October 2017 Moms

FFFC*

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Re: FFFC*

  • migdalamigdala member
    Yeah I just wish there was more time taken beforehand by the medical professionals to lay out the options and talk about what the mom wants/does not want to be on the table (barring emergency circumstances of course).  For my birth, I don't want anyone talking about epidurals because I know they exist so I'll demand one if I want it, but otherwise I don't want that thought put in my head.  But I like the idea of nitrous oxide so that's something that I'm fine with being offered.  I'm not planning on drafting a dissertation of a birth plan but I think those "ok to talk about/not ok to talk about barring emergency" things will probably be helpful to me because I lose the headgame kind of easily if I'm getting input from others while I'm in pain.

    But then again I'm a FTM so feel free to ignore me

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  • Maksim's MomMaksim's Mom member
    edited May 2017


    Ha! that's why it's also an UO.  from @carries2018 "i assume csection moms throw in the towel too? lazy biddies" -seriously, like obviously not talking about csec births *eye roll* 

    I could care less what anyone chooses for their labor/delivery experience...this is just my - dare I say - OPINION! :wink:  

    ETA: also a confession and not something I openly share with anyone else! 
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
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  • mrs_foguemrs_fogue member
    edited May 2017

    I sorta want to say/input on the epidural part, more along the lines with what @migdala is saying, I hate that my epidural with my first was pushed on me before I was ready for it. 

    It's story time, when I entered the hospital, they asked if I would be wanting an epidural and I said sure.  I wanted to labor as long as possible without it though, but never verbally expressed this.  I figured that they asked so I could go ahead and get the IV part out of the way and then I could get it as soon as I asked for it.  But then in walks the anesthesiologist to give mine and I was feeling absolutely zero pain at that point.  Knowing now how much I hated the way it made my body feel so useless, I really wished I had told them that I wasn't ready for it at that point and the asked for it later.  But I was a naïve and scared FTM and just went with it.  They shouldn't just give it to you unless you ask for it whether you ask at the beginning or more towards the end.

    @migdala I didn't have a birth plan with my first.  I thought it was sorta silly and a sure fire way to end up disappointed.  But this time I plan to have one that simply states "I want an epidural but want to labor as long as possible without it."   Just make sure that your plans are explained more in detail.  Don't assume anything going into labor. 

  • migdalamigdala member
    @mrs_fogue That's good advice.  DH knows exactly what I want but he's a FTD so there's def no guarantee that he won't blank on everything I've told him once things really get going.  I'm a needle-phobe to the extreme so I feel like it'll take a lot for me to ask for an epidural but we'll see ...  I seriously pray everyday I don't test positive for GBS because the idea of having an IV in during labor scares me more than literally anything else about the whole process.  I can handle pain ok but needles turn me into a blubbering mess.
  • My mom is VERY anxious about anything to do with her eyes - she can barely handle the regular eye doctor and cries just thinking about it. She had to have a 5 minute lazer procedure yesterday and has been worked up for days because of it. I had a REALLY hard time being empathetic because her doctor offered to prescribe her anti anxiety meds to take for the procedure and she refused them. She was worried about how she would react and refused to try one on a random day to see. I'm an awful daughter.
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    Clara, August 2014 
    Baby Boy due October 2017
  • ac1259ac1259 member
    @KDeola- same here. The first time I was on the verge of a panic attack with contractions right on top of each other when I got my epidural. I truly believe I was able to progress as well as I did because of my epidural. 

    @migdala I wouldn't assume that you won't have an IV if you're GBS negative and go with no epidural. At my hospital you get an IV as part of the admission process no matter what, there are a lot of things that can go wrong that make them want IV access. Like excess blood loss. Also, I delivered too early to be tested for GBS with DD2 so I got the antibiotics just in case. I wouldn't go into it expecting not to see needles if you're delivering in a hospital. 




  • migdalamigdala member
    @ac1259 Honestly, the IV-optional policy was a MAJOR factor in my decision to go with a midwifery center instead of regular hospital.  My extreme needle aversion totally outs me as a crazy person but so be it -- I HATE them!!
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    @Brambles23 send me some of your guac and chips please ;)

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  • KDeolaKDeola member
    My grocery store makes THE BEST homemade guac.  Damn it, now I want some so bad!

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  • VLillyVVLillyV member
    @Brambles23  Well played.


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  • I mean, I feel like I rarely get offended/up in arms over these comment discussions. But yeah, this one even rubbed me the wrong way. I try to give the benefit of the doubt, but I don't know how I feel about being told I gave up because I wanted a more pleasant experience and am slow on the uptake...whatevs, man, gimme all the drugs. 


    If it's in a FFFC or UO thread and its controversial, the OP meant for it to get a rise out of someone.  Especially with follow up's that aren't apologies.  I just laugh and eat my popcorn.  Thanks for the amusement today. 


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