I have zero energy today. My sleep is sucking because my hips are so sore every night. I know I was not this uncomfortable or this tired when I was pregnant with DD.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Whelp, today's boredom led me to online shopping. I got a few more rompers, dresses, and shorts for this LO, as well as a car seat cover (as I found out the nursing scarf/cover I was gifted didn't actually fit).
Not sure if this deserves its own thread but there is a listeria recall on Aunt Jemima frozen pancakes, waffles, & French Toast. Given we are all stocking up on frozen food...
This is our last weekend before baby, and it's pretty jam-packed. I had a nice brunch with a bunch of other expectant moms in my town this morning, and my husband and I dressed up and went to a Kentucky Derby party this afternoon. Play date tomorrow morning, and possibly a pedicure later on. We're basically ready to go on the baby front in terms of prep, but the mental anxiety of what lies ahead is ramping up. Four more days!
Baby shower was low key, but nice and now I have leftover party food to munch on which I am a level of excited about that only pregnant women get. Next goal: get this baby out!
RE: salon mirrors...I refuse to look. I seriously hate it. Every blemish and imperfection is magnified, I swear. Same with dressing rooms...you'd think they'd have more flattering lighting so you'd be more inclined to but clothes.
RE: package theives...when DD was a few months old, my aunts and cousins sent DD boxes of clothes from their girls that were either barely worn or never worn and it was nice, expensive stuff. Sent another box around 6m and it never made it. I was so upset and I hope whoever took it got some good use out of it because DH had just lost his job and we really could've used those clothes to stretch our budget. I'd like to think that now if someone tried to pull that I would come oit guns blazing, ready to lecture and report.
@OmegaRose3 Yay for your shower and leftover food.
I read a bunch, but am a bit too fried to respond to all. @BeachMommy2B I hope DD has a better weekend/week than the last. @kns1988 I hear ya on needing alone time. Hope you got to enjoy some!
We cleaned the whole house today. Like, hands and knees, scrubbing baseboards and walls and everything. This house is ready. I'm ready. DH went to bed, but I'm wide awake. I want to cry until this baby comes out. I feel like I'm on the verge of losing it.
@jayandaplus hang in there mama! How far along are you again? Oh, and I wanted to follow up with your intermittent FMLA/work stuff... how did all of that pan out?
@mrsrep123 Thanks! I'm so uncomfortable I'm struggling. I'm 37.1, but I have uterine irritability so I've been having serious cramping and minicontractions for 2 weeks. I had to take two weeks off work, and the intermittent FMLA is still up in the air. I go back to work Wednesday if I'm still pregnant, but I'm scared about doing my job in my current physical state. Now I'm just venting and rambling, sorry.
@jayandaplus Yay for having your house ready...you now have me thinking about the cleanliness of my baseboards. I'm sorry your feeling anxious (is that the right word for this?) to get baby out. FX that your LO comes soon!
@jayandaplus I'm sorry you've been so uncomfortable. I see your posts all the time but didn't realize it's been 2 WEEKS of uterine irritability . I'm impressed you've been accomplishing so much at home. As far as work, it's such B.S. If anything, you should be on modified duty. I'm trying to find the document I was given where it breaks down pregnancy weeks and what tasks you can still perform. Basically after 32 weeks, everything RNs do is a no-no. But since you're already 37+1, and symptomatic, you probably would rather stay home but have your job protected, right?
@mrsrep123 Yeah, I don't want to lose my job which I feel has already been threatened. If I take any more FMLA I won't have any time with this baby, so I'm okay going back to work, now that I'm term. I'm just ready for this next job, the mom job. Thanks for the support. It's helping me keep the tears in.
Please everyone do yourselves a favor and get thyself to a prenatal massage. I went today (thanks DH!) and it was bliss! I want you all to have one too!
@jayandaplus - Two weeks of uterine irritability sounds absolutely miserable! It really sucks that your job isn't being more cooperative with leave or light duty. No nurses union? I hope your mom job starts soon!
Hi! Totally lurking more these days. Im struggling to keep up since my mom got here a few days ago. We have been spending a lot of time together doing errands, taking DD out, stocking up on groceries etc. Our pantry try and fridge/freezer are ridiculously full now. We also had a nice dinner date just the two of us last night, and DH and I have plan to get out for a date tonight. Then this LO can come whenever he wants ha. While the days have been nice, just like most everybody here, Im so exhausted from crap quality sleep. And on top of that DD woke an hour early today.
Package thief update: Our neighbor found our missing package next to her trash can in the alley, opened and rifled through. She brought it over last night, and everything was in there! I'm so relieved! Handmade baby blankets take time, and I felt really bad that it went missing. I just hope our friend didn't start making a new one...
If I catch the thief in the act, I'd take their picture through the window and call the cops. Then I'd plaster their picture all over the neighborhood and on our neighborhood listserv. Chances are they live nearby.
@cclaineDC - how great that you were able to get your package and all of its contents! It would be awesome if you could catch that thief. Maybe set up a trap after baby's birth?
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@cclaineDC glad you got your blankets back. Maybe you should look into the door bells with cameras. We have one that records video if it senses any movement or if someone rings the doorbell. It then sends us alerts to our phones. And the video is kept on the cloud.
I'm so glad you were able to get your package back, @cclaineDC! Homemade baby blankets are really special and I was so sad to hear it was stolen.
DH and I got all moved into the camp this morning. I'm looking forward being down here so that DH can finally get all of the work that he needs to get done before camp starts. It's been an up and down day for us, though. We've been getting irritated with each other the past week that we've been home, and we're usually one of those annoying couples that never fights or argues. It's making me kind of sad, but I know it's just exhaustion and stress. We're at least talking about it when it happens. I've seen couples change when they have kids, and I really don't want that to happen to us.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
So much catching up! About the Amazon packages - that sucks! But so glad the handmade blanket was apparently not appealing to the thieves! I have to say I'm in a pretty quiet neighborhood so I'm not too worried about stealing, but I love that delivery drivers don't ring the bell. As a dog owner, I HATE listening to my dog lose his mind over packages being delivered. @mrsrep123@jayandaplus 100% to the fact that most of my job is not recommended for pregnant women! Unfortunately my hospital did away with modified duty recently unless you have a work-related injury. So if I needed time off I'd have to take FMLA. Which is crap. Luckily I haven't had issues but it's not right in general!
Today I feel awful. I keep thinking maybe it's pre-prodromal labor but I think it's just that this LO is too big for her home these days and all her movements are kind of painful/uncomfortable now. Just generally having a day where I feel like she's sucking the life out of me! THREE more weeks of this? At least. I don't get the feeling that she's in any hurry as much as I would be ok with it!
@cclaineDC I'm so glad the package was found, and it's contents nonetheless! @ShadeofGreen816 Yeah, I've been forced to use FMLA. The way we treat pregnant women in this country saddens me.
I hope your LO moves into a more comfortable position!
@ShadeofGreen816 I feel you with the whole "too big for her home" thing. This LO constantly has her foot sticking into the side of my stomach.
I'm kind of bummed right now because it's hitting me that I'm in a very different place than my friends. I'm not looking forward to putting myself out there to make new mom friends, but I know it's something I should do.
@starphish18 I can't remember if you're a FTM, but if you are I totally get that feeling. I was the first of my friends to have kids and now 2.5 years later I'm still the only one (although one close friend is pregnant!). I don't see my friends as much as I would like but we've all remained very close despite our lives being very different. It helps immensely that little babies are very portable and you can easily bring them to brunch or happy hour. H and I also try to make sure we take turns watching DS so the other can get out with friends every other week or so. It really has worked well!
Now if you're a STM worried about the added challenge of two kids (bringing 2 to happy hour seems a little less doable) and how to maintain mom friends, I can't help you there. I'm worried about the same thing.
My husband does not understand wedding etiquette. We were invited to a wedding on June 3rd, and I don't want to go because it'll be a big drinking event and Jay is too young for me to want to leave him with anyone. DH thinks he can just invite someone else to go because he "has a plus 1." It's not a plus 1 if it was addressed to me...
This same couple that's getting married invited one of our friends without inviting his live in, serious girlfriend of 4 years. DH didn't see it as a problem because they don't know her.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Ok I really really really hate online RSVPs however, my brother and future SIL have one and it is literally spelled out for you who is invited. You type your name in the RSVP and whoever was invited comes up, no extras or anything. It's very interesting. Sorry your husband isn't getting it @kns1988
@kns1988 I would be frustrated too! Plus I feel that after you have a wedding you realize how important cutting the guest list/ only having so many to keep numbers in order are. We have a wedding this summer and my aunt is going to come watch LO in our room while we go to the wedding. Is it an option to do that? Or reserve an extra room to have a sitter stay with him while you are at the wedding? Then you can stop to pump and check on him and you wouldn't have to leave him over night.
@starphish18 I feel you! This is my second, and I was the first of my friends, though not family, to have a baby. I just met up last week with some other moms with newborns or almost-borns for a new playgroup. I left with the feeling of "but I don't want new friends!" But I know it's good for me and will be good for LO when she's a little older. @RainyDays86 is totally right though - just because you have one (or more) children doesn't mean you can't have friends! Honestly, staying social (with adults) will keep you sane GL
@starphish18 I tend to host girls nights at my house more often, since I Am the only one with little kids. Us girls get to catch up and the kids still get to sleep at a decent time. Like pp mentioned the newborn /infant phase is still pretty easy to haul baby around to brunch /happy hour.
So is it a problem if only one ankle is super swollen? I've noticed that over the past week I'm getting swelling but it's only in my right ankle. Over the past two days it has gotten really significant - my ankle is huge! My left foot and ankle are swollen too but not nearly as much. I didn't have any foot or ankle swelling with DS (unicorn) so this all may be totally normal just different for me. My BP hasn't been great every week, I don't have any vision changes, and I'm not in pain. Is it worth a call tomorrow? Or is this something I need to endure for the next three or so weeks.
So is it a problem if only one ankle is super swollen? I've noticed that over the past week I'm getting swelling but it's only in my right ankle. Over the past two days it has gotten really significant - my ankle is huge! My left foot and ankle are swollen too but not nearly as much. I didn't have any foot or ankle swelling with DS (unicorn) so this all may be totally normal just different for me. My BP hasn't been great every week, I don't have any vision changes, and I'm not in pain. Is it worth a call tomorrow? Or is this something I need to endure for the next three or so weeks.
I vote for calling in! I have heard uneven swelling could be a symptom.
@RainyDays86 uneven swelling definitely requires at least a call, worse case they tell you it's nothing, but uneven or sudden onset both require at least a call.
Me - 22 | DH - 32 | Married - 24 May 2014 DS - January 2014
TTC#2 - December 2015
BFP - 6 March 2016 | MC Confirmed - 21 March 2016 TTCAL | April 2016 CP | June 2016 CP | July 2016
@SWE2, I would do that if I wanted to go. If I'm being honest, the baby is partially an excuse so that I don't have to. I love weddings, but this crowd drinks way too much for me.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@RainyDays86 - I had uneven swelling with my first pregnancy - like one normal leg/foot and one like a balloon. The time to worry is if the swollen one is red, hurting, or hot to the touch - it could be a sign of a blood clot. My OB told me if none of those things were happening that it could just be the way the baby was sitting in there - maybe putting more pressure on one side than the other. But, your docs are there to answer your questions, so I wouldn't hesitate to call if it would ease your mind!
Re: Weekend Chat/Randoms 5/6 - 5/7
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
https://www.latimes.com/nation/nationnow/la-na-jemima-20170506-story.html
RE: salon mirrors...I refuse to look. I seriously hate it. Every blemish and imperfection is magnified, I swear. Same with dressing rooms...you'd think they'd have more flattering lighting so you'd be more inclined to but clothes.
RE: package theives...when DD was a few months old, my aunts and cousins sent DD boxes of clothes from their girls that were either barely worn or never worn and it was nice, expensive stuff. Sent another box around 6m and it never made it. I was so upset and I hope whoever took it got some good use out of it because DH had just lost his job and we really could've used those clothes to stretch our budget. I'd like to think that now if someone tried to pull that I would come oit guns blazing, ready to lecture and report.
I read a bunch, but am a bit too fried to respond to all. @BeachMommy2B I hope DD has a better weekend/week than the last. @kns1988 I hear ya on needing alone time. Hope you got to enjoy some!
We cleaned the whole house today. Like, hands and knees, scrubbing baseboards and walls and everything. This house is ready. I'm ready. DH went to bed, but I'm wide awake. I want to cry until this baby comes out. I feel like I'm on the verge of losing it.
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
If I catch the thief in the act, I'd take their picture through the window and call the cops. Then I'd plaster their picture all over the neighborhood and on our neighborhood listserv. Chances are they live nearby.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
DH and I got all moved into the camp this morning. I'm looking forward being down here so that DH can finally get all of the work that he needs to get done before camp starts. It's been an up and down day for us, though. We've been getting irritated with each other the past week that we've been home, and we're usually one of those annoying couples that never fights or argues. It's making me kind of sad, but I know it's just exhaustion and stress. We're at least talking about it when it happens. I've seen couples change when they have kids, and I really don't want that to happen to us.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
About the Amazon packages - that sucks! But so glad the handmade blanket was apparently not appealing to the thieves! I have to say I'm in a pretty quiet neighborhood so I'm not too worried about stealing, but I love that delivery drivers don't ring the bell. As a dog owner, I HATE listening to my dog lose his mind over packages being delivered.
@mrsrep123 @jayandaplus 100% to the fact that most of my job is not recommended for pregnant women! Unfortunately my hospital did away with modified duty recently unless you have a work-related injury. So if I needed time off I'd have to take FMLA. Which is crap. Luckily I haven't had issues but it's not right in general!
Today I feel awful. I keep thinking maybe it's pre-prodromal labor but I think it's just that this LO is too big for her home these days and all her movements are kind of painful/uncomfortable now. Just generally having a day where I feel like she's sucking the life out of me! THREE more weeks of this? At least. I don't get the feeling that she's in any hurry as much as I would be ok with it!
@ShadeofGreen816 Yeah, I've been forced to use FMLA. The way we treat pregnant women in this country saddens me.
I hope your LO moves into a more comfortable position!
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
I'm kind of bummed right now because it's hitting me that I'm in a very different place than my friends. I'm not looking forward to putting myself out there to make new mom friends, but I know it's something I should do.
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DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Now if you're a STM worried about the added challenge of two kids (bringing 2 to happy hour seems a little less doable) and how to maintain mom friends, I can't help you there. I'm worried about the same thing.
This same couple that's getting married invited one of our friends without inviting his live in, serious girlfriend of 4 years. DH didn't see it as a problem because they don't know her.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
But, your docs are there to answer your questions, so I wouldn't hesitate to call if it would ease your mind!