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TTCAL Weekly Check In - Week of March 13th

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**This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage / spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and / or stillbirth may be mentioned.**

I figured there are a bunch of us, so it might be nice to have a thread here in addition to TTCAL to encourage anyone who wants to participate from either board.

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.)

How are things going?

Any testing coming up?

Any recent results?

How is your partner dealing?
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***TW***
Me: 29 DH: 31
Dating: 2/15/2007 Married: 4/16/2011 TTC: September 2016
BFP #1: 11/26/2016 - MC: 12/6/2016
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
3/2017 Dx: LPD - Rx: Progesterone After O
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Re: TTCAL Weekly Check In - Week of March 13th

  • starlastarla member
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    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.)
    Me: 33, DH: 32. I just had my first M/C at 11 weeks. I don't have any issues that I know of. I think it was just a horrible fluke. 

    How are things going?
    Much better. I have my follow-up with the OBGYN this week. We want to start trying again right away. 

    Any testing coming up?
    Nope. 

    Any recent results?
    Nope. 

    How is your partner dealing?
    He's OK now. He was sad and disappointed just like I was. Also he was worried about me. 
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


    NYTino24madspunkdarkrose88
  • Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.) I'm 28 and DH is 31. We had an m/c in December and a cp last week. OB thinks m/c might be a progesterone issue, but we didn't do any chromosomal testing so we don't really know.

    How are things going? Crappy, my birthday is next week so the cp is basically like an f---ed early birthday present. I know that 29 is not that old, but all I can think is if I can't stay KU at 28 how is turning another year older going to help? The cp is definitely hitting me harder than the m/c. With the m/c we had a crying and our grieving, but after that it was like okay we can try again, better luck next time, and all that shit. This time there's less crying and grieving, but a lot more thinking okay I'm now 0 for 2, can I really handle going 0 for 3.

    Any testing coming up? Nope, NP doesn't believe me that I got a BFP with the cp so no tests ordered.

    Any recent results? Nope

    How is your partner dealing? He's trying so hard to be supportive, and I just really want to smack him. Him being supportive is him asking how I'm doing a lot of times. He seemed kind of confused that I was so upset (he didn't let himself get excited about the cp), but I explained my concerns about being able to stay KU and he seems to understand more now.
    TTGP June 2017 Siggy Challenge - Funny Sunburns and Tan Lines

    ***TW***
    Me: 29 DH: 31
    Dating: 2/15/2007 Married: 4/16/2011 TTC: September 2016
    BFP #1: 11/26/2016 - MC: 12/6/2016
    BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
    3/2017 Dx: LPD - Rx: Progesterone After O
    NYTino24madspunkwabash15darkrose88
  • starlastarla member
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    @KariAnn323 Would your doctor put you on progesterone next time? Also is there any way you can get rid of that horrible NP and get someone else?
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


  • @Starla OB plans to test beta and progesterone after I get a BFP. There's a whole list of things the NP did with this cp that was hurtful so I'm going to write the OB a letter outlining what happened and requesting to be transferred to the second NP they just hired. It's a very small practice so there's no clinic manager or I would talk to them. The OB is the only one at the practice so it's almost impossible to get him on the phone or get an appointment with him if you're not KU.
    TTGP June 2017 Siggy Challenge - Funny Sunburns and Tan Lines

    ***TW***
    Me: 29 DH: 31
    Dating: 2/15/2007 Married: 4/16/2011 TTC: September 2016
    BFP #1: 11/26/2016 - MC: 12/6/2016
    BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
    3/2017 Dx: LPD - Rx: Progesterone After O
    cait32NYTino24
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    @KariAnn323 I think the letter is a very good idea. What the NP did was totally unprofessional and he/she needs to get called out on it!
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


    cait32
  • @Starla yeah she definitely needs to get called out on it. She didn't even bother to call me about the beta result I got to find out via the online patient portal. I'm normally a very understanding person and I used to work at a medical clinic, I understand that there are people who will go in for anything. I'm not one of those people though. It's not like I call every month saying omg I'm totes KU give me a blood test.
    TTGP June 2017 Siggy Challenge - Funny Sunburns and Tan Lines

    ***TW***
    Me: 29 DH: 31
    Dating: 2/15/2007 Married: 4/16/2011 TTC: September 2016
    BFP #1: 11/26/2016 - MC: 12/6/2016
    BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
    3/2017 Dx: LPD - Rx: Progesterone After O
    starla
  • starlastarla member
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    @KariAnn323 Yeah no kidding. And you think she'd be trained (and just intuitively know) to be more sensitive to women who have just had a loss.

    All the doctors and midwives that I dealt with were great except for the male doctor at the ER when I went to get my RhoGAM shot. He came into the room and asked me "so what's been going on?" I think my jaw dropped open and I just stared at him so he repeated the question. I wanted to say "Are you fucking kidding me? Read the chart in front of your face where it says that I had a missed M/C! Are you really going to make me say it??" Jeez...
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


  • @Starla I didn't get as far as you were but my OB told me that after reading all the research articles he hasn't really found a solid reason as to why you should wait.  He said that some doctors prefer and and some don't.  He basically told me he doesn't make his patients wait and that he's had women that got pregnant the cycle after and had healthy pregnancies.  I hope this helps  <3

    @KariAnn323  that NP can suck it!  I'm so sorry you had to deal with a healthcare professional that was just rude. 

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.) We are both 30 and had an early miscarriage in February.  

    How are things going?   OK.  I'm a little nervous to test.  I'm past the emotional I was pregnant point and it's not fair but I'm sure if family asks when we will be pregnant I might loose it.  (They don't know we are trying nor the miscarriage)

    Any testing coming up? HPT tomorrow.

    Any recent results?  Still waiting for the damn SA result.  I missed the call from my doctor last week and have been patiently waiting since he said he would call me back.

    How is your partner dealing?  I think he's keeping himself zen af and not trying to get excited about anything. 

    TTC Baby #2: April 2016
    BFP 02/10/2017,  MC 02/16/2017
    BFP 03/13/2017,  MC 03/31/2017


    NYTino24madspunkwabash15
  • Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.)

    I am 29 and DH is 31. We had a loss in December that was a CP. No known diagnosis, just suspected thin uterine lining. Had very short, spotty (1.5 day AFs during CP cycle and the following two cycles). Last cycle, I had a 2.5 day AF...so hoping that is going back to normal (which is 4-5 days for me).

    How are things going?
    I have been able to stay surprisingly calm this cycle and TWW. It's cycle 6, 4 TTCAL for us. AF is due on Friday. Mentally, not posting in the TWW thread daily has been very good for me. It's helped me not obsess. Of course, I have been a lurker, but haven't been as participatory. 

    Any testing coming up?
    I am 11 DPO, and can't bring myself to test. Reality is, other than some pelvic twinges, I have no symptoms, so little optimism. Might get up the courage to test at 13 or 14DPO, but not sure. 

    Any recent results?
    Nada.

    How is your partner dealing?

    I think he is fine. I haven't actually brought up TTC in a while. I don't even tell him when the FW is because it creates stress for him and he has performance issues. However, we were in the store yesterday and there were little kid carts and he said, "Isn't that cute?" and smiled at me. It was a bit emotional because I know he loves kids (he works with them for a living) and will be a great father...I am just heartbroken I can't give that to him right now.
    **TW: Loss Mentioned**
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Dating: August 2003  | Married: August 2013
    TTC #1: Since October 2016 | BFP #1: 12/4/16  CP: 12/6/16
    BFP #2: 3/14/17  EDD: 11/23/17
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  • mispanda FX for testing tomorrow! How many DPO are you?

    KariAnn323 I am sorry you had to deal with a bad NP. I agree with writing a letter. Customer service is key in the health care field and she shouldn't treat you or any other patient that way.

    Starla Did they do testing and that's what your follow up is for? Hugs again and hope the follow up goes well.

    **TW: Loss Mentioned**
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Dating: August 2003  | Married: August 2013
    TTC #1: Since October 2016 | BFP #1: 12/4/16  CP: 12/6/16
    BFP #2: 3/14/17  EDD: 11/23/17
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    starla
  • @dragonfly87 I'm 11dpo.  I normally have a 11/12 LP so I'll test tomorrow.  Plus my doctor does want to do labs asap so I'm not going to wait until AF is late just in case.


    TTC Baby #2: April 2016
    BFP 02/10/2017,  MC 02/16/2017
    BFP 03/13/2017,  MC 03/31/2017


  • starlastarla member
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    @dragonfly87 No, they're not doing any testing. There's no reason for concern and I agree. I'm not sure what the OBGYN wants to know - probably how things went and whether I feel OK, no infection, etc.? It sounds like not telling DH when you're in your FW is a good idea. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. :)

    @mispanda See I don't know what people mean when they say next cycle. Do they mean the first O after the M/C bleeding or are they counting the next full cycle (another AF after the M/C)?
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


    dragonfly87-2
  • Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.) I'm 29, DH is 31. Two losses, one in September 2016, one just last week. No diagnosis yet.

    How are things going? I'm feeling really depressed the last couple days. I'm wondering how much is just hormones changing, but I also am feeling a bit disconnected from DH lately, and my parents are visiting. They don't know about this second loss, so to them everything is just fine and I feel like I'm just playing this big charade all the time. I love them, but I'll be really happy to just have time to ourselves when they leave.

    Any testing coming up? I have an appointment set up April 10th to go over testing options. We sent in tissue for testing last week, but will be a bit until we get results back.

    Any recent results? nope

    How is your partner dealing? We've been a bit disconnected with having my family visiting. And he's got a cold, so even when we have a few minutes to ourselves to talk, he's just trying to sleep it off. 
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    NYTino24madspunkwabash15
  • @Starla, FX everything is clear at your appointment. Is it tomorrow?

    @KariAnn323 I'm still so sorry to see you back here. Don't beat yourself up about being a year older. You still have plenty of time, and always remember that most people will go in to have completely normal pregnancies even after a few losses. Hang in there.

    @mispanda, I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. I know now how hard it is to test after a loss. 

    @dragonfly87, I'm also thinking about taking a step back from many things TTC when we jump back in next cycle. Part of that is DH's worry that I'm stressing out to much about all this. In some ways he's right, but it's so difficult to me since it's something I want so badly. Plus, all you girls rock, and I'd never be able to cut it off completely. Maybe I'll just try not temping for a cycle or two.
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    dragonfly87-2
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    @icecubeinthedesert My appointment is on Thursday. I called to make sure they didn't want to see me sooner and they said no. Everything seems OK for the time being.
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


  • @starla, I must have remembered it wrong. Sorry you have to wait so long!
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    starla
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    @icecubeinthedesert Oh you're right... Sorry, a lot has been going on. I did have an appointment with a gyno for tomorrow that my doctor arranged for me. However, I ended up freaking out on Wednesday because I wanted to get this whole thing over with and move on, and the doctor prescribed me the wrong dose of misoprostol. I didn't want to wait until Tuesday to rectify this.

    My ex-midwife was super sweet and got me in to see the OBGYN on-call at the hospital and she saw me right away. She gave me the correct prescription, which I took on Thursday. I now have a follow up with HER this Thursday and cancelled my other appointment.
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


    icecubeinthedesert
  • @Starla, that all makes more sense! I'm so glad you're getting in with someone you feel more comfortable with!
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    starla
  • @Starla next cycle means that O after the mc bleeding.  At least that's how I took it.


    TTC Baby #2: April 2016
    BFP 02/10/2017,  MC 02/16/2017
    BFP 03/13/2017,  MC 03/31/2017


    starla
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    mispanda said:
    @Starla next cycle means that O after the mc bleeding.  At least that's how I took it.

    Me, too, but mostly because I'm impatient. ;)
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


  • madspunkmadspunk member
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    edited March 13
    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.)
    We're both 29. We've had one loss.  I have PCOS and was on my second cycle of fertility treatments when we conceived (injectables + trigger + progesterone). No reason given for the early MC besides "bad luck".

    How are things going? 
    I'm feeling impatient to start TTC again. Also feeling angry and tired.

    Any testing coming up?
    They're monitoring my HCG levels until they're back under 5. Then I can start fertility treatment again. Since I don't O or get my period on my own usually, it looks like I can start trying again as soon as my HCG level has dropped.

    Any recent results?
    No.

    How is your partner dealing?
    He wants to move forward and forget about this.
    starlawabash15
  • @kariann323 That's crazy your doctor didn't believe you about the CP! How crappy of them. I hope you're able to get in with the other NP.

    @starla Best of luck to get the go ahead to start TTC again right away. I'm at a fertility clinic, and their protocol is to have the MC, then wait for another period, and then start trying. But really, they just want your HCG levels down to below 5 before they'll prescribe fertility meds.
    starla
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    @madspunk I have a lot of the same feelings... Hugs, girl.
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
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    madspunk
  • @Starla I hope the follow up goes well

    @KariAnn323 next time you get a BFP, I'd tell them you're coming in. I didn't mention it when you originally mentioned it but when I got my BFP, I had already been bleeding. The nurse I talked to on the phone said there was nothing they could do.  Luckily my bff insisted I call back and tell them I was coming in for tests. Otherwise they would never have seen my up & down hcg to indicate ectopic. Sometimes I think they get so desensitized and sadly. you have to stick up for yourself 

    @mispanda FX for you!

    @dragonfly87 sometimes taking a break helps

    @icecubeinthedesert it has to be so hard having your family there

    @madspunk I feel the same way

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.) I'm 36 & DH is 38. Currently going through an ectopic

    How are things going? After 48 days the bleeding has finally stopped!  I'm still getting twinges though which freaks me out ((esp since I'm traveling out of the country on Friday) but my OB says its normal.  I think the constant paranoia of still being able to rupture may be the worst part of this. 

    Any testing coming up? hcg test on Wednesday 

    Any recent results? My levels went from 547 to 235 a week later, last Wednesday. It would be great if I had that big of drop this week too

    How is your partner dealing? I don't think he really thinks about. He tried to start something and I was like dude, I've been bleeding for 45, I have random twinges of pain--having sex with you is not something I'm wanting right now  
    NYTino24wabash15madspunk
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    @purplg8r Sadly, you are right, sometimes they get very desensitized to it. When my previous OB told me it was a CP, she just said..."Well, looks it's not a viable pregnancy. I am not going to prescribe any specific treatments or anything because you haven't had 3 losses yet...but wait 3 cycles and try again." It felt so cold and scripted. I was in shock and didn't say much, but I switched OBs because it just left me with a sour taste in my mouth.

    ETA: It's great to hear the bleeding has stopped and hopefully you will be fully recovered with low hcg levels soon. Sorry your DH said that, sometimes I don't think men really think about it or affected the same way.
    **TW: Loss Mentioned**
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Dating: August 2003  | Married: August 2013
    TTC #1: Since October 2016 | BFP #1: 12/4/16  CP: 12/6/16
    BFP #2: 3/14/17  EDD: 11/23/17
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  • Erg, just when I am trying to have a positive day and not obsess over TTC, my mom makes a comment. I know she is being well intentioned, but she asked, "So when do you think you will try to have a kid again?" I told her I didn't know. She doesn't know when have been actively trying since our loss in December (she knows about the CP) or that every month I cry when AF arrives. I just don't want to talk about it and plan to tell them when/if we get a BFP. 

    She is acting so impatient about having a grandchild, but doesn't realize that 1) we too are impatient about having a baby and 2) her asking is just a constant reminder that I haven't got KTFU again.

    End rant.
    **TW: Loss Mentioned**
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Dating: August 2003  | Married: August 2013
    TTC #1: Since October 2016 | BFP #1: 12/4/16  CP: 12/6/16
    BFP #2: 3/14/17  EDD: 11/23/17
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  • @dragonfly87 well I spoke too soon. I guess yesterday & today up until now was just a teaser.  Here's to day 50. And moms can be so frustrating. Mines the same way--she doesn't realize that if she's wanting a grand baby, we're wanting a baby a million times more
    dragonfly87-2
  • @purplg8r Ah, I am so sorry your body is not cooperating! I hope it stops soon. I agree, moms can be so frustrating. We love them and they mean well...but they sometimes just don't get it!
    **TW: Loss Mentioned**
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Dating: August 2003  | Married: August 2013
    TTC #1: Since October 2016 | BFP #1: 12/4/16  CP: 12/6/16
    BFP #2: 3/14/17  EDD: 11/23/17
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    @purplg8r You're making great progress with your HCG dropping. I'm sure this will all be over soon.

    @dragonfly17 That sucks that your mom is being insensitive. Have you thought about sharing at least some of your feelings? You don't even have to tell her that you're TTC, but maybe just mention that it upsets you when she asks about grandkids and that you'll tell her when your'e pregnant again.

    Guys, I'm having a great day so far. I got a snow day (woohooo!!!) AND I called around to see if I could get an U/S due to any cancellations today. After calling 2 or 3, I found out that had an appointment this afternoon! I'm so happy that I don't have to wait until the 22nd and I will have my results before my follow-up with the OBGYN this Thursday, which is ideal. Now, let's just hope that everything looks good on the ultrasound! I never thought I'd be so excited about a post-M/C ultrasound. :smiley:
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
    Pregnancy Ticker


    LoveInDCNYTino24wabash15
  • @Starla, that's very fortunate! Good luck, and keep us posted!
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    starla
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    Update: I just went for my U/S. The tech asked me if it was my first pregnancy and how far along I was... I snapped at her, telling her that I just had a miscarriage and to read the requisition form. I also said "what is wrong with you?" She felt bad and I think she tried to back out of it by saying that she still needed to know my LMP. Whatever. I didn't apologize, but I did thank her at the end. This is up there with the ER doctor who asked me what's been "going on" as if he didn't know why I was there. Why aren't these medical professionals trying to be more sensitive and why do they make me say it?

    Anyway, I asked the tech if if looked like everything was gone and she said yes. She also did an internal U/S to check my ovaries and lining. I'll find out more from the OBGYN on Thursday. For now, it sounds like everything is OK. The bleeding has pretty much stopped.
    *TW*
    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
    My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
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    NYTino24Avrilmaidragonfly87-2
  • @Starla I'm sorry you had to deal with that.  It should be required to READ their paperwork before they talk to a patient.  I'm sure she won't make that mistake again!


    TTC Baby #2: April 2016
    BFP 02/10/2017,  MC 02/16/2017
    BFP 03/13/2017,  MC 03/31/2017


    starla
  • @Starla I'm so glad you got an ultrasound today!  But ugh about the tech--come on--do your job!!
    starla
  • @Starla, even though the ultrasound tech was being oblivious/insensitive, I'm so happy everything looked good for you! 
    Me: 29 | DH: 31
    Met: August 2006
    Married: July 2012
    TTC #1 since June 2016

    ***TW***

    BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
    BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
    MTHFR: homozygous A1298C


    starla
  • @Starla I'm sorry the ER doc and the u/s tech were such assholes. I'm glad everything looks good though.

    @icecubeinthedesert *Hugs* I'm sorry your parents are there and making things awkward. FX once they leave you'll feel more connected to YH. Like I said, I know 29 isn't that old. I think the bigger part of it is when we started trying in September we just assumed that I wouldn't be able to drink for my birthday because I would be KU by then. We're also helping run a convention the weekend of my birthday and so we thought about how exciting it would be see to celebrate this with all of our friends who we only see once a year. I think it's that I'm not KU and we're on cycle 7 at a time where when we started trying it was inconceivable that I wouldn't be KU.

    @madspunk *Hugs* FX your numbers go down quickly

    @purplg8r  I did tell them I was coming in. It seriously took 15 minutes to explain what was going on to the receptionist because apparently "Hello my name is _________. I got a positive pregnancy test this morning. I need to come in right away for a beta and a progesterone lab because I've previously had a miscarriage." isn't clear enough.

    TTGP June 2017 Siggy Challenge - Funny Sunburns and Tan Lines

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    Me: 29 DH: 31
    Dating: 2/15/2007 Married: 4/16/2011 TTC: September 2016
    BFP #1: 11/26/2016 - MC: 12/6/2016
    BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
    3/2017 Dx: LPD - Rx: Progesterone After O
    starladragonfly87-2madspunk
  • @purplg8r That sucks about the endless bleeding. You are not alone in the husband doesn't think about it thing. I know my husband is upset about our loss, but for the most part he is just trying not to think about it at all and doing quite well. I wish I could do that.

    @Starla Glad to hear your ultrasound went well even though the tech was completely oblivious to your situation. 

    I had bloodwork today and my HCG level has dropped to 7! I'm so glad this is at least going quickly. Hopefully we can start trying again soon.
    starlawabash15
  • @KariAnn323 - I'm so glad you're reaching out to your OB.  How that NP treated you was so unfair and unkind.  

    @Starla - Omg the things that come out of some of these tech's mouths is insane.  With the pregnancy that got to 20 weeks, we were going in for 30 min u/s every single week.  At first, we thought we were being overly-sensitive.  We finally asked our MFM after everything was over, and she was appalled.  Things like "have you named your baby yet?" I get that some people name the children they lose as part of their memory. But that should be something you let the pregnant woman bring up, not something you ask to try and break the silence and chit chat during an u/s.  

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.) See signiture

    How are things going? Much better right now.  I took 5 days off of TB because I was not in a good place when my period arrived earlier than expected (I'm not tempting, but I am doing OPKs and it came approximately 4 or 5 days early).  It has be a bit concerned.  I'm writing it off as a one-time fluke, but will keep it in the back of my mind incase it happens again.  

    Any testing coming up? Nope

    Any recent results? Nope.  Does my period count as a result?

    How is your partner dealing? He's doing really well. It still hits him occasionally, but its rare and shortlived.  

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    Me: 31+ H: 32
    TTC Since 11/2015
    #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
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    @Tennis11785 I hope you're doing better now. How many days do your cycles usually vary?
    I think those U/S techs are just young girls (most of them have been in their early 20s) that have never gone through a pregnancy, let alone a loss. The doctors, NPs, etc. should know better. Not that I'm excusing the techs... they're just awkward girls barely out of their teens. Sensitivity around TTC and loss should be taught to anyone in the medical field.
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    Me- 33 DH-32
    Married Aug. 2013
    TTC #1 Sep. 2016
    BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 9, 2017 at 11 weeks
    TTCAL Mar. 2017
    BFP Jun. 5, 2017; EDD Feb. 16, 2018
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  • @Starla @Tennis11785 I'm sorry for your experiences. When the ER OBGYN called me to let me know my beta levels had dropped from low to lower, she kind of made me feel like the experience was my own fault for testing early before I missed my period. Which I suppose technically it was (I only made it to two days late), but still...

    Introduce yourself and anything you think is important (age, number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es) , diagnosis / conditions surrounding loss, etc.)
    I'm 33, Dh is 30. We started trying this year, and I got my first BFP at 12 dpo, but then started spotting the next day, was sent to the ER on 14 dpo because I had pinching on the left side, so they feared it might be ectopic. They didn't find anything on the u/s and I had no pain, so just had a blood draw as follow-up on 16dpo, which confirmed it was a CP. Sorry for the novel, still learning how to talk about this. 

    How are things going?
    Ok now. The ER visit was really stressful, I was there for 5 or 6 hours with new techs and Drs being introduced all the time, but no one telling me what was going on or what my results were. By the end, I couldn't stop crying even though at that point for all I knew I could still go on to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy. Some more crying as I got results over the next days and when AF arrived. But I was never actually far enough along for me to 'feel' pregnant. That might help me cope, I don't know.

    Any testing coming up?
    Just a (hopefully final) beta-level testing next week to see if they're back to 0. The OBGYN wants us to wait until they are to try again. 

    Any recent results?
    Got some (I think general) blood work result back from my ER visit, with some levels of things being marked as low, but no explanation of what it means...

    How is your partner dealing?
    He's doing ok. I think he also never really felt that we were pregnant, and the biggest thing for him was to see me so sad. But he's been very supportive, took time off from work/worked from home to be with me. 
    madspunk
  • @Starla -- When I came off the pill I was very regular at like 33 or 34 days (I'd need to go back and double check). Then in January, it dropped to 27 days.  I figured it was because my body was finally regulating after years of BCP and the two pregnancies. In February (which ended up being a CP), it looked like it was going to be another 27/28 day cycle based on O date, but who knows.  I got a BFP on CD 27 and then the CP started on CD 33.  March looked like it was on track to be another 27/28 day cycle based on O date, but then ended up being 23 days. I'm trying to chalk it up to body regulating (including a weird cycle after the CP).  If I go back to either a 27/28 or a 33/34 day cycle next month, I'll be less concerned.  

    ** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Dad Fails **
    **TTGP March Siggy Winner**

    Me: 31+ H: 32
    TTC Since 11/2015
    #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
    starla
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