@PerraSucia I'm so happy you all got to go home!!! I'm sorry your uncomfortable but it's great to be home with your family!! for engorgement troubles, (cause yes, those boobs look massive lol) could you try pumping out just enough to help get some of the milk out and allow your boobs to be a bit "softer" for baby Felix? I'm guessing even if you pump to get some out, you'll still have plenty to meet his current needs.
@PerraSucia Welcome home! Your boobs look fantastic in that picture, at least! I hope you get some comfort soon and they settle down/ your incision heals.
@poetryandoceans "pro tip" made me see red. Def put arsenic in his coffee this morning.
@Xstatic3333 I'm in that place too! And it is hard to get up. So I lay there thinking "how badly do I really need to pee? Can i nap another hour?"
Sometimes breastfeeding is a beautiful bonding experience. At the moment, however, my baby keeps latching, then unlatching, then crying because she isn't latched, then knocking off the nipple shield so milk goes everywhere. Rinse and repeat until sanity is completely gone.
@kswiger06 I manually pumped almost 2oz before he would latch but he still keeps being pissed I'm not a bottle.
He also was circ'd today which is totally an H thing because it makes me squimish and I totally regret it. He's clearly in pain from it which isn't helping our situation at all
Aw, that sounds rough today @PerraSucia. Hopefully he'll readjust and take to the boob, that sucks
Our son was turning 2 before he got the tip snipped, and I have no clue what to expect for a newborn.... hopefully it heals up quickly and your little man can be a happy camper!!
@homemake Thanks for the gif assist! I was on mobile last night, and I don't have the giffing down on that platform...
@krob@Patience7150@Gretchypoo Exactly, the "pro-tip" is what set me off. We're both first time parents, and I have a shit ton of babysitting experience. He's done several peds rotations, so is good with kids, but never had to take care of one long term. If anything, I'm more "pro". Not that I would EVER say that. Totally set me off because, yes, he has taken care of most diaper changes in the scant 5 days this little man has been around. Mainly because I've been physically recovering from a heinous birth and wasn't supposed to stand up for too long.
But UPDATE: He came in about 40 minutes later and apologized, clearly and directly, with no justification. He knew he'd said something stupid and didn't mean it. He finds Theo's crying to be really emotionally draining when he's sleep deprived, and he reacted poorly and he knows that's the exact wrong thing to do. So he'll live. For now. The whole thing gave me a bit of sympathy for him, long term. Reminded me that first time dads have a hard time, too. They've never done this before, and they don't have the magic calm down juice strapped to their chests.
Anyway. The whole thing has inspired me to rewatch Chicago. It's on Netflix. And I know what I am doing today....
Sounds like it might be time to start a breastfeeding support discussion. I'll get that going. We can share tips, tricks, cry together over our cracked and aching nips...
@Gretchypoo I'm going to hope there won't be a next time, but until this kiddo develops some kind of sleep pattern, I don't see us getting *more* rested. So the communication strategies we learned in couples counselling will have to get us through. I don't think "I feel" statements are supposed to be followed by "like killing you in your sleep"... but you have to speak your truth...
@poetryandoceans I meant "next time he gets frustrated" but I will admit that I threaten to murder my husband abt once a week so I'm still learning too... ;-)
@poetryandoceans btw i don't think poorly of your husband because of his reaction. sleep deprivation is real. and things are often said. sort of also like moving is real. the ways in which my husband and i have acted with each other when we have had to move can be considered embarrassing for sure.
i was just super amused at pro-tip, because i feel like anytime anything starts with pro-tip it's not actually meant to be helpful. LOL
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
Sounds like it might be time to start a breastfeeding support discussion. I'll get that going. We can share tips, tricks, cry together over our cracked and aching nips...
Thanks for remembering us EP girls over there. In the past, I know I thought my nips were getting sucked right off my boobs from the pump and we still go through plenty of tough times. For me I struggled with keeping on a 3 hour pump schedule for almost a year because I didn't want to lose any production. It will be so nice sharing the misery and hopefully tips with everyone else.
@kswiger06 I actually have tons of questions about pumping. I'll take them over to that thread, but I think you EP ladies have a thing or two to teach BFing ladies. I'm not going to say it was SOLELY a selfish move to make sure to include y'all, but I certainly want to pick your brains.
@krob I don't *exactly* judge him for the things he says while sleep deprived. HOWEVER, I will just say that he spent a good chunk of the pregnancy reassuring me that he knows the sleep loss will be hard for me, but *he* is super used to it because of nights on call, and he'll make sure he gets us through it... Flash forward to now, and who looks like they were drug through a keyhole backwards, and who looks like she's tired but coping?
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@poetryandoceans "pro tip" made me see red. Def put arsenic in his coffee this morning.
@Xstatic3333 I'm in that place too! And it is hard to get up. So I lay there thinking "how badly do I really need to pee? Can i nap another hour?"
He also was circ'd today which is totally an H thing because it makes me squimish and I totally regret it. He's clearly in pain from it which isn't helping our situation at all
Our son was turning 2 before he got the tip snipped, and I have no clue what to expect for a newborn.... hopefully it heals up quickly and your little man can be a happy camper!!
@krob @Patience7150 @Gretchypoo Exactly, the "pro-tip" is what set me off. We're both first time parents, and I have a shit ton of babysitting experience. He's done several peds rotations, so is good with kids, but never had to take care of one long term. If anything, I'm more "pro". Not that I would EVER say that. Totally set me off because, yes, he has taken care of most diaper changes in the scant 5 days this little man has been around. Mainly because I've been physically recovering from a heinous birth and wasn't supposed to stand up for too long.
But UPDATE: He came in about 40 minutes later and apologized, clearly and directly, with no justification. He knew he'd said something stupid and didn't mean it. He finds Theo's crying to be really emotionally draining when he's sleep deprived, and he reacted poorly and he knows that's the exact wrong thing to do. So he'll live. For now. The whole thing gave me a bit of sympathy for him, long term. Reminded me that first time dads have a hard time, too. They've never done this before, and they don't have the magic calm down juice strapped to their chests.
Anyway. The whole thing has inspired me to rewatch Chicago. It's on Netflix. And I know what I am doing today....
@poetryandoceans I'm glad he apologized! That was way out of line, but at least he admitted it.
i was just super amused at pro-tip, because i feel like anytime anything starts with pro-tip it's not actually meant to be helpful. LOL
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
@krob I don't *exactly* judge him for the things he says while sleep deprived. HOWEVER, I will just say that he spent a good chunk of the pregnancy reassuring me that he knows the sleep loss will be hard for me, but *he* is super used to it because of nights on call, and he'll make sure he gets us through it... Flash forward to now, and who looks like they were drug through a keyhole backwards, and who looks like she's tired but coping?