Tubes tied after?

megframe16

Anyone else considering this after baby is born? This will be #3 for us. We have kind of always thought 4 was or number but I am feeling like that may be too much now. I love my kiddos but I want to be able to travel and treat them to things. Not to mention new vehicle is in order and lots of expenses! I'm trying to think about it now so I can put a lot of thought into it! It makes me a little sad though knowing it would be permanent. I am pretty young (will be 26 when baby comes) so just scared I may change my mind in the future. Any advice or thoughts?

karaszoo1

What about an iud ??? I had a mirena put in after my 17 mo old was born because I was pretty sure we were done but wasn't 100%.
When I changed my mind it was removed and got preg 6 mos later. I'm 34 so not young but not old lol maybe consider a less permanent solution since you are only 26 ?tho I dunno if your age matters as much as what you can handle emotionally physically financially. ..lol

lotsofsunshine

Tough decision! All I know is that my best friend had it done and she is now regretting it. Though, her situation is unique to her. She's learning that in order to have it reversed, it will be a very long and expensive process. On the other hand, my cousin had it done and never looked back. She's really glad she did it. Good luck!!

megframe16

Do they have an IUD or something similar that is now like 8-10 years? Or am I completely making that up...? yeah my age was just mentioned because I know it'll be years before I could handle another one if at all. But I'm young enough to wait even 10 more years and change my mind...! Super tough decision. I appreciate the feedback though!

Kristin712

Why not have your DH get a vasectomy? Reversals are much easier for men than women. 

megframe16

@Kristin712 what a wonderful idea!!! Not sure he'd go for it but I'm totally going to ask him!

lotsofsunshine

Personally, I hated my IUD and regret ever having gotten it. But, there are some women who had very good expirence with them. Definitely do your research.

tiebreaker89

I've been considering getting my tubes tied after. (This is baby #3) However DH and I are young and I'm not sure I want something so permanent. I haven't been able to find a birth control that works well for me.

imakeeff0rts

If you're unsure of doing something permanent, definitely research your birth control options. 

DH has already said that he's getting a vasectomy at some point. This is baby #2 for us, and I'm 27 and he's 29. I probably will not get my tubes tied unless he's in that percentage that knocks me up despite a vasectomy. 

Typically, vasectomies are easier on men than a tubal ligation is on women. I remember my mom telling me that she had her tubes tied when she had my brother (he was a c-section), and she told me that it hurt more than the actual C. 

I highly encourage you to bring this up to your doctor ASAP so you have plenty of time to discuss your options. 

presh116

I was wondering this myself. This is also baby #3 for us. I would like my tubed tied but have never had a c section. I'm not sure if they would just do it after I deliver or have to go back in? After my second I thought we were done. Due to my blood disorder I can't take birth control with hormones so tried the IUD non hormones. It suppose to last 10 yrs and you can take it out when ever you want. However I hated it I bleed the whole 9 months I had it in. Had horrible cramps and was always bloated. Also had terrible back pain. I was told my body was rejecting the IUD. My Dr took it out. I asked hubby about vasectomy he said no way. After months of trying to talk him into it well here we are. I'm still tossing the idea around telling him it will be so much easier for him to do it. But I also need to come to the realisation if he doesn't do it I need to.

imakeeff0rts

@presh116

Here's some info I found for you from the Mayo Clinic. It goes over some timelines as to when you can have it done after a vaginal birth. It can be done lapriscopically now, but if you don't have a c-section, you will likely go under general anesthesia. I've never seen one performed (aside from those who have had c-sections) without general anesthesia. 

For a vasectomy, men generally do not require general anesthesia. They're given some sort of medication IV to help them forget and feel sleepy, and a local anesthetic to the scrotum. The procedure (so I'm told), only takes a few minutes. There is discomfort, but it is generally much safer for him to have a vasectomy than it is for you to have a tubal because of the general anesthesia. 

Hope this helps!

jmknox

My hubby will be having a vasectomy.  

kriley602774

I've also been considering this. This is #2 for us and we've always said we only wanted 2. I've already had a c-section, so will be having another and know I could easily just have them do it while we're there.

megframe16

I have never had a c section either. I am curious if they still would do it right after... I believe they do. They asked me after my last son if I wanted it done.

ThursdayMorning

IUD is a great option worth asking about. It's cheaper, safer, painless and allows you to change your mind down the road if you decide to.

im not sure the advantages to consider an alternative?

bjt12

I had the mirena after my DD and it was ok for a few months and then it started causing lots of issues - headaches, spotting and pain and then it was a lot of pain and it moved into my uterine lining which is a normal risk with it. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone - my sister had one for a year and hated it and had tons of awful side affects and had 2 other friends that had it and hated it also -- the one needed out patient surgery to have it removed bc hers moved up so high. These were all different doctors and cities -- but I just wanted yo give you my experience with it. I think it's a good idea in theory but I've known too many women to have major issues with it.

I am thinking about getting my tubes tied with my c section this time around bc DH and I are complete with 2 kids and I'm old! Lol I'll be 36 when I have this one and I don't want to be 40 having another baby. But being that you are so young - you may want to look into other options.

presh116

@imakeeff0rts thank you this does help. Realistically it would be so nice if my hubby would just do it