Ahhhh is it just me or is there a zombie in the CD thread
Ummm..yeah. Who is using TB to try to boost blog posts apparently. I actually read the one she left in our group, and out of all of the posts I've read about g diapers (or any CD), hers was by far the worst. Sounded so childish and not professional.
I hope everyone is doing well! I finally downloaded the bump app since I haven't been on my computer much so I'm hoping I can stay caught up! @erinh2005 sorry things fizzled out!
I have a mini rant. I asked my mom and SD to not kiss baby on the face especially since I don't know their tdap history. Well my mom went and got one and SD had already had one, great! I still asked them to not kiss DS on the face and my mom got super mad texting me saying I'm making it uncomfortable for them to be around him and asked if they can kiss his a** because that's all they have been doing to me lately to comply with my requests. She also said I should be more concerned about my dogs because they lick their a** then lick DS (they don't lick him) and the dog hair can cause DS to get an infection. And summed it up to me going overboard as a FTM. She has yet to talk to me since and was supposed to come stay a few nights with us. Thanks for the support, mom, that's exactly what I needed right now. end rant.
@mspacman34: That is the absolute worst!! You need support at this time in your life, not drama! Grrrr. Seriously.
Tell her that your dogs don't lick him, that dogs' tongues are a million times cleaner than humans, and that you can "go overboard" if you damn well please because it's your house, your baby, and your business! (P.S. you are being more than reasonable about the immunizations! They need to lay off!) And as far as kissing your ass, tell your mom that this whole thing is really not about her. She needs to stop making herself the center of attention: You're the one who just went through childbirth! "Yo, mom, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I don't want to hear it." End of story.
@mspacman34 that stinks about your mom. I feel the same way about face kissing. Regardless of TDAP history, I would want people out of newborn's face until the baby is vaccinated. When I was a FTM, I became a hand washing Natzi and even denied visitors with small children. Now we have a toddler to bring home plenty of germs.
@mspacman34 I'm sorry your mom is being so difficult. She got her turn to pick how things went when she had children and now it is your turn. Comply or stay away. Your request for tdap and no face kissing is not overboard. It sounds like she doesn't like that you have all the control. I hope she apologizes because she was rude.
@mspacman34 Wow so sorry to hear your mom is reacting that way. We had a similar scenario with DD1 because we basically said we don't have many rules but please don't kiss her on the mouth (DH and his fam think it's weird and I didn't have an opinion to the contrary). So when we weren't looking my sister had apparently done so and posted a pic to her social media which DHs family then saw and asked him about so I had to be the bad guy and basically scold her for it and have her take it down. It caused a big issue at the time and her feelings were hurt but everyone is right that it's your baby and your rules so this is just a time where your mom could be more supportive of you and your wishes.
@mspacman34 wow. That was super rude. You don't owe your mom any explanations at all - your kid, your rules. And if she's going to throw a temper tantrum like that do you really want to be cooped up in your house with her? Maybe it's a blessing in disguise she hasn't come to stay.
And yes, @starphish18 that's me (although I'm an assistant, not a hygienist). Tooth decay is caused by bacteria. What we are exposed to in the first 6 months of life we carry with us forever. So we tell parents that no one (even mom and dad if they have had quite a bit of dental work) should kiss baby on the lips or put anything from their mouth into the baby's mouth.
@CherryBananas, my dentist told me that, too, while I was still pregnant. I'm really glad he did because I have a hot mess of dental issues, and I want to avoid passing that to DS if possible.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 that's good he said something! A lot of pregnant women avoid the dentist so we don't always get a chance to tell people about that. I get a lot of shocked looks from new moms when I advise them not to kiss their own babies.
Thank you ladies for the support! You are all absolutely right and that is exactly what I needed to hear. Man, it is tough to think straight. I couldn't even fathom a response to that at the time because it was so unexpected. If/when she talks to me again I will know how to stand my ground.
@CherryBananas thank you for that information! I didn't realize that it went for even tiny babies.
@mspacman34 That's terrible! I'm sorry she's being so mean. You have every right to make those requests, and she has every right to shut up and be supportive, only.
@mspacman34 I hope your mom is able to get over it soon! That's one of the benefits to being the parent, you make the rules and everyone else gets to shut up and obey them. @CherryBananas I'm not a huge fan of kissing babies on the mouth (hello slobber), but knowing how horrible my teeth are and seeing I can pass it along that way, makes me kind of sad that I really need to remember to not kiss my babe on the mouth for 6 months.
@CherryBananas I had no idea about this! Thank you for bringing this up. I have had a lot of dental work done, despite taking care of my teeth, and DH only recently started going to the dentist regularly and has 3 cavities that need to be filled and probably won't be until our insurance gives us more money in January. Definitely going to fill him in on this info too!
I need some opinions. Found out today that H's great uncle passed away last night and the funeral is most likely this weekend. That puts me at 39 weeks, 2-3 hours from home. He was a really awesome guy and I would like to go but not sure I should risk it. The hospital down there has an amazing maternity wing, and the hospital half way between is also great, so I'm not concerned about not knowing the hospitals. The issue is my insurance will only cover our hospital here at home. I feel so silly letting my insurance make this a hard decision....
No problem ladies! Avoiding kisses isn't going to guarantee a cavity-free kid (there's definitely a genetic component as well) but it makes a big difference.
@absbubbs I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you have such a tough decision to make. Big creepy Internet hugs!
@absbubbs I'm so sorry for your loss. If it were me, I wouldn't go. I'd hate to risk owing a crazy amount of money if something happened in an emergency while you were gone.
Thanks @cherrybananas for that information. I had no idea.
@absbubbs I am so sorry for your loss. Aside from the cost, I wouldn't want to risk being far from home, that would mean about a 2-3 hour car ride home for your days old baby.
@mcvgal ugh...I didn't even think about that. And to remember to bring the carseat just in case, which H took out of his car and hasn't even put back in yet...
@absbubbs I also wouldn't go bc traveling that long would be so uncomfortable this far along. Plus if baby had any problems (hope not) and would have to stay you would be further away.
@absbubbs unfortunately, I wouldn't go either. I have a family event this weekend that is 6 hours away and I'm not going (DD is the 25th). It stinks not being able to go, but the risk isn't worth it.
@absbubbs add me to the list of those that wouldn't go. It's unfortunate to miss that celebration of his life, but remember that your memories will stay with you and that's what counts.
@SWE2 luckily (or maybe unluckily?), if that were to happen, baby would be sent to the same hospital as if we were home, which is the middle hospital. And depending on what the issue was, we could even possibly get a transfer to our own hospital You guys bring up very good points, I'm not sure why I'm struggling with it so much. We both grew up in such a rural area that if we still lived there, we probably wouldn't even second guess it.
I'm having a really hard day today. DH got up with DD but immediately fell asleep on the couch, and barely sees us after preschool before leaving for work (he sets his own hours). Then I got a call from my dr that I missed my appt (it was wrong in my calendar). Office calls right back to re-reschedule for tomorrow. Idk why but I burst into tears after that. Actually, I know why: pregnancy. Then my mom calls, she wants to come tomorrow instead of Friday. Fine. And I feel bad bringing her down since she's visiting an old friend right now. So now I'm in bed and DD is watching a movie. I don't want to get out of bed for the rest of the day.
eta: sorry for the pity party, but I feel a little better just writing it down
@absbubbs I agree with PP about not traveling as hard as that is...I'm sorry you're going through this. Creepy Internet hugs sent your way!
@llenadevida900 So sorry about your rough day. FX you have a better day tomorrow!
@mspacman34 I totally agree with your stance and dread being in your same position again with having to remind people that I don't want people kissin on my NB when he's here or my 2yo for that matter. Stand your ground! Sorry the response from your family was so crappy
Alright, I have a dumb question. My grandma is a retired nurse, but she's also 80 years old and spouts off old wives' tales all the time. She keeps telling me that if I don't take it easy, my uterus won't go back to normal. That's not really a thing, right? I don't even know what she means by it.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 I don't know what your grandma means by the uterus not going back to normal but my mom has always insisted on taking it easy post partum as well. My family is from a really small village in Mexico. The tradition there is to not do anything for 40 days pp. And I mean literally nothing but lay in bed and feed the baby. There's no way I could do that, but people in the village still do.
@kns1988: I agree with the importance of taking it easy pp & allowing yourself the time & space to heal... but no, I've never heard it put quite that way.
I think I am going to make today my last day of work. I'm trying really hard to talk myself into it. I have about 3-4 weeks of annual leave stocked up so using a couple days is no big deal and my boss seems weirded out enough by pregnancy he will tell me to do what I want to avoid hearing details. I am already planning my days.
Tomorrow: planned day off with the husband. Pedicures, food, and antique malls to satisfy nesting instincts and get lots of walking done indoors Monday: get car windows tinted, eat, nap, maybe buy frivolous baby shittery Tuesday: eat, nap, repeat Wednesday: go get labs drawn for cesarean, eat, nap, probably cry a lot Thursday: c section day because my high thick and closed cervix probably isn't becoming a baby door anytime soon.
I think I am going to make today my last day of work. I'm trying really hard to talk myself into it. I have about 3-4 weeks of annual leave stocked up so using a couple days is no big deal and my boss seems weirded out enough by pregnancy he will tell me to do what I want to avoid hearing details. I am already planning my days.
Tomorrow: planned day off with the husband. Pedicures, food, and antique malls to satisfy nesting instincts and get lots of walking done indoors Monday: get car windows tinted, eat, nap, maybe buy frivolous baby shittery Tuesday: eat, nap, repeat Wednesday: go get labs drawn for cesarean, eat, nap, probably cry a lot Thursday: c section day because my high thick and closed cervix probably isn't becoming a baby door anytime soon.
haha I love this!!
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@kns1988 One of the nurses at the midwifery practice I go to said losing your placenta is like leaving behind a placenta-sized wound inside your uterus. She said you need to take it easy postpartum so the uterus can heal the placenta-sized wound well. It makes sense, for a variety of reasons, to me, that taking it easy is important post partum. That being said, I don't think if you overdo it you're messing up your uterus for next time, but I guess if the placenta-sized wound can't heal well, it might be harder on your uterus? If you think you're overdoing it, maybe you should take it easier?
@WombThereItIs Totally do it. Today is my last day and I don't have a cesearan planned. Enjoy!
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@erinh2005 sorry things fizzled out!
I have a mini rant. I asked my mom and SD to not kiss baby on the face especially since I don't know their tdap history. Well my mom went and got one and SD had already had one, great! I still asked them to not kiss DS on the face and my mom got super mad texting me saying I'm making it uncomfortable for them to be around him and asked if they can kiss his a** because that's all they have been doing to me lately to comply with my requests. She also said I should be more concerned about my dogs because they lick their a** then lick DS (they don't lick him) and the dog hair can cause DS to get an infection. And summed it up to me going overboard as a FTM. She has yet to talk to me since and was supposed to come stay a few nights with us. Thanks for the support, mom, that's exactly what I needed right now.
Tell her that your dogs don't lick him, that dogs' tongues are a million times cleaner than humans, and that you can "go overboard" if you damn well please because it's your house, your baby, and your business! (P.S. you are being more than reasonable about the immunizations! They need to lay off!) And as far as kissing your ass, tell your mom that this whole thing is really not about her. She needs to stop making herself the center of attention: You're the one who just went through childbirth! "Yo, mom, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I don't want to hear it." End of story.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Plus, is it @CherryBananas who's our dental hygienist and said newborns shouldn't be kissed on the mouth?
And yes, @starphish18 that's me (although I'm an assistant, not a hygienist). Tooth decay is caused by bacteria. What we are exposed to in the first 6 months of life we carry with us forever. So we tell parents that no one (even mom and dad if they have had quite a bit of dental work) should kiss baby on the lips or put anything from their mouth into the baby's mouth.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
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Look at these little NICU cuties!
I had some car issues this morning, and was going to be about 30 minutes late, and my friend & supervisor thought I was having the baby! lol
@CherryBananas thank you for that information! I didn't realize that it went for even tiny babies.
@CherryBananas I'm not a huge fan of kissing babies on the mouth (hello slobber), but knowing how horrible my teeth are and seeing I can pass it along that way, makes me kind of sad that I really need to remember to not kiss my babe on the mouth for 6 months.
@absbubbs I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you have such a tough decision to make. Big creepy Internet hugs!
@absbubbs I am so sorry for your loss. Aside from the cost, I wouldn't want to risk being far from home, that would mean about a 2-3 hour car ride home for your days old baby.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
You guys bring up very good points, I'm not sure why I'm struggling with it so much. We both grew up in such a rural area that if we still lived there, we probably wouldn't even second guess it.
eta: sorry for the pity party, but I feel a little better just writing it down
@llenadevida900 Sorry you had a hard day! I hope tomorrow is better.
@llenadevida900 So sorry about your rough day. FX you have a better day tomorrow!
@mspacman34 I totally agree with your stance and dread being in your same position again with having to remind people that I don't want people kissin on my NB when he's here or my 2yo for that matter. Stand your ground! Sorry the response from your family was so crappy
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Tomorrow: planned day off with the husband. Pedicures, food, and antique malls to satisfy nesting instincts and get lots of walking done indoors
Monday: get car windows tinted, eat, nap, maybe buy frivolous baby shittery
Tuesday: eat, nap, repeat
Wednesday: go get labs drawn for cesarean, eat, nap, probably cry a lot
Thursday: c section day because my high thick and closed cervix probably isn't becoming a baby door anytime soon.
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@WombThereItIs Totally do it. Today is my last day and I don't have a cesearan planned. Enjoy!
@jayandaplus Yaye for your last day of work!
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
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