Pregnancy Confessions

kmornelas29

Here is a safe place to share all your pregnancy confessions without judgement! 

We we all have something to confess whether it's a no-no food item we snuck, drink we shouldn't have had, pill we forgot to take, family member we're avoiding, or are using our pregnancy to get out of a prior engagement! Maybe get hubby to do some of our chores by milking the symptoms? Anyone!?

Share! Share! Share! What's your secret!?  Feel free to update throughout your pregnancy! 

kmornelas29

My big confession is.... 

I sometimes take my prenatal every other day, because it makes me so sick, so right now...it's what I can tolerate. I try eating healthy to make up for the skip days, but I'm currently on the look out for a different pill. I also need to get better at this! I feel the guilt. 

I eat turkey. Need to try harder to toast first? 

Ive totally milked symptoms a time or two to get hubby to do the laundry. Guilty! 

KSweet

I've been drinking a can of soda each day....first thing in the morning, no less. And I admit I do a happy dance every pregnancy that my husband has to do litter box duty when I'm pregnant, but then I feel guilty because the cat was mine before marriage and of all the chores to do, I think it's the one he hates the most. 

carries2018

i don't like being pregnant and i don't really like the newborn stuff either. this is probably my last pregnancy and i always hear people get nostalgic when they talk about their "last time" and i am just thinking "there is a light at the end of the tunnel!"

don't get me wrong, i am incredibly happy and blessed to have this addition to our family, and i know not everyone gets this opportunity. but i just don't feel any "aww this is my last time!" emotions.

natleilynn

@kmornelas29 my doctor told me not to even take it as long as I was throwing up. I was on them for a few months before I got pregnant and she said that was the good start I needed - when I get past this trimester they'll give me the heavy duty ones back. So don't feel guilty!

asickles98

I haven't gotten excited about this baby yet.  We had an end of the first trimester lost in Nov that is preventing me feeling all in which Makes me sad because this will be our last.  

natleilynn

@asickles98 I know that feeling, I don't think I let myself get excited about DD until I was into my 3rd trimester. Lots of positive thoughts to you - hopefully once you cross that hurdle you can let yourself relax a little. 

kitty4scott

carries2018 said:

i don't like being pregnant and i don't really like the newborn stuff either. this is probably my last pregnancy and i always hear people get nostalgic when they talk about their "last time" and i am just thinking "there is a light at the end of the tunnel!"

don't get me wrong, i am incredibly happy and blessed to have this addition to our family, and i know not everyone gets this opportunity. but i just don't feel any "aww this is my last time!" emotions.

I'm with you! Just this morning as I was vomiting, I was thinking about how much I hate being pregnant, and reflecting on how on Earth some women say they love being pregnant. I love my son, and will surely love this child as well, but I never want to be pregnant ever again. I'm looking at it as there will be light at the end of the tunnel too. 

natleilynn

I'm having sushi for lunch. 

I mean, I'm pretty sure my employees already suspect something due to my lack of tea/coffee drinking. I had to do something to keep up this charade.

singing_lyn

Totally agree on hating being pregnant but still feeling the sadness of this being the last. Also definitely milking the MS hitting me at night with my husband to get him to do chores.

Also I hate to say it but I feel sicker at night so a bunch of nights lately I've been getting home with my son and having cereal or microwave pasta meals because I feel so sick. We have not been eating very healthy at all lately.

And today I totally put on my maternity jeans because I put on regular jeans and felt so uncomfortable that I just couldn't do it. The hair elastic trick doesn't work to make jeans any more comfortable for me and I wear jeans every day to work since I work in a casual office and I don't like leggings so I only own 1 pair and if I started wearing them I would feel weird.

shan24

@carries2018 I feel ya!  I don't mind being pregnant and once I get past first tri, I usually feel pretty good, but this is my last and I'm excited about that. I'm looking forward to getting the baby stuff out of my house and having my little family grow together. 

@singing_lyn I'm wearing maternity clothes from head to toe today. We're traveling and there's no way I want to be uncomfortable in a car for 5+ hours. 

mommac2017

I'm 11w3d and I've gained like 10lbs already. Excuse me while I go cry in a corner for a while. 

feeislove

I ate two pizza lunchables yesterday :X I forgot to microwave the pepperoni on the first one :X

keiraanne

I feel so emotionally disconnected so far. I'm only seven weeks along and I am very aware of everything that's happening. Things got a bit more real with our first MW appointment earlier this week, but I still haven't had that overwhelming rush of emotion that I expected. Don't get me wrong - I'm excited, but I still can't fathom the whole "there's a baby growing in my belly" and "I'm going to be a mom" thing.

carries2018

hugs to all the moms not feeling connected. just remember, that is totally normally. i didnt connect to my daughters until they were a few months old...like out of the womb months old. when they were born i didnt have that "ZOMG I AM SO IN LOVE!" feeling. i was like "oh cute baby, can i have some water?" part of it might have been birth experience. maybe bc i am a hypochondriac and i was scared to let my guard down. maybe just because. but i feel like all over social media/tv/movies/people talking IRL everyone makes it out to be like you should have those feelings, and i carried a lot of guilt not having them. there is a lot of changes that go on, and a lot of adjustment, and a lot of hormones that jack you all up. it will all come, there is no specific date it needs to come by. and when it does come, it is amazing. and you will barely remember the time you didnt have it.

keiraanne

@carries2018 Thank you - that's very reassuring to hear!

canonmom413

I have used my pregnancy exhaustion as a reason to not cook dinner more times than I care to admit. Thankful I have a husband who can heat up canned soup and make Mac n cheese for the kids  

emwj10187

This is my first pregnancy, and all i seem to hear from currently pregnant friends & family members  is how wonderful being pregnant is. I get asked all the time "don't you love being pregnant? It's such a magical time in a woman's life"

Well, i don't feel it. Quite frankly, I'm not particularly enjoying pregnancy. Which makes me feel guilty b/c i feel like i should be. I'm happy that I am pregnant, b/c the outcome is amazing. But actually being pregnant isn't all rainbows and unicorns like people in my life make it out to be...

canonmom413

@emwj10187 I am one of those happy pregnant people , typically. But not until well into my 2nd trimester. As of right now, I'm miserable. But embracing it because it is my last. But I cannot wait until I'm showing , don't have to hide it, and the warm weather hits. I have the winter blues normally , add in pregnancy hormones and I'm a mess. 

Dont give up hope just just get, but you're right. Not everyone will love being pregnant. Just be mindful of complaining to those around you. Many are dying to be in your position and can't. 

Esit: words

natleilynn

@emwj10187 second tri was WAY better for me. I got all my energy back, I had the cutest little bump and it was generally just the best. First tri is a mix of all the crazy hormones - don't give up on enjoying pregnancy until then.

migdala

My confession is that I've been subsisting primarily on french fries for about a month now.  Potatoes are the only food I trust to not make me gag.

mamabear148-2

I've had a couple of deli sandwiches, and (cooked) sushi rolls clearly made alongside raw ones. At this point it's more about survival (aka eating) than being 100% safe

mommac2017

I'm an emotional mess today. I can't stop crying. And I know I'm super sensitive but I just can't handle everything right now! 

Stupid hormones. I can't stop crying over stupid stuff that doesn't even matter!

PizzaMonster3

@mommac2017 if it makes you feel any better - last thurs my team had a major strategy meeting because our numbers are down for the year. I'm talking my team (4 men), my boss (man), by boss's boss (man) and two senior managers (men). Roomful of stressed out men. When the spotlight came to me and what I was doing to turn the ship around - I bawled. Full sobs and boogers running down my face. You should have seen the horrified look on their faces. I was mortified and because I haven't announced yet, I couldn't even say it was hormones. They have all been walking on eggshells around me since, as if they didn't already because I'm the first woman they've worked with. FML and eff you hormones. 

mommac2017

@vvilla3, I'm sorry but your story made me laugh! Thank you! When I was pregnant with DS, my hormones were our of control. I remember sending an email to one of our top directors at the hospital calling him out on some stuff. And then immediately running to one of my friends and just bawling my face off to her! I was horrified! In the end, my raging hormones got me a lot of respect from that director, and many others as well haha

ChocolateIsLife

@vvilla3 oh I so feel for you!!!! I used to work in Marketing, and I remember the amount of pressure I would feel during those meetings. 

VLillyV

@vvilla3 oh man. That's such rotten luck. I really really dislike those stress meetings. Our numbers are way down too. Oi. Big hugs your way, stupid hormones. At least they somewhat fear you? Better then them being jerks.

PizzaMonster3

I can't totally laugh at it now - but they probably won't forget it for a while! 

EmEeGee

@emwj10187 I hate being pregnant. I hated it the entire time last go around. The nurse and I even high fived after I delivered because I wasn't pregnant anymore. You don't love your baby any less. You won't be a worse mother because of it. Not every body responds the same way and my body hates pregnancy. I agree though that it's better to just lie to most people because 1. It's easier 2. Some things are fun like when they start moving 3. You never know who is struggling to be where you are. Hang in there. 

autumnbaby-2

@kmornelas29 I recently switched prenatals a couple of weeks ago because mine were making me sick too. I'm now taking vitaMedMD RediChew Rx. Ive been taking them for 2 weeks, and it's been a world of a difference. They are a prescription, and recommended for those of us who get sick from the regular Prenatals. Good luck!! 

emwj10187

@natleilynn yeah, im holding out so much hope for the 2nd trimester. I'm almost there though, about a week and a half away.... keep your fingers crossed for me.

@canonmom413 & @emegee  Thanks for the advice. I'm keeping my feelings quiet on the topic, and only shared it here in "pregnancy confessions" Otherwise I'm thrilled for the outcome, and hey maybe once im in the 2nd trimester I'll feel differently! 

lin1019

I confess that I sometimes use my pregnancy just to be lazy and avoid things that I don't want to do.
I also don't feel anything. Aside from common pregnamcy symtoms. The thought of being pregnant and having a baby grow inside me haven't really sunk in yet. Maybe when I have my baby bump I'd feel it more. I've been through a lot because of my pregnancy, and I'm not really loving being pregnant. Pregnancy itself. But I'm happy. We have been TTC for a couple of months and we finally got pregnant so I'm trying to enjoy it as much as I could. Hopefully all the bad part would subside on second trimester. Keeping my fingers crossed.

sjohns908

I quit taking my prenatal vitamin a couple weeks ago. I honestly never took them with my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies and don't really care

I hate the first trimester. Being nauseous, exhausted and fighting headaches that I can't take my migraine meds for is miserable and I hate it. 

I didn't have a connection with my first child until a few months after she was born. I look at my birth experience as super negative, not because anything bad happened, but because I decided against an epidural and it ruined the whole experience. I was so focused on the pain that when  she came out, I was just glad it was over and that's all I focused on. It really, really bums me out

ChocolateIsLife

Well I had my first pregnancy mini meltdown. It was over a chicken pot pie. I put mine on the counter and asked DH to watch it for 20 seconds so that I could go put my progesterone suppository in. He said ok, and as soon as I walked away, he got sidetracked and went to his office. When I came back to the kitchen, the dogs were having my dinner, and I just started bawling. Thankfully he bought like 10 of them but I didn't want to wait another 10 minutes for one...man!  

roo_baby

@kmornelas29 - my doctor said for the first trimester to just take the folic acid and skip the prenatal vitamins since they make me nauseous, too. You may want to ask yours if that's ok for you to do until you get into your second trimester and are hopefully feeling better.  

roo_baby

@natleilynn - sushi has been one of the few things I can tolerate, so I've eaten it about once a week. I figure the omega 3s help balance out the mercury. I try and order more shellfish or cooked sushi, but I just can't resist the tuna. 

kmornelas29

Thanks for all the prenatal vitamin advice! I'll look into some of those suggestions. Also, for those who don't feel connected yet...neither do I! I know it will come, but I'm so busy with my little one, I haven't had much time to "fall in love" with the baby on my tummy! Waiting for it... 

s_corrigall

keiraanne said:

I feel so emotionally disconnected so far. I'm only seven weeks along and I am very aware of everything that's happening. Things got a bit more real with our first MW appointment earlier this week, but I still haven't had that overwhelming rush of emotion that I expected. Don't get me wrong - I'm excited, but I still can't fathom the whole "there's a baby growing in my belly" and "I'm going to be a mom" thing.

I remember everyone saying that women become mothers when they get pregnant and men become fathers when their baby is born. I never understood that. I hated being pregnant, never felt connected to my unborn child, even called her 'it' until she was born. There's nothing wrong with not being as excited as you think you should be.

My confession is that I had a 1/4 glass of red wine at my inlaw's the other night. It was delicious and I regret nothing.

TheFathersDaughter93

I ate an entire roll of sushi yesterday from my kroger's sushi counter. It. Was. Phenomenal. I did make sure it just had shrimp as far as sea food in it. But holy heck. So good. 
Also, I've been horrible about making my husbands lunches this week and dinners. I've been throwing the kids and I something together but not cooking anything really. Mostly because of food aversions. But also because I've been lazy. He never asks me to make his lunch, I just do it for him because honestly he won't and he works two jobs so I can stay home with our two littles. And I haven't been sick so I cant even use that as an excuse.   

buttercream_frosting

@kmornelas29 When do you take your vitamin? i switched to bedtime and I find it much better than first thing in the morning. Helps me to not have an empty tummy though.

@asickles98 Wishing you a boring and healthy pregnancy. Sorry for your previous loss.

My pregnancy confession... I hate pregnant me 1.0. I was that glowy happy pregnant woman dancing around with a crown of flowers on her head singing to the birds and deer. I'd go back and slap her. First tri is kicking my ass this time round.

kathleenlm-2

Oh thank goodness the are others! I'm not real excited to be pregnant. We waited, or rather I waited, so I could do all the fun stuff. I just played my last roller derby bout & I'm mad about it. I can still skate but it won't be the same sitting on the sidelines watching.
Soccer ended, and volleyball will be over in a few weeks. I'm not motivated to go to the gym & am bloated & gassy every time I eat. I can't complain b/c those are my only symptoms. That & getting winded faster during sports.
I keep trying to get motivated to shift my workouts to the gym, but I just go home, put on comfy clothes, watch TV & eat cereal. I know working out is a huge factor for me, but I just can't right now.