*TW* I lost my first and even with two healthy babies since then I couldn't and can't relax until the a/s or really enjoy the pregnancy until the viability date, then it is like a million bricks have been lifted off my chest. I have it as an appointment in my calendar and will probably celebrate it more than the day I got my BFP.
Lol @change topic for random back to a week of late shifts for me....boo!
Thank you @chiquita928 for all the work you've been putting in on the spreadsheet. I have a question - what is the "labor buddy"? I see that for most of us it says "husband" - is it basically the person who is there with you in L&D? Is there a reason we are tracking this? Just curious.
I'm happy to do it. I didn't create the sheet originally, and I don't know much about how other boards run things. I just went with what we had. Since it's not mine originally, there are a few things I'm not able to change without starting fresh (such as column headers, and adding in new columns). At least, I haven't figured out how to do that yet...I think it's a permissions problem. @BabyBuckWay started it originally, and she doesn't appear to be active much anymore, so I'm just working with what I've got, lol.
Re: registry. I think that registries are helpful when there are items that you specifically care which kind you get, but other stuff is up to the gift-givers. So, themes, car seat that works with car/stroller, etc are a must. Anything else that is extra. The main benefit to putting all the items on there is to avoid duplicates, which still happen anyway. So if you forget something, someone will notice, and probably get it for you. The coolest part of the shower was getting the items from other moms who swore buy a certain something, and wanted to share that item's amazing-ness with me.
@GlitterFish I can do it Friday! I wondered if I was going to be off. Heck anyone can start it for all I care, I just want to be able to do it when I hit viability on the 22nd. It's already saved in my calendar
@Dcwtada I'm planning on celebrating it too, probably dinner out with my husband and so much over excitement.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Re: viability: I saw on Junes thread that they had a GIF party for their viability days and I thought it was really awesome (especially as a PGAL FTM who has been dreaming of that day for weeks). Basically just when you hit viability you go in there and post a celebration GIF. I was going to start it on March 11th, I'm pretty sure that's the day that a baby due July 1st is 24 weeks and viable. Should I start it earlier? Is anyone even interested?
I saw it mentioned a couple times here but who has started / completed their registry? I *think* I have mine done but I feel like I both went overboard but yet I am missing things lol. I want to compare with someone else's haha
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
@SaphireSweetie88 I completed mine... multiple times. I realized like an hour ago that I forgot the bottle system I wanted and the nursing pads. So it's been completed again. I started it in November because we had family getting us baby stuff for Christmas, and I've been editing ever since. I think I finally got it down to what we really need and want, but I'll probably keep screwing with it forever. We had a thread where we talked about this and I posted my registry on there, I don't know what happened to it. Probably just got buried. I'll see if I can find it, but if not I'll just post the link again. NOTE: I am a minimalist, so there is definitely stuff missing from my registry that most people want/feel they need. I'm also a FTM so everything on there is researched and recommended but not personally tested.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@SaphireSweetie88 I completed mine... multiple times. I realized like an hour ago that I forgot the bottle system I wanted and the nursing pads. So it's been completed again. I started it in November because we had family getting us baby stuff for Christmas, and I've been editing ever since. I think I finally got it down to what we really need and want, but I'll probably keep screwing with it forever. We had a thread where we talked about this and I posted my registry on there, I don't know what happened to it. Probably just got buried. I'll see if I can find it, but if not I'll just post the link again. NOTE: I am a minimalist, so there is definitely stuff missing from my registry that most people want/feel they need. I'm also a FTM so everything on there is researched and recommended but not personally tested.
@kerils - If you can find it again that would be awesome. Lol. I am a FTM too so I am willing to take suggestions lol
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
Crazy that May moms are having babies. My sister is a May mom. (yep, we're 9 weeks apart)
I have my A/S on Wednesday. I am sooooo nervous that something is going to be wrong. I don't feel any movement yet and I'm 20 weeks already. So hard to keep the voice of fear down in my head! Aaaaahhhh!
@plumpous I am in the exact same boat, A/S Wednesday and no movement yet (although I am only a little over 19 weeks) Fingers crossed for good A/S for both of us!
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
@plumpous I am in the exact same boat, A/S Wednesday and no movement yet (although I am only a little over 19 weeks) Fingers crossed for good A/S for both of us!
Thanks! I'll keep you in my thoughts on Wednesday!
Crazy that May moms are having babies. My sister is a May mom. (yep, we're 9 weeks apart)
I have my A/S on Wednesday. I am sooooo nervous that something is going to be wrong. I don't feel any movement yet and I'm 20 weeks already. So hard to keep the voice of fear down in my head! Aaaaahhhh!
I'm 20 weeks today and also haven't felt any movement yet. I had my a/s a little over a week ago and all was well so don't worry too much ( easier said than done I know). Also found out I have an anterior placenta so that might be at least part of the reason, and might be for you too!
*TW* I have complicated feelings about "viability day." On the one hand, I'm excited to reach a milestone that means the doctors could actually intervene for the baby if something happens. On the other hand, I had a baby at 35w6d with a 99.99999999999999% chance of survival and she still died from complications due to prematurity.
I think one of the hardest thing to get over was that I thought of viability day as some sort of magic thing; that in a 1st world country with fantastic medical care her chances would be even better than the statistics. And I got slapped in the face with the giant wet fish that is reality. Viability is still great; it means there's at least a chance. But it's not a guarantee.
I do like to think that there's some sort of statistical karma out there. Somewhere, a family has a perfectly healthy baby who was born with a .000000001% of survival and he/she is thriving.
I was going to add this onto the weekend randoms thread but we all know how that ended...I passed my first test for my teaching license! I have two more to take this coming Saturday but for me the hardest one is out of the way, I am so relieved especially because I was certain I had failed and wasn't sure how I was going to explain to my husband that we'd have to spend another $100 on a second test.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
Yay! @cssme13 between this and your house closing coming up, a lot of exciting stuff going on! Happy for you.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
@Xath hugs lady. I know what you mean. Viability day is great in theory but having almost (thankfully only almost) lost my daughter at 37 weeks, I know there's no guarantees. Still, I'm going to celebrate every milestone that I can. 28 weeks is when chance of survival really shoots up so I'm more excited for that than 24 weeks.
BFP May 2013 - MMC at 8 weeks BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015 BFP November 2016 - pending...
@yellow1daisy thank you! and my husband got a promotion at work! We tend to be pessimists though so we are worried that all this good is leading up to a bad thing so we are a little overly cautious when it comes to being excited about stuff. We have only told 3 people IRL about the house because we don't want to jinx it. Which is why I share here, I feel like the universe won't get me if I hide behind a username haha
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
@Xath So sorry for your loss. I know viability is just an over 50% chance, not a guarantee. Really there is never a guarantee.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Xath I am so sorry to hear of that loss. I can't imagine what you went through and what it's been like being pregnant after something like that. Sending all of the hugs!
@Xath Of course my heart went out to you when I read about your loss. How could it not?? But what made me tear up was your sentiment about statistical karma. I really, really appreciate the generosity of spirit that it shows. If real karma is a thing, you've got some good stuff headed your way.
so random question - a decently good friend of mine and DH's mom has had cancer on and off for quite a few years. I think things are really bad right now and her mom might be dying. Our friend's father was recently diagnosed with cancer, too. I'm trying to think of things to do to help. I don't want to send flowers bc they just die. I think she'll get plenty of stuff to remember her mother by. Is a giftcard for dinner (at like a carry out place - think a local pizza place or Mexican) stupid? She lives with her parents to help care for them and I thought she's probably too busy or exhausted to worry about dinner lately. I just can't decide if that's dumb. It seems appropriate for a new mom, but I'm not sure about this situation. Thoughts?
@ginger1228 I think its a great idea and would be super appreciated, especially if the place does delivery
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@ginger1228 - I think GCs to dinner would be great, as well as maybe meal delivery like Schwanns? They do frozen meals, which is nice if she is hungry right away and doesn't want to deal with cooking or waiting on delivery. You can get a GC for that and she can choose her meals and they deliver them. Just another option.
I've been having PTL and contractions for a few weeks. So V-day is something I am looking forward to, but I am under no delusions that having a baby that early is a good idea. The more cooking, the better.
My random is that it drives me crazy that I can't like comments from mobile. Is it just me?
***** TTCAL/Forever Buddy to Cour10e****** -m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009 Beautiful daughter born February 2011 **Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
@ginger1228 I agree the gift card is a great idea. When my mom died we got so much food we could hardly even use the counters in the kitchen, my dads freezer was full for weeks so I think a gift card is perfect because they don't have to use it right away.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
Thanks guys! She lives an hour or so away from me, otherwise I would have thought about making something and taking it over. But that's also a good point about getting too much food at one time, @cssme13
@Mrs.emmalouise - I didn't think about schwann's. Good idea. I'll look into that - thanks! And I hope the PTL and contractions stop. This is probably dumb, but how do you know it's PTL and not just cramps? Is it very painful or just cramp-like? (I feel like that's a really stupid question, so forgive my ignorance. Haha)
Thanks guys! She lives an hour or so away from me, otherwise I would have thought about making something and taking it over. But that's also a good point about getting too much food at one time, @cssme13
@Mrs.emmalouise - I didn't think about schwann's. Good idea. I'll look into that - thanks! And I hope the PTL and contractions stop. This is probably dumb, but how do you know it's PTL and not just cramps? Is it very painful or just cramp-like? (I feel like that's a really stupid question, so forgive my ignorance. Haha)
I assumed it was BH, but because my cervix is thinning my OB called it PTL. I had PTL with my daughter (starting at 28w), and my uterus is slightly misshapen (heart shaped) so I am high-risk anyways.
As far as telling the difference, for me when I have cramps it's a general soreness that lasts. And when its contractions it's a tightness that comes for a minute or so and goes- sometimes painful, sometimes not but enough that I feel them. I'm sure it's different for everyone, though.
***** TTCAL/Forever Buddy to Cour10e****** -m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009 Beautiful daughter born February 2011 **Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
Mrs.EmmaLouise Are your doctors doing anything to mitigate the PTL? I went on nifedipine for my last 2, but my current OB hates it and wants to take a "wait and see" approach. Just curious what other people's docs do.
After healthy babies and mamas, my biggest wish for my BMB friends would be to let go of the stress about "stuff" for the baby. It seems so important right now, and I totally get it, I was there, too. This isn't judgment. In hindsight, I wish I'd spent that time reading about newborn care, sleep routines, breastfeeding...and even stuff for older kids. It's a period when you likely have more free time than you will again for a long time.
Random: DS is saying cute things right now. He can't say L yet, so he will pat a pillow and say, "Yie down, Mommy. Yie down!" (Lie down.) I could just eat him up!
Re: Weekly Random March 6-10
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
*TW* I lost my first and even with two healthy babies since then I couldn't and can't relax until the a/s or really enjoy the pregnancy until the viability date, then it is like a million bricks have been lifted off my chest. I have it as an appointment in my calendar and will probably celebrate it more than the day I got my BFP.
Re: registry. I think that registries are helpful when there are items that you specifically care which kind you get, but other stuff is up to the gift-givers. So, themes, car seat that works with car/stroller, etc are a must. Anything else that is extra. The main benefit to putting all the items on there is to avoid duplicates, which still happen anyway. So if you forget something, someone will notice, and probably get it for you. The coolest part of the shower was getting the items from other moms who swore buy a certain something, and wanted to share that item's amazing-ness with me.
@Dcwtada I'm planning on celebrating it too, probably dinner out with my husband and so much over excitement.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@kerils - I think that's an awesome idea!
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
I have my A/S on Wednesday. I am sooooo nervous that something is going to be wrong. I don't feel any movement yet and I'm 20 weeks already. So hard to keep the voice of fear down in my head! Aaaaahhhh!
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
I think one of the hardest thing to get over was that I thought of viability day as some sort of magic thing; that in a 1st world country with fantastic medical care her chances would be even better than the statistics. And I got slapped in the face with the giant wet fish that is reality. Viability is still great; it means there's at least a chance. But it's not a guarantee.
I do like to think that there's some sort of statistical karma out there. Somewhere, a family has a perfectly healthy baby who was born with a .000000001% of survival and he/she is thriving.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Thank you @dancegurl1118. It's a really weird thought process, but I'm overall still positive about progress.
I in no way want to drag the thread down though. I'll still happy-gif next Sunday when we reach that milestone.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@cssme13 - yea for all the good news!!!
so random question - a decently good friend of mine and DH's mom has had cancer on and off for quite a few years. I think things are really bad right now and her mom might be dying. Our friend's father was recently diagnosed with cancer, too. I'm trying to think of things to do to help. I don't want to send flowers bc they just die. I think she'll get plenty of stuff to remember her mother by. Is a giftcard for dinner (at like a carry out place - think a local pizza place or Mexican) stupid? She lives with her parents to help care for them and I thought she's probably too busy or exhausted to worry about dinner lately. I just can't decide if that's dumb. It seems appropriate for a new mom, but I'm not sure about this situation. Thoughts?
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Xath. Hugs to you- thank you for sharing your experience with us.
I've been having PTL and contractions for a few weeks. So V-day is something I am looking forward to, but I am under no delusions that having a baby that early is a good idea. The more cooking, the better.
My random is that it drives me crazy that I can't like comments from mobile. Is it just me?
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
@Mrs.emmalouise - I didn't think about schwann's. Good idea. I'll look into that - thanks! And I hope the PTL and contractions stop. This is probably dumb, but how do you know it's PTL and not just cramps? Is it very painful or just cramp-like? (I feel like that's a really stupid question, so forgive my ignorance. Haha)
As far as telling the difference, for me when I have cramps it's a general soreness that lasts. And when its contractions it's a tightness that comes for a minute or so and goes- sometimes painful, sometimes not but enough that I feel them. I'm sure it's different for everyone, though.
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
@ginger1228 Meals are such a great idea.
Mrs.EmmaLouise Are your doctors doing anything to mitigate the PTL? I went on nifedipine for my last 2, but my current OB hates it and wants to take a "wait and see" approach. Just curious what other people's docs do.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
After healthy babies and mamas, my biggest wish for my BMB friends would be to let go of the stress about "stuff" for the baby. It seems so important right now, and I totally get it, I was there, too. This isn't judgment. In hindsight, I wish I'd spent that time reading about newborn care, sleep routines, breastfeeding...and even stuff for older kids. It's a period when you likely have more free time than you will again for a long time.
Random: DS is saying cute things right now. He can't say L yet, so he will pat a pillow and say, "Yie down, Mommy. Yie down!" (Lie down.) I could just eat him up!