Dh is going out of town for a baseball game (he coaches high school varsity), and I am overly excited to have an evening to myself where I can chill and watch Dancing with the Stars without him rolling his eyes.
@mrsmarygs DH has to stay late twice a month because his department hosts meetups for local coders and engineers, and I always use the chance to catch up on my shows- usually This Is Us and Project Runway- and eat ice cream that I don't have to share. Enjoy your alone time!
@mrsmarygs DH says I've ruined our Netflix que because I have it loaded with a bunch of chick flicks for when he leaves. I always binge watch them when he's gone.
@mrsmarygs@mrs_tacos DH works a rotating schedule and I kind of love when he's on nights, I watch the Bachelor (or did before it ended) and Greys Anatomy, and pretty much all my shows while he's gone lol! I DVR the ones that come on after I'm asleep and watch them when he's sleeping during the day too. Today I got the loveliest nap in with DS. He slept on my chest for an hour and a half. I sat in the reclining seat on the couch, reclined and pulled out the foot rest and we were both out! It was nice. I am so tired today.
@mrsmarygs@mrs_tacos@wyomama0427 I am right there with you ladies! DH plays hockey and I cherish those nights to myself so much! In fact, I just realized tonight is a "me" night! YAY.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
I am starting to like evenings to myself too. DH has been taking night classes and I've been watching a bunch of bad TV without anyone getting upset about it.
I went to to the doctor this morning. Was so excited to finally hear the little heartbeat. Freddie decided to hide and really freak me out. It took like 15 minutes to find his heartbeat. They kept finding mine. They said they could see his on the monitor, but they couldn't find him anywhere. Apparently, he was lower than expected. The first nurse walked out to get help locating him and he and I had a conversation about how he needed to cooperate. Second nurse found him after a minute or two of looking. I'm thinking that I will not be using a dopler at home. That was too much anxiety for me.
@bridge-and-wall it's amazing how naughty they can be even in the womb. DS gave me a good scare or two when I was pregnant and I told him when he's 16 and wants to go out, he'll be grounded because he scared me like that. Also, bad tv is the best lol
I had an explosion of anxiety this weekend, and anxiety is exhausting. So I'm taking a mental health day. I just ate an ice cream cone at 11 am, and I'm going to take a nap whenever I want to. The anxiety is mostly gone, but I can still feel it humming under the surface, and I hate that feeling.
I should add that DH was amazing all weekend, and even stayed up late with me last night until my PGAL-related panic attack subsided.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry you had a panic attack!!! All the hugs to you I can only sort of relate, I think my anxiety and panic attacks were more of a postpartum thing after DS but it was still awful. The attacks are awful. Eat all the ice cream today!!
@Ae_Lovely321 This is why DH and I have two separate users on Netflix. His is filled with Star Trek and sci-fi movies, and mine is random chick flicks and crime shows.
@bridge-and-wall I'm sorry that your LO scared you like that. I always have a fear that they will take awhile to find the heartbeat, but so far they've been able to find it within a few seconds.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry you're struggling. Is anxiety common right around now? I can also feel it lurking under the surface and I've been having night terrors lately.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry you're struggling. Is anxiety common right around now? I can also feel it lurking under the surface and I've been having night terrors lately.
I don't know if it's common right now, but it wouldn't surprise me, there seems to have been a lot of comments about anxiety lately. I have generalized anxiety disorder and it has been mostly, mercifully, quiet during this pregnancy up until now. I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow, which I'm really grateful for. I miss my meds today, and I hate my meds, so I know it's time to see her.
I hope your anxiety stays below the surface and doesn't rear it's ugly head any time soon! But if it does, I'm here to talk. (hugs)
Um. I just saw a news alert about a sexually violent criminal moving to the other side of town, so I decided to check my area on the sex offender database... apparently there's a sexually violent criminal living directly across the street from me. I see him all the time, he's kinda weird, he never makes eye contact with anyone and won't talk to anyone. Overall, I've gotten a weird feeling about him but never knew why. He moved in with his parents long after DH and I moved in. Shouldn't we have been notified?
Um. I just saw a news alert about a sexually violent criminal moving to the other side of town, so I decided to check my area on the sex offender database... apparently there's a sexually violent criminal living directly across the street from me. I see him all the time, he's kinda weird, he never makes eye contact with anyone and won't talk to anyone. Overall, I've gotten a weird feeling about him but never knew why. He moved in with his parents long after DH and I moved in. Shouldn't we have been notified?
Sounds like it varies from state to state, and even from jurisdiction to jurisdiction: "Law enforcement authorities may also have the obligation to disseminate information about registered sex offenders. Notification may extend to prior victims, neighbors, schools, youth organization, and other relevant individuals or groups. In some cases, community-wide notification may be required. Newspapers, television, radio, and community meetings are some of the methods used to provide community notification."
and "Some police departments and sheriff’s offices hang posters in community centers and libraries, or send letters or postcards to homes within a certain distance of the registrant. Others publish notices in the local newspaper or broadcast pictures and addresses of the registrants on television."
@mrs_tacos I'm so sorry that you had your anxiety surface this weekend. But I'm glad you have the day to rest and that your DH is amazing and supportive. I'm also an anxiety sufferer and I know how important relaxing and having support can be. Hope your week is better after you get some rest today.
@beccam1230 In the state where my parents live a sex offender is supposed to notify the neighborhood when he moves in, but they live in a neighborhood surrounded by schools, so it isn't usually a problem. A few years ago a violent sex offender moved into the neighborhood- he bought one of only four houses in the entire neighborhood that is legally far away enough for the schools for him to live, AND when he went around to introduce himself, if someone wasn't home he just skipped them and never came back. My parents only found out because the neighbors told them. He ended up having to move a year later because he violated his parole, but it was still scary to realize how easy it is for someone like that move near you, and you could never know!
@jena333-2 oh yeah, that makes sense since I got that news alert about the other guy today. I'm thinking that's just how they do it. I must have missed the one he was on. What's weird is that we live right next to a school. I can see the kids on the playground during recess! I'm thinking since they're aware of where he lives, it would only be an issue if his status as a sex offender pertained to kids. Seems strange, but they do know where he lives.
I saw the news about the elementary school. So sad.
Im so busy I want to fall over. I'm exhausted. I had family in town and they are leaving Wednesday then Thursday I am going to Atlanta. So I will have no time to bump.
@mrs_tacos that's actually what I was thinking he had to do, but I guess not here. We do live near a school though!! It's the school DS will be going to, and I can walk out of my house and see the school and the kids playing on the playground. I'm thinking maybe that's only a problem if he had done something involving kids, or a minor. But you're right, it's scary how easy it is to miss something like this! Honestly, I'm not too worried, he's been there for awhile with no issues and I didn't even know about it. It's just really surprising to find out!
Um. I just saw a news alert about a sexually violent criminal moving to the other side of town, so I decided to check my area on the sex offender database... apparently there's a sexually violent criminal living directly across the street from me. I see him all the time, he's kinda weird, he never makes eye contact with anyone and won't talk to anyone. Overall, I've gotten a weird feeling about him but never knew why. He moved in with his parents long after DH and I moved in. Shouldn't we have been notified?
I live in a town of less than 2,000. I was shocked when I checked the sex offender registry here and found out DH used to work with a sex offender. Then again one of the guys who stayed late after work for weeks to train DH is now on trial for murdering and dismembering two guys so.... you really never can tell.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry you're struggling. Is anxiety common right around now? I can also feel it lurking under the surface and I've been having night terrors lately.
I've been having anxiety too during the night. Last night I swore I heard someone dragging something across the hardwood floors. I woke up DH and he kindly reminded me that all the doors were locked and the alarms were set. I asked him to check the video monitor on our security app just to be safe. But it still took me a little while to calm down enough to sleep.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry you're struggling. Is anxiety common right around now? I can also feel it lurking under the surface and I've been having night terrors lately.
I've been having anxiety too during the night. Last night I swore I heard someone dragging something across the hardwood floors. I woke up DH and he kindly reminded me that all the doors were locked and the alarms were set. I asked him to check the video monitor on our security app just to be safe. But it still took me a little while to calm down enough to sleep.
I used to have disturbing dreams when I was pregnant with DS. One time I woke up convinced our bedroom was on fire and I nearly jumped out of bed. Another time I had a dream that a ghost was holding the baby standing next to my bed. I hope your anxiety goes away!
Um. I just saw a news alert about a sexually violent criminal moving to the other side of town, so I decided to check my area on the sex offender database... apparently there's a sexually violent criminal living directly across the street from me. I see him all the time, he's kinda weird, he never makes eye contact with anyone and won't talk to anyone. Overall, I've gotten a weird feeling about him but never knew why. He moved in with his parents long after DH and I moved in. Shouldn't we have been notified?
I live in a town of less than 2,000. I was shocked when I checked the sex offender registry here and found out DH used to work with a sex offender. Then again one of the guys who stayed late after work for weeks to train DH is now on trial for murdering and dismembering two guys so.... you really never can tell.
@mrs_tacos I'm sorry about the panic attack... you know I've been right there with you lately. So weird that we were doing so well until recently. I hope it eases up for both of us soon!
My random for the day: I have officially reached the end of the "Babble" baby name website. I told H the ball is now in his court. I've put out a list of maybe 25 names that I like to varying degrees. He has offered up Merle (Who TF is this man, and why did I let him put a baby in me??).
The plan is to go into delivery with two or three names picked out, and make a final decision after we've met him. The three he hasn't shot down off my list are Oliver, Kieran, and Remy.
ETA: Oliver is the only one I feel really strongly about. I want him to be Oliver Lee (Olly for short). Lee was my mother's middle name, I lost her in 2013.
@jena333-2 haha at least your DH suggested a legitimate name, mine just makes up things based on what he sees at the moment. "How about lightbulb?" Yes. Let's name our son light bulb. He just won't give me any real name ideas!! Oliver is a really great name, and I LOVE Olly as a nickname! Hopefully he cooperates with a really nice name that you feel strongly about!
I had an explosion of anxiety this weekend, and anxiety is exhausting. So I'm taking a mental health day. I just ate an ice cream cone at 11 am, and I'm going to take a nap whenever I want to. The anxiety is mostly gone, but I can still feel it humming under the surface, and I hate that feeling.
I should add that DH was amazing all weekend, and even stayed up late with me last night until my PGAL-related panic attack subsided.
Oh no!! I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You definitely deserve to take a day for yourself to relax and do what you want. Thank goodness you have a supportive and understanding SO. I know hat definitely helps when going through things like this. ❤️ Hugs. Hope you feel bit better after taking a you day.
@wyomama0427 My "night terror" is the same every time. I'm completely asleep, and in my dream I wake up and there a figure of someone standing in the doorway of our bedroom. I usually bolt awake and my heart will be racing. It feels turrrible.
Oh goodness the name discussion is so hard for us right now. So far, SO has suggested names like Magnus, Malcolm and Felix. So far the name I like best is Malcolm.
Side note: after all the drama last week with SO and the worrying about hurting his mom's feelings because of her not being present at the anatomy scan, he totally redeemed himself.
She continues to talk about the delivery to SO and how she thinks it would be just a magical and beautiful experience to be a part of it and SO totally shut her down.
He originally said to her, "I don't understand what you would think is so magical about watching my partner cry and writhe and agony for hours and bleed and possibly tear from delivery or vomit from how much pain she is in. I'm personally not looking forward to witnessing her being in so much pain but I'm going to be there because it is my job to comfort her and be there for her as my child is brought into this world." And then she goes on to talking about how it is her grandchild and it would be wonderful to watch him being brought into the world. To which he replied, "Are you and Ashley comfortable changing in front of each other? Would you follow her into the bathroom and hang out while she does her business?" And she says "of course not." So he asked her why in the world she thinks I would be comfortable with her watching while my vagina gets stretched out and bleeds while I deliver when my very own mother is not invited to watch this happen.
@jena333-2 Dh hasn't always been super helpful with names either. In the beginning he kept suggesting Nancy for a girl, and he's slightly obsessed with the name Ashley for a boy. Uh, no. Please try again. (Thankfully pointing out that Solomon Ashley S____ could be re-arranged to spell ASS made him drop that one. )
@Msashley2010 I'm so glad your SO redeemed himself and stood his ground! I haven't decided who I want with me- it will either be just DH or my mom and DH with me, and my dad there but in the waiting room for the actual pushing. But I know there is NO WAY I would EVER want my mil in there with me!
Re: Weekly Randoms 4/10
Today I got the loveliest nap in with DS. He slept on my chest for an hour and a half. I sat in the reclining seat on the couch, reclined and pulled out the foot rest and we were both out! It was nice. I am so tired today.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
I went to to the doctor this morning. Was so excited to finally hear the little heartbeat. Freddie decided to hide and really freak me out. It took like 15 minutes to find his heartbeat. They kept finding mine. They said they could see his on the monitor, but they couldn't find him anywhere. Apparently, he was lower than expected. The first nurse walked out to get help locating him and he and I had a conversation about how he needed to cooperate. Second nurse found him after a minute or two of looking. I'm thinking that I will not be using a dopler at home. That was too much anxiety for me.
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Also, bad tv is the best lol
I should add that DH was amazing all weekend, and even stayed up late with me last night until my PGAL-related panic attack subsided.
@bridge-and-wall I'm sorry that your LO scared you like that. I always have a fear that they will take awhile to find the heartbeat, but so far they've been able to find it within a few seconds.
@mrs_tacos Oh no! That's awful!!
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
I hope your anxiety stays below the surface and doesn't rear it's ugly head any time soon! But if it does, I'm here to talk. (hugs)
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
"Law enforcement authorities may also have the obligation to disseminate information about registered sex offenders. Notification may extend to prior victims, neighbors, schools, youth organization, and other relevant individuals or groups. In some cases, community-wide notification may be required. Newspapers, television, radio, and community meetings are some of the methods used to provide community notification."
and
"Some police departments and sheriff’s offices hang posters in community centers and libraries, or send letters or postcards to homes within a certain distance of the registrant. Others publish notices in the local newspaper or broadcast pictures and addresses of the registrants on television."
Im so busy I want to fall over. I'm exhausted. I had family in town and they are leaving Wednesday then Thursday I am going to Atlanta. So I will have no time to bump.
My random for the day: I have officially reached the end of the "Babble" baby name website. I told H the ball is now in his court. I've put out a list of maybe 25 names that I like to varying degrees. He has offered up Merle (Who TF is this man, and why did I let him put a baby in me??).
The plan is to go into delivery with two or three names picked out, and make a final decision after we've met him. The three he hasn't shot down off my list are Oliver, Kieran, and Remy.
ETA: Oliver is the only one I feel really strongly about. I want him to be Oliver Lee (Olly for short). Lee was my mother's middle name, I lost her in 2013.
@wyomama0427 My "night terror" is the same every time. I'm completely asleep, and in my dream I wake up and there a figure of someone standing in the doorway of our bedroom. I usually bolt awake and my heart will be racing. It feels turrrible.
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
Side note: after all the drama last week with SO and the worrying about hurting his mom's feelings because of her not being present at the anatomy scan, he totally redeemed himself.
She continues to talk about the delivery to SO and how she thinks it would be just a magical and beautiful experience to be a part of it and SO totally shut her down.
He originally said to her, "I don't understand what you would think is so magical about watching my partner cry and writhe and agony for hours and bleed and possibly tear from delivery or vomit from how much pain she is in. I'm personally not looking forward to witnessing her being in so much pain but I'm going to be there because it is my job to comfort her and be there for her as my child is brought into this world." And then she goes on to talking about how it is her grandchild and it would be wonderful to watch him being brought into the world. To which he replied, "Are you and Ashley comfortable changing in front of each other? Would you follow her into the bathroom and hang out while she does her business?" And she says "of course not." So he asked her why in the world she thinks I would be comfortable with her watching while my vagina gets stretched out and bleeds while I deliver when my very own mother is not invited to watch this happen.
I think he drove the point home this time.
@jena333-2 Dh hasn't always been super helpful with names either. In the beginning he kept suggesting Nancy for a girl, and he's slightly obsessed with the name Ashley for a boy. Uh, no. Please try again.
@Msashley2010 I'm so glad your SO redeemed himself and stood his ground! I haven't decided who I want with me- it will either be just DH or my mom and DH with me, and my dad there but in the waiting room for the actual pushing. But I know there is NO WAY I would EVER want my mil in there with me!