After reading the randoms this may apply, my 4 year old and almost 3 year old went back at the dentist without me. They said I could go back with my with my daughter since she was still 2 but she wanted to go on her own with her brother. They were back there max 20 minutes and came and got me to bring me back and tell me what all they did. The room was a giant open space with zero individual rooms and I felt pretty comfortable with it. Flame away.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I wouldn't flame you for not going back, especially if they're not alone in a room with one adult. It's more of an issue if you want to and the office says you can't. No, it's my kid, thanks.
While vacation in Ireland last week and the week before, I had the equivalent of about 2 glasses of wine and about a 1/2 pint of Guinness total all added together. Totally. worth. it.
@FSUNole31 No flames here.. I just responded to the randoms. It's a sanitation reason and I agree parents and germy siblings shouldnt be back there while kids are getting stuff done. A normal cleaning fine.
Last night I took away DSs pacifier. He had a hard time going down but then slept fine all night. He woke up at 545 this morning as I was leaving for work and apparently wouldnt go back to sleep. DH calls at 630 asking where the pacis are bc hes been awakebthe whole time. I told him I threw them away but in reality they are sitting in a box on the kitchen counter. Get on board man! You want the paci so you can sleep not DS needing it. DH is pissed but I told him to suck it up. I dont feel bad about taking them, I dont feel bad that I did it on a work day, and I dont feel bad I lied about where they are.
@merrylea lucky lady! My hubs won't even let me have a sip of anything. He swears it will injure the baby and most of the time I don't have time/patience to debate him about it. He's also the same guy who thinks you get the epidural at the very end only when it's time to push. He's clueless. He swears he knows everything because he has a 19 year old daughter. A lot has changed in 19 years. Oh well.
@merrylea lucky lady! My hubs won't even let me have a sip of anything. He swears it will injure the baby and most of the time I don't have time/patience to debate him about it. He's also the same guy who thinks you get the epidural at the very end only when it's time to push. He's clueless. He swears he knows everything because he has a 19 year old daughter. A lot has changed in 19 years. Oh well.
I hope you'll get the epidural when YOU are ready for it, not him.
FFFC: I have never drank more than a few sips of coffee in my entire life.
With that being said.... I am tired all of the time. And came to the realization this morning, that after this baby is born, it isn't going to be any better. With 3 kids (that is including 1 stepdaughter who we only have on weekends). So, I need help. I think I need to learn to drink coffee. Any tips?
@emeraldnc I would start with cream and sugar and make it as sweet as you like to tolerate it and then dial back on both as you've learned to like it. I used to love nothing but the drinks with tons of syrup and flavors in them. Now I'm good with a cup of coffee with 2 sugars and a splash of cream or an Americano with a bit of cream.
Also I forgot.. when I'm being calorie conscience I use brown sugar splenda in my coffee. I like the little bit of carmelly flavor you get from it as opposed to regular splenda.
While vacation in Ireland last week and the week before, I had the equivalent of about 2 glasses of wine and about a 1/2 pint of Guinness total all added together. Totally. worth. it.
I'll have a glass of wine or beer every couple of weeks or so. I especially would if I was on vacation! If my doctor is cool with it I'm cool with it.
My FFFC: I eat what I
want when pregnant. Almost anything in moderation for me. I
think people overdo it on the “I can’t eat this because #pregnant” thing. I mean you do you if it makes you more
comfortable (doesn’t impact my stomach), but I can’t stand the judgement from
other pregnant women when I dive into a deli sandwich or woof down my cookie
dough ice cream. I eat things with raw
egg (eg cookie dough), sushi from reputable sushi restaurants, deli meat, soft
cheese, etc. Both my OB and IVF specialist concur that
women all over the world continue to eat foods that are supposedly “off limits”
in the US and those babies are just fine.
I mean it kind of comes down to common sense for me. Eat food from reputable providers (eg no gas
station sushi) and take proper precaution with safe food handling just as one would
do when not pregnant anyway.
My FFFC is that Monday I spent a good hour or two crying over something that was pretty much a vanity issue. My cat got scared by something while I was holding her and she scratched my nose pretty hard. I'm pretty confident that the scratch will leave a noticeable scar based off how other cat scratches on my arms and such have healed. And like, I'm super upset over the whole thing even though it's just a cosmetic issue. I'm fine. Baby is fine. Kitty is fine. Everyone is OK. And I'm so upset over probably having a scar that I cried in my bathroom for that long? It's been a couple of days now and I'm feeling a little better but honestly I'm still pretty upset that I'm going to have a scar on my face. And the whole thing makes me feel like a bad person because honestly I have such a good life and I shouldn't let something so minor upset me so much.
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Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
I found out that my mom has scheduled an out of town trip two weeks before my due date. I kind of hope I have my baby then, if I know she's in the waiting room pacing back and forth that will stress me out! I'm semi-considering not telling anyone when we actually go into labor and just calling once she's born.
My FC is that I absolutely hate when older people try to give you outdated advice and then follow up with, "we did it that way and we survived". ARGH! Oh yeah, what about all the people who did it that way and didn't survive? Shut up old people, and stop giving advice. This includes you mom, MIL and aunties! I've told my mother off so many times that she just shuts up now when I say that something's not recommended anymore.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
@kdanjou My grandmother will literally come and take milk OUT of my hands because she deems it unsafe during pregnancy. I guess when she was having children milk wasn't always pasteurized and she fusses at me anytime she knows I have or want to drink milk.
@meg2704 we only call the babysitter, and my mom. Everyone else finds out when we send out texts with her picture. The world finds out when we post on Facebook. Usually within 24 hours of baby getting here.
That being said. My FFFC which could be a UO but I'm here so I'll just say it. I HATE when people put play by plays on Facebook when they are in labor. I will totally side eye and judge.
Sally is 4 cms! They broke her water! She's screaming like a crazy person for drugs. O here is a selfie of Sally after her epi. 10 cms time to push!! 2 hrs later... Yes she's still pushing! Welcome baby AW...
And we are military so I get wanting to keep family updated, that's what cell phones and group texts are for. I don't need to know about Sally's cervix thanks.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@kdanjou Ha! I'm with but I get more from people who are retired from the Navy trying to tell me or those around me how to do our jobs or handle personnel. Yes I know you were a sailor when Columbus was sailing the sea's but things are different now :-)
@merrylea lucky lady! My hubs won't even let me have a sip of anything. He swears it will injure the baby and most of the time I don't have time/patience to debate him about it. He's also the same guy who thinks you get the epidural at the very end only when it's time to push. He's clueless. He swears he knows everything because he has a 19 year old daughter. A lot has changed in 19 years. Oh well.
I sure hope this isn't true and that this is your way of getting the board passionate about something.
@merrylea lucky lady! My hubs won't even let me have a sip of anything. He swears it will injure the baby and most of the time I don't have time/patience to debate him about it. He's also the same guy who thinks you get the epidural at the very end only when it's time to push. He's clueless. He swears he knows everything because he has a 19 year old daughter. A lot has changed in 19 years. Oh well.
I sure hope this isn't true and that this is your way of getting the board passionate about something.
I hope so too.
Now with that said, my DH will raise concerns and we talk about them. I absolutely do not discount him just because I am caring our child.
BUT, he can never forbid me of something or tell me if any have an epidural??
I wish I was trying to get you ladies all riled up. He means no harm... this pregnancy has been just as stressful on him with all of my little one's issues as it has been for me. He doesn't know that it's ok to have a drink every now and again and it's not a debate I feel like getting into with him. As for the epidural thing he's clueless. He was 22 when his daughter was born and I think he keeps remembering back to how things were when she was born. Who knows though. Rest assured I'll be crying for pain meds as soon as contractions start. I'm weak like that.
And also I'd probably be in trouble with the Navy if they found out somehow I'd had anything to drink while pregnant. I had to sign some paperwork when the lab confirmed I was pregnant about all kinds of things I could and could not do while pregnant.
Sooo my ffc is that I can't take women who are subservient to their husbands. Regardless of the excuse: I'd rather not deal, it's not worth the fight... etc. Women need to stand up for themselves and have an equal day. Also what kinda role model do you think you are by letting your kids see you get pushed around. It's down right disgusting.
@FSUNole31 I don't flame you for not going back. Especially it being an open room. I do think it's weird if an office has an absolutely no parents going back policy. Throws up some red flags for me. But given an option feels different if that makes sense.
My DH questions me when I eat deli meat. My last two pregnancies I was bigger on avoiding it and probably spouted off listeria dangers and so now when I want to eat it he reminds me of that. And I roll my eyes and enjoy my jimmy johns lol.
I just need to vent.... so my sister in law got together with me 2 weekends ago to set up my baby shower. She asked me for my thoughts on theme guest list and the date. Well she sent out save the dates and now my other sister in law and hubs sister told her today the 22nd works better for them. Is this not my baby shower? I feel like they're real assholes for acting like that but at the same time maybe they just want to be there. The SIL planning it wants to know which date I want.
I just need to vent.... so my sister in law got together with me 2 weekends ago to set up my baby shower. She asked me for my thoughts on theme guest list and the date. Well she sent out save the dates and now my other sister in law and hubs sister told her today the 22nd works better for them. Is this not my baby shower? I feel like they're real assholes for acting like that but at the same time maybe they just want to be there. The SIL planning it wants to know which date I want.
Yeah, sorry, the date is set, hence the save the dates. If they want to be there, they'll make it work.
It'll be a cold day in hell when DH tells me what I can or cannot have, short of meth or crack. A beer or epidural? Go fvck yourself, DH.
See now with my ex it was the opposite. I very much did not want the epidural, but I swear he asked me every 20 minutes if I thought I needed it. I probably would have been fine, but in the midst of contractions and trying to center myself through them, I finally caved so he would JUST. STOP. ASKING. And I regret getting it.
With DH, we've already had that conversation, and I have past experiences now to back up why I still don't want it (the spinal headache I had after the epi, which they think I may be prone to because of a previous back injury/surgery, was horrendous, and made my first 5-6 days really difficult). He is completely on board, and we are going to some natural childbirth classes so he can be supportive through that and have some resources for himself and how he can best help/support me through labor. It's like night and day with these pregancies.
@awillis13, you do you, girl. I just don't think any man has any say on how a woman births a child. Your role is to support me and any of my wishes, whatever they may be.
I'm about to snap over some kids playing basketball. We sort of share a driveway with our neighbor's as in we "own" (this is a rental house) 95% of the driveway but their basketball goal faces the driveway so they play in our driveway. The driveway is right outside the master bedroom window and my 1yr old's room. I swear I am going to take a butcher knife to every single basketball I can find in a 1mile radius. Everytime I try to sleep that ball starts bouncing.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) #1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo #2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015 #4!!!!!!! due June 2017
@awillis13, you do you, girl. I just don't think any man has any say on how a woman births a child. Your role is to support me and any of my wishes, whatever they may be.
I kind of disagree with this. I feel it's my husband's child as well. Although, I don't take orders from him, I do think he has say and rights to be concerned.
If a man acted that way towards a woman in any situation, it wouldn't fly.
The kids and I have eaten out 4 days this week for lunch. My DH is working this weekend so I don't plan on cooking. I'm currently thinking about what yummy take out I want.
Another FFFC - I use my kids as an excuse to leave the house and avoid chores I don't want to do. Then I'll slightly stress over having time to clean (when I know it's my fault for procrastinating and I just hate some chores). I'm not good at just staying home all day and I know it's bad I'm getting my kids used to getting out everyday. But my DD will say she wants to go to the library, target, mall play area etc and I'll be like yes that's a great ideA!!
@awillis13, you do you, girl. I just don't think any man has any say on how a woman births a child. Your role is to support me and any of my wishes, whatever they may be.
I kind of disagree with this. I feel it's my husband's child as well. Although, I don't take orders from him, I do think he has say and rights to be concerned.
If a man acted that way towards a woman in any situation, it wouldn't fly.
Clearly you disagree with a lot today. See comment above, short of doing harmful things to our child (smoking meth, etc.) he has no say in how I choose to birth. I'm talking solely about child birth, as it is what started this convo.
My H is an pro anti-vaccinations, should I listen to him regarding that?
@awillis13, you do you, girl. I just don't think any man has any say on how a woman births a child. Your role is to support me and any of my wishes, whatever they may be.
I kind of disagree with this. I feel it's my husband's child as well. Although, I don't take orders from him, I do think he has say and rights to be concerned.
If a man acted that way towards a woman in any situation, it wouldn't fly.
Clearly you disagree with a lot today. See comment above, short of doing harmful things to our child (smoking meth, etc.) he has no say in how I choose to birth. I'm talking solely about child birth, as it is what started this convo.
My H is an pro anti-vaccinations, should I listen to him regarding that?
I disagree with your last sentence also.
And here I am agreeing with her this time. lol! I try really hard to squeeze opinions out of my husband because he seems to never have one. But during pregnancy I always ask him what he thinks about rule breaking at least because I want him to feel like it's his kid from the very beginning. Like most men he doesn't really bond until he sees them. But he would never care if I wanted an epi or not, or ate an unsafe cheese or whatever. He's easy going that way. If he did tell me not to eat something I would totally respect it as long as he would be willing to give it up too.
In regards to the actual way I decide to birth my child, as long as I'm not making decisions that put me or my child in actual risk or harm I think I have the right to choose how I want to birth and he doesn't really get a say in that part. In decisions that effect the child it's different. Like circumcision, delayed cord clamping, first bath etc.
if I told him I wanted to birth this baby alone in the woods without any medical professionals I would totally expect him to have an opinion. And he can give me his opinions on vbac vs c section or epidural vs none if he wants but I feel like that decision is really between me and my doctor. I really wanted to use a birth center with my second but as a vbac I was nervous and he helped me make the decision to go the hospital route. We weighed pros and cons together and I valued his opinion on the matter.
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K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
With that being said.... I am tired all of the time. And came to the realization this morning, that after this baby is born, it isn't going to be any better. With 3 kids (that is including 1 stepdaughter who we only have on weekends). So, I need help. I think I need to learn to drink coffee. Any tips?
@emeraldnc I would start with cream and sugar and make it as sweet as you like to tolerate it and then dial back on both as you've learned to like it. I used to love nothing but the drinks with tons of syrup and flavors in them. Now I'm good with a cup of coffee with 2 sugars and a splash of cream or an Americano with a bit of cream.
Also I forgot.. when I'm being calorie conscience I use brown sugar splenda in my coffee. I like the little bit of carmelly flavor you get from it as opposed to regular splenda.
My FFFC: I eat what I want when pregnant. Almost anything in moderation for me. I think people overdo it on the “I can’t eat this because #pregnant” thing. I mean you do you if it makes you more comfortable (doesn’t impact my stomach), but I can’t stand the judgement from other pregnant women when I dive into a deli sandwich or woof down my cookie dough ice cream. I eat things with raw egg (eg cookie dough), sushi from reputable sushi restaurants, deli meat, soft cheese, etc. Both my OB and IVF specialist concur that women all over the world continue to eat foods that are supposedly “off limits” in the US and those babies are just fine. I mean it kind of comes down to common sense for me. Eat food from reputable providers (eg no gas station sushi) and take proper precaution with safe food handling just as one would do when not pregnant anyway.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
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TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
That being said. My FFFC which could be a UO but I'm here so I'll just say it. I HATE when people put play by plays on Facebook when they are in labor. I will totally side eye and judge.
Sally is 4 cms!
They broke her water!
She's screaming like a crazy person for drugs.
O here is a selfie of Sally after her epi.
10 cms time to push!!
2 hrs later... Yes she's still pushing!
Welcome baby AW...
And we are military so I get wanting to keep family updated, that's what cell phones and group texts are for. I don't need to know about Sally's cervix thanks.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
Now with that said, my DH will raise concerns and we talk about them. I absolutely do not discount him just because I am caring our child.
BUT, he can never forbid me of something or tell me if any have an epidural??
I wish I was trying to get you ladies all riled up. He means no harm... this pregnancy has been just as stressful on him with all of my little one's issues as it has been for me. He doesn't know that it's ok to have a drink every now and again and it's not a debate I feel like getting into with him. As for the epidural thing he's clueless. He was 22 when his daughter was born and I think he keeps remembering back to how things were when she was born. Who knows though. Rest assured I'll be crying for pain meds as soon as contractions start. I'm weak like that.
And also I'd probably be in trouble with the Navy if they found out somehow I'd had anything to drink while pregnant. I had to sign some paperwork when the lab confirmed I was pregnant about all kinds of things I could and could not do while pregnant.
My DH questions me when I eat deli meat. My last two pregnancies I was bigger on avoiding it and probably spouted off listeria dangers and so now when I want to eat it he reminds me of that. And I roll my eyes and enjoy my jimmy johns lol.
With DH, we've already had that conversation, and I have past experiences now to back up why I still don't want it (the spinal headache I had after the epi, which they think I may be prone to because of a previous back injury/surgery, was horrendous, and made my first 5-6 days really difficult). He is completely on board, and we are going to some natural childbirth classes so he can be supportive through that and have some resources for himself and how he can best help/support me through labor. It's like night and day with these pregancies.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
If a man acted that way towards a woman in any situation, it wouldn't fly.
Another FFFC - I use my kids as an excuse to leave the house and avoid chores I don't want to do. Then I'll slightly stress over having time to clean (when I know it's my fault for procrastinating and I just hate some chores). I'm not good at just staying home all day and I know it's bad I'm getting my kids used to getting out everyday. But my DD will say she wants to go to the library, target, mall play area etc and I'll be like yes that's a great ideA!!
My H is an pro anti-vaccinations, should I listen to him regarding that?
I disagree with your last sentence also.
if I told him I wanted to birth this baby alone in the woods without any medical professionals I would totally expect him to have an opinion. And he can give me his opinions on vbac vs c section or epidural vs none if he wants but I feel like that decision is really between me and my doctor. I really wanted to use a birth center with my second but as a vbac I was nervous and he helped me make the decision to go the hospital route. We weighed pros and cons together and I valued his opinion on the matter.