Has anyone given their husband a gift after delivery, or is anyone else thinking about it? I don't want to get into anything too expensive, but DH has stepped up a huge amount since I've been pregnant- and especially since I've started having some crazy mood swings. I want to get him something but I'm not sure what. He's not really into drinking much so no engraved flasks, not heavily into sports, gets himself whatever he needs for his hobby, is very work-focused but nice stuff for his work office doesn't work particularly well because he wouldn't be using it May - November at least... he's already well-prepared for traveling. Something father-son-ish, father-son bonding something maybe, but I don't know what could be good for that (FTM)...?
I LOVE this idea. I'd like to do something for him too. He's put up with a LOT this time around. Maybe I'll plan a big fancy date night in April or May.
Side note, as far as "push presents" go, I find them tacky. The idea that someone owes me a present because I did something I wanted to do? No one owes me anything! The baby is the gift. After my first baby, my husband gave me earrings. He meant well and I appreciated the thought, but honestly it felt like it cheapened the experience.
I will agree that my DH does put up with a lot, but in all fairness I'm the one who deals with the whole pregnancy plus a toddler at home. I kinda feel like we're even, and neither of us needs a present for it.
It is a sweet idea, I'm just not a sentimental type of person I guess
+1 for thinking push presents are a bit silly. ESPECIALLY if you tell your DH what a push present is and imply he needs to get you one. If H bought me something on his own I'd so appreciate it-but not because it's an obligatory thing. It's like getting flowers on Valentine's Day... I'd rather get "just because" flowers any other day of the year instead of "oh yeah I have to" flowers.
im also not doing anything for H, but if he's like my DH maybe you could set up a night out with friends or give him tickets to go see a show/team/movie he likes? Something my H appreciates more than stuff is a little time away from home now that it's filled with chaos of family
@sunshine507 I agree with @JustAnotherUsername16. I'm giving you a person. Yeah I've been moody and you've had to step around the house but it's been no picnic for me either. We're in this together. I don't expect a "push present," you're def not getting a "I did dishes and vacuumed" present.
I'm gonna be the unpopular one and say I would about die of happiness if my husband brought me some flowers and a cute stuffed animal after delivery to say "thank you for carrying my child, delivering it, and for handling the two other kids all the while. Your pain, discomfort and work did not go unnoticed." my Love Language is 100% Gifts so they mean a lot to me. But I would not expect jewelry or clothes or anything really expensive or fancy. That would be weird. I'm also in agreement with no thanks to buying DH a gift after delivery. A simple "thank you for putting up with me and helping, go watch the game with your friends" should suffice!
I agree with @silverbulletband. A gift would be nice although I'm not insisting that my husband has to get me one. Friends and family send flowers and cards to women all the time after they give birth. The idea of a push present is similar it's just from your husband.
DH brought up a push present last week and how he has to get me one. i told him no, especially since my bday is march 4 and I'm due the 10th. i agree its a sweet thought and ya showing up to the hospital with flowers when he brings DH would be sweet but I'm not expecting anything. unless he wants to fold laundry...
The best push present ever: If my husband could keep his mother away from the hospital AND our house for the first weeks after delivery (a girl can dream, right?)
I am not planning to get my husband a delivery gift. That and the whole push present thing are a fad I have never, ever heard of before starting to get online to research pregnancy questions - it's not part of my family's customs or his. Heck, I put a lot of thought and work into what I got him for a wedding present (something else I hadn't heard of - bride and groom getting gifts for each other??) thinking that it was a Southern tradition (I'm from Pennsylvania and moved to Missouri where he lives) only to find out that he had never heard of it, either, and then he felt bad for not getting me anything. We're both getting a baby; that's plenty gift enough! And while I do appreciate him starting to step up to help around the house lately, to me, we're a team and if one of us is down for the count, the other should be stepping up to take care of the team, and it doesn't need a special reward. The gift thing is a nice idea, but I'm not personally participating in it.
My DHs bday is exactly a week before my due date. I'm going to put some extra thought into his gift this year because he really has been amazing, but not something specific for the birth.
DH & I don't exchange gifts for ANY occasion anymore lol... I wrote him a love letter on Christmas & that was all he got from me. On our anniversary in Sept he wrote a nice one for me & that was it. I think since we do everything as a team with our finances & all we don't feel like we need to buy each other anything extra...we try to do date nights once a week or every other week where we go out to dinner though, so if there's anything to celebrate we usually just tie it in with that. Neither of us are very interested in traditional gifts but we both love giving/getting the occasional love letter so that's probably what we'll continue to do as we grow older. I'd like to bring some pen/paper with me to the hospital to write letters soon after I give birth for both DH and for our son (to be read by him when he's older at some point & for me to look at prior to then during those times he may be driving me crazy in the future) so that's another thing I just thought of I want to put in my hospital bag
@sunshine507 what about making Valentine's Day extra special this year instead? Getting him a bigger or an extra gift and tell him the reason is because you are grateful for the way he's been during pregnancy? That's kind of what I though about doing
I can see the whole gift thing from both perspectives. I personally won't be getting my husband anything special, but I also understand why some women would want to do that for husbands that go the extra mile to help us. At the same time though, I feel like it's all part of being a team and having our back is something that our husbands are supposed to do. But then again, letting them know that we actually appreciate them for having our backs and showing our appreciation through a little recognition gift isn't a bad thing either. No judgment for whatever someone wants to do.
I'd personally rather my DH get something special for our LO than for me as a "push" present. My Dad got my Mom and I both a bracelet when I was born. I still have it today.
My birthday is 1 month before my due date. It's a big milestone birthday and I mentioned to DH that I was having a hard time finding a brushed solid gold wrist bangle, a very very simple bracelet that I could wear every day. I am a product designer so I'm annoyingly picky about things, haha. I don't wear much jewelry but I like the very few things I do wear to be high quality and simple. DH asked if he could get me the bracelet for my birthday, I thought that was sweet so I said ok. He knows what I like. Then the other day he said he heard that some husbands get their wives a gift at the birth of their child. He said he'd like to take back the bangle after our son is born and engrave it inside with his name and birthdate. I love this idea.
I wasn't planning on getting him anything but I know he is struggling to feel like he's contributing enough and doing enough while I'm pregnant. I kind of like the idea of a small gift, I may get him a little something, he is really into learning about wine lately, maybe a nice bottle that we can share at some point in the future to celebrate the arrival of our LO. He was amazing on our whole journey, he went through a lot just going through IVF with me, so I may get him something just as a little gesture.
Question? Are we doing individual AW threads for births or are we using the Announcement Thread?
I personally think everyone deserves their own AW thread for the arrival of their LO.
I'm with you. I do think people should still post their pics and stuff in the Announcement Thread just because it's easier to keep track and make sure you see it there, but everyone deserves their own thread where people will actually respond/discuss if they want to tell a whole story etc. I think the Announcement Thread isn't supposed to be a place where people respond, but if you're going to deliver your own baby in your car BY YOURSELF, it's ridiculous to not have a place to discuss where others can tell you how badass that is!
@kjd291 now that @DrillSergeantCat has had her baby, you're next unless one of our multiple moms beat you.
EEEE. Yikes! Haha. Yes-multiple moms, and I think there are a few scheduled C's that will beat me. Or *should* beat me if this LO stays put! @Happyhiker in two weeks... who else!?
Question? Are we doing individual AW threads for births or are we using the Announcement Thread?
I personally think everyone deserves their own AW thread for the arrival of their LO.
I think the way its been done on past baords is "announcements" is a general announcement of birth with quick time, weight hight and pic. No congrats or anything just the new moms so it's all in one place. Then ppl also make their own labor story thread if they feel like it and share the full details - some also start it at beginninngof labor to keep updating as things progress depending on their situation. BUT-I think March Mamas are so chill, and there aren't that many of us, that no one really cares exactly what format you choose to use!
So Saturday is Chinese New Year! So excited for so much good food....
Anyway, in case anyone wants to know, each year in the Chinese Zodiac has an animal (which most people know about) and also an element associated with it.
Any babies (Norah!) born by midnight on Friday will be Fire Monkeys. Any babies born on Saturday or later will be Fire Roosters.
DH and I are both Fire Tigers. That's an awful lot of fire in one household!
If you want to read more about the zodiac and personalities (I don't totally subscribe, but it's always fun to read), check it out here: https://www.yourchineseastrology.com/zodiac/
@kdj291, after reading about baby Norah's arrival, I'm convinced any of us could be next!
So two randoms, is prego brain contagious? I just found an empty Rubbermaid container in the fridge that clearly had something I can't eat in it, so I didn't put it there... I think DH is getting scattered from lack of sleep. I toss and turn and snore too much, thank you third tri.
Second, I'm working from home and a package just arrived. I opened it, and it turned out to be a gift off my registry, yay! It's the accessories for my breast pump, and it's from my boss (female). The one thing on the registry that enables me to go back to work. Now, my boss is a very nice person and definitely didn't mean anything by giving me that, but it totally made me laugh.
@Happyhiker true! Anyone could be next. I know personally won't be asking for a membrain sweet anytime soon though! Hah.
and yes! Sympathy symptoms are definitely real. Not just the sympathy weight gain, but lots of SOs have some funny stuff happen to them during pregnancy too. My H had awful sleep walking episodes with our first! I thought I might have to lock the babies room if they continued! Hah
Stalking my registry inevitably leads to me buying something/things off it because I've looked at it so many times anytime I see a price drop on an item I get excited & wanna scoop it up before the price goes back up! Earlier today I bought a play mat thing that was reduced by 22% and since two other small items were on my registry as "add-on" items (must be purchased with an order over $25, can't be purchased on their own) into my cart they went. I don't feel too guilty though because there's still a TON of things on my registry for others to get and plus I get 5% back on my Amazon credit card! See how sneaky Amazon is, making me think I'm saving saving saving when I'm actually spending spending spending!??!
I've been doing so so good for almost 37wks preggo, but today I had one of "those days" where I feel like I seriously CANNOT do this for another month. I'm beginning to become terrified of being one of those lucky few that make it to 42wks pregnant...
ONLY pro i can think of coming with that? --> I'd actually be a March Mama
Sorry I dropped off for a bit, these days I seem to just have time to post then things immediately get busy Thanks all for the input - I can definitely see why some people wouldn't do gifts for their husbands, but with where we're at I think I'm going to go ahead with something small but personal for him. Love the ideas!
Re: Randoms! 1/23
No, but really... I didn't know this was a thing. Should I be planning on something special for DH?
Side note, as far as "push presents" go, I find them tacky. The idea that someone owes me a present because I did something I wanted to do? No one owes me anything! The baby is the gift. After my first baby, my husband gave me earrings. He meant well and I appreciated the thought, but honestly it felt like it cheapened the experience.
I will agree that my DH does put up with a lot, but in all fairness I'm the one who deals with the whole pregnancy plus a toddler at home. I kinda feel like we're even, and neither of us needs a present for it.
It is a sweet idea, I'm just not a sentimental type of person I guess
It's like getting flowers on Valentine's Day... I'd rather get "just because" flowers any other day of the year instead of "oh yeah I have to" flowers.
im also not doing anything for H, but
if he's like my DH maybe you could set up a night out with friends or give him tickets to go see a show/team/movie he likes? Something my H appreciates more than stuff is a little time away from home now that it's filled with chaos of family
I had two extra little kids at my house for three hours this afternoon. I'm so pooped!
Random #3 : exactly 1 wk till February
I am not planning to get my husband a delivery gift. That and the whole push present thing are a fad I have never, ever heard of before starting to get online to research pregnancy questions - it's not part of my family's customs or his. Heck, I put a lot of thought and work into what I got him for a wedding present (something else I hadn't heard of - bride and groom getting gifts for each other??) thinking that it was a Southern tradition (I'm from Pennsylvania and moved to Missouri where he lives) only to find out that he had never heard of it, either, and then he felt bad for not getting me anything. We're both getting a baby; that's plenty gift enough! And while I do appreciate him starting to step up to help around the house lately, to me, we're a team and if one of us is down for the count, the other should be stepping up to take care of the team, and it doesn't need a special reward. The gift thing is a nice idea, but I'm not personally participating in it.
Samantha - 4/5/2017
Neither of us are very interested in traditional gifts but we both love giving/getting the occasional love letter so that's probably what we'll continue to do as we grow older. I'd like to bring some pen/paper with me to the hospital to write letters soon after I give birth for both DH and for our son (to be read by him when he's older at some point & for me to look at prior to then during those times he may be driving me crazy in the future) so that's another thing I just thought of I want to put in my hospital bag
@longliveregina my birthday is the same as your DH!
I personally think everyone deserves their own AW thread for the arrival of their LO.
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
I wasn't planning on getting him anything but I know he is struggling to feel like he's contributing enough and doing enough while I'm pregnant. I kind of like the idea of a small gift, I may get him a little something, he is really into learning about wine lately, maybe a nice bottle that we can share at some point in the future to celebrate the arrival of our LO. He was amazing on our whole journey, he went through a lot just going through IVF with me, so I may get him something just as a little gesture.
When/if I finally have my rainbow girl in my arms you can be damn well sure I'm making a thread for it. Sorry, not sorry!!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
I think the way its been done on past baords is "announcements" is a general announcement of birth with quick time, weight hight and pic. No congrats or anything just the new moms so it's all in one place. Then ppl also make their own labor story thread if they feel like it and share the full details - some also start it at beginninngof labor to keep updating as things progress depending on their situation.
BUT-I think March Mamas are so chill, and there aren't that many of us, that no one really cares exactly what format you choose to use!
Anyway, in case anyone wants to know, each year in the Chinese Zodiac has an animal (which most people know about) and also an element associated with it.
Any babies (Norah!) born by midnight on Friday will be Fire Monkeys. Any babies born on Saturday or later will be Fire Roosters.
DH and I are both Fire Tigers. That's an awful lot of fire in one household!
If you want to read more about the zodiac and personalities (I don't totally subscribe, but it's always fun to read), check it out here: https://www.yourchineseastrology.com/zodiac/
Samantha - 4/5/2017
So two randoms, is prego brain contagious? I just found an empty Rubbermaid container in the fridge that clearly had something I can't eat in it, so I didn't put it there... I think DH is getting scattered from lack of sleep. I toss and turn and snore too much, thank you third tri.
Second, I'm working from home and a package just arrived. I opened it, and it turned out to be a gift off my registry, yay! It's the accessories for my breast pump, and it's from my boss (female). The one thing on the registry that enables me to go back to work. Now, my boss is a very nice person and definitely didn't mean anything by giving me that, but it totally made me laugh.
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
and yes! Sympathy symptoms are definitely real. Not just the sympathy weight gain, but lots of SOs have some funny stuff happen to them during pregnancy too. My H had awful sleep walking episodes with our first! I thought I might have to lock the babies room if they continued! Hah
Earlier today I bought a play mat thing that was reduced by 22% and since two other small items were on my registry as "add-on" items (must be purchased with an order over $25, can't be purchased on their own) into my cart they went.
I don't feel too guilty though because there's still a TON of things on my registry for others to get and plus I get 5% back on my Amazon credit card! See how sneaky Amazon is, making me think I'm saving saving saving when I'm actually spending spending spending!??!
I'm beginning to become terrified of being one of those lucky few that make it to 42wks pregnant...
ONLY pro i can think of coming with that? --> I'd actually be a March Mama
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
Thanks all for the input - I can definitely see why some people wouldn't do gifts for their husbands, but with where we're at I think I'm going to go ahead with something small but personal for him. Love the ideas!