+1 to it being a lot harder this time around. I weigh what I weighed when I delivered DD. Plus dealing with a toddler when I just want to sleep is exhausting
Whyyyyy is it so much harder the next time though? I'm miserable already. Can't sleep well. Giant in size. Achy. I swear this started at like week 33 last time. It's so crazy!!!
@Starfish113 it starts earlier each time too the second time I was like oh these symptoms are definitely earlier than before. This time I was like omg these symptoms. My husband said- yeah but you had those wth both the other kids. I was like yeah at 32-35 weeks. I'm 21 weeks! He was like oh yeah, sorry. That sucks. The midwife just told me you'd think Mother Nature would make it easier because your body has done it before- but nope. It just gets harder. Also I will add as a heads up- you know those contractions you get after you have the baby(your uterus shrinking back down) while nursing? So so so much worse the second time and I've heard they also get worse each time. The first time they hurt but I managed. The second time I had to take pain medication just for them the first couple of days because they hurt so much.
@lct2008 the going rate in my area (non-Boston New England, so probably a medium COL) is $600-$1000. We are very lucky and ours is a friend who is not charging us, though we will get her a substantial TY gift. From everything I've heard they're worth every penny if you can swing it.
@lct2008 I'm in Missouri but our doula rates ate between $400-1500. We'll probably go with our Bradley instructor since she is also an LC and we know her. She also comes recomended by my midwives. She is $500.
The ladies at the upper end ate licensed counselors and do lots of post partum work with you so you get what you pay for.
@Starfish113 I hate being all doom or bearer of bad news. But I wish someone had told me those cramps after would be worse so that I could prepare myself. I was definitely taken by surprise and said something and my mom and midwive were both- oh yeah that's normal they get worse every time. Well thanks for the heads up guys
thanks ladies. I would say they live in a medium col and she was $750, so I guess it's not as crazy as I thought. For some reason I just had it in my head that they were like 2-500 at most. Her postpartum care she offers though also seemed crazy to me at $25 an hour to do "light housework, laundry, cooking, childcare" like I feel like I could higher a teenager to do a couple of those things or another mom looking to help out and make some money for wayyy less than that. Maybe im just really cheap. Haha.
@lct2008 I could see the appeal of the doula doing light housework in the sense that I might feel more comfortable sitting in my room with my boob out, begging baby to latch while baby wails, if it's a doula in the next room unloading the dishwasher instead of a local teenager who might go home and tell her mom I'm torturing my baby...
Of course, I'm just going to make my husband do all the "light housework, laundry, cooking", so I'm not planning on hiring anyone for that specifically... but he has a really good parental leave worked out.
Got my Tdap yesterday and my arm is killing me!!!! Grrrr!
Yes! That shit was brutal.
With DS, I was able to get a doula for free because it was something the hospital I delivered him at offered. She was wonderful in a lot of ways, but I wasn't crazy about the experience overall. With DD had she not been breech and I was able to attempt a VBAC, I knew someone personally who was going to do it for free. I was very lucky to have had those options available to me because I could never afford anything in the typical price range it would normally cost to get one.
@lct2008, I agree with each subsequent pregnancy, everything gets more painful, difficult, etc. that's the truth right there and not something people think to warn others about. I guess because it would be scary to have to think about!
Oh yeah, so my sister is getting married in exactly one year so the excitement is building and she and all the bridesmaids are trying to figure out when the best time would be for everyone to meet up and go shopping for dresses. They wanted to know if I would be up for going on February 18th or 19th because I "won't be pregnant anymore." Hah. Haha. HAHAHA are they serious? I will be lucky to get out of the hospital the week prior to that (assuming everything is okay and goes smoothly.) I just told them not to plan it around me and my sis and I can just go together another time.
@Jab3 that's hilarious and ridiculous. Um, no, guys. Don't count on me for February dress shopping. *eyeroll*
Glad to hear that I'm not the only one who's been taken by surprise by how much harder this second pregnancy is. I'm gaining way more weight. Everything hurts. I'm exhausted and beaten down and huge and basically miserable. I'm only 26 weeks. This is f-ing ridiculous! But misery loves company so I'm glad you other STMs are suffering extra along with me. Ha!
The post-partum cramps get worse?? I have not heard this anywhere. Greaaaaat. That's gonna suck so hard.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Oh, right... kids and family and cuddly screaming poopy newborns. Ugh. At least I'm not the only one who is clearly a glutton for punishment.
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Did you hear about the Sabra hummus recall? Listeria. Guess who just ate a big tub of it over the last week?
Things like this make me wonder why bad things happen to good people.
The recall is voluntary so I'm sure it was like a tiny isolated occurrence and none of us really have anything to worry about... I of course Googled for symptoms and learned it can have a really long incubation period.
ETA: I looked into it more and bacteria was found in the plant but has NOT been found in any of the products tested.
+1 to STM who is gaining all the weight, feeling huge, achey and exhausted. Dear god I have no idea what I'm gonna look/feel like in 10 weeks. I do love being pregnant and it's such a special and short time, but there really is nothing like that first pregnancy. Simply being able to nap on the couch whenever I wanted was amazing...
@Jab3 omg how old are these girls? Lol! My eyes almost rolled out of my head when I read that. Geez.
My sis will be turning 30 soon and 2 of our cousins are early 30s. Her 3 friends that are in it are all 30. The other 2 cousins are in their late 20s and are the only ones who each have a kid. They are also the only ones not to respond to that message that was sent out!
@FreshBakedBrownies, I really don't know what they're thinking. I know most of them don't really know about what happens after you have a baby, but a lot of FTM on here haven't gone through it yet themselves either and would still know that's a crazy suggestion! And yeah almost all of them know people who have gone through birth/recovery so I guess it must be one of those things where you really don't get it until you've gone through it yourself or are about to go through it...
So I just started my new job role today in order to avoid lay off....and I moved from first shift (7am-3:30pm) to second shift (3pm-11:30pm). Totally messing me up. I was smooth sailing until about 9:30 when I would normally be snoring at home....and I just feel like a zombie right now. Granted I usually only sleep 2-3 hours before getting up to pee and don't sleep through the night anymore...sometimes I get up to eat or clean at like 2 am.....but man I just want my bed. And to top it off....it is snowing out right now. YUCK!
So I know we tabled this a while ago, but now that we are all getting to third tri, when are we thinking a FB group would be cool? I feel like there are enough of us that regularly post and "know" each other to do it, but I'm cool with waiting longer too.
So I know we tabled this a while ago, but now that we are all getting to third tri, when are we thinking a FB group would be cool? I feel like there are enough of us that regularly post and "know" each other to do it, but I'm cool with waiting longer too.
Is it just me or is anyone else wondering how in the world they are going to get any freakin bigger?? I feel like a house. And just within the last week have gotten more intense kicks up in my ribs. Like chill out kid, we got a while to go! Haha
Yes, I wasn't this uncomfortable with my first. I basically feel like an overweight 80 year old.
Speaking of fb-why in the world does April and may already have a fb page?! Seems crazy early to me.
As as for a fb page for our board personally I'd join now, but I'm also fine with waiting a couple more months- like right at the new year. Will there be some sort of system to make sure people are regular-ish contributors here and not just random creepy people?
Speaking of fb-why in the world does April and may already have a fb page?! Seems crazy early to me.
As as for a fb page for our board personally I'd join now, but I'm also fine with waiting a couple more months- like right at the new year. Will there be some sort of system to make sure people are regular-ish contributors here and not just random creepy people?
So we would make a group and make it "secret" so basically non searchable. One person would have to friend people to invite them and then unfriend. Once we have a good amount in there, we can discuss as a group anyone we aren't certain about. Or we could make it searchable and have the link in the private group on here?
+1 to feeling 100 years old. My neck, my back, my hips, ugh! Also a few people came up to me all excited at church yesterday being all "oooh how much longer!?!" When I answered 10 weeks, they went all "oh. " apparently I looked like I'm about to pop any moment to them.
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Also I will add as a heads up- you know those contractions you get after you have the baby(your uterus shrinking back down) while nursing? So so so much worse the second time and I've heard they also get worse each time. The first time they hurt but I managed. The second time I had to take pain medication just for them the first couple of days because they hurt so much.
The ladies at the upper end ate licensed counselors and do lots of post partum work with you so you get what you pay for.
thanks ladies. I would say they live in a medium col and she was $750, so I guess it's not as crazy as I thought. For some reason I just had it in my head that they were like 2-500 at most.
Her postpartum care she offers though also seemed crazy to me at $25 an hour to do "light housework, laundry, cooking, childcare" like I feel like I could higher a teenager to do a couple of those things or another mom looking to help out and make some money for wayyy less than that.
Maybe im just really cheap. Haha.
Of course, I'm just going to make my husband do all the "light housework, laundry, cooking", so I'm not planning on hiring anyone for that specifically... but he has a really good parental leave worked out.
With DS, I was able to get a doula for free because it was something the hospital I delivered him at offered. She was wonderful in a lot of ways, but I wasn't crazy about the experience overall. With DD had she not been breech and I was able to attempt a VBAC, I knew someone personally who was going to do it for free. I was very lucky to have had those options available to me because I could never afford anything in the typical price range it would normally cost to get one.
@lct2008, I agree with each subsequent pregnancy, everything gets more painful, difficult, etc. that's the truth right there and not something people think to warn others about. I guess because it would be scary to have to think about!
Glad to hear that I'm not the only one who's been taken by surprise by how much harder this second pregnancy is. I'm gaining way more weight. Everything hurts. I'm exhausted and beaten down and huge and basically miserable. I'm only 26 weeks. This is f-ing ridiculous! But misery loves company so I'm glad you other STMs are suffering extra along with me. Ha!
The post-partum cramps get worse?? I have not heard this anywhere. Greaaaaat. That's gonna suck so hard.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Oh, right... kids and family and cuddly screaming poopy newborns. Ugh. At least I'm not the only one who is clearly a glutton for punishment.
The recall is voluntary so I'm sure it was like a tiny isolated occurrence and none of us really have anything to worry about... I of course Googled for symptoms and learned it can have a really long incubation period.
ETA: I looked into it more and bacteria was found in the plant but has NOT been found in any of the products tested.
@FreshBakedBrownies, I really don't know what they're thinking. I know most of them don't really know about what happens after you have a baby, but a lot of FTM on here haven't gone through it yet themselves either and would still know that's a crazy suggestion! And yeah almost all of them know people who have gone through birth/recovery so I guess it must be one of those things where you really don't get it until you've gone through it yourself or are about to go through it...
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TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
I feel like there are enough of us that regularly post and "know" each other to do it, but I'm cool with waiting longer too.
@Spicyweiner I'm good with FB or staying here.
As as for a fb page for our board personally I'd join now, but I'm also fine with waiting a couple more months- like right at the new year. Will there be some sort of system to make sure people are regular-ish contributors here and not just random creepy people?
@lct2008 I saw that the other day and was just like "Why would you do that? You don't know anyone!" lol
I'm good with whenever for fb group.
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One person would have to friend people to invite them and then unfriend. Once we have a good amount in there, we can discuss as a group anyone we aren't certain about.
Or we could make it searchable and have the link in the private group on here?
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