+1 for looking forward to not being pregnant. Being pregnant with two has been a test for sure. Twin newborns is frightening, but having access to a full range of myself and not being in constant pain sounds more doable.
+1 to looking forward to not being pregnant! Under no illusions that it will be great craic with a newborn either but the past few weeks have been tough going & im starting to get really uncomfortable & am so over being in work & monitoring every bite i put in my mouth. Although im so nervous about whats to come aswell.
I'm going to agree with @Gretchypoo - I'm feeling some discomfort (mainly not being able to sleep) but have otherwise settled into this whole being pregnant thing. The idea of 'baby' is still abstract to me somehow and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my sh*t in the early stages. I know it's not a great analogy, but when we brought home our first dog, I cried every day for weeks. She was a bite-y puppy and I took so many things personally. It got to the point where DH threatened to take her back to the shelter if I didn't figure it out. I just remember feeling helpless and like I didn't know anything I was supposed to be doing. And, that was with an animal who could get around by themselves, knew how to eat without my participation (except scooping food into a bowl) and didn't have to have it's wobbly head supported all the time. What the heck am I going to do with a baby?!?
+1 to missing booze. Like @krob I've had a few glasses of wine this pregnancy (like 3 or 4?) but I am SO LOOKING FORWARD to a real one! In public. Without hiding it from the judging eyes of the public! When I get out of the hospital I've told H I want a bloody mary and sushi immediately.
+1 to you @MLRocha I was okay with my pup when he got here but I'm terrified of keeping a newborn alive. I know I'll be okay-- a lot of people a lot stupider than me have succeeded.
+1 to being sick of monitoring all my damn food. I have actual alarms set to tell me when to eat and I'm freaking sick of it. I want french toast. Or a piece of chocolate. And sushi. And 3 bloody marys.
+1 to you @MLRocha I was okay with my pup when he got here but I'm terrified of keeping a newborn alive. I know I'll be okay-- a lot of people a lot stupider than me have succeeded.
Glad I'm not alone in feeling this way! Whenever my nerves spike about taking care of the baby I remind myself that plenty of dimwits and spastic twits have somehow succeeded. Gives me hope.
I think that for almost everyone here, who is regularly on here contributing, they will be just great at parenting. I think all of us STMS will say that it can be tiring, and overwhelming (especially in the beginning), but the fact that you are sooo excited about your baby, and you come on here everyday to talk about it with other people, that already shows some commitment. It can be scary, but seeing everyone ask questions and have concerns about what's to come just shows that you are already working on being the best mom you can be!!
I am a little panicky at the thought of adding a newborn back into the picture, after a few years here of more independent kids. I feel like I honestly don't remember a lot about babies! I just talked to my sister in law who had her third on Dec 4, and she says he will only sleep if he is being held. That's not something I can remember, but sounds impossible right now. We are on the go so much and have kid activities that I can't imagine schlepping a newborn to. Once a week dance night, girl scouts and cub scouts, baseball season is coming, where last year we had two practices and a game every week for two of them, and one practice and one game for the third. It was insane.
I am trying not to think about it too much and trying to remember that we have a lot of family and friends ready to help when they can. Plus with kids being older, they can do actual helpful baby things or things around the house.
Other than the pain, the last few weeks had been easier, and I was thinking how much easier in than out.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@Gretchypoo I'm totally getting sushi delivered to the hospital. I've already identified the restaurant that will do it and everything. My birth class instructor says she brings in a small champagne for all her babies but I'm too nervous to try that.
I'm actually expecting to need to bring in all my meals since I don't think big city hospitals do vegetarian/pescatarian.
+1 to you @MLRocha I was okay with my pup when he got here but I'm terrified of keeping a newborn alive. I know I'll be okay-- a lot of people a lot stupider than me have succeeded.
Glad I'm not alone in feeling this way! Whenever my nerves spike about taking care of the baby I remind myself that plenty of dimwits and spastic twits have somehow succeeded. Gives me hope.
This thought process is what got me through my freak out this weekend. I couldn't figure out the car seat buttons and it spiraled into me freaking out about everything and not feeling ready!
Also thank you @kswiger06 for that comforting post!
@krob I had my first half glass of wine last week. I was at dinner at my sister's house, and she's 22 weeks pregnant. She was having half a glass, so I figured if she was, I could too. And she's super health-conscious and always wanting to do what's best for the baby, so her having wine reassured me that a little bit is indeed fine, especially at this point in pregnancy. I feel like the zero-tolerance for alcohol during pregnancy in our culture is a little extreme - I would not have more than half a glass at a time (and even so would not do it too regularly), and I thoroughly believe that such small amounts won't cause any harm.
+1 to sometimes being over being pregnant - mainly for me because of the GD and having to constantly monitor what I eat, but also because it's snowboarding and winter beer season, and I cannot participate in either. H and BIL both got passes to our favorite resort, and they are snowboarding tomorrow, and I am super bummed I can't go. I am hoping for a late snow season so I can get a day or two in after the baby comes, assuming my recovery goes smoothly.
+1 to loving when baby kicks, but also finding it annoying sometimes. Especially when I wake up to pee in the middle of the night, and he decides it's a good time to practice his kicks when I lie back down, and it keeps me up for another half hour. Or when he kicks me in the ribs over and over.
@Xstatic3333 oh my god sushi at the hospital is a genius idea. I'm also going to make someone pick me up Thai at the amazingly legit Thai place near the hospital. It will be someone's visitation entrance requirement. It is decided. Also, +1 to the champagne plan. I'm sure I've told you about the gorgeous sour beer I've been hanging onto for hospital drinking purposes.
Yall know what's been extra sad about booze for me? I am not shy about being perfectly delighted to have my one beer a week, but more often than not, I can't finish it because it gives me heartburn. Pregnancy is so cruel.
I am glad I am not the only one craving alcohol! I can't wait! I just need to decide what I want first- IPA beer, big glass of wine or a moscow mule. I am salivating just thinking about it. I have also had about a 1/2 glass of wine occasionally for about the past month. I would think total, it's been 2 glasses or so. Plus, drinking so much water all the time, I figured it gets diluted once it's in there
I honestly have enjoyed being pregnant (so far) and think i will miss it. Other than heartburn, I really haven't had any other issues, which probably is contributing to that. I am super anxious to meet her, but having 9 nieces and nephews, I have a slight idea of the sh*tshow that is about to rain down on me in those first 6 weeks or so.
I'm feeling like I'm pretty good at being pregnant, and not sure how I'll be with a newborn - so I'm trying to enjoy this time as much as I can, and am fully prepared to be a tired mess once the baby is actually here. I have also been having a small glass of wine every other week or so (with my doctors blessing) and I don't feel bad about it at all. And also I'm glad I'm not the only one with the champagne idea - I already have a bottle picked out for my hospital bag.
I am a little panicky at the thought of adding a newborn back into the picture, after a few years here of more independent kids. I feel like I honestly don't remember a lot about babies! I just talked to my sister in law who had her third on Dec 4, and she says he will only sleep if he is being held. That's not something I can remember, but sounds impossible right now. We are on the go so much and have kid activities that I can't imagine schlepping a newborn to. Once a week dance night, girl scouts and cub scouts, baseball season is coming, where last year we had two practices and a game every week for two of them, and one practice and one game for the third. It was insane.
I am trying not to think about it too much and trying to remember that we have a lot of family and friends ready to help when they can. Plus with kids being older, they can do actual helpful baby things or things around the house.
Other than the pain, the last few weeks had been easier, and I was thinking how much easier in than out.
Yeah, I have had a couple oh crap moments. Like recently, I realized that because of my husbands work schedule, I drive our kids to school (ours are older too 7 and 10) in the mornings. I was dropping them off one day and thought holy cow I'm going to have to get up earlier (if I'm even sleeping) to feed the baby and still get my kids ready, then load a newborn up into the car in this weather just to take the kids to school. And it's not like them riding the bus would be easier because the bus stops several houses down and doesn't pick them up right here. And they would have to cross the street, so I'd still be going out there to walk them down to the stop. PLUS all the afternoon activities. My husband was planning on putting the kids in swimming lessons in january, but it will run over to February and I was like I don't know if I can juggle everything with a neworn. It's not taking care of the baby that's getting me, it's all the stuff we do that will now have to include a very demanding baby too. I have a feeling we will be running late all the time to everything. I keep telling myself that someone out there has already gone through it, so I'll figure it out.
Add me to the alcohol cravings. I got my hair cut this weekend and whatever shampoo they used smelled like a mojito. The whole time I was sitting there thinking now all I want is a good stiff drink. I am already planning on buying some wine to have at the house to be prepared. I have had a sip here or there but nothing more then that. DH gives me the side eye otherwise despite me thinking it would be just fine by this point. Oh well what is a few more weeks.
@Gretchypoo I'm totally getting sushi delivered to the hospital. I've already identified the restaurant that will do it and everything. My birth class instructor says she brings in a small champagne for all her babies but I'm too nervous to try that.
I'm actually expecting to need to bring in all my meals since I don't think big city hospitals do vegetarian/pescatarian.
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Love the delivery idea! I know our local hospital has some good veggie/pesci options. You might just call up and ask to see a menu. They'd probably mail it to you.
@Xstatic3333 I wonder if we can ask about menu options at the hospital tour? I am going to have to figure out if I will be able to eat any of their food with my allergies, or if someone is going to be on delivery duty....
Although, I have already requested a giant slice of chocolate cake (currently gives me all the heartburn) and a cold sub for my post delivery meal.
I will definitely ask @Gretchypoo and @WinchesterGirl! I just assumed it was a no based on my time hanging out with others at hospitals. Gross looking turkey sandwiches just kind of appear out of nowhere. Good idea!
What's your hospital beer @NiceyMeany? My first is a double IPA from a good local brewery (Grey Sail Captain's Daughter) that is amazing but not especially rare. I'm saving my limited editions until I'm pretty confident in my ability to drink them without falling asleep.
@krob I had my first half glass of wine last week. I was at dinner at my sister's house, and she's 22 weeks pregnant. She was having half a glass, so I figured if she was, I could too. And she's super health-conscious and always wanting to do what's best for the baby, so her having wine reassured me that a little bit is indeed fine, especially at this point in pregnancy. I feel like the zero-tolerance for alcohol during pregnancy in our culture is a little extreme - I would not have more than half a glass at a time (and even so would not do it too regularly), and I thoroughly believe that such small amounts won't cause any harm.
+1 to sometimes being over being pregnant - mainly for me because of the GD and having to constantly monitor what I eat, but also because it's snowboarding and winter beer season, and I cannot participate in either. H and BIL both got passes to our favorite resort, and they are snowboarding tomorrow, and I am super bummed I can't go. I am hoping for a late snow season so I can get a day or two in after the baby comes, assuming my recovery goes smoothly.
+1 to loving when baby kicks, but also finding it annoying sometimes. Especially when I wake up to pee in the middle of the night, and he decides it's a good time to practice his kicks when I lie back down, and it keeps me up for another half hour. Or when he kicks me in the ribs over and over.
So that!!! Being pregnant means I am right now missing out on skiing. I bought my season pass still because I live in Colorado and we have a ski resort that stay open until June most years. So when I have my baby, my parents already said they will take care of me baby so I can go ski, I love my parents. So I am hoping I can get out and ski by March and will get some good spring skiing in.
Rather than sushi, for me its a blood drippingly rare steak! That will definitely be on my first things i want to eat & alcohol wise either a glass of new zealand sauvignon blanc or champagne. My mouth is watering at the thought!
@WinchesterGirl - my OB gave me a packet that had my hospital preregistration form in it, as well as the maternity rooms food menu, the hospital visiting hours, rooming in and skin to skin info. I would def think they could share that with you on the tour!
@Xstatic3333 I've had a 2014 Bon-Chien sitting in my stash since my birthday LAST year. I can't wait to tear into that baby.
You did tell me about that! I remember now. NOM.
I'm with you skiing ladies too. I don't ski, but I felt the same way about missing the dive season. I'm so glad I have my H's support to get back into it next year!
Rather than sushi, for me its a blood drippingly rare steak! That will definitely be on my first things i want to eat & alcohol wise either a glass of new zealand sauvignon blanc or champagne. My mouth is watering at the thought!
Oh man, I thought everything you ate was little pieces of heaven until I read this. I like medium well, and can't stand the thought of mushy, blood oozing steak. Lol
There's so many of you!! Lol I might try a bite some day, just for you ladies, but it will take a lot for me to get it in my mouth, chew, and swallow. I do love the fat on the edges though, I'm guilty of snagging some off my husbands plate after he cuts it off lol
@Janefelicity Oh, you are so right! A fantastic, fat, rare steak has just moved up my list! @kswiger06 You must try it at least once. close your eyes if you have to!
I feel like we could almost have a whole thread of our post-delivery food and drink cravings.
I do agree that there's so much to look forward to once the baby is here! The beginning was really hard. Mostly physically. I was in soooooooooo much pain from the stitches and the delivery. Once I healed up weeks later, I wasn't so miserable even with the sleep deprivation.
+1 to pretty much everything everyone said. I actually had a medium rare steak not too long ago because I'm a terrible human being and it was so delish. I could also really go for a crown and dr. Pepper. But -1 on the sushi, because I'm an uncultured swine.
I'm the opposite. I'm uncomfortable but I'm okay. I am worried about a crying clingy baby being attached to me constantly. As an introvert, I NEED alone time. H will help but babies can SMELL their mom's milk if it is in the house! I feel like I won't get alone time for 18 years. That makes me panic a little.
You will! DD is 4 and currently goes to sleep at 7:30ish because she recently gave up naps. DH and I get a couple of hours by ourselves and it's really nice. I AM nervous about giving up that time because I know that right away newborns are hard & we have gotten used to having just "our" time again. I promise you though, it really does get better. Plus the trade off is way worth it. It's hard to explain how amazing having kids is, but they really are a lot of fun in ways that I never knew or thought of
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
@kswiger06 usually i would go rare to medium rare but since not being allowed that has pushed me to wanting the first one post pregnancy to be still mooing! Lol
Im not sure about rare, but I think medium or even medium rare is fine! Any bacteria on the steak would be on the surface and the temp it takes to brown the outside will kill it. Just make sure your burgers are cooked well!!
I'm the opposite. I'm uncomfortable but I'm okay. I am worried about a crying clingy baby being attached to me constantly. As an introvert, I NEED alone time. H will help but babies can SMELL their mom's milk if it is in the house! I feel like I won't get alone time for 18 years. That makes me panic a little.
You will! DD is 4 and currently goes to sleep at 7:30ish because she recently gave up naps. DH and I get a couple of hours by ourselves and it's really nice. I AM nervous about giving up that time because I know that right away newborns are hard & we have gotten used to having just "our" time again. I promise you though, it really does get better. Plus the trade off is way worth it. It's hard to explain how amazing having kids is, but they really are a lot of fun in ways that I never knew or thought of
This. My DD is 3 and after she goes to bed we get a few hours to just watch tv and spend time together. It is amazing and I'm sad thinking about how once this baby is born we will lose it for a while.
@kswiger06 and @Partyof6? +1 to thinking about how schlepping a newborn to all my son's activities is going to be tough! I only have 1 living older child, but it's already a challenge getting out the door on time. He's got preschool drop off & pick up M-F, private speech therapy, swim lessons, hockey, and library storytime. He's been asking to play soccer again too. Without all this stuff, he has too much energy & bounces off the walls. I'm hoping the new baby isn't as high maintenance as his big brother! He was the baby that never slept unless held and nursed every 45 min to 1.5 hours for months. He didn't sleep through the night for well over a year, and only since dropping his last nap at 3 and finally going to bed at a normal kid time, have I had any time with my husband at night. But he's our world and everything we ever wanted. Having a child has brought more joy and fulfillment to life than I could have ever imagined (but let's be real- yes he drives us crazy sometimes too). I've got to believe that adding a sibling will be hard, but so worth it, right?
PS-been meaning to buy some cute hats, because when the heck will I have time for a shower?
Rather than sushi, for me its a blood drippingly rare steak! That will definitely be on my first things i want to eat & alcohol wise either a glass of new zealand sauvignon blanc or champagne. My mouth is watering at the thought!
ewwwwww. I like my steak the consistency of shoe leather, thank you. With a huge blob of garlicky herb butter on top.
I have been eating medium rare steaks this whole time because that is the only way to eat steaks. If you cooked it any more you have now ruined the steak.
DH won't usually allow me to grill anything... maybe because I once set a grill on fire (like, flames shooting out through the closed lid)... He insists on cooking my steaks all the way through. I bought two filets yesterday and am going to cook them myself on the cast iron skillet - to my desired wellness level. Because, eating a steak cooked to well done is super sad.
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+1 to you @MLRocha I was okay with my pup when he got here but I'm terrified of keeping a newborn alive. I know I'll be okay-- a lot of people a lot stupider than me have succeeded.
+1 to being sick of monitoring all my damn food. I have actual alarms set to tell me when to eat and I'm freaking sick of it. I want french toast. Or a piece of chocolate. And sushi. And 3 bloody marys.
I am trying not to think about it too much and trying to remember that we have a lot of family and friends ready to help when they can. Plus with kids being older, they can do actual helpful baby things or things around the house.
Other than the pain, the last few weeks had been easier, and I was thinking how much easier in than out.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
I'm actually expecting to need to bring in all my meals since I don't think big city hospitals do vegetarian/pescatarian.
Also thank you @kswiger06 for that comforting post!
+1 to sometimes being over being pregnant - mainly for me because of the GD and having to constantly monitor what I eat, but also because it's snowboarding and winter beer season, and I cannot participate in either. H and BIL both got passes to our favorite resort, and they are snowboarding tomorrow, and I am super bummed I can't go. I am hoping for a late snow season so I can get a day or two in after the baby comes, assuming my recovery goes smoothly.
+1 to loving when baby kicks, but also finding it annoying sometimes. Especially when I wake up to pee in the middle of the night, and he decides it's a good time to practice his kicks when I lie back down, and it keeps me up for another half hour. Or when he kicks me in the ribs over and over.
Yall know what's been extra sad about booze for me? I am not shy about being perfectly delighted to have my one beer a week, but more often than not, I can't finish it because it gives me heartburn. Pregnancy is so cruel.
I am glad I am not the only one craving alcohol! I can't wait! I just need to decide what I want first- IPA beer, big glass of wine or a moscow mule. I am salivating just thinking about it. I have also had about a 1/2 glass of wine occasionally for about the past month. I would think total, it's been 2 glasses or so. Plus, drinking so much water all the time, I figured it gets diluted once it's in there
I honestly have enjoyed being pregnant (so far) and think i will miss it. Other than heartburn, I really haven't had any other issues, which probably is contributing to that. I am super anxious to meet her, but having 9 nieces and nephews, I have a slight idea of the sh*tshow that is about to rain down on me in those first 6 weeks or so.
Although, I have already requested a giant slice of chocolate cake (currently gives me all the heartburn) and a cold sub for my post delivery meal.
What's your hospital beer @NiceyMeany? My first is a double IPA from a good local brewery (Grey Sail Captain's Daughter) that is amazing but not especially rare. I'm saving my limited editions until I'm pretty confident in my ability to drink them without falling asleep.
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
I'm with you skiing ladies too. I don't ski, but I felt the same way about missing the dive season. I'm so glad I have my H's support to get back into it next year!
I feel like we could almost have a whole thread of our post-delivery food and drink cravings.
But -1 on the sushi, because I'm an uncultured swine.
i also would love a dark rum & coke!
+1 to thinking about how schlepping a newborn to all my son's activities is going to be tough!
I only have 1 living older child, but it's already a challenge getting out the door on time. He's got preschool drop off & pick up M-F, private speech therapy, swim lessons, hockey, and library storytime. He's been asking to play soccer again too. Without all this stuff, he has too much energy & bounces off the walls.
I'm hoping the new baby isn't as high maintenance as his big brother! He was the baby that never slept unless held and nursed every 45 min to 1.5 hours for months. He didn't sleep through the night for well over a year, and only since dropping his last nap at 3 and finally going to bed at a normal kid time, have I had any time with my husband at night.
But he's our world and everything we ever wanted. Having a child has brought more joy and fulfillment to life than I could have ever imagined (but let's be real- yes he drives us crazy sometimes too). I've got to believe that adding a sibling will be hard, but so worth it, right?
PS-been meaning to buy some cute hats, because when the heck will I have time for a shower?
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09