Oh no @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot, I'm sorry. Its so hard to keep it together while you watch your kids go through something like that. Stay strong, Momma.
@ShadeofGreen816 - Ugh, I hated that the first time around. The worst for me was when I would complain about being tired toward the end, and people were like, "Oh, just you wait!" Like how was I supposed to compare myself to a theoretical degree of fatigue in the future? I was tired now, dammit! I decided the only decent thing people should say to pregnant women is, "You look great! Can I get you a cupcake?" Or something.
@ShadeofGreen816 I get what you are talking about, and if there is someone who will watch the baby so you can have a night, take advantage!
My birthday is 8 days after my twins, before they were born I was on bedrest for months and after they were born it seemed like every minute was spent in the NICU. Our family kept telling me to go out and enjoy a well deserved night but it wasn't until the NICU nurses basically kicked us out did we listen. That night made me feel like myself again, take advantage of you have the opportunity
Thanks everyone! She fell off something she was sitting on in the sandbox. Her teacher said the fall was about 2 feet. She takes after her clumsy mom apparently. She broke both bones between her wrist and elbow but thankfully missed the growth plates. They sedated her and set her arm. It was pretty heart wrenching, but she's doing good now.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot so sorry your DD was hurt, but glad to hear you survived the ER and that she didn't damage her growth plates. Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery!
@ShadeofGreen816 when DD was about a week old DH and I went on a quick grocery run, it was a warm summer afternoon and had just gotten dark, we live in the desert and it wasn't cold at all or too hot, for that matter. But I remember a lady stopping us to see the baby and then scolding me because I didn't have her in a blanket, just a thin hat and that she was "too fresh" to be outside this young. I was livid and emotion from just having her so I didn't stick up for myself, but truly wish I had. People like that suck. No one can say how you will feel. I was happy to get some fresh air until that old bitch came along to ruin it.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I'm sorry that happened! Hope she feels better quick!!! We've been in the er three times this year and it does do a number on mommy's heart!
Random- we signed a contract to build a house tonight! We've been finalizing plans and upgrades and all for a few weeks and now it's official! Building starts as soon as permits go through and our estimated completion date is July 3rd. We might be crazy for moving then with newborn twins but we have got to get out of our teeny tiny house. My bday is the end of June as well as our anniversary and dd's birthday is July 9, so should be a fun summer...
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot that sucks, so sorry she's hurt. Hoping for a speedy recovery! Super stressful for Mama too, hope you're okay!
@Jkp7749 congrats on the new house to be!! So exciting!
Best diaper pail IMO is Playtex Diaper Genie. No smell and easy to change every 2-4 days.
Hooded towels: we were gifted bigger ones and just wrap DD up in it, much longer lasting than sizing and more cozy for baby. The hoods are good for keeping the towel on them.
Lotions: I use coconut oil mostly because it's more natural and smells amazing, also tends to keep skin moisturizer longer. I even use on hair for DD dry scalp (I use on me too).
Random question: my best friends are getting married on April 1 and the bride has asked me to be a part of the wedding. They live about a thousand miles away, which makes travel options either a very long drive (15 hours)or flying. If we drive, we can visit my elderly aunt on the way, so that's my preference but it adds extra time far away. Am I crazy to think we can manage this trip so close to new baby? I'm due May 13 but was two and a half weeks late with DD. So I guess 1) should we go at all and 2) if we do, should we drive or fly? Any advice appreciated thank you!
We are home and DD is falling asleep in her bed. A friend lost their 6 yo to cancer yesterday so I wasn't in a great place today. Obviously a broken arm is nothing like that. I was just already down mentally as a parent thinking of my friend and their family. Unlike DH, I didn't spend any time in emergency rooms as a kid so this was a new experience for me. Enough of my pity party.
I'm going to go eat my feelings and go to bed. Thanks again for all your well wishes and thoughts. You guys are awesome.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot Ugh! Two broken bones and an ER visit... sorry that happened to your daughter. Never fun for mom either. Also, sorry to hear about your friend's daughter. Cancer fricken sucks! I hope you ate well! Hang in there!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I'm so sorry you guys are going through that, it's so hard seeing them in pain! DS fractured his leg last fall and it sucked. I hope she heals quickly!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot seeing kids in pain is the worst. I hope your daughter has a quick recovery. And I'm sorry to hear about your friend's child. Cancer is awful.
@ShadeofGreen816 yes! All the "warnings" are driving me crazy too, but most of it is coming from my mom. And she keeps saying it to my DH. Fortunately he's not really phased by it, but I had to ask her during dinner last week if there was anything she actually liked about having babies. She's been much better about it since.
slowmo said: I decided the only decent thing people should say to pregnant women is, "You look great! Can I get you a cupcake?" Or something.
This made me laugh. You should create a PSA and broadcast this everywhere.
So I skimmed the other thread titles and at a glimpse I read GTKY: Vacations as GTKY: Vaccinations.
That could have been interesting...
Ha, I read it as GTKY: Valentines
But the vaccinations would have been interesting, although I think at this point we have a pretty good dare I say it, dramaless group. Or maybe we just seem so much tamer than July... lol
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@chailife34 fuzzy math here but you're talking about traveling at 34w or so? I flew at 34 but that was the absolute cutoff from my doc and my insurance. It sounds silly but you might want to check with your plan if they have any limits about distance from your network hospitals at a certain point in pregnancy. Also airlines get a bit funky, they each have different cutoffs, I was within the limits but looked massive so I had a doctor's note just in case.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot Glad to hear your DD is ok now. That is a lot to deal with anyway and then to hear about your friend as well. I'm so sorry and I hope today is a better day.
@chailife34 I was going to say the same as @WombThereItIs insurance and even airlines themselves, may not let you fly that late in pregnancy.
I wouldnt want to drive 15 hours that pregnant, plus fitting into a bridesmaid dress could be uncomfortable/frustrating. I had to pass on a wedding with DD and while I was bummed the bride totally understood.
@chailife34 Definitely check with your doctor regarding their cut-offs for flying. I know with my doctor, I had to be home by 34 weeks. I made an 18 hour drive (spread out over 2 days) at 26wks and again at 28wks and it was definitely uncomfortable! I'm considering flying at 30-32 weeks this time (3 hours non stop) but it's still questionable for me as I know I'll be uncomfortable and my doctor might say no as we get closer to the date. Remember its not just the uncomfortable or chance of early delivery, blood clotting is a real concern while pregnant if your sitting too long. I'm on vacation right now at 20 weeks and my doctor told me to be extra cautious about making sure I'm getting up and waking during the flight!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter! I hope you are both doing better together and wish her a speedy recovery! And I'm also sorry to hear about your friend's child...cancer is just the worst. I can't imagine how hard that must be to deal with and I hope I never have to.
@Jkp7749, congrats on the new house!! So exciting!
@chailife34: That's a really good question, and I'm sorry you have to make such a big decision without knowing all of those "what-ifs" that pp have raised: flying vs driving, doc/insurance letting you travel, leg blood clots/getting enough exercise-movement during travel, will you even feel like being in a wedding? Not to mention the costs associated with being in a wedding, when that money could go toward the little one. It's a really tough call to make.
I'd personally kindly decline to be a direct part of the ceremony, because there are a lot of unknowns, but still definitely accept the invite to attend. I'd hate to have to cancel at the last minute (due to whatever factor) and know that I was canceling not only travel plans for attending the wedding but also being a part of the bridal party. I'd feel awful enough not being able to attend, but then to also maybe mess up their bridal party count (you know, "even-ness" for good luck?) and put a wrinkle in their plans... it'd be like a double whammy. Maybe just plan to attend as a guest, and then if you do have to cancel, it won't be that double whammy guilt situation; but if you do attend, then you can offer to help be that extra pair of hands that are always welcome & needed at a wedding!
We, as pregnant women, sometimes have this feeling of invincibility, of showing the world "hey, I'm not infirm, I'm just pregnant, I can still do anything as if I weren't! It won't slow me down!" but on the flip side, in reality, it can be limiting in some ways, and maybe we shouldn't push it?
I think my doctor cuts off travel at 32 weeks. I was in a wedding at 22 weeks with DD. I had to travel cross country and was miserable spending all day jammed into my dress, pictures, standing, dancing, etc. I could probably do the wedding part again at that far along, but I can't imagine doing it late in the pregnancy.
I always complain that It's hard to be pregnant and "pause" regular life things like weddings, travel, etc. I always feel like I'm "sitting out" on friend travel/get togethers for 9 months of pregnancy and than a year after. That's not to say you can't do those things, but it's never as much fun pregnant or with a nursing/newborn baby. I'm already planning a girls' trip 1 year after this kid is born. My luck my girl friends will be pregnant or just birthed a kid at that time. Child bearing age and alll....
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot sorry to hear about your daughter. And so sorry to hear about your friends child!
@chailife34 i was going to say the same as PP mentioned. When I was pregnant with DD in 2013 my doctor let me fly at 30 weeks, but said that is literally the last week he would feel comfortable with me flying. I know that during that trip we flew and we had to drive about 4 hours from Columbus to the other side of Cleveland and that was about all i could handle in the car. I was miserable in the car, and even at the wedding (just attending as a guest).
I would try to think back as to how you felt last time you were pregnant and would probably base my judgement on that. I know every pregnancy is different, but I think that could give you the best indication on how you think you would feel.
Oh wow, I missed so much yesterday! I won't really try to get completely caught up, but @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's arm and your friend- that sounds like a rough few days. I didn't know injuring a growth plate was a thing, but glad your daughter's growth plates weren't harmed! As a mom of a newly walking little guy who bonks his head/falls a lot, I can't imagine how tough it is to have a kid experience a true injury Sounds like she's recovering well, hope that continues.
Also, guys...did anyone else read about this? FOUR UNDER ONE.
Oh wow, I missed so much yesterday! I won't really try to get completely caught up, but @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's arm and your friend- that sounds like a rough few days. I didn't know injuring a growth plate was a thing, but glad your daughter's growth plates weren't harmed! As a mom of a newly walking little guy who bonks his head/falls a lot, I can't imagine how tough it is to have a kid experience a true injury Sounds like she's recovering well, hope that continues.
Also, guys...did anyone else read about this? FOUR UNDER ONE.
Holy moly! What a nightmare! First let's start with having sex 1 week after delivering.... I've never birthed a child but I won't even have sex with MH too many times in a weekend because I get sore hahaha.
Oh wow, I missed so much yesterday! I won't really try to get completely caught up, but @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's arm and your friend- that sounds like a rough few days. I didn't know injuring a growth plate was a thing, but glad your daughter's growth plates weren't harmed! As a mom of a newly walking little guy who bonks his head/falls a lot, I can't imagine how tough it is to have a kid experience a true injury Sounds like she's recovering well, hope that continues.
Also, guys...did anyone else read about this? FOUR UNDER ONE.
Holy moly! What a nightmare! First let's start with having sex 1 week after delivering.... I've never birthed a child but I won't even have sex with MH too many times in a weekend because I get sore hahaha.
Haha...yeah, that was definitely the most cringe-worthy part of the story for me. I'm guessing/hoping she didn't have stitches? As someone who did, I can safely say no one/nothing was coming near my hoo-ha for months afterwards. Also...maybe TMI, but she had to have been bleeding still, no?
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 I have a few triplet and quad mom friends and I always say I don't know how they do it. Twins was so hard. I hope they were gifted a night nannys and sleep coach services.
@kayemjay2 I have a few triplet and quad mom friends and I always say I don't know how they do it. Twins was so hard. I hope they were gifted a night nannys and sleep coach services.
@chickyclg- I can't even imagine. I always thought twins would be great (which they would be in many ways, not trying to detract from the awesomeness of multiples)...and then I babysat 3 month old twins. It was the hardest few hours of my life. Major, major props to you and other moms of multiples.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
Oh wow, I missed so much yesterday! I won't really try to get completely caught up, but @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot , I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's arm and your friend- that sounds like a rough few days. I didn't know injuring a growth plate was a thing, but glad your daughter's growth plates weren't harmed! As a mom of a newly walking little guy who bonks his head/falls a lot, I can't imagine how tough it is to have a kid experience a true injury Sounds like she's recovering well, hope that continues.
Also, guys...did anyone else read about this? FOUR UNDER ONE.
Holy moly! What a nightmare! First let's start with having sex 1 week after delivering.... I've never birthed a child but I won't even have sex with MH too many times in a weekend because I get sore hahaha.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot So sorry that your DD broke her arm. That must be awful as a momma! Also my heart goes out to your friend and her family. How crushing. I would have been a mess too if I were you.
@kayemjay2 Oh hell no is anything coming near my lady bits that close after. And most definitely still had to be bleeding quiet a bit at that point!
@chailife34. With DD I flew to Mexico for vacation at around 6 months pregnant and then I was in an out of town wedding 6 hours away. at around 7 1/2 months. The Mexico trip was great, but the wedding I would have much rather been a guest. There were several times throughout the day I had to sit and prop my feet up because I was swelling so bad (summer wedding).
Im in another wedding in April of this year, but its local and a small laid back wedding so we'll see how it goes. We're also taking a 12 hour car ride next month that I'm not exactly looking forward to but we may stop for the night half way to break it up.
@NurseMom can I ask you a question then! since you had a c-setion .... maybe TMI but I have to ask!! was the first poop after the baby still TERRIBLE with a C Section?
I had vaginal last time, but DD got stuck halfway out and had major complications due to that so this time around we're doing C-section. I seriously think I have PTSD from that first poop and am hoping it might be different with a C section lol!!
@BeachMommy2B I don't remember the first poop after C Section bad at all! I'd still recommend a stool softener for a little bit because a couple of weeks later I ended up extremely constipated (hormone changes maybe?)
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@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot - Yikes! Hope she's ok. Motherhood is a rough gig. Hugs!
My birthday is 8 days after my twins, before they were born I was on bedrest for months and after they were born it seemed like every minute was spent in the NICU. Our family kept telling me to go out and enjoy a well deserved night but it wasn't until the NICU nurses basically kicked us out did we listen. That night made me feel like myself again, take advantage of you have the opportunity
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Sorry to hear that! What happened? Hang in there!
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No one can say how you will feel. I was happy to get some fresh air until that old bitch came along to ruin it.
Random- we signed a contract to build a house tonight! We've been finalizing plans and upgrades and all for a few weeks and now it's official! Building starts as soon as permits go through and our estimated completion date is July 3rd. We might be crazy for moving then with newborn twins but we have got to get out of our teeny tiny house. My bday is the end of June as well as our anniversary and dd's birthday is July 9, so should be a fun summer...
@Jkp7749 congrats on the new house to be!! So exciting!
Best diaper pail IMO is Playtex Diaper Genie. No smell and easy to change every 2-4 days.
Hooded towels: we were gifted bigger ones and just wrap DD up in it, much longer lasting than sizing and more cozy for baby. The hoods are good for keeping the towel on them.
Lotions: I use coconut oil mostly because it's more natural and smells amazing, also tends to keep skin moisturizer longer. I even use on hair for DD dry scalp (I use on me too).
Random question: my best friends are getting married on April 1 and the bride has asked me to be a part of the wedding. They live about a thousand miles away, which makes travel options either a very long drive (15 hours)or flying. If we drive, we can visit my elderly aunt on the way, so that's my preference but it adds extra time far away. Am I crazy to think we can manage this trip so close to new baby? I'm due May 13 but was two and a half weeks late with DD. So I guess 1) should we go at all and 2) if we do, should we drive or fly? Any advice appreciated
I'm going to go eat my feelings and go to bed. Thanks again for all your well wishes and thoughts. You guys are awesome.
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Im so sorry to hear about your friend. That's absolutely heartbreaking.
#1 DD Aug 2014 @39weeks via CS
#2 Due May 2,2017 hopeful VBAC
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot Ugh! Two broken bones and an ER visit... sorry that happened to your daughter. Never fun for mom either. Also, sorry to hear about your friend's daughter. Cancer fricken sucks! I hope you ate well! Hang in there!
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
That could have been interesting...
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot seeing kids in pain is the worst. I hope your daughter has a quick recovery. And I'm sorry to hear about your friend's child. Cancer is awful.
@Jkp7749 congratulations on the new house!!!
@ShadeofGreen816 yes! All the "warnings" are driving me crazy too, but most of it is coming from my mom. And she keeps saying it to my DH. Fortunately he's not really phased by it, but I had to ask her during dinner last week if there was anything she actually liked about having babies. She's been much better about it since.
This made me laugh. You should create a PSA and broadcast this everywhere.
But the vaccinations would have been interesting, although I think at this point we have a pretty good dare I say it, dramaless group. Or maybe we just seem so much tamer than July... lol
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
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02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
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I wouldnt want to drive 15 hours that pregnant, plus fitting into a bridesmaid dress could
be uncomfortable/frustrating. I had to pass on a wedding with DD and while I was bummed the bride totally understood.
Remember its not just the uncomfortable or chance of early delivery, blood clotting is a real concern while pregnant if your sitting too long. I'm on vacation right now at 20 weeks and my
doctor told me to be extra cautious about making sure I'm getting up and waking during the flight!
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@Jkp7749, congrats on the new house!! So exciting!
That's a really good question, and I'm sorry you have to make such a big decision without knowing all of those "what-ifs" that pp have raised: flying vs driving, doc/insurance letting you travel, leg blood clots/getting enough exercise-movement during travel, will you even feel like being in a wedding? Not to mention the costs associated with being in a wedding, when that money could go toward the little one. It's a really tough call to make.
I'd personally kindly decline to be a direct part of the ceremony, because there are a lot of unknowns, but still definitely accept the invite to attend. I'd hate to have to cancel at the last minute (due to whatever factor) and know that I was canceling not only travel plans for attending the wedding but also being a part of the bridal party. I'd feel awful enough not being able to attend, but then to also maybe mess up their bridal party count (you know, "even-ness" for good luck?) and put a wrinkle in their plans... it'd be like a double whammy. Maybe just plan to attend as a guest, and then if you do have to cancel, it won't be that double whammy guilt situation; but if you do attend, then you can offer to help be that extra pair of hands that are always welcome & needed at a wedding!
We, as pregnant women, sometimes have this feeling of invincibility, of showing the world "hey, I'm not infirm, I'm just pregnant, I can still do anything as if I weren't! It won't slow me down!" but on the flip side, in reality, it can be limiting in some ways, and maybe we shouldn't push it?
I always complain that It's hard to be pregnant and "pause" regular life things like weddings, travel, etc. I always feel like I'm "sitting out" on friend travel/get togethers for 9 months of pregnancy and than a year after. That's not to say you can't do those things, but it's never as much fun pregnant or with a nursing/newborn baby. I'm already planning a girls' trip 1 year after this kid is born. My luck my girl friends will be pregnant or just birthed a kid at that time. Child bearing age and alll....
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@chailife34 i was going to say the same as PP mentioned. When I was pregnant with DD in 2013 my doctor let me fly at 30 weeks, but said that is literally the last week he would feel comfortable with me flying. I know that during that trip we flew and we had to drive about 4 hours from Columbus to the other side of Cleveland and that was about all i could handle in the car. I was miserable in the car, and even at the wedding (just attending as a guest).
I would try to think back as to how you felt last time you were pregnant and would probably base my judgement on that. I know every pregnancy is different, but I think that could give you the best indication on how you think you would feel.
Also, guys...did anyone else read about this? FOUR UNDER ONE.
https://www.fitpregnancy.com/parenting/real-mom-stories/woman-gives-birth-to-4-babies-in-11-months
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@kayemjay2 Oh hell no is anything coming near my lady bits that close after. And most definitely still had to be bleeding quiet a bit at that point!
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Im in another wedding in April of this year, but its local and a small laid back wedding so we'll see how it goes. We're also taking a 12 hour car ride next month that I'm not exactly looking forward to but we may stop for the night half way to break it up.
I had vaginal last time, but DD got stuck halfway out and had major complications due to that so this time around we're doing C-section. I seriously think I have PTSD from that first poop and am hoping it might be different with a C section lol!!
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks