@nda_roxybabe you sit in the shower or the tub? lol I couldn't imagine sitting down in the shower...I wouldn't be able to get back up!
In the shower. I get down to about 6 inches from the ground then I have to kind of slide or plop the rest of the way. Then getting up...ha. Roll onto all 4's, dip into a yogi squat and liiiiiiift. It's hilarious looking I am sure. I'm wearing dresses every day though, I have to shave!
@nda_roxybabe wow! Look at you! I don't even know if I'd have room to do all of that in the shower! I'd probably fall over and break the door! I'm wearing dresses all of the time too and shave maybe 2x a week but usually 1. I have blonde hair so you can't tell. Plus I don't care anymore lol
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Ugh I'm having a shaving issue as well! Our shower is a corner stall without a seat or anything. There is a ledge/inset for shampoo etc but it's about hip/waist height. I'm still making myself hoist the leg up onto that but it's pretty humorous!
As far as laundry goes I do 99.9% in this house unfortunately. But I'm not a great housewife. I currently have two very full baskets of clean clothes that need to be folded and put away... luckily I wear scrubs to work and he wears a denim/cotton type uniform every day and neither really are wrinkle prone. And the rest of our clothes are basically lounging clothes at this point. And he's the opposite about towels. He'll use the same one for FAR too long and when I take it to wash it he's like "where's my towel?" Ugh. It smelled mildew-y so I took it downstairs!! Use one of the 50 others that we have!
I nudged my husband into channeling his OCD traits into laundry so I'm basically not allowed to do it anymore because I don't do it "right". Between what gets washed together, what is air dried, what gets which detergent etc I'd say he does 7 different loads each week? I just get called in to help fold and put away.
We have a shelf for shaving that works well, the real trick is getting my leg up on the bathroom counter so I can lotion them. Husband just saw me do this while he was in the shower and congratulated me. It's quite the scene!
This is more of a UO (except probably not a UO here), but I am so judgmental about co-sleeping. I'm trying to hold back after a friend posted something about co-sleeping on facebook. No one will ever convince me that co-sleeping is a good idea with a baby. I wish people would listen to the experts.
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@kns1988 What do you mean by "co-sleeping"? There are a variety of ways this is done, and experts promote it. Rooming in is a form of co-sleeping. Co-sleeping can also mean in the same bed. We plan to co-sleep with the baby in a bassinet next to my side of the bed. I know we're always roses at May17, but there are some of us who are crunchy granola mamas, and I feel like we bite our tongue sometimes when these UO arise, but I just wanted to clarify that "co-sleeping" is a very broad term.
@kns1988 What do you mean by "co-sleeping"? There are a variety of ways this is done, and experts promote it. Rooming in is a form of co-sleeping. Co-sleeping can also mean in the same bed. We plan to co-sleep with the baby in a bassinet next to my side of the bed. I know we're always roses at May17, but there are some of us who are crunchy granola mamas, and I feel like we bite our tongue sometimes when these UO arise, but I just wanted to clarify that "co-sleeping" is a very broad term.
I didn't realize there's more than 1 definition of co-sleeping. We are also sleeping with DS in our room for the first 6 months, which is recommended by the CDC. The co-sleeping I'm talking about is in the bed with the parents. Someone posted about how their baby is like an octopus in bed and they weren't getting any sleep - WTF is the baby doing in their bed?? It's just so dangerous.
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@kns1988 I was right there with you before I had kids (which I know is also annoying to hear). And I agree with you as far as the listening to the experts. But my feeling is that this is just another one of those subjects in women's health that doesn't have nearly enough data/research to convince me we have been given all the answers. For example, I'm actually really excited about the notion (another new term) of "breast-sleeping". Not at all that it's a be all end all to the discussion but I'm just happy to see there's more being done on this front. I think we all do what's best for our LO's whether it's what we thought we might do going in or if it's a progression/extension of what works for our given situation.
@kns1988 Thanks for clarifying. DH is against co-sleeping in the same bed, but I'm not convinced it's not something we won't consider/do down the line, once our LO is old enough. My best friend's daughter is 5 and still joins the parents in bed every night. It works for them, all three of them. It might not be for me or you, but who's to say what's best for the family unit as long as safety is considered. I understand your concerns about a baby co-sleeping in the same bed, but even in that case there are ways to optimize safety. There are risks to everything parents do, and every stage of a child's life. It's about minimizing those risks, and maximizing benefits.
The ppl I eye-rolled the most though were the ones who complained about having their kids in bed. Like the octopus comment... in that case maybe it's not so much working for everyone and they should consider other arrangements. Annoyin.
@kns1988 100% agree. I think the term you're referring to is bed sharing. I am completely against bed sharing with a child under the age of 2. I think once they get older it is fine, but especially under the age of 1 I find it SO risky.
We'll be rooming in with a bassinet by our bed--we would be in any case, but especially since we're in a one-bedroom apartment!--but I can't fathom the idea of bed sharing. I think I would worry too much to be able to sleep anyways! We actually took a breastfeeding class at our hospital a few weeks ago, and the instructor kept saying that bed sharing was safer than any other sleeping arrangement for babies who are exclusively breastfed. I pushed back a bit because everything else I've read says otherwise, but she just kept repeating it (and not explaining why) like she was hypnotized and could only say the same thing over and over again. Eventually she mentioned that it was safe because baby learns to keep up breathing, heartbeat, etc. based on hearing yours. She also said that my body would just know not to roll over onto the baby. Thanks, but I don't trust my sleepy self that much! And my baby will be like a foot away from me, so hopefully she'll get the same benefits without the risks...
(This woman's attitude was also that breastfeeding could solve ALL of the world's problems--I think I could have convinced her to say that it was good at keeping up a thriving unicorn population--and there was no conceivable reason why someone would ever formula feed, so I took her bed-sharing advice with a grain of salt. To clarify, I'm very pro breastfeeding but believe that fed is best and moms shouldn't be judged!)
@kns1988 I always have assumed co-sleeping and bed-sharing were interchangeable definitions as well. Rooming-in is completely different, baby in a separate bed in the room, and a side-car type of bed would still be rooming-in for me, that's not what I would consider co-sleeping.
For the record, we don't co-sleep either. It's just not safe under 2yrs old. Last night my DH kneed me right in the back without even knowing it or waking up and he's a petty light sleeper. I can't imagine if a baby had been there.
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@hp_momma I've had to wake and roll H off the dog who I can hear struggling to breath trapped under H's leg. I've also had to wake H off of me. He's like a log and oblivious. Even if we were both aware, it's so not safe.
@nda_roxybabe that made me laugh because my husband is the same way. He also likes to lift his left arm up and put it behind his head while asleep thus smacking me in the face nightly with his elbow. I am pretty lucky he hasn't given me a black eye with the elbow. We had ds sleep in the room in his bassinet for 11 weeks then I was going back to work so it was time for me to get him out of the room. He was soooo loud, grunting in his sleep! I do not want him in my bed ever, not even for play time. I never want him sneaking in from a bad dream or anything when he's older. No matter the safety I just could never have him sleep with me- its a slippery slope. There are many nights he looks soo cute on the monitor I want to go sleep in the crib with him and I am sure that makes me sound weird but no in my bed ever.
We kept DD in our room in a bassinet until she started sleeping a 6hr stretch over night, which is when we started putting her in her crib in her room. She never slept in bed with us.
This baby will also be in the bassinet in our room for a while. Eventually we'll transition to the crib, but probably remain in our room until he's sleeping through the night since he'll be sharing a room with DD. We have no plans to have him sleep in bed with us.
We're both light sleepers, but sleep deprivation is no joke. It's a risk we're not willing to take.
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I had a friend from high school that would co sleep (bedshare Whatever) with her baby. One night while breast feeding in bed she fell asleep and suffocated her little boy. DH and I are both in agreement on baby in their own bed and even after 2 only on special occasions as we don't want kids in our bed.
I think we all agree. I wasn't trying to argue @kns1988. I would not bedshare with an infant, for all of the safety risks. Not worth it. I'm worried enough about accidentally falling asleep breastfeeding.
I think we all agree. I wasn't trying to argue @kns1988. I would not bedshare with an infant, for all of the safety risks. Not worth it. I'm worried enough about accidentally falling asleep breastfeeding.
I'm glad we agree! As far as the bolded, I'm extra cautious and I get out of bed and sit in a rocking chair when I feed him at night so that I don't accidentally fall asleep. My mom wanted me to get a comfortable glider so that I could sleep while I hold him and I told her she was crazy - I have an old fashioned rocking chair that I have no intention of falling asleep in. I'm the kind of person that will fall asleep at the drop of a hat, so I have to be careful.
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I think we all agree. I wasn't trying to argue @kns1988. I would not bedshare with an infant, for all of the safety risks. Not worth it. I'm worried enough about accidentally falling asleep breastfeeding.
I'm glad we agree! As far as the bolded, I'm extra cautious and I get out of bed and sit in a rocking chair when I feed him at night so that I don't accidentally fall asleep. My mom wanted me to get a comfortable glider so that I could sleep while I hold him and I told her she was crazy - I have an old fashioned rocking chair that I have no intention of falling asleep in. I'm the kind of person that will fall asleep at the drop of a hat, so I have to be careful.
I have fallen asleep with DD in my lap nursing, woke up to her in a perfect milk slumber but definitely startled me to discover I had fallen asleep for sometimes over an hour! Luckily I was propped up and sitting in the middle of my flattened out futon instead of in bed. But still, it didn't sit well with me and I made a point of havinf a snack, water, streaming music or something on my phone or tablet to keep me awake.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Well, DS has slept in bed with me since our first night in hospital. Bar a few months around 4-7 months and again around 2yrs where he slept in his own bed most nights. I'm not going to defend it and say it's the "safest" way for babies to sleep, and I don't plan on doing it this time around (mainly because DS kicks quite hard in his sleep sometimes) There is a lot of anacdotal information surrounding bed sharing though, it is not the safest option, but if done correctly, neither parent is effected by drugs or alcohol, neither parent smoke etc, it is NOT unsafe either, no more so than sleeping in something like a RNP, or car seat, neither of which are recommended but are often done.
So maybe we have just had our first disagreement here...
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My grandma is apparently asking my parents when she should be expecting her thank-you card from the shower. I'M WORKING ON IT. Is it bad that now I want to send hers last?
My grandma is apparently asking my parents when she should be expecting her thank-you card from the shower. I'M WORKING ON IT. Is it bad that now I want to send hers last?
My FIL's best friend called him to complain he hadn't received a thank you note 2 weeks after our wedding... we were in the middle of moving.
@BabyMC517@ChristinaWild@WombThereItIs Thanks for the solidarity! I was like...am I just being too mean and stubborn for thinking this?! I'm sure I won't actually send hers last. I really do appreciate the gift and want to make sure she's properly thanked, but I just feel so in over my head right now that it set me off a bit (and my poor dad bore the brunt of it...although he really should have known not to pass along a message like that!).
@L1C4gal and @WombThereItIs who are these people demanding thank you notes? I'm all about etiquette but come on! Are you really that excited about a thank you note?
Plus I thought proper etiquette was you could wait until after the baby is born to send thank you notes? Or is that just wishful thinking on my part?!
You probably could. But personally I'm trying to get them all out of the way because once baby's here I will have better things to do! (Like sleep)
@rosemarylaff I googled it and apparently the Emily Post standard is up to two months after the baby is born. But I do agree with @ShadeofGreen816 -- before the baby gets here would probably make life easier! I'm aiming for that but we'll see...we had a lot of shower guests (H's family is humongous) so it'll take some time.
The ppl I eye-rolled the most though were the ones who complained about having their kids in bed. Like the octopus comment... in that case maybe it's not so much working for everyone and they should consider other arrangements. Annoyin.
Playing catch-up here. I'm pretty sure all sides of the bedsharing discussion have been raised, so it's all good and I'm not resurrecting the topic.
But @erinh2005, that article does not even answer its own question! I would have enjoyed learning about breast-sleeping, had it been clearly defined, in like a sentence or two, you know what I mean?
(There's probably more resources out there re this topic that I could go looking for, but, you know, sleep-deprived brain cells and all...)
Ugggggghhhh you guys someone stole my identity! I have been getting calls from a number with no caller ID saying they're from JC Penney and that I owe money on an account. I don't have JC Penney account so I was ignoring them for a bit, but today went and called JC Penney myself through the number on their webpage and it turns out someone opened a credit account in my name. To open the account they needed to have my name, phone number, address (they had an old address from two houses ago, but still), and apparently my social security number?!?! Or at least the last four digits of my social security number. I got the account closed and they are investigating but now I have to deal with figuring out all the next steps involved with this. Certainly not what I want to deal with right now. If anyone has ever been through this and wants to give me any advice on what steps I need to take I would appreciate it!
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
As far as laundry goes I do 99.9% in this house unfortunately. But I'm not a great housewife. I currently have two very full baskets of clean clothes that need to be folded and put away... luckily I wear scrubs to work and he wears a denim/cotton type uniform every day and neither really are wrinkle prone. And the rest of our clothes are basically lounging clothes at this point. And he's the opposite about towels. He'll use the same one for FAR too long and when I take it to wash it he's like "where's my towel?" Ugh. It smelled mildew-y so I took it downstairs!! Use one of the 50 others that we have!
We have a shelf for shaving that works well, the real trick is getting my leg up on the bathroom counter so I can lotion them. Husband just saw me do this while he was in the shower and congratulated me. It's quite the scene!
May '17 labor memes
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
But it anyway here's this link if anyone's interested:
https://www.breastfeedingplace.com/what-exactly-is-breastsleeping/
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Never believed in it before kids and still don't now even with a toddler that did.not.effing.sleep for 13 months.
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(This woman's attitude was also that breastfeeding could solve ALL of the world's problems--I think I could have convinced her to say that it was good at keeping up a thriving unicorn population--and there was no conceivable reason why someone would ever formula feed, so I took her bed-sharing advice with a grain of salt. To clarify, I'm very pro breastfeeding but believe that fed is best and moms shouldn't be judged!)
For the record, we don't co-sleep either. It's just not safe under 2yrs old. Last night my DH kneed me right in the back without even knowing it or waking up and he's a petty light sleeper. I can't imagine if a baby had been there.
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
We had ds sleep in the room in his bassinet for 11 weeks then I was going back to work so it was time for me to get him out of the room. He was soooo loud, grunting in his sleep! I do not want him in my bed ever, not even for play time. I never want him sneaking in from a bad dream or anything when he's older. No matter the safety I just could never have him sleep with me- its a slippery slope. There are many nights he looks soo cute on the monitor I want to go sleep in the crib with him and I am sure that makes me sound weird but no in my bed ever.
This baby will also be in the bassinet in our room for a while. Eventually we'll transition to the crib, but probably remain in our room until he's sleeping through the night since he'll be sharing a room with DD. We have no plans to have him sleep in bed with us.
We're both light sleepers, but sleep deprivation is no joke. It's a risk we're not willing to take.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I'm not going to defend it and say it's the "safest" way for babies to sleep, and I don't plan on doing it this time around (mainly because DS kicks quite hard in his sleep sometimes)
There is a lot of anacdotal information surrounding bed sharing though, it is not the safest option, but if done correctly, neither parent is effected by drugs or alcohol, neither parent smoke etc, it is NOT unsafe either, no more so than sleeping in something like a RNP, or car seat, neither of which are recommended but are often done.
So maybe we have just had our first disagreement here...
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
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But @erinh2005, that article does not even answer its own question! I would have enjoyed learning about breast-sleeping, had it been clearly defined, in like a sentence or two, you know what I mean?
(There's probably more resources out there re this topic that I could go looking for, but, you know, sleep-deprived brain cells and all...)