouldn't drink milk. At DS's first appt, she told me that I should avoid diary since I'm breastfeeding because breastfed babies can't handle dairy proteins. Yes, I know that's a thing, but not every BF kid is sensitive to dairy proteins. So I worry she's going to want me to try that route first when he's not showing any signs of dairy sensitivity. His poop is normal and his skin is fine.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot: I can't answer this specifically, though will say that it's my understanding that reflux can present differently among diff babies. My older son went months without a diagnosis b/c his symptoms weren't perfectly textbook. Yours is showing that fussiness and being unsettled after feedings, which makes me think reflux too. The sphincter doesn't fully develop until the 1 year old mark, so I think it's a more likely culprit than a sensitivity/allergy, you know?
And re the doctor: If you're hesitant about her approach, maybe consider seeking a second opinion before leaving her altogether. You said she's great about most things except the milk, so maybe for this one issue, bring someone else onboard? I'd be interested to see what they say on Monday, good luck!
Thanks for all the replies! I ended up taking her bc i wanted them to hear her breathe. They heard the congestion and saw her chest compressing and think that she may have reflux causing her to be disinterested in food and causing the congested sounding breathing. As far as her breathing hard they said it was ok unless it was like going down and under the chest bone and it would be even more noticeable.
So this is pretty random, but I wanted to share it for any other FTMs out there. At our newborn care class, a couples therapist spent some time speaking to us. One of the things he sent us home with was a "transitional issues" quiz. We finally got around to it last night and basically each wrote down our top 5 concerns about the transition to parenthood. For instance, a couple of mine were "concern over the division of household chores" and "couple communication". A couple of his were "lack of sleep" and "concern over partner's needs". So we went through the 5 things on each other's lists and talked them over, and I think it was really helpful for us to address those things ahead of time. We're planning on busting the list out again before my H goes back to work, so we can assess how we've been doing (especially in regards to communication, because that's a big one for us). I'll include a pic of the example issues that were included...but I'd definitely recommend something like this for other FTMs. Or, even just taking a few minutes to talk about each of your concerns, if you haven't already.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot my son had reflux. Not silent though. He was constantly spitting up and would cry right after eating. More milk would soothe his throat so he would just eat and eat and eat and then spit up non stop. It took a couple doctors appointments for them to take me serious that it was an issue since he was gaining weight. I thought it was my breast milk causing the issue but they advised me to keep up with the bf and not to switch to formula. They prescribed zantac which helped a little bit with the crying after feedings. Ultimately we just had to wait for him to grow out of it and it started to get better around 6 months when he was eating more solid foods. Good luck... Its hard...hopefully you can find out some solutions.. I think the reflux is what caused my son to be so fussy and have sleep issues.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot - DS was diagnosed with silent reflex at 5 weeks. He wouldn't nap for more than 45 minutes and screamed and spit up constantly. Pediatrician put him on Prevacid, which did nothing to help, then recommended I stop BF'ing and give him formula because it's thicker and easier to digest for babies with reflux. I was a stubborn mom though, and two LC visits later found out he had posterior tongue tie (hard to see/diagnose). We got it corrected at 3 months and literally within 2 days I saw a difference. May not apply to your situation, but I figured I'd mention it in case it helps!
ETA: Elliott started doing the arched back screaming thing earlier this week, and I took her in for an eval - also had posterior tongue tie that both the hospital and pediatrician didn't see
@starphish18 - that's a great idea! We may do this, because the transition to two has been....interesting. Mainly because I hate whining and there's a lot of it in my house right now (and I don't mean from the toddler or newborn)
@starphish18 that list is great! I think it's really smart to think through these issues before they arise and talk about them beforehand. I'm not a FTM but may do something like this with DH anyway in preparation for the transition to 2. Thanks for sharing!
@SKZW@ChristinaWild@lrwardrop Thank you! It also looks like he might have a tongue tie. He can't stick it out and it's a heart shape on the end. Aside from her weid milk issues, I do like our dr. She's highly recommended locally and I serve on a board with her husband. I also like the other doctors at her practice so I could always switch to one of them too.
@starphish18 great list! Instead of working through that list, I think DH and I hashed out our transition issues with the first kid. Our processes for this second kid have been so much smoother. It would have been helpful to ID those issues before we had DD.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot oh man as long as the baby isn't showing sensitivity you couldn't pry milk and generally dairy from me not even if you came with non-dairy alternatives milked from the very stars themselves.
Aside from the whole precious sweet newborn thing the bright spot in my day is my morning full-fat dairy latte, after having to sub coconut milk for so many weeks because of GD.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot yeah, my younger daughter had dairy and soy sensitivity/allergy. I'm not sure about all kids, but hers didn't look anything like reflux. It was like colic and funky scary looking poop. I've heard that with silent reflux, you see them swallow a lot as they're crying. Like, stomach acid/milk is coming up but they're swallowing instead of spitting.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot is he pooping okay? DD did the back arching thing when she was super gassy or needed to poop, so we would bike her legs until something happened and she was good after. Or if its reflux related is he staying upright/inclined after nursing for a half hour minimum?
@starphish18 iI love how you and your DH did that. Thats such a fantastic way to communicate before baby is here. I think STMs can benebenefit greatly from that too because theres concern about roles with the older kid (s)
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and thanks for listening yesterday. Today is already going better
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In other news: baby Paul has gained weight up to the birth weight plus a couple ounces! So happy! We got a baby scale yesterday, I was a little anxious because he's cut down the feeding times (from a solid hour or more to like 15 minutes a side and sometimes just falling asleep in twenty minutes or so).
Little man had his 2 week check up today and has jumped over his birth weight, from 7-4 to 7-12 now which makes me happy. I haven't been waking him up to eat at night, just letting him wake up on his own so it's reassuring to hear he is still gaining appropriately!
Yay for all the babies today/yesteday!! So exciting!
Eta: TB are half my post.
@Yiggle09 Yes, social security card should come in the mail and then depending on where your located you either have to go pick up the birth certificate or you can apply for/order it online. The hospital gave us all the info on where to get it.
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@Yiggle09 yes, SS card was mailed and we had to go pick up the birth certificate. I remember having to pay $25 to get the birth certificate the day that I went to put in the request if I wanted it that day, otherwise you could not pay and come pick it up another day. I don't know if that is true everywhere.
@ShadeofGreen816 - I just wore my rings the whole time.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Man I am the odd lady out on the rings. I took my rings off months ago and am trying to figure out when I will feel required to wear them again. I love my rings, but I don't like wearing jewelry and never wear them at home anyway.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Also camille had a hard time breathing at first and we were told to keep an eye on it and call the Dr if she was flaring her nose, her color was off, or her chest was compressing harder. She is an extremely grunty baby and breathes very loudly most of the time So i don't even know if she is having a hard time BC she always breathes diff than sofie but since yesterday she is sleeping a ton and not eating as much ( maybe like a half ounce less per feeding but I'm having to work really hard to get that in her) and between that and how much she is grunting, would you take her in??
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
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And re the doctor: If you're hesitant about her approach, maybe consider seeking a second opinion before leaving her altogether. You said she's great about most things except the milk, so maybe for this one issue, bring someone else onboard? I'd be interested to see what they say on Monday, good luck!
ETA: Elliott started doing the arched back screaming thing earlier this week, and I took her in for an eval - also had posterior tongue tie that both the hospital and pediatrician didn't see
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
@starphish18 great list! Instead of working through that list, I think DH and I hashed out our transition issues with the first kid. Our processes for this second kid have been so much smoother. It would have been helpful to ID those issues before we had DD.
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Aside from the whole precious sweet newborn thing the bright spot in my day is my morning full-fat dairy latte, after having to sub coconut milk for so many weeks because of GD.
I've heard that with silent reflux, you see them swallow a lot as they're crying. Like, stomach acid/milk is coming up but they're swallowing instead of spitting.
@starphish18 iI love how you and your DH did that. Thats such a fantastic way to communicate before baby is here. I think STMs can benebenefit greatly from that too because theres concern about roles with the older kid (s)