@mrs_fogue I never end up getting enough food. When I'm ordering, I think, I really don't need this much, and I limit myself. But then I'm still hungry after I finish. Today, I'm going all out.
October 2017 June Siggy Challenge -- "You Had One Job!"
i didnt do headbands not that i had a problem with indentions. they had so much hair and it would get all messed up in a second if they brushed their head on anything and it looked foolish, i couldn't keep up with fixing it every 5 seconds. ::fingers crossed for a bald baby::
@beezeemarie I was a total pig last night. I got DD the quesadilla combo which she didn't hardly eat (score for lunch) then I got the chalupa combo and nacho's! I regret nothing!
Another FFFC: pretty sure I'm going to buy a Moses basket for this LO, even though I think they're actually pointless. My motivation is primarily for photo opportunities.
October 2017 June Siggy Challenge -- "You Had One Job!"
My confession is, and I want it on record that I'm NOT a judgey person by nature, but I feel like many mamas give up too early on unmedicated births I feel horrible thinking it but every single one of my gfs asked for an epidural the second they were admitted without even seeing how their pain tolerance is and what their amazing bodies are capable of! We can do it! Haha please don't hate me.
Me: 30 DH: 32 BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15 BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016 BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
Because I'm currently driving in traffic-well DH is driving- this is relevant.
I always judge people passing them by what they're doing in their car. Picking your nose? Ewwww. Drinking a 40oz 7-11 coke? Umm woah slow it down dude. Bopping your head like it's some 80's style rock band and you have zero hair? Yup, judging that too. Meanwhile, here I am with my thumb in my unzipped jeans prying them away from my lower abdomen, Al Bundy style, and people ( 18 wheelers mainly) can totally see me.
@Maksim's Mom I think my problem with your comment is the "giving up" part. I had an epidural with DD (my plan going into it), because I didn't want to have to deal with the pain. I wasn't giving up, I simply made the decision to make myself more comfortable. My labor and delivery was perfect for me, and I wouldn't change a thing about how it went. Just because I chose to medicate doesn't make the birth any less miraculous, my body still did the same thing.
I have no doubt that if I wanted to, I could have done it naturally. In my mind, I figured, why put myself through all that pain if I didn't have to?
October 2017 June Siggy Challenge -- "You Had One Job!"
My confession is, and I want it on record that I'm NOT a judgey person by nature, but I feel like many mamas give up too early on unmedicated births I feel horrible thinking it but every single one of my gfs asked for an epidural the second they were admitted without even seeing how their pain tolerance is and what their amazing bodies are capable of! We can do it! Haha please don't hate me.
who cares? if they want meds for birth...it is only going to get worse from there.
+1 to being terrified of spiders. One night I was coming home and didn't notice one hanging down from the garage and walked right into it. Like it touched my face. I can't stand spiders. Even the tiny ones.
I'm sure there are some women out there that want a med-free birth and then "give up" on that plan once they feel the actual level of pain, and perhaps if they had learned pain management techniques before hand they would have been able to persevere longer... But LOTS of women intentionally choose medication, because they have no desire to experience unnecessary levels of excruciating pain. When I get a root canal at the dentist, I don't do that med-free either. Also, even for the women who "give up," who cares? You don't get more gold stars at the end if you did it med-free.
I got to 6 cm before getting an epidural. I could no longer walk through that pain. I also started hyperventilating because of it. Yes I took birthing classes. Yes I knew all the breathing techniques. But I also live in the modern era where I, thankfully, have the choice to use drugs to make it go away if I want. My birth experience was amazing, even though it ended in CS. I wouldn't change a thing.
Props to you for going med-free. That was your choice, don't judge others choices because of what you did. We're all Wonder Women for growing and birthing babies, no matter how they enter the world.
FFFC I'm a bit OCD, all papers should be neatly stacked and one staple in the top left hand corner. You should see the messes my storeroom clerk brings to my office. All uneven and with literally a million staples. She, on the reg, uses 4-5 staples per set of papers and they are all over the place. Biggest pet peeve ever. I spend so much time pulling staples out and correcting everything. I know I'm a weirdo!
i assume csection moms throw in the towel too? lazy biddies.
It's not the csection that makes them lazy. It's the spinal. If you are going to take the easy way out you should definitely feel all of the cutting. It's only fair.
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FFFC I don't feel like people should walk on eggshells when posting threads. This might be WK-y but it's so easy to roll your eyes at an AW DB and watch it slide down the threads into the next page - like that one time we were confused for FB.
FWIW this could all just be that I'm tired of being ganged up on at work right now.
2nd FFFC I want a margarita so damn bad today that if anyone orders one around me I'm licking all their salt with a Kanye shrug for daring to have one in front of me.
Also, I see "giving up too early on med-free" to be in the same family as "lol good luck with med-free, you'll end up wanting the drugs".
Different strokes. I respect what anyone wants to do as long as mom and baby come out healthy.
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@carries2018 my professors always knew who I was because I used colorful paper clips instead of stapling my papers together lol. You would have failed me.
"Giving up too early on med-free" just reeks of the assumption/belief that un-medicated births are somehow superior to medicated births. Just because someone can tolerate a great deal of pain doesn't mean they should have to.
Me: 29 DH: 32 Married 9/27/2014 TTC Since 1/1/2017 BFP: 2/6/2017 Due Date: 10/13/17
i just really don't understand how what other people chose to do in regards to medication and birth matters or concerns you. like how does that affect you in any way? why is that a thing you need to get on a soapbox over?
My confession is, and I want it on record that I'm NOT a judgey person by nature, but I feel like many mamas give up too early on unmedicated births I feel horrible thinking it but every single one of my gfs asked for an epidural the second they were admitted without even seeing how their pain tolerance is and what their amazing bodies are capable of! We can do it! Haha please don't hate me.
It's not fair to assume that your friends haven't experienced something else painful in their lives and they don't know their tolerance. Child birth is a whole different level of pain. And not everyone cares to feel that pain at all. And that is no ones place to judge.
unmedicated vs. medicated. Both moms get a baby at the end...so it's all about you feeling good about yourself. There will most likely be drugs involved in my child's birth because I am a giant wimp. I own it.
@VLillyV I was dying for a marg a few weeks ago at a HH I was hosting. Asked for a virgin and I threw up the sweet and sour. Would not recommend - fight the urge
There is a get together at a co-workers house after school (teacher here) and the will be enjoying wine and beer. SIGH. It's been a week and this is the only time I have actually wanted a glass.
@carries2018 girrrrl, I understand. We did shots of tequila instead of a champagne toast at our wedding. Tequila is my jam. I get to sit back and watch everyone take shots and drink margs during our party tomorrow. Not even fair. They better be happy I'm allowing it to happen in front of me.
Regarding medicated vs. unmedicated....bearing and delivering a baby is freaking hard. So thumbs up to every mom who does it, regardless of medicated/unmedicated, vaginal/c-section, or any other methods. That's one thing that I think we shouldn't judge other moms for, because everyone's birth experience and pain threshold is different.
Also +1 on wanting a margarita today. I want one sooooo bad. I guess I'll stick to guacamole
So for my first delivery I really wanted to deliver med free and wound up taking the epidural. I felt like I had "given up" because of people who have the judging attitude towards how others deliver their babies. The 2nd time around, I was delivering at 34 weeks, my husband's arm was broken and my stress level was at a 20. I decided I was getting the epidural because I was freaking out enough as it was about whether or not my kid was going to be OK, I wanted to not be stuck on my back in a ton of pain. It's all well and good for you to judge others from your soapbox but you have no clue what situations some people face while delivering or anything about their pain tolerance. If you want a gold star for delivering without pain medication that's awesome for you...No matter how you do it there's hopefully a healthy baby at the end, that's what matters.
@Maksim's Mom I think my problem with your comment is the "giving up" part. I had an epidural with DD (my plan going into it), because I didn't want to have to deal with the pain. I wasn't giving up, I simply made the decision to make myself more comfortable. My labor and delivery was perfect for me, and I wouldn't change a thing about how it went. Just because I chose to medicate doesn't make the birth any less miraculous, my body still did the same thing.
I have no doubt that if I wanted to, I could have done it naturally. In my mind, I figured, why put myself through all that pain if I didn't have to?
I totally agree about birth being miraculous no matter what. That's why I specifically did not use the term "natural birth" to describe unmedicated labor.
I dont judge other moms just saying that i got through it without meds. Having said that, if the baby was ever at risk and had to come out via csec I would have taken any meds they had!
Me: 30 DH: 32 BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15 BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016 BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
I don't mean to WK but I think what the OP on the med/non-med issue was trying to get at is that oftentimes interventions are presented as defaults instead of choices, and I agree that seems like a problem with birth care in the US. Like, instead of the epidural being an elective choice, it can be presented as an "of course" step in delivery. My sister's friend hadn't created a birth plan or anything like that and just kind of went with whatever the doctors/nurses told her was best, and they were super pushy on the epidural front -- it wasn't presented as "do you want this" but rather "everyone gets this so let's put you in for one." She felt bad about it afterward. So I do think there's a problem there but it's not about whether or not moms elect for medicated/unmedicated, I think it's about how options are presented and what the default looks like in this country. My two cents!
Also, I see "giving up too early on med-free" to be in the same family as "lol good luck with med-free, you'll end up wanting the drugs".
Different strokes. I respect what anyone wants to do as long as mom and baby come out healthy.
I also respect each persons decision. And no I didn't get the gold stars for delivering inmedicated. Ugh. How rude!
seems I need to be more clear for those slower on the uptake. I'm only referring to births without complications duh why tf would anyone choose to have a csec without pain meds. That's just insane
Me: 30 DH: 32 BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15 BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016 BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
I don't mean to WK but I think what the OP on the med/non-med issue was trying to get at is that oftentimes interventions are presented as defaults instead of choices, and I agree that seems like a problem with birth care in the US. Like, instead of the epidural being an elective choice, it can be presented as an "of course" step in delivery. My sister's friend hadn't created a birth plan or anything like that and just kind of went with whatever the doctors/nurses told her was best, and they were super pushy on the epidural front -- it wasn't presented as "do you want this" but rather "everyone gets this so let's put you in for one." She felt bad about it afterward. So I do think there's a problem there but it's not about whether or not moms elect for medicated/unmedicated, I think it's about how options are presented and what the default looks like in this country. My two cents!
yes, this! I feel moms don't get options anymore! I was asked at least 10 times if I wanted to reconsider. My husband eventually gave up asking after I yelled at him. I don't want the darn option unless it is medically necessary or OF COURSE if baby was even at risk.
Me: 30 DH: 32 BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15 BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016 BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
Re: FFFC*
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
I always judge people passing them by what they're doing in their car. Picking your nose? Ewwww. Drinking a 40oz 7-11 coke? Umm woah slow it down dude. Bopping your head like it's some 80's style rock band and you have zero hair? Yup, judging that too. Meanwhile, here I am with my thumb in my unzipped jeans prying them away from my lower abdomen, Al Bundy style, and people ( 18 wheelers mainly) can totally see me.
No fucks given.
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
What state do you live in? Because I definitely need to cross that off my places to live list or I will surely die!
I have no doubt that if I wanted to, I could have done it naturally. In my mind, I figured, why put myself through all that pain if I didn't have to?
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
I'm sure there are some women out there that want a med-free birth and then "give up" on that plan once they feel the actual level of pain, and perhaps if they had learned pain management techniques before hand they would have been able to persevere longer... But LOTS of women intentionally choose medication, because they have no desire to experience unnecessary levels of excruciating pain.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
Props to you for going med-free. That was your choice, don't judge others choices because of what you did. We're all Wonder Women for growing and birthing babies, no matter how they enter the world.
FFFC I'm a bit OCD, all papers should be neatly stacked and one staple in the top left hand corner. You should see the messes my storeroom clerk brings to my office. All uneven and with literally a million staples. She, on the reg, uses 4-5 staples per set of papers and they are all over the place. Biggest pet peeve ever. I spend so much time pulling staples out and correcting everything. I know I'm a weirdo!
Edit because spelling is hard today.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
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FWIW this could all just be that I'm tired of being ganged up on at work right now.
2nd FFFC I want a margarita so damn bad today that if anyone orders one around me I'm licking all their salt with a Kanye shrug for daring to have one in front of me.
Different strokes. I respect what anyone wants to do as long as mom and baby come out healthy.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
After work yesterday, I didn't want, I needed a glass of wine. This is how I felt
Also +1 on wanting a margarita today. I want one sooooo bad. I guess I'll stick to guacamole
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
I dont judge other moms just saying that i got through it without meds. Having said that, if the baby was ever at risk and had to come out via csec I would have taken any meds they had!
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
seems I need to be more clear for those slower on the uptake. I'm only referring to births without complications duh why tf would anyone choose to have a csec without pain meds. That's just insane
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)