Our boy name will be Alexander James, after DH's grandfather and his first name. Our girl name is Clara Louise, a name we love and Louise is my middle name. DD is Lydia Joy!
my OB is confident that this LO is a boy, but we'll find out for certain stout anatomy scan in a few weeks.
@jackiesmom324, I have the same situation with the name Ryan. We can't use it anyway bc of what we named DS and specifically the state in which we live (I promise it makes sense...think baseball). But I wouldn't have minded a little boy named Ryan.
As a compromise, though, it was on our list for middle names, and my brother and his wife were going to do the same after their loss (use the name of the baby as a middle) but they never ended up having another boy. Could you possibly do that to keep the name significant without watering down the loss? I think using it as a middle actually does the opposite of watering it down; it shows the significance of that child in your lives and honors him/her.
Ok so now that we are team pink, we have to figure out a name. Haha. We want to go with Elliott but we're having a hard time coming up with a middle name. If you have any suggestions, let me know. We've been through a ton already.
we don't know boy or girl yet, so we haven't actually decided on names, but i'll ask you ladies what you think of MY ideas. lol!
jade (this is my #1 and has been for like 10 years lol. DH says its a stripper name) hazel drina
My cousin just named their little girl Jaide (not crazy about the spelling), but I think it's cute and not widely used! I love Hazel too, but it's definitely more common. The only fear I have with Drina is everyone will ask is it short for something. I immediately think Audrina and I fear the name looks a bit incomplete.
we don't know boy or girl yet, so we haven't actually decided on names, but i'll ask you ladies what you think of MY ideas. lol!
jade (this is my #1 and has been for like 10 years lol. DH says its a stripper name) hazel drina
Stuck in a box...
Great list @AMCsquared! Hazel is my absolute favourite. Hands down. Now I love me some old men and lady names, so that explains a lot I like Jade. It's pretty and understated. To me Drina feels like it's missing something, My first reaction was what @tmk0325 wrote. What are your DH's options?
I originally planned to name my baby after my FIL or my mom, so names were going to be George or Valerie. But then I got sad about not being able to use names I've loved forever, so now the plan is to take two names per sex to the hospital and decide after the baby is born.
That seems really wise @NME44, I sometimes feel like we gave DD a super girly name and I'm not sure it fits her but I also don't know that I got a good sense of her in the hospital either so I wish I could have held off like the first year!
@andipandicWed121369, with my other kids I just *knew* their names were right for them. I think with this one my issue was feeling like I had no choice in the matter. Now that I'm open to considering other names, the original two aren't sounding so dull, if that makes sense? Cecily is a beautiful name, but Valerie sounds better with my daughter's name (Cecily is very similar to my daughter's name.)
Our boy name will be Alexander James, after DH's grandfather and his first name. Our girl name is Clara Louise, a name we love and Louise is my middle name. DD is Lydia Joy!
my OB is confident that this LO is a boy, but we'll find out for certain stout anatomy scan in a few weeks.
@AMCsquared I love both Jade and Hazel! Hazel is my favorite, but our last name starts with H and had a z in it, so it sounds absurd together! I agree that Drina sounds like a NN to me.
@tmk0325 interesting spelling with the added I. not for me, but interesting lol. @ngarciabyu@jellybelly119 thanks for the feedback! @kyrwyn i still feel like drina is a little odd LOL. thank u though. @fakefinn DH just keeps saying jade is a stripper name, but likes hazel. he feels strongly about a boy name that i HATE but is basically saying he'll be flexible with girl names since he wants the 1 boy name. @danacreate haha i LOVE that idea haha. i'm going to use my maiden name as all of my kids' middle names, but its still not the same bc lets be real, no one uses their middle name ever.
Me: 31 DH: 32 DH since 12.2009 Married 08.2013 EDD 12.2017
Our boy name will be Alexander James, after DH's grandfather and his first name. Our girl name is Clara Louise, a name we love and Louise is my middle name. DD is Lydia Joy!
my OB is confident that this LO is a boy, but we'll find out for certain stout anatomy scan in a few weeks.
Oh hey there friend! Love all of your names! I am definitely going to run Clara by DH should this LO be a girl. Our boy name is James Allan
Has anyone been told by friends or family that they can't use a certain name? As in someone else is claiming it? When we first announced our pregnancy my sister in law (as in got married that same weekend that I announced) said you can't use Patrick or Eugene.. those are mine. They are both family names... I hadn't been looking at names yet- but Patrick is my husbands middle name...
They just got married and no plans to get pregnant right away/ I don't think they have a right to call dibs on a name. Rant over haha
@balletnerd Nope. You can't call dibs on a name. Especially family names. That's just rude or wishful thinking on her part. We have duplicate names in a generation and across generations in our large family and we just end up making up nicknames. At one point we had Great Scott, Old Scott, Big Scott, Little Scott and Scotty all alive and distinct within my mom's side of the clan (4 generations represented at the time).
@balletnerd I noticed that non-pregnant friends were wanting to tell me their baby names that they want to use after they found out I was pregnant. I kept telling people that I didn't want to hear them, because what if I really liked one or had already thought of it?! It would seem like I was stealing, so I told people to not tell me, but some insisted so I wouldn't use their name. It's so ridiculous, you can't call dibs on a name, especially in your situation with the family names! If you want to use one of those, go for it!
@balletnerd Oh yeah, my non-pregnant cousin told be that "her names" are Suzanne for a girl, James for a boy. Suzanne is our grandmother's name. I looked her straight in the face and told her that she can't claim names. People are ridiculous.
Yeah, it would be one thing if you knew your BFF had always planned to name her daughter Sadie, and then you "stole" that name. If it's a family name--tough luck. You can't ban all your siblings/cousins from naming a kid after your grandfather. Now, if you were both pregnant at the same time, it'd be a little more tricky.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
So my dad HATES the name we chose (Wilhelmina Diana nn Willa) and to this day, he claims he can't pronounce DD's middle name... It's Phillippa. Full disclosure, so don't be creepy, guys... My maiden name is Phillips. And he can't figure it out? Yeah. Okay.
@vvitchhazel ugggg so frustrating. We love the name Emerson but my mil can't say it. She already butchers my DD' name. It's Emmalyn and she calls her Emmalun. Drives me bananas. So I refuse to name this one Emerson for her to mess up too.
Yeah, it would be one thing if you knew your BFF had always planned to name her daughter Sadie, and then you "stole" that name. If it's a family name--tough luck. You can't ban all your siblings/cousins from naming a kid after your grandfather. Now, if you were both pregnant at the same time, it'd be a little more tricky.
I totally agree with you! My SIL is pregnant too and I'm curious what they'll end up naming the baby. Also, because I don't want our kids to have the same/really similar names. However, if it would be the same family name as middle name, I wouldn't worry/mind at all.
About 3 years ago I was talking to my BFF about names. We both weren't pregnant and not planning on it. She said that she and her Italian boyfriend were into Olivia. I said 'I love Olivia too!' and she was like 'but we LOVE it!' I let it slide, because it was hypothetical, but I also thought 'What if you never have a girl?' and 'It's Olivia! Only one of the most popular names at the moment. It's not like it's Drusilla.' The odds of someone you know using it are pretty high. She and her BF ended up breaking up and I've never heard of the name again. People, situations and times change.
When i first found out I was pregnant with the twins (we didn't know the gender) I told one of my best friends and she was like just don't use the name Whitley, that's mine. I was like uhm don't worry, I won't, it's not my style. Now that I'm pregnant with number 3 and she isn't anywhere near having children, she's like never mind I don't think we'd use that anymore. Where is the face palm emoji when you need it?
@vvitchhazel My mother has decided our name is not his name (Memphis), and that she just can't get used to it. This name has been picked out for two years, and it already seems right.
She is making us a list of acceptable names. I told her that if she wants to find a way to carry and deliver this baby maybe she can name him too.
@vvitchhazel & @AFrye0726 My mom does this. I'm so used to it now I just let it slide and let her have her moment. She always comes around and it's less stress on me. I used to get so worked up about it when I was younger, but now I'm like uhhh okay crazy lady, you do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel better lol. Ultimately, it's my decision.
Plus, she named me Sara in the 90s. Ya get no say!
@dkizz82 As I may have mentioned before, I love the name Rosalie. DH doesn't like it because he has trouble saying it. I keep telling him he could just use the nickname Rosie instead, but I am also like, IT IS NOT HARD TO SAY!
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
Re: Names for LO?
Our girl name is Clara Louise, a name we love and Louise is my middle name.
DD is Lydia Joy!
my OB is confident that this LO is a boy, but we'll find out for certain stout anatomy scan in a few weeks.
As a compromise, though, it was on our list for middle names, and my brother and his wife were going to do the same after their loss (use the name of the baby as a middle) but they never ended up having another boy. Could you possibly do that to keep the name significant without watering down the loss? I think using it as a middle actually does the opposite of watering it down; it shows the significance of that child in your lives and honors him/her.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
jade (this is my #1 and has been for like 10 years lol. DH says its a stripper name)
hazel
drina
My cousin just named their little girl Jaide (not crazy about the spelling), but I think it's cute and not widely used! I love Hazel too, but it's definitely more common. The only fear I have with Drina is everyone will ask is it short for something. I immediately think Audrina and I fear the name looks a bit incomplete.
Married 4/22/16
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so a girl will be Cecily or Valerie.
a boy will be Bennett or George.
either way the baby will have two middle names.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
They just got married and no plans to get pregnant right away/ I don't think they have a right to call dibs on a name. Rant over haha
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
About 3 years ago I was talking to my BFF about names. We both weren't pregnant and not planning on it. She said that she and her Italian boyfriend were into Olivia. I said 'I love Olivia too!' and she was like 'but we LOVE it!' I let it slide, because it was hypothetical, but I also thought 'What if you never have a girl?' and 'It's Olivia! Only one of the most popular names at the moment. It's not like it's Drusilla.' The odds of someone you know using it are pretty high. She and her BF ended up breaking up and I've never heard of the name again. People, situations and times change.
She is making us a list of acceptable names. I told her that if she wants to find a way to carry and deliver this baby maybe she can name him too.
I feel ya, parents can be the worst sometimes..
Plus, she named me Sara in the 90s. Ya get no say!
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017