@nbcarlson My DH says ALL THE TIME that he would die to be able to be a SAHD. Unfortunately we need both of our salaries so neither one of us will be staying home with this kiddo. He also makes double what I do, so I'm not sure his dream will ever come true...I wish he could though! I think whatever you guys decide is best for your family is no one else's business.
I'm a stay at home mom and although my husband totally values that I basically run the entire household and spend quality nurturing and educational time with our son… He would never have the patience or stamina to do it and he knows it. I have to say it has been amazing having a husband who was totally on board and on the same page as me in terms of what are priorities were once we had our son. No matter what anybody thinks or how they might judge the huge financial sacrifices that we have made and wonder why I don't just go to work we are super super happy with the decision that we made, less stress all around. For sure every family has to do what works best for them:)
@mrs_fogue Yes, yes, yes!! Outback's ranch is BY FAR the best and I also order salads just for it and their croutons. I thought I was the only one. If they ever bottled and sold that stuff, man.......
Me: 31 DH: 35 Married since 05.16.2009 Expecting #1: 10.10.2017
i used to be a jarred sauce kind of girl and then i married into a hardcore italian family that jars their sauce for the entire year every summer and now there's no going back. It really is so much better. #reformedsaucesnob
@Jessafishy did someone say octopus leggings cause I love mine too. #sorrynotsorry
I need a good UO!! I got nothing this week. It's worth repeating how much i love this thread
So I can't keep track of who said what but I'm totally that person that attempted oatmeal on and off after 4 months but I really didn't push any solids until after 6 months. The recommendation is actually 4-6 months. My 2nd DD was a "happy spitter" as mentioned by the pediatrician so we tried thickened formula and lots of different things to get rid of that (she would puke up large amounts of liquid all day long, it was totally gross) but nothing really helped and she wasn't a huge fan of solids so we really didn't get her eating many of them until after 6 months, I think more like 7. I also didn't avoid high allergen foods but did monitor after they were given for the first time. Thankfully neither of my kids have any food allergies.
I'm in the medical field, and I totally judge how my providers speak to me, I really appreciate providers who talk to me like I do know what I'm talking about and reference peer reviewed journals and studies when I ask questions about things. I usually follow what my providers tell me because I can't name one that I currently have that doesn't give me research to back up their recommendations. I do my own research about some things just for my own peace of mind.
My UO: I really don't care when you feed your kid things, just feed your kid. I'm all about this graphic...because I'm totally in the latter portion of life with my older 2.
Okay, the advice is actually split between starting between 4 and 6 month or starting AT 6 months. As I said, it likely depends on your care provider which recommendation you were given. I tend to go by the WHO guidelines.
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I just caught up on all this and at first I was all: Because I had lots of responses to these topics. But then I sat down with some ice cream and my thoughts are now all:
But to hit the high points: Doctors don't exist for the sole purpose to treat conditions with pills - that perception is ridiculous. I definitely advocate for patients to be informed patients about their health and to be self-advocates, but I cannot stand when patients can't seem to recognize that they don't know what they don't know sometimes.
I wish I had introduced solids earlier than 6 months is DS1, I actually wish I given a little bit more formula early on. I EBFed until 6 months, then solids and BM until 8 months when I wanted to taper (I hated pumping) and hybrid formula/BM. My kid ended up with dairy anaphylaxis and egg and peanut allergies on bloodwork at 8 months and I feel like waiting to introduce played a part.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@ForwardnBackward hey fellow food allergy mom! Egg, peanut, and treenut allergies here. She also was previously diagnosed with a dairy allergy but has seem to outgrow it for the most part.
I EBF, and didn't do any solids til 6 months. Pediatrician was actually worried about allergies with her (eczema since birth) so we were only advised to try 1 new food a week....which i get but in hindsight it took a loooooong time to even get to any potential allergy triggers. It's just all so frustrating and I'm hopeful a different approach this time might save some headaches!
@purplestars-2 Solidarity sista! DS1 had eczema too, but I made no modifications to my diet while BFing. More in hindsight that he was probably already sensitized to something in my diet.
Random Allergy Story: One of DS1's daycare teachers got fired today because she accidentally served him something with egg and dairy in it, fortunately one of the other teachers caught it before he had it. But this allergy stuff... no joke.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@ForwardnBackward@purplestars-2 I just want to join your allergy party. DS is allergic to dairy, not anaphylaxis thankfully, but a whole load of other terrible symptoms that I will spare nauseated mammas from reading.
He received formula from the get go as a supplement because it was high calorie preemie junk and he was miserable the entire time. Dr's kept saying it wasn't related and blah blah blah. I should have trusted my gut, and hindsight is 20/20 I guess. I don't think it has anything to do with his timing on solids just because he was exposed to dairy so early anyway. But for other babies, I have no idea.
I just hope this baby is not allergic to it too. I feel like they miss out on so much fun stuff.
Also thats super crazy about the daycare worker!! I'm so glad they caught her in time.
So late to this party... my UO is I hate ranch dressing. It smells gross and taste like watered down mayonnaise. Hubby knew I was pregnant with our DD1 because we were eating dinner and I started dipping fried shrimp in the left over fried pickle ranch dressing. He loves the stuff. started crying because I didn't even realize I was eating it. Got a pregnancy test the next day- he was right.
@dajocl Dairy allergies suck. I had it as a new born and cried my first nine months straight. My parents couldn't find anyone willing to babysit anymore because I would cry non stop from it. They finally figured it out and switched to non dairy. On a positive note: I grew out of it! I'm not sure when it happened but I gradually grew out of it. I still get gassy if I consume too much in one day but better than the other outcomes. Hopefully your little one will grow out of it too!
Honestly, I'm convinced that oreos are pooped out from the Gods. They have the perfect combination of cookie and filling. How you could not like an oreo... I'll never understand..
On the topic of SAHD- so I am a part time SAHW. I work 24 hours a week (so only 3 8 hour days, have 4 off) and when I went part time people just did not understand why I wasn't working full time because we don't have kids yet. They would ask me, "Well what do you do on your days off?" all judgmental as if I don't ever do anything and just lay around my house napping. Uhhhh I do all of the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, housework, car work, outdoor work. I actually get to have hobbies now (I didn't even know what these were before). I get to see my family and friends and not have anxiety about all of the other things that I should be doing. My DH and I get to do fun things together now because we don't spend all of our free time getting boring shit done. It's been over a year since I decided to go part time and I'm very fortunate that DH can support us and was willing to let me work part time. I've never looked back. I was so miserable working full time. I hated every second of it. Some people just aren't made to work full time! And for some reason people don't understand.. making yourself... happy?!
@dumbledoredies I think a lot of that is resentment. "I have to work full-time so I hate that you don't" kind of thing. I envy you but I'm happy you guys were able to make it work.
Me: 29 DH: 32 Married 9/27/2014 TTC Since 1/1/2017 BFP: 2/6/2017 Due Date: 10/13/17
@feeislove yeah and I get it. I wish that everyone could work the amount that they want to work. I think the world would be a much happier place. There is so much emphasis on working your life away. It doesnt seem right. We've had to make a lot of sacrifices financially with me working part time. We don't get to buy the nicest things. We have to be mindful of what we spend. Our house isnt gigantic and new and shiny. But we are SO much happier.
I also always try to just be happy for people for good things happening in their lives no matter how envious I may be. You never know what other crappy things they could be facing in life at that time. Everyone deserves to be happy!
@dumbledoredies I think part of the judgement of people not working full time or working in alternate ways to 9-5 (lbh, lots work more) is that a lot of people pride themselves on being 'too busy' and wear it like a badge of honor. And even you are clearly happy with an alternative arrangement to that, it threatens people who are probably insecure or unhappy in their choices.
@Designmamauk Yep. I just think the judgement is unfair and uncalled for no matter the argument. What works for one person might not work for another and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people love to work (including my DH.. he literally works all. The. Time. And loves it) and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people don't feel fulfillment in working and there's also nothing wrong with that.
Honestly, I'm convinced that oreos are pooped out from the Gods. They have the perfect combination of cookie and filling. How you could not like an oreo... I'll never understand..
On the topic of SAHD- so I am a part time SAHW. I work 24 hours a week (so only 3 8 hour days, have 4 off) and when I went part time people just did not understand why I wasn't working full time because we don't have kids yet. They would ask me, "Well what do you do on your days off?" all judgmental as if I don't ever do anything and just lay around my house napping. Uhhhh I do all of the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, housework, car work, outdoor work. I actually get to have hobbies now (I didn't even know what these were before). I get to see my family and friends and not have anxiety about all of the other things that I should be doing. My DH and I get to do fun things together now because we don't spend all of our free time getting boring shit done. It's been over a year since I decided to go part time and I'm very fortunate that DH can support us and was willing to let me work part time. I've never looked back. I was so miserable working full time. I hated every second of it. Some people just aren't made to work full time! And for some reason people don't understand.. making yourself... happy?!
I totally understand and support this! I have a friend who works just a few hours a week, has no kids.When her husbands works slows down she picks up more hours and they specifically balance life so that one person is always home more to do all of the things you mentioned, leaving their weekends to spend relaxed and stress-free time together. They also believe very strongly in natural and healthy eating, have time to grow their own vegetables which also saves a ton of money. It's very easy to get roped in to our current culture, depending on where you live I guess, and feeling like you need to be a workaholic or that more money is always going to equal more happiness but the reality is that we are all in control of how we manage our lives. Even though I do have a baby, I feel kind of the same way about our decision for me to be a stay at home mom after my maternity leave ended. I'm not only able to spend so much quality time with our son but I can run all the errands and get all the housecleaning, bills paid etc. during the week so that when my husband does have a day off on the weekend we're not stressed out and running around the city all day doing chores and we can actually have fun family time together. I think that that balance is so important for us to both be stress free and happy.
Re: UO!
@mrs_fogue Yes, yes, yes!! Outback's ranch is BY FAR the best and I also order salads just for it and their croutons. I thought I was the only one. If they ever bottled and sold that stuff, man.......
Married since 05.16.2009
Expecting #1: 10.10.2017
@Jessafishy did someone say octopus leggings cause I love mine too. #sorrynotsorry
I need a good UO!! I got nothing this week. It's worth repeating how much i love this thread
I'm in the medical field, and I totally judge how my providers speak to me, I really appreciate providers who talk to me like I do know what I'm talking about and reference peer reviewed journals and studies when I ask questions about things. I usually follow what my providers tell me because I can't name one that I currently have that doesn't give me research to back up their recommendations. I do my own research about some things just for my own peace of mind.
My UO: I really don't care when you feed your kid things, just feed your kid. I'm all about this graphic...because I'm totally in the latter portion of life with my older 2.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/14/56/3e/14563e0dc906eb8033c52246f0cdc0cb.jpg
https://scienceofmom.com/2015/05/14/starting-solids-4-months-6-months-or-somewhere-in-between/
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Because I had lots of responses to these topics.
But then I sat down with some ice cream and my thoughts are now all:
But to hit the high points: Doctors don't exist for the sole purpose to treat conditions with pills - that perception is ridiculous. I definitely advocate for patients to be informed patients about their health and to be self-advocates, but I cannot stand when patients can't seem to recognize that they don't know what they don't know sometimes.
I wish I had introduced solids earlier than 6 months is DS1, I actually wish I given a little bit more formula early on. I EBFed until 6 months, then solids and BM until 8 months when I wanted to taper (I hated pumping) and hybrid formula/BM. My kid ended up with dairy anaphylaxis and egg and peanut allergies on bloodwork at 8 months and I feel like waiting to introduce played a part.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
I EBF, and didn't do any solids til 6 months. Pediatrician was actually worried about allergies with her (eczema since birth) so we were only advised to try 1 new food a week....which i get but in hindsight it took a loooooong time to even get to any potential allergy triggers. It's just all so frustrating and I'm hopeful a different approach this time might save some headaches!
*O17 June Siggy Challenge - You had 1 job!*
Random Allergy Story: One of DS1's daycare teachers got fired today because she accidentally served him something with egg and dairy in it, fortunately one of the other teachers caught it before he had it. But this allergy stuff... no joke.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
*O17 June Siggy Challenge - You had 1 job!*
He received formula from the get go as a supplement because it was high calorie preemie junk and he was miserable the entire time. Dr's kept saying it wasn't related and blah blah blah. I should have trusted my gut, and hindsight is 20/20 I guess. I don't think it has anything to do with his timing on solids just because he was exposed to dairy so early anyway. But for other babies, I have no idea.
I just hope this baby is not allergic to it too. I feel like they miss out on so much fun stuff.
Also thats super crazy about the daycare worker!! I'm so glad they caught her in time.
Dairy allergies suck. I had it as a new born and cried my first nine months straight. My parents couldn't find anyone willing to babysit anymore because I would cry non stop from it. They finally figured it out and switched to non dairy. On a positive note: I grew out of it! I'm not sure when it happened but I gradually grew out of it. I still get gassy if I consume too much in one day but better than the other outcomes. Hopefully your little one will grow out of it too!
Honestly, I'm convinced that oreos are pooped out from the Gods. They have the perfect combination of cookie and filling. How you could not like an oreo... I'll never understand..
On the topic of SAHD- so I am a part time SAHW. I work 24 hours a week (so only 3 8 hour days, have 4 off) and when I went part time people just did not understand why I wasn't working full time because we don't have kids yet. They would ask me, "Well what do you do on your days off?" all judgmental as if I don't ever do anything and just lay around my house napping. Uhhhh I do all of the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, housework, car work, outdoor work. I actually get to have hobbies now (I didn't even know what these were before). I get to see my family and friends and not have anxiety about all of the other things that I should be doing. My DH and I get to do fun things together now because we don't spend all of our free time getting boring shit done. It's been over a year since I decided to go part time and I'm very fortunate that DH can support us and was willing to let me work part time. I've never looked back. I was so miserable working full time. I hated every second of it. Some people just aren't made to work full time! And for some reason people don't understand.. making yourself... happy?!
Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
I also always try to just be happy for people for good things happening in their lives no matter how envious I may be. You never know what other crappy things they could be facing in life at that time. Everyone deserves to be happy!