Weekly Random March 6-10

AdaByron

Happy Monday! 
Let's start fresh

glitterfish-2

Maybe we should start leaving off the dates since we can'tseem to get through a whole week without getting shut down! 

chiquita928

Well I guess we just have to be careful not the "change topic" in a thread about "randoms."

star_beagle

Should we just preempt the inevitable closure with a (Part 1) in all Random threads now?

And I'm +1 on the fact that it's the threads about random thoughts that get closed for a "change of topic". Does not compute.

LuLiLaEv

I have 2 this morning!  Do we have a weekly what I'm eating or craving thread? Or does anyone want one? I noticed that there were some old ones that were really long but not necessarily a weekly one and I didn't want to bump a super old thread, but I like reading what people are eating/cravings cause it gives me ideas sometimes! 
Also, has anyone heard from @GeorgiaWife6912? I haven't seen her posting lately? Hope everything's ok! 

mj8215

Lol @change topic for random  
back to a week of late shifts for me....boo!

Thank you @chiquita928 for all the work you've been putting in on the spreadsheet. I have a question - what is the "labor buddy"? I see that for most of us it says "husband" - is it basically the person who is there with you in L&D? Is there a reason we are tracking this? Just curious. 

ljd2010

Maybe this is more a confessional than a random, but I'm so sick of my husband leaving the toilet seat up that I just left it there before I left for work this morning and secretly hoped my son would throw something of my husband's in there. Not his phone, but I'd settle for his glasses. 

GeorgiaWife6912

@LuLiLaEv I'm here! I was off work for a week and mobile bumping + toddler makes it tough to keep up.  I missed so much I feel kind of disconnected so I've slowly been trying to catch up with things but work was crazy last week so I'm failing miserably.  Thank you for checking in on me!!

kat0607

@LuLiLaEv I don't think we have a weekly thread for that, but I would participate if we did! Also I haven't seen @GeorgiaWife6912 recently but I think she might lurk more than post...just a guess though! 

I have a random question...when is "viability day?" I did a quick search online and surprisingly a lot of sources said 24 weeks, which doesn't seem right to me. That seems way too early. I was thinking it was 28 weeks for some reason?

LuLiLaEv

@mj8215 As far as I know, a lot of BMB have a labor buddy sign up, and that is your person you update when you're in labor, then they in turn update the board so you don't have to while busy having a baby. A lot of other BMBs start a thread for each person, so your labor buddy would start the thread when you go into labor and post your updates until you're able to come on and update yourself. I think a lot of people read it the way you did and put husband cause they didn't know what that was. If I'm wrong though, someone please correct me!

@GeorgiaWife6912 I hear ya! Glad everything is ok and just wanted you to know we missed you! 

@kat0607 Glad I'm not the only one! I think I'll start one and see how it goes and if we have a lot of comments we can look at doing a weekly/monthly one.

Also, everything I've heard viability is 24 weeks. It does seem super early, it's amazing what they can do with modern medicine now!

PurplePoppy424

What the hell happened while I slept last night? Lol. And I'll add another +1 for the closings being for "change of topic." So weird!

star_beagle

I'm glad my coworkers in the cubes around me all either wear headphones or are very hard-of-hearing. I have started talking to my belly and it makes me look a little...weird.

MrsZeno

@PurplePoppy424 I agree... Im still new but wow lots happened yesterday lol

michelle04us

Viability is 24 weeks. My husbands cousin actually had a baby right at 23w6d who is a smart little 5 year old now(bad pre-e). 

I can't believe we are going to start to have women reach v-day. This pregnancy seems to be going so much faster than my others.

manillabar

@LuLiLaEv I believe you are spot on about the labor buddy thing (as far as I can tell from all my lurking of other BMBs)

another+1 to not understanding the issue with "change of topic" in a Randoms thread. I feel like that's their go-to post when they don't have a concrete reason to close a thread.

its crazy how close we are all getting to viability! Granted all these babies need to stay in at least a good 14 weeks after that as far as I'm concerned lol

@lfk2013 I've started doing that too! Especially when she kicks, I'll say good morning and talk to her about random things during the day. I'm sure people think I'm crazy 

KissMeImScottish

@kat0607, it does seem super early, but I have my eye on that day and am not so patiently waiting for it! 24 weeks is considered medical viability because, as of 24 weeks, the chances of Baby surviving on the outside goes above 50%, so it is statistically more likely than not that they will survive. Believe it or not, the youngest baby that ever survived was born at 21 weeks 6 days, which is insane. Every week after 24 weeks, the chance of survival goes up hugely, until it's almost indistinguishable from term at 34 weeks. So we're almost there, ladies! These babies are little fighters!

SpongeWorthy

JR Smith (NBA player for the Cleveland Cavaliers) had a daughter born at 21 weeks this past January, and she is still doing well!  She was just 1 lb at birth.  Gives me hope for my LO.

https://www.cleveland.com/cavs/index.ssf/2017/01/jr_smiths_wife_gave_birth_to_b.html

glitterfish-2

Later today, the May board will have THREE babies born already! I can't believe it!

LoveLee85

One thing I noticed with this second pregnancy, lately(few weeks) if I walk or do too much my cervix aches BAD. To the point I'm freaked out because it felt like this right before I had DS. So, at last doctor visit I mentioned it and they measured my cervix. They said it was a lot shorter than the 4 weeks before. Not 100% abnormal but they are keeping an eye on it and I go back in two weeks to be measured again! Ugh! So I'm been told to just take it easy and when I feel this put my feet up and stop what I'm doing. Boo. I have so much to do but I'm happy to see you ladies chatting about the 24 week mark. I'm 22 weeks today! Yay! 

longhairdntcare

I had no idea about the labor buddy thing. I just thought it was who was going to be in the room during labor hahaha. Oops.

mj8215

Good to know @LuLiLaEv - I had no clue I vaguely remember seeing that most people put "husband" and just doing the same... oh well. I guess we'll fix it up as July gets closer.

greenbean-2

@rae1 me too

+n for finding it weird that a random board can go off topic

My random: a woman in my office who I hardly know pats my belly whenever she sees me. It's really awkward. 

longhairdntcare

adorable random - we had my youngest nephew's 1st b-day part yesterday and my niece (3yo) kept running up to me and hugging/kissing my belly and talking to her baby cousin. It was adorable. She is currently the only girl (I have 5 nephews, 1 niece) and is super excited to have another little girl to play with. 

BusyZee

Interesting... doubt anyone will have time to give updates around me so i guess il just stick to my current "labor buddy!" 

@GreenBean
What...? H has been unknowingly resting his hand on my belly (while sleeping, watching tv etc) and it really annoys me... 

greenbean-2

@BusyZee I don't mind when DH does it, or if a close friend asks, but anyone else... hands off please. 

dancegurl1118

Counting down the days until 24 weeks. It's a mandatory law in my state to resuscitate any babies at 24 weeks, but we do it by parents choice at 23w or estimated 500g. I hope I never have to make that decision...because not having to, I would say not to resuscitate, but in the moment I know that I would. We have the highest care NICU in the state, and they counsel only a 10% chance at that GA for non-life long deficits, and I think an under 50% chance of long term survival.

It's a hard pill to swallow, and I hope every single one of us is complaining about being overdue rather than making decisions about viability. 

kat0607

I will be 23 weeks on Wednesday....crazy!! I can't believe May moms are having babies already. This is all happening WAY too fast! 

+1 on the labor buddy topic, I put DH as mine. I figured it was supposed to be another Bump member but I just put DH as a placeholder haha.

Another random, we made some progress on our registry at BRU this weekend. My mom took one look at it and said "I think you're going to need to add a lot more" which made me immediately stressed. I thought we covered everything! Now I'm worried about not having something essential when LO gets here. 

postywiththemosty

Feeling incredibly slow as I just barely realized what you guys mean by Labor Buddy!  It makes sense now lol. I figured it meant who would be there with my during L&D like most of the others.

oheliza44

@kat0607 I am in the same boat with the registry. I am trying to find the balance between registering for all the necessities but not going overboard so as to be inundated with stuff that we won't use. It's such a tough balance for a FTM! What did your mom think was missing? We didn't register for clothes other than basic white onesies and socks because we are team green. 

squirttheturtle

+1 I don't mind if DH touches the bump.  IMO, it's his, too.  Saturday he even got to feel the baby kick for the first time. 

+1 for strangers and other family touching without asking.  If its not something you would do when I wasn't pregnant, why would I feel comfortable with you doing it when I was?

kat0607

oheliza44 said:

@kat0607 I am in the same boat with the registry. I am trying to find the balance between registering for all the necessities but not going overboard so as to be inundated with stuff that we won't use. It's such a tough balance for a FTM! What did your mom think was missing? We didn't register for clothes other than basic white onesies and socks because we are team green. 

Well we didn't have bath towels or a tub on there, which I know we need and she mentioned that. I just feel completely clueless as a FTM hahaha. I need to find that thread where people have book/literature recommendations and get my research on. I do everything so last minute I feel like I'm going to be cramming like for an exam, while I'm in labor.

AdaByron

kat0607 said:

oheliza44 said:

@kat0607 I am in the same boat with the registry. I am trying to find the balance between registering for all the necessities but not going overboard so as to be inundated with stuff that we won't use. It's such a tough balance for a FTM! What did your mom think was missing? We didn't register for clothes other than basic white onesies and socks because we are team green. 

Well we didn't have bath towels or a tub on there, which I know we need and she mentioned that. I just feel completely clueless as a FTM hahaha. I need to find that thread where people have book/literature recommendations and get my research on. I do everything so last minute I feel like I'm going to be cramming like for an exam, while I'm in labor.

I mean, you don't really NEED those things, but yeah they'll make your life a little easier. And it's really ok to do things last-minute too. Like if your baby gets it's first bath in the sink with an adult towel, that's ok. And after that you may decide that was fine and you don't need a baby bath, or you might decide to go out and buy one the next day. 

I recommend the book Baby Bargains. It had some really good advice about which items to spend $$$ on and which things it's ok to skip or buy the cheapest one you can find. 

abmommy15

@kat0607 hooded towels are good when they are little but they grow out of them fast so we used regular towels for the most part.  I never used an infant tub, we bathed him in the sink when he was really little and then in the regular bath tub.  I know lots of people that love the infant tub but it was just a pain for me.

LoveLee85

kat0607 said:

oheliza44 said:

@kat0607 I am in the same boat with the registry. I am trying to find the balance between registering for all the necessities but not going overboard so as to be inundated with stuff that we won't use. It's such a tough balance for a FTM! What did your mom think was missing? We didn't register for clothes other than basic white onesies and socks because we are team green. 

Well we didn't have bath towels or a tub on there, which I know we need and she mentioned that. I just feel completely clueless as a FTM hahaha. I need to find that thread where people have book/literature recommendations and get my research on. I do everything so last minute I feel like I'm going to be cramming like for an exam, while I'm in labor.

I took the bare minimum approach! Lol But the nice thing was, if I realized we 'needed' something or just more of what I had at home, I would make quick trips to get it. Also, I live close to a superstore that carries all of it, so this might not be the best approach for an out of town person. If you don't want to do the 'wait and see what you need more of' approach, I have another meathod. Buy things but do not open them until you need them! Tape the receipt to whatever you buy. That way if you don't end up needing it you can return it easy. 

We bought the basic cheap plastic bathtub from Walmart that came with an 'infant sling'! It was ablut 20$ and that infant sling was amazing!!!!! We also chose to use the baby tub in our bathroom bathtub because our open concept home was too cold/breezy to use on the counter in the kitchen sink! I could keep the bathroom warm easy, then strip him down and put in in the infant bath in the bathtub.

I hope any of this helps! We are all FTM's at one point. Lol. 

satsumasandlemons

+1 on the baby bargains book! 

and yes yes i was wondering why the labor buddies were all just husbands - i forget how people paired labor buddies up last time (hi, 5+ years ago) but it is really helpful when the time comes to be able to update one person via text etc what's happening if you want to update people. i don't think i'm really up for it this time around (not to be all anti-social, just maybe because it's the second time around and it's a scheduled cs) but if you guys want i can ask how they paired people up. 

MrsLa3

I loved having a labor buddy on my last BMB. We waited for everyone to pass V-day and started a thread about who would be interested. You could have someone picked for you, you were paired by post count or activity and paired with one or two people, and if you were RCS you requested your labor buddy to be an RCS too, STM or FTM, you get the picture.

My LB was amazing, we actually ended up having our babies on the same day, mine was a RCS and she went into labor as soon as I got to the hospital. Her baby was born an hour after mine. 

PurplePumpernickel

I'm still wrapping my head around the fact that some people in our BMB are hitting viability. Like, holy crap. Wishing everyone a lonnnnnng pregnancy, or at least one that lasts past that point!

tuxielove93

Re: viability: I saw on Junes thread that they had a GIF party for their viability days and I thought it was really awesome (especially as a PGAL FTM who has been dreaming of that day for weeks). Basically just when you hit viability you go in there and post a celebration GIF. I was going to start it on March 11th, I'm pretty sure that's the day that a baby due July 1st is 24 weeks and viable. Should I start it earlier? Is anyone even interested? 

cssme13

I had a cousin born at 24 weeks back in 1992 and other than her short term memory loss problems (from an underlying drug abuse issue with her mom) she is completely healthy. It's crazy to me that some of us are already there and that the rest of us will be there shortly but here's to hoping none of us actually go that early because I cannot even imagine the stress and heartache it will bring.

Our closing date for our house got moved to 6 days earlier than planned so we are closing in 11 days and I CANNOT wait. The bed I sleep on at my IL's is killing my back, I find myself daydreaming about being back in my nice big soft king sized bed and sleeping for days.

edit because I didn't like how my sentence was organized

kghusker1003

My MFM had said that the hospital I am delivering at will care for babies at 23 weeks and do everything to save them at that point, so he considers viability then. But obviously our goal is for at least another  13 weeks (36 weeks).  I hit 23 weeks on Thursday by my due date my OB uses, and 23 yesterday by my due date the MFM uses.. I use the one my OB said because of ultrasound. 

glitterfish-2

@kerils Mine is Friday!