FTM (First Time Mom) Check in 2/21

VLillyV

How far along are you?

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 

Rants/raves? 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY: What is your favorite season?

lin1019

Hi. Im a first time mom. I'm on mobile so I can't seem to start a new discussion.

I'm currently 8w1d pregnant based in UTS. I'm looking forward to any help/suggetiins anyone can give.

So here's my situation: I have constipation problems even before I was even pregnant. But during pregnancy it seems to have gotten worse. 2 days ago I had a very very hard bowel movement. I literally can't get it out. So after an hour of straining, helpless crying, shivering and swearing, I finally gave up and went to see my doctor. Doctor referred me over to surgeon because I said my butt was hurting so much that I cant even walk straight or sit comfortably. I told her there's some kind of skin poking through it. So surgeon checked it out and told me I have thrombosed mixed hemoraige that needs to have an emergency surgery to be removed.
I got sent to the hospital that same day qnd went through surgery the same day. I was worried sick about baby, but OB did explain minimal risk factors. I got spinal anesthesia, and everything went well. Well, while I was still numb that is. But after the numbness was washed away completely, it hurt like hell! I cried all night that night and did not get any sleep at all. I cant get any strong enough pain reliever because of baby.
It has now been 24 hours after surgery, im currently still at the hospital. My butt is not getting any better for me and I'm scared about my first bowel movement after surgery.
I need help, some input, or anything to atleast help me feel better. I feel so miserable right now and i cry a lot.

Thank you in advance ladies. Also let me know if I need to post this somewhere else, and sorru for the long post if TMI. 

soprano19

How far along are you? 7+2 based on LMP, but might change at my first appointment next week because I think I ovulated a few days late.
Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? I've been feeling more and more emotional over the past few days, but that could also be because my H is in Mexico...
Any appointments since last check in? Nooooope. Very anxious for my first appointment a week from today.
Rants/raves? H, the introvert, is in Mexico working at an orphanage with a group from our church, and I, the extrovert, am at home alone all week. I'm lonely and miserable and he doesn't understand because a week at home by himself is like his dream. Plus we had to lie to people about why I couldn't go at the last minute, so we told them I'm sick and now I can't even hang out with anyone back at home because they all think I'm sick.
Questions for FTM, or STM+? My biggest question is just... how do you survive before your first appointment, and before you can safely tell people you're pregnant? I'm dying to see our little one and hear a heartbeat, and I'm trying to be super cautious with my emotions until then. Also, it's killing me not to tell people... not even our parents know yet, although they are suspicious and keep pestering us about it.
GTKY: What is your favorite season? Honestly, the only season I really hate is winter (January and February). Christmas is over, but the weather is gross and spring is not in sight yet.

megggosaurusrex

How far along are you? 5+5

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? I felt like throwing up yesterday just thinking about eggs, so...that's new...

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Not until March 10th

Rants/raves? My students are driving me absolutely insane lately. Messy, not listening, forgetting their homework...ughhhhhhhh

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Spring!

cactusblossum

@lin1019 I don't have any advice but I hope you feel better soon!  Acupuncture may be beneficial for both pain relief, bowel motility, and anti-anxiety. 

How far along are you?
4 weeks today

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
This is my first check in. Very mild nausea intermittently and most food doesn't sound appealing. Sweet things seem really sweet.  I normally have a sweet tooth but haven't really wanted any the last few days. Tired constantly. Boobs are getting a little sore. Mild on and off cramping.  

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
None. First is March 7th. 

Rants/raves? 
Starting to feel more real now that I am "late" and the lines are getting darker. Trying to stay positive and not worry about things going wrong (we have a fair number of close friends who had issues). H is being so sweet and attentive. He got really excited when our book said babys heart would start beating in the next week. Melted my heart. 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
None at the moment. 

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
I live in Phoenix so our seasons are a little skewed. Spring and fall which is summer for most people. Sunny and 80-85

Cythe

How far along are you? 6w3d!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Symptoms come and go, but all was well this week with the blob. Nausea is pretty lame today.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Saw the blob yesterday, we were able to see the heartbeat flickering away at 156.

Rants/raves? H and I were discussing things and we kind of realized that there is a really good possibility that H won't be here for the birth. There are a few things that could change that would allow him to be here, but we just have to wait to see.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Any advice for someone who lives 10+ hours from her family and may give birth alone? Lol

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Spring! I love gardening and spring is just the best. Cold soil, new plants. I can't wait!

flyingfall

How far along are you?
- 5 weeks and 5 days, still waiting for first doctors appointment.

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
-So much nausea, fatigue, and my hormones are all over the place. My poor SO is doing the best he can; one second I want to snuggle and the next I'm mad at him because he didn't make my ice water right.. it's ridiculous.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
-How'd you survive work with so much fatigue and everything else going on in your body? Luckily I've been off for the past two weeks because that's how my schedule is but Im back on Thursday and don't know how I'm gonna handle the long days. I know my situation is a little different since I'm a flight attendant and don't work 9 to 5 but any advice would be appreciated!

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
- Definitely Autumn.. and not just because my name is Autumn. Who doesn't love bon fires, changing leaves, football season, and sweater weather.

mrs_fogue

soprano19  I guess I survived by being here in these groups.  Talking to women in my exact same situation.  I promise once that first appointment gets here, it will all fly by.

Knottie1466143704 yes your situation is a little different.  But I told my boss up front what was going on.  I had bad MS and literally was on the couch asleep the minute I got home.  I did have to take a few short days here and there and she helped me out with my work load for the first couple of months.  All I can say is enjoy being able to get all that first trimester sleep!  It's much harder fighting exhaustion and a toddler. 

feeislove

How far along are you?
6w4d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
Nope. Mild cramps that come and go, sometimes my boobs hurt and I get bouts of exhaustion throughout the day.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
First appointment is March 7th

Rants/raves? 
I have a ton of shit to do and all DH wants me to do is play MTG all freakin' day. The reason why I have so much to do today is because we spent too much time playing it on Sunday and thus my chores have runneth over.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
None.

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
fall. It's cool but not cold. Can be warm but not hot.

VLillyV

@lin1019 i'm so glad that you went to the doctor for that instead of toughing it out. It really sounds painful overall. have you talked to your doc about a topical cream for pain? Maybe they will have some numbing spray or cream? Get better mama. I'd try to ask about a stool softener like colace, maybe that will help with the first BM.

@cactusblossum yay for darkening lines! I tested so obsessively until they got nice a purty. It's so relieving. 
@megggosaurusrex aww I love eggs. I hope your morning sickness gets better!

ZukiWife

How far along are you? 7 weeks today

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Little bit of nausea starting to creep up, but mostly just sore boobs, bloating, and exhaustion

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? I feel like I've had about a million blood tests, and a repeat ultrasound last week after an er visit two weeks ago. HCG is increasing, but they could only find a fetal pole last week (6 weeks exactly). Have another repeat ultrasound and more bloodwork tomorrow so I'm hoping they can find a heartbeat this time

Rants/raves? Just waiting for some conclusive answers. For how many tests I've gone through so far, you'd think I'd have some more solid answers by now. Lets just hope they can find a heartbeat tomorrow. Plus, I hate the radiology clinic I've been referred to. They were incredibly rude last time I was there, wouldn't let me see the screen and hardly said two words to us. Hopefully I get a different tech this time

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Nothing at the moment other than the same thing that's been asked before. How did you survive all this waiting?!?!

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Summer!! I love the heat! We have such long winters here so I take in all the summer weather I can while it's here

emwj10187

How far along are you? 7weeks+3

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? I didn't FTM's were checking in, but my newest symptom within the last week has been nausea/vomiting/random dry heaving 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? i had an appointment yesterday, everything looked great for baby. Doc said my thyroid test came back higher than they'd like, so they retested that. Based on those results will determine whether or not i need to go on medication.  Next appointment is in 4 weeks at 11 weeks.

Rants/raves? Tired of feeling sick to my stomach all day, and when i get relief i can barely keep my eyes open.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Fall is my favorite season. Its such a wonderful time. Leaves change, sweater weather, my birthday, and now my LO's bday

samyv

How far along are you?
7 weeks!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
So MUCH nauseeeaaaaaa.. and sore boobs and random mood changes. DH is scared of me

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
first one isn't until march 7th!

Rants/raves? 
I hate everyone and all i want to do is eat everything without getting sick.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
Any helpful hints for nausea? Also, bra extenders or should I just get new bras? i can barely breathe.

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
Fall! Nice and cool.

emwj10187

@samyv i caved and bought some new bras. The pain was unbearable. I went for a maternity bra that i can continue to grow in. best decision i ever made

mommyportz

Wow! Sorry you had to deal with that, @lin1019 But so glad that you didn't wait to take care of it! I second the idea of a topical cream.

How far along are you? Somewhere between 6+3 and 7+3...Will know more on Friday!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
This is my first check in. 

I either have nausea from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep, or a headache all day. Sore breasts

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
Went in the day we found out for betas since we have a history of MC and then the follow up draw...First US is this Friday and we are so nervous!

Rants/raves? 
A co-worker brought Taco Bell back after lunch today...So now I'm craving cinnamon twists and was making DH take me to Taco Bell until Inchanged my mind half way there and decided that I wanted wings.  He humors me.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
None today.

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
Fall. I love the crisp air, pumpkin patches, apple cider, hay rides, kids in Halloween costumes, the color of the leaves...ALL the things!

mrs_fogue

@samyv oh great questions!!!  My trick for the MS is to never get hungry.  If you snack throughout the day it really helps easy the nausea.  As for your bra, I got extenders that got me through my pregnancy.  Once baby is born, hopefully you go back to your same size.  I did invest in one bra without underwire (my granny bra) which I lived in the last month.  But other than that the extenders got me through and were much cheaper.

lin1019

@VLillyV @mommyportz

Thankyou for the support, for now the hot seat or sitting above hot water, i forgot what its called, helps me a lot. The doc said no numbing cream for now because i still have an open wound, i might check again if I get to go home. For now, i just cant wait for my first BM to be over. Wish me luck. Thank you for the love fellow moms. Now I don't feel so alone.

crazypuglady

@lin1019 -sorry you're going through all that. I hope you feel better soon!

@soprano19- I feel you... DH refuses to let me tell anyone before our 1st appointment. I want to tell my mom sooooo baaaaddddd. I go on 3/2, so I'll probably tell her that weekend. As for other peeps, I'll probably tell close friends and family  over time after the 1st apt, and social media around Easter.

@cactusblossom- I was driving myself nuts thinking about all the things that could go wrong. I decided to treat this like it's a sure thing. It's sooo early, but the alternative is driving up my anxiety which is not good for me or my little bean. 

@Knottie1466143704 - You should go to the Knot and change your username so we can recognize and tag you better Looks like we're just about EDD buddies

How far along are you? 5W4D

Upcoming appointments this week? Nope, 1st appointment next week!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Not really. The bloating is uncomfortable. Sore boobs. The occasional mood swing. Cramping that comes and goes. Last night I started to get nauseous while making gravy.. I don't know if it was the smell or the swirling motion in the pot.. but it was the strongest wave I've felt. Other than that... been pretty uneventful.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Nothing at the moment. Just fantasizing about being a symptom-free pregnancy unicorn. If I could stay like this the whole time... that'd be great.

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Fall!

cooaladolly

@lin1019 I'm so sorry you're going through that! I wish I had more advice but I agree with PP to try some colace perhaps for that first post surgery movement. Hope you feel better soon!

How far along are you?... 5w4d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?... Nothing new, some symptoms come and go. Still no MS (sometimes I'm thankful, sometimes wish I had it so I was more confident things were going right). Today I just can't believe it's even possible for boobs to hurt so much!

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go?... No appointments.

Rants/raves?... Rant: Our kitchen sink is blocked since last night. No idea why, but SO is going to try to snake it tonight. If that doesn't work it will be a struggle getting it fixed because the previous owner did some bad diy plumbing and glued the trap pieces together instead of using proper couplings, so if the snake and drainout don't work, SO has to cut the pipes out and replumb himself. In the meantime, looks like takeout.

Questions for FTM, or STM+?... Nothing at the moment.

GTKY: What is your favorite season?... Definitely Fall for the colors, cool weather and hiking, but Spring does come in close second. Love that start to gardening season.

lin1019

@crazypuglady @cooaladoll

Thank you for the support mommas! I am feeling a bit better everyday and I will be talking to my doc for what can help the first BM. But so far so good.

VLillyV

@emwj10187 same, except I just bought a $5 bra... such a good decision. It's just so relieving!
@samyv buy new bras. Best choice I made. I tried to hold out, but they just kept getting bigger. I ended up have the back bulge kick in and some rub scarring. I also bought two bralettes. They dont have a wire and are soft and supportive. 

How far along are you? 6wks

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? This is the first check in for me! Only some light nausea for one day, sore boobs that have doubled in size, some 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? None yet! Next week!

Rants/raves? none

Questions for FTM, or STM+? none

GTKY: What is your favorite season? I love Autumn! I loved it while in California and it's pretty in Colorado as well. I'm really hoping we can take some of our maternity photos in September when the fall colors peak. It would be so awesome!

flyingfall

@crazypuglady thanks! I was trying to figure out how to change it.

flyingfall

@crazypuglady thanks! I was trying to figure out how to change it.

brela11

@lin1019 I also recommend the colace! Sorry you are going through that!

Hey Hey @mommyportz

How far along are you? 4+5

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? First check in for me too 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go?  Beta 1 and beta 2, now waiting first ultrasound on Monday 

Rants/raves? I've had some random spotting here and there and some cramping. Sore boobs but not terrible. Besides that km
golden so far.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
None yet just trying to keep my expectations for my ultrasound Monday realistic

GTKY: What is your favorite season?
summer! I like it hot and I'm always freezing! 

AlandkeriA

How far along are you? 6 weeks, 5 days

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? This is my first check in (that I can recall). Fatigue, major food adversions, sore boobs, pooping a lot (TMI)

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Nope, not until March 14th

AlandkeriA

How far along are you? 6 weeks, 5 days

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? This is my first check in (that I can recall). Fatigue, major food adversions, sore boobs, pooping a lot (TMI)

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Nope, not until March 14th

AlandkeriA

Ugh, it won't show my whole post... ^^^

mommyportz

HIIIIII, @brela11!!!! SO HAPPY to see some of my girls here!!!! I've missed you guys!

monstera13

Hey fellow first time moms! I'm so nervous and excited at the same time about this pregnancy. (Mostly excited of course) 

I'm currently at 6 weeks 2 days. Unfortunately I still have over 2 weeks until my first doc appt! As far as symptoms, I'm super tired, have sore boobs, and have had a little bit of nausea here and there. But not too bad so far! 

No rants or raves. Question- how do you all plan to announce your pregnancy? Any fun ideas??

soprano19

@jessirh that's a fun question!

Our families are super into genealogy and family trees, including my H. So he's going to create a family tree with Baby W on it and we'll give a copy to our families.

flyingfall

@soprano19 that's such a cute idea, I love it!

monstera13

@soprano19 That's a really cute idea! And it'll be super meaningful for each of the families. 

I'm currently working on my doctorate, and we didn't tell our families we were trying. So I think it'll be a big surprise for everyone when we reveal. I like the idea of grandparent starter kits (thanks Pinterest) but haven't settled on it yet.  

nhoover88

How far along are you? 8 + 2

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Didn't know this board existed, until now! Nothing has changed much. Nausea until I eat. Sore boobs. Tired. My jeans no longer button or zip. (The hairbow/tie trick no longer works). I usually have a sweet tooth, but now I turn my nose up to sweets. Sweets taste sweeter.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? My 1st appt. was last week. Everything looked good. Heartbeat was good 171 bpm. I do have to go to a genetics counselor tomorrow for some more tests because of my family history.

Rants/raves? I'm always hungry and can't figure out what I want to eat...

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Fall

@jessirhWe gave my mom & MIL a gift box with a letter inside from baby. In the box was a onesie, bottle, & pacifier. We bought bottles that we are going to use, instead of the cheaper ones.

@samyvEat saltine crackers before your get out of bed (2 or 3) just get something on your stomach. Anytime I start to feel nauseous, I eat a cracker or 2 and start to feel better. My desk at work is packed full of quick snacks. (Saltine crackers, peanuts/mixed nuts, Pringles, Nutri-Grain bars....) As far as bras go, I have started wearing sports bras because it felt like underwire was digging into me & my boobs were starting to over flow the sides.

monstera13

@nmingram I love the idea of the letter coming from the baby. 

 I'm so excited for the time when I have to use the hair tie trick! 

ChocolateIsLife

How far along are you? 5w 5 days

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Nausea kicked in pretty bad today. Almost threw up in a class I'm taking, and threw up the moment I walked in to my house.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? No appointments since second beta test. First ultrasound will be next Friday!

Rants/raves? I feel so flaky at my school at the moment. Last semester I had to miss some class because of all the ivf appointments, and this semester I have missed 2 classes because I was so tired and sick feeling. I'm not sure if I should say anything to my professors to just give them a heads up...in case they wonder why I'm running out of class from time to time.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? mmmm, what is your opinion on telling a professor/manager this early, if it is already interfering with your day? 

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Definitely Spring! DH and I go big on our gardening so Spring is a fun time before it gets too hot.

clanbuchanan15

How far along? 8 weeks tomorrow!

Appts: only one so far and it was at week 5 with my midwife. My next one is scheduled for week 11 so we can hopefully hear the heartbeat with doppler! 

Rants: I wish I wanted to eat food... I'm hungry all the time but nothing sounds good.

Questions: I'm currently debating on what kind of cloth diapers is best/ if it is even realistic to cloth from birth to potty training. Any wisdom?

Favorite season: fall is my favorite. And we are having a fall baby! My DH has his birthday on the 15 of October and my mom was always 10 days late with her kids. He might get a VERY special birthday gift this year.

dinosaur

How far along are you? 7w5d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Nope. Same old. 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Nope. I will finally have an ultrasound on March 3rd. 

Rants/raves? My husband got his dream job. We're moving back home in May!

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Nope.

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Summer, but not when it's ridiculously hot.

VLillyV

@Dinosaur i get so excited and happy for you when I remember you get to go back home

dinosaur

@VLillyV - Thanks! It's basically located 3 hours from our parents and where we spent all our childhood summers. SOOOO excited!

shara1733

How far along are you? 6w3d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? This is my first check in, but as far as symptoms go, I'm tired.  All the time.  Minimal nausea, very light spotting this past week, mild cramping here and there.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Had another US today-saw the heart beat! It was wonderful!

Rants/raves? Oh I'm so happy! So so happy!  I didn't expect a baby in there today because my US last week showed nothing in the gestational sac and they predicted last week that I was 6w3d, so I was told I had a blighted ovum.  So imagine my surprise today! 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? none at the moment

GTKY: What is your favorite season? Well, I love the feel of spring, but I live in Texas, so technically it's still winter, but our temps don't reflect that!  Today was beautiful!  Highs in the mid 70s with low humidity, sunny, just perfect!

crazypuglady

@ChocolateIsLife- I am going in for my first appointment next Thursday. If all is well, I plan on telling my supervisor. I also have to report any major health changes to our clinic at work, so that's my main reason for telling him in case he get's an email from the clinic. Other than that, my other coworkers will know when I announce to the general public probably close to Easter. (Least, that's the plan)

@clanbuchanan15- My sister cloth diapered her 2nd and loved it. (Though, I can't tell you which brand she had.) Her diapers had an outer design and removable inserts. The inserts you pulled for washing after #1. For #2, she had a spray attachment on her toilet to spray solids before putting the outer diaper in the wash bag. It's a bit more work than traditional disposable diapers, but if you're up for it, it's very economical. (She said she spent $300 on all her supplies, but she didn't have to keep buying diapers.) The diapers also had snap closures with a couple rows of adjustments, so they grew as my niece grew. Unfortunately, DH doesn't like the cloth diaper idea.. so we're most likely doing disposable.

@dinosaur- Congrats to your H!

@Shara1733- So glad you got good news and that everything is ok!