UO Thursday 2/9

JessyKV

Spill them ladies! UO time! 

And im lame and don't know how to add a cool gif.

JessyKV

This is probably a lame one but I do not like convertibles, as in cars.  I hate having the wind on my face and my hair blown around crazy.  And they are freaking expensive and in not into spending a lot on cars.  My husband really wants one someday and I feel like it will be torture for me. 

neludelu

I HATE automated things-sinks, soap dispensers, doors, etc. I was viciously attacked by an overzealous soap dispenser this morning and it really put me in a mood.

I also loathe people who take the exception/ anomaly  to a rule and make it the norm. For example I heard a stat that said people who got married on Valentines Day were more likely to get divorced. A woman within ear shot got rabidly defensive and stated that the stat wasn't true that she had been married happily for years and she was married on that day. There will always be an exception, an anomaly or an outlier.

JessyKV

@neludelu I kind of agree with hating automatic things.  The soap/water/paper towels never seem to work when you want them to and I end up looking like an idiot waving my hands around.  But of course automatic toilets flush all day while you are sitting on them! Then you get splashed with gross water! 

And I second the execution to the rule is not the norm.  I don't like when people live in fear because of one horror story they heard either.  

hopeful808

I hate when people refer to pregnancy as cooking or baking. This is brought to you by the email I got about being "half baked" 

EmeraldNC

@neludelu I was a psych major, so of course I heard a TON of statistics in college.  One statistic that stuck in my head is that if you are engaged for over a year your marriage is X amount (can't remember exactly) more likely to fail.  My DH knew from the second we got serious that being engaged for more than a year was out of the question.  LOL  I know it is just a stat, but it totally got into my head for some reason.

EmeraldNC

My UO is that Endocrinology for Gestational Diabetes is pseudoscience. (In my case anyway).  Last pregnancy, and this pregnancy I have followed my diet like I should... and they can NEVER get my morning blood sugars where they are supposed to be.  The change/increase/etc my meds all the time... and my numbers are exactly the same... sometimes within limits, sometimes not.  It frustrates me because Endo is not cheap... and I feel like they are literally guessing at what might work.

merrylea

I generally don't like sandwiches. 

JessyKV

merrylea said:

I generally don't like sandwiches. 

Mmm I love me some jimmy johns.  Also a good PB&J.  

Elyse1384

My UO is that baby dolls are creepy looking.  I don't get the appeal. DD just wheeled hers over to me in the toy stroller.  Now it is staring at me, but I'm too lazy to get up and move it.  F.

neludelu

JessyKV said:

merrylea said:

I generally don't like sandwiches. 

Mmm I love me some jimmy johns.  Also a good PB&J.  

Pb&j and ice cold milk... mmmmmm if I knew how to gif I would include one of Homer Simpson drooling. 

michaela0704

I do NOT think all parenting decisions are 'you do you' type decisions... and that there are absolutely wrong choices to make.  Not just in that 'well that is your opinion' kind of way, but you are just legit wrong... wrong is wrong... and I'm side-eyeing the sh*t out of you.

Kylieslip24

Ha ha yes! @michaela0704 totally agree! I'm very judgy about parenting in general, but I won't say it out loud. Of course there are always extenuating circumstances sometimes, but I really hate the "you do you" when it comes to safety decisions. 

Automatic toilets are my enemy! Before kids I was really skinny and they always flushed on me. So gross! Now my poor dd is always getting flushed on. So annoying! 

Heliumgirl717

EmeraldNC said:

My UO is that Endocrinology for Gestational Diabetes is pseudoscience. (In my case anyway).  Last pregnancy, and this pregnancy I have followed my diet like I should... and they can NEVER get my morning blood sugars where they are supposed to be.  The change/increase/etc my meds all the time... and my numbers are exactly the same... sometimes within limits, sometimes not.  It frustrates me because Endo is not cheap... and I feel like they are literally guessing at what might work.

I had this problem last pregnancy too @EmeraldNC I eventually just went no-carb in the morning instead of the set amount. I anticipate this problem again when I take my next tolerance test. 

mkrel

I can't stand when people post their workouts on facebook. You'd think that after the 100th time noticing that they only have 3 likes, they would realize that no one cares. 

I love automatic soap dispensers and sinks, but the toilets terrify me. I jumped up once when it flushed mid pee and ended up getting pee on my pants....so gross. 

JessyKV

Elyse1384 said:

My UO is that baby dolls are creepy looking.  I don't get the appeal. DD just wheeled hers over to me in the toy stroller.  Now it is staring at me, but I'm too lazy to get up and move it.  F.

My DD has the "life size" Anna and Elsa dolls and those things are creepy.  Especially when I can see them starring at my through the baby monitor.  

jc_twomamas

The C section vs tearing thread is making me stabby and I don't think that type of thread should be allowed on any BMB. (Sorry to the lady who started it). A MAJOR abdominal surgery will 99% of the time never be an easier option then tearing. The minimal awful tearing stories you hear are few and far between (just like awful c section stories are few and far between too). Because you hear two or three stories, does not mean your experience is any more likely to be bad.
 I guess my UO is: being worried or scared of tearing is just silly. It might happen, it might not. It might be 2nd degree, it may be 4th degree. I'll take the gamble any day over a major surgery. (Sincerely, STM who had a c section with DS and hoping for a tear worthy VBAC). 

ladylolly89

@devow27 I tend to agree with you. I don't think talking about tearing is going to accomplish much other than freaking out FTMs. It is really not something to worry that much about. There are some things you can do to prepare the perineum ahead of time, but still may or may not happen. 

mkrel

@devow27 FTM here, but I agree. As a nurse, I am terrified of any and all abdominal surgeries. Not only are there risks with surgery itself, there are so many organs in your abdomen and providing any opportunity to go in there and create scar tissue and possible adhesions that could cause trouble down the road is not worth it in my mind. Hoping to avoid a csection unless it is absolutely necessary. 

jc_twomamas

@ladylolly89 yes. Useless worrying and causes fear among many FTM! Let's just not discuss c sections vs tearing...period.  (I'm a hormonal mess today...can ya tell?) 

Edit to add- our ladies that did have awful tearing with birth are warriors and I would never judge them for choosing a different birth route. I'm just speaking towards those who are looking into the unknown...

JessyKV

devow27 said:

The C section vs tearing thread is making me stabby and I don't think that type of thread should be allowed on any BMB. (Sorry to the lady who started it). A MAJOR abdominal surgery will 99% of the time never be an easier option then tearing. The minimal awful tearing stories you hear are few and far between (just like awful c section stories are few and far between too). Because you hear two or three stories, does not mean your experience is any more likely to be bad.
 I guess my UO is: being worried or scared of tearing is just silly. It might happen, it might not. It might be 2nd degree, it may be 4th degree. I'll take the gamble any day over a major surgery. (Sincerely, STM who had a c section with DS and hoping for a tear worthy VBAC). 

Thank you!! I 100% agree. I was trying to find a way to say this in that thread but I'm just not good with words and didn't want to offend anyone.  

I'd rather tear any day over another c section.  I had a pretty textbook experience with a c section and episiotomy/tear with a vbac.  Tearing was really no big deal at all to me.  I get that child birth in general can be scary but why do people focus in on the tearing part??

FSUNole31

@merrylea I could seriously live off of sandwiches.  My husband isn't as big of a fan though so I try and refrain from making them daily like I would like.  

FSUNole31

I hate that I can never come up with anything for this thread.  Ever.  I am so much better at confesssing.  Apparently I need to develop more opinions about things.  

awoodruff27

@michaela080 yes!!! I so agree with you. I side eye a lot. I actually met a new girl last week. Our kids are the same age, so I was like yay a friend! Until I found out that she hates leaving the house. Her two (almost 3 year old) had never been to the playground before. I side eyed the sh*t out of that! All she wants to do is watch movies or eat food. I love lazy days as much as the next person, but how do you not socialize or expose your kid to a playground??? 

krex-2

FSUNole31 said:

I hate that I can never come up with anything for this thread.  Ever.  I am so much better at confesssing.  Apparently I need to develop more opinions about things.  

This is me too.  Maybe I'm just lazy in stuff I give a rat's butt about.

JessyKV

I saw this on another board but totally agree.  I think 3D ultrasounds are kind of creepy.  I've never had one and I would never pay for one.  It creeps me out when people post them on FB.  

jesselayne8

@devow27 yes!!!! I would have given anything for a VBAC or a VBA2C and heck I won't be mad if #4 comes barreling into the world so fast I can't make it to the OR.  I hope you get your VBAC! 

vixey

EmeraldNC said:

My UO is that Endocrinology for Gestational Diabetes is pseudoscience. (In my case anyway).  Last pregnancy, and this pregnancy I have followed my diet like I should... and they can NEVER get my morning blood sugars where they are supposed to be.  The change/increase/etc my meds all the time... and my numbers are exactly the same... sometimes within limits, sometimes not.  It frustrates me because Endo is not cheap... and I feel like they are literally guessing at what might work.

I had the exact same issue during my last pregnancy. My morning numbers were always out of bounds, and every three days the Endo would increase my insulin dosage. Never worked. All other numbers were completely diet controlled

I passed the 1hr glucose test at 11 weeks and anticipate failing at 28 weeks

kahlan82

I thought of mine while reading another board.  I am pro-breast feeding, pro doing it in public. I know it is natural and all that but there is something about a 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old still breast feeding that is weird to me. Give the kid a cup.  Nothing wrong with it but it just seems strange.

JessyKV

kahlan82 said:

I thought of mine while reading another board.  I am pro-breast feeding, pro doing it in public. I know it is natural and all that but there is something about a 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old still breast feeding that is weird to me. Give the kid a cup.  Nothing wrong with it but it just seems strange.

I tend to agree.  I get nursing a 2-3 year old at home if that's your thing but I also kind of think they are old enough to be able to hold off from nursing at any given hour of the day.  At that point nursing is more a comfort or supplement to their diet than their only source of nutrition.  

I have a lot of friends that continue to pump and give breast milk in a cup to their toddlers.  Maybe only nursing at bedtime. 

Stankonia2014

kahlan82 said:

I thought of mine while reading another board.  I am pro-breast feeding, pro doing it in public. I know it is natural and all that but there is something about a 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old still breast feeding that is weird to me. Give the kid a cup.  Nothing wrong with it but it just seems strange.

Yes! I'm all for normalizing BFing, but there's something about a 3+ year old BFing that skeeves me out. I also think at that point it's more of a 'can't cut the cord' type of thing. 

mombod

@kahlan82 remember this?
I fully intended to breastfeed as long as my child wanted to bc I think they will tell you when they are ready. My son just happened to self wean while I was pregnant. It drove me crazy that people asked if he was still bfing. He wasnt even 2 yet!

BellaO21

Stankonia2014 said:

kahlan82 said:

I thought of mine while reading another board.  I am pro-breast feeding, pro doing it in public. I know it is natural and all that but there is something about a 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old still breast feeding that is weird to me. Give the kid a cup.  Nothing wrong with it but it just seems strange.

Yes! I'm all for normalizing BFing, but there's something about a 3+ year old BFing that skeeves me out. I also think at that point it's more of a 'can't cut the cord' type of thing. 

This! 
Also I agree with the 3D ultrasounds being creepy.

And yet again I don't have an UO of my own... I'm so lame 

awillis13

This isn't going to be UO, but Comcast/Xfinity is so ridiculous.  Our bill has almost doubled in the past year, and when I called to see if we can drop it at all, the best they can do for me is $15/month.  But if we cancel and sign up under my name (it's currently under DH), then we can get it for almost $100/mo less.  How is that even logical?  And why make it such a hassle to keep people in a reasonable price for cable?

BellaO21

@awillis13 because Comcast/Xfinity sucks. I can't wait until Google Fiber or even AT&T hits my area and I can ditch them for good (right now we only have internet through Comcast). 

ladylolly89

My UO is that seeing another mom breastfeed without a cover really weirds me out. I do my best to not even look, but when my SIL whips out a boob at a family gathering...ack! I didn't need to see that much of you, thank you. 
I'm not saying they have no right to do it. I just feel, I don't know, awkward? 

But I'm the mom who pumps ahead of time when we go anywhere just so that I don't have to nurse in public, or if I do then I find a private place (but not a bathroom, because that's just gross). 

kahlan82

@mombod. I completely thought of that while posting. I remember thinking okay "that's your deal but it creeps me out."

Although I think everyone has a "body" thing with their children that has an age cutoff. I still shower with my 3.5 year old son, and I am sure some people would think that was too old.  

mombod

@kahlan82 that cover totally makes me uncomfortable too. So aggressive

ashleyl31

awoodruff27 said:

@michaela080 yes!!! I so agree with you. I side eye a lot. I actually met a new girl last week. Our kids are the same age, so I was like yay a friend! Until I found out that she hates leaving the house. Her two (almost 3 year old) had never been to the playground before. I side eyed the sh*t out of that! All she wants to do is watch movies or eat food. I love lazy days as much as the next person, but how do you not socialize or expose your kid to a playground??? 

I used to have a friend like that. She stays at home with her two kids and literally never leaves the house. Doesn't go grocery shopping..... nothing! It drives me nuts. She thought she was a better mom than me because I work, so I decided that "friendship" wasn't worth it to me anymore. 

Kylieslip24

Ha ha with the bf preschoolers in public. I still would and am kind of sad that I didn't bf past 2.5. But at home only. At 2 it was a rule that she only got the boobies for going to sleep and waking up. My plan was going until 3, but then I got really sick and had to stop early. I don't really care how long you bf, totally up to mom and kid. But I don't want to see it! Preschoolers and older toddlers can totally wait until they are home. Lol up till 2 I really don't care if you nurse anywhere with or with out a cover. Just because I totally was judgy about that until dd humbled me. She would not nurse with a cover and barely ate enough solids to live until close to two. So I learned real quick to latch fast, wear scarfs, and not to be ashamed. Lol 

ellie111227

I don't really have a cutoff age where i think breastfeeding is weird in general, but I do side eye moms who refuse to impose any boundaries on it past a year or 18 months or so. I feel like it is part of learning to respect other people's autonomy to learn that mom gets to choose when and where nursing is ok. Like, before naps and bed, or even an occasional random time after asking nicely is fine, but I don't think a three year old should be able to demand to nurse anytime they want to and be accommodated. IMO, fully on demand nursing is for little babies, not for toddlers.