I think you might be right... They might have toxins? I'd have to research... which clearly Id just rather rant about this silly exchange. I don't think, under any circumstance, that eating a raw potato would be better than just dealing with heart burn... (that's a horribly phrased thought, but you know what I mean). Gag! And I even think it's ok to take Pepcid... but who is she to say?
@maamawaabangi ............raw potatoes!? lmao! I'm allowed to take Pepcid.... The crap people say to pregnant ladies....this one is the best one I've heard yet.
@aevan011 and @ashleaf2018 Thats totally what I thought... I think a friend of mine was told to take it by an OB... either way she has no business giving people medical advice. Sometimes I wonder if people just are bored and want to mess with people? I just side eyed her the whole time. But, what if she was for real eating raw potatoes while pregnant??? I'm still baffled. Oh and I did say... cause "crunchy" old me couldn't pass up an opportunity "Well, I don't think I'll resort to that, there is rhis suppliment called Papaya enzymes that taste quite good that help..." It was all I had.
@maamawaabangi exactly! Stick to your job, lady! I've had friends tell me what I can and cannot take despite the giant list my doctor gave me. Gosh I hope she wasn't for real lol......Awesome that you had something to say back!!!
I love how when you are pregnant, people (even friends) love to play doctor and tell you everything that you can and cannot do. I've had several friends say something like "Oh! That must be so hard for you to not drink coffee!" (We live in Seattle area, 95% of us drink coffee) I know my caffeine limit. I got this.
So I started doing something that might be helpful to those of you that are like me and periodically get freaked out about kicks/movements. If I have that feeling coming on that I need to worry or if I just feel like it, I've been taking down the time on my notes every single time I feel any sort of movement whatsoever. It's been particularly helpful for those times when my brain says, "You haven't felt him in hours." I can look back and it's been more like 45 minutes. It's been helpful to keep me from feeling like I have to drop and do kick counts, I can just look in my notes and see he's moved 12 times or whatever he's moved.
I know there's an app, but being a visual person, I kind of prefer the long list of numbers so I can see trends/lulls/busy times over the whole day.
Anyway, hope this helps someone like it's helped me!
Had my first random person touch my belly yesterday (It only took 35 weeks ). It was the lady who works at the auto repair shop I took my car to. DH and I have been going there ever since we moved into our house so they know us there. It wasn't too awkward, as we had told them back in May when I got my car serviced we were expecting and this was the first time I had seen them since my belly was flat.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
So we had our 5 year wedding anniversary and then 10 year together-anniversary just a couple of days later over the past week. DH was super sweet and had gifts for both (I just stuck to the wedding). He bought me some ridiculously comfortable suede and faux fur slippers that I had been eyeing for a while. And I've decided that they are shoe-like enough for me to pair with some leggings and a sweater once it gets chilly enough. Suck it, work peeps.
I was once again at the hospital yesterday. this time with a migraine. after it was verified it was just a migraine and not a pre-e headache the nurse said my Dr approved fentanyl and she'd be back soon to administer it.
DH said "but isn't that what killed Michael Jackson?!?" yes DH, yes it is. I'm sure they are not planning on giving me a fatal dose....
My random is I saw my dr today after developing a weird rash on Wednesday, which has been spreading. turns out, it's a yeast infection! but on completely random parts of my body... upper arms, outside of my hips, etc. I can't take the prescription stuff since they have steroids in them so we're just doing whatever we can with OTCs.
@Kate08Young I was 35 weeks yesterday. all is better today, well 90% anyways on the headache. and where they do the shot of fentanyl and Phenergan (I think that's the other thing) hurts like crazy today and I have a huge knot. my poor hip.
Another random: we went to target today and got a few costumes at 70% off for dd1 to use as dress up. after checking out I looked at DH and we both said "now we need a toy bin just for her dress up clothes".
Here's my random: we finally got a quote from a contractor that we like and that will fit our budget. It's going to be a long slog of a renovation and won't start until after he's born, but I' so glad we found someone. Such a relief!
I bought scrub pants at Walmart today since nothing else fits except my work pants and I do not want to wear dress pants all weekend. I'm obviously desperate .
I just bought a new set of lounge pants and top for post birth! It was good for my heart! Keep imagine myself nursing my babe and feeling cozy. I also bought an outfit for this babe because it looks like nothing new will be given to this little one. I'll post it in the coming home outfit thread! It's adorbs!
OH and the checker (target... bless that place!) said when seeing the newborn diapers I also bought "Oh, do you have a brand new baby at home or is this for a baby shower?" I showed her my bump and she said "Honestly I didn't even notice..." I wanted to hug her!
This weekend I've had at least 5 different people tell me I don't look 8 months pregnant, more like 5 or 6. One woman's jaw dropped when I told her I was due next month or sooner.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
@phoenix870509 I had the same thing happen at work. It was when some colleagues were talking about my involvement in a new project and I reminded them I was only working in the office for 2 more weeks, and then from home full time until the baby came, probably not more than 2 weeks after that. They were shocked, even though I keep telling people I'm due in late November/early December and I'm starting to work from home the week of Thanksgiving. I certainly don't feel small, nor do I think I look small (at all), but I guess it's better than people telling me I'm going to pop at any minute. That has happened once and I wanted to punch the lady - I was only about 7 months at that point.
This weekend I've had at least 5 different people tell me I don't look 8 months pregnant, more like 5 or 6. One woman's jaw dropped when I told her I was due next month or sooner.
That sounds nice, I get pity looks and "when are you due ???" I swear, this child better be 9lbs....
Yesterday I was at the store with DS and the cashiers asked when I was due and what I was having. I said two boys and she said 'ughhh, sorry' IN FRONT of my son. As if boys aren't good. I was so pissed. The lady behind me in line shook her head at the cashiers statement. I tried to mitigate by saying 'I love boys - this one here is my best buddy!' Figuring that would quiet her she proceeded to say 'It's just a shame you'll only have boys'.
@DiFazette what a terrible person. I'm sorry. If it makes you feel better, I heard it growing up, I'm the 3rd daughter and last child. I heard people apologize to my mom all the time that I wasn't a boy. And since we already have 2 DDs, before we found out this one was a boy, the negative comments we heard were so frustrating. Even now people (especially family) will say sh*tty comments like "well thank goodness this one is a boy" to which I say "We would have been just as happy with another girl, we love our daughters". That usually shuts them up because they realize that they crossed the line. But not everyone has common decency. It's sucks how much focus people place on gender, it really doesn't matter that much, we are creating a life. Or in your case, two lives, which is pretty damn amazing if you ask me
I've been really surprised at how many people tell me I am " so lucky" I am not having a girl... and it's always women who tell me that!
When DH and I were at Target a few weeks ago in the check out line, a woman with 2 boys asked me what I'm having. I said a little boy and she said, " Oh, thank God! Boys are really so much fun and it's such an adventure! You're lucky it's not a girl... girls suck!!"
I feel like some of our social barriers are being perpetuated because of other women more than men. I mean, I'm a lady... I don't think I'm so bad lol. The irony just gets me every time.
I agree with you all- telling people that I'm having a boy and a girl is about the only time I get positive comments about having twins!!
Boys and girls have their stereotypical "pros/cons", but then you never know if your kid will follow the stereotype anyways....plus, it's like "Hey STRANGER- it's not your life, so what do you care anyways!??!"
My MIL had 5 boys... I can't imagine the comments she's heard...
I get super ragey when people comment negatively about us having two girls. Sure, there may be some possible differences between sexes, but DD was the chilliest newborn and has been an amazing baby/toddler. I expect to have some rough moments with my kids, but that's going to come regardless of their sex. I remember with my SIL after they had their daughter and got pregnant the second time she would say, "What would make Mama crazy?" and have her daughter answer, "Another girl." It seemed so terribly cruel. I definitely went off on her eventually on how hurt I would have been if my mother had made such a big deal about not having another one of me in the house. The sexism (and I agree I mostly hear it from women) is ridiculous when it comes to having kids.
On a happier note, I just discovered that I've been approved to telecommute from home during the second half of my leave, which will alleviate the financial burden of maternity leave significantly. I have a meeting with my supervisor this week, and based on this news, I may request starting my leave a week early (if I need to) and working from home until the baby is born. It's not physically impossible for me to come to work, but my BH have been so bad that I'm anticipating the comforts of home being necessary in that final week.
I was really upset about having a boy at first, but honestly, boys are great. And so are girls. They are both great, just in different ways. The same way each child is special and awesome in their own way, regardless of their gender. I just wish people could say "congrats" on having a boy without having to diss girls and vice versa. You don't have to put one gender down specifically to lift the other up.
gender discrimination makes me so maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad. @linziloo09 your SIL shouldn't have kids if she's so backwards and cruel like that! (ok perhaps an extreme reaction but it's monday morning and I'm shaped like a bunch of beach balls)
Agreed @slartybartfast - it's just a terrible judgment to place on a child. I know she did it in humor in part, but kids don't understand humor like that. And even if they did, it's still insulting.
Ugh the gender comments! Being Team Green, I get BOTH opinions all the time. There were a few people who were extra a-holes about us saying we don't care either way (surprisingly "friends" not strangers) and I shut them up by mentioning that a loss will really put things into perspective - we're just ecstatic to HAVE a baby!
Beating a dead horse but this bugs me too. I've definitely heard both sides about having a girl, either they are "wonderful" or "challenging". I feel like pretty much anything anyone says about girls applies to children in general - they can be easy babies or difficult babies, they can favor mommy or they can favor daddy (or hell, favor no one!), they can be imaginative and they can be super active. I know baby boys who are quiet and calm, and I know baby girls who run around a mile a minute. I feel like there's no way to know what kind of person you're giving birth to until you get to know them, so why do people always feel like they have to generalize when they hear I'm having a girl? Seems pretty dumb to me, so all I do is smile and nod.
I may, or may not, have just created a spreadsheet after doing all the research of costs on all of my bathroom products, beauty products (minus make up), house hold cleanings supplies, and dog food so that I could figure out how much it would cost to stock up on 3-6+ months worth of supplies to avoid needing to purchase anything for a while after the baby comes. I compared the costs of all the products between three stores and determined what items will be purchased from which store. I think I have a problem (I also did this with all the baby supplies from our registry). Yes, going between 3 different stores only saves me $20, but that's a tank of gas!!
@aevan011, now if only this brain power and motivation was being used towards my work! HA! They're purposely not giving me many tasks because I'll be gone on leave, which is keeping me kind of bored.
@AbriannaO I was DYING to get out of the house when i had DS. Good on you for your planning but you may want to get out for a change of scenery/adult interaction.
@AbriannaO I'm a FTM, but I have a similar list (no spreadsheets for me!) of all the household and health and beauty items we currently buy. I plan on doing a major stock up the weekend before thanksgiving so that we can make it through the first of the year without having to run and fight the holiday crowds for stuff like laundry detergent. This means that I can still run out if I want to/feel up to it, but wouldn't have to go at a certain time or out of necessity. I'm hoping this approach allows me the freedom to get out of the house with the babe if/when I feel up to it but without adding any pressures. I'd rather go out for fun rather than to haul a whole bunch of needed items in the house by myself!
I also work for Target, so I'm only heading to one place since my discount more than makes up for the spreadsheets I don't make . I can almost taste my first Starbucks hot chocolate already (not a coffee drinker)!
@DiFazette, I am definitely planning for some maternity leave trips out of the house, I just don't want them to be because we are out of toilet paper (a big fear for me)! Since we aren't sure what costs there may be when our little one arrives and I'm still not sure what my maternity leave pay will be, we are trying to get these costs out of the way right now while we have spare money since putting that money away for those items may be done in good theory, but the practice may be hard.
My getting out of the house goals are: - taking lunch down to DH at least once a week - becoming a baby wearing mall walker - stopping by my office once a week to pick up printed documents to help me with spreadsheets I'm keeping up with during leave/ to file paperwork
Those are my immediate goals, though I anticipate I'll have at least one family member a week scheduled to come visit to do some house work while I nap.
Are you going to schedule them to do housework while you nap before or after you give them the letter about not allowing them to see the baby? This seems so absurd to me.
Re: Randoms 10/25
Due December 27th with baby #7
The crap people say to pregnant ladies....this one is the best one I've heard yet.
Thats totally what I thought... I think a friend of mine was told to take it by an OB... either way she has no business giving people medical advice. Sometimes I wonder if people just are bored and want to mess with people? I just side eyed her the whole time. But, what if she was for real eating raw potatoes while pregnant??? I'm still baffled.
Oh and I did say... cause "crunchy" old me couldn't pass up an opportunity "Well, I don't think I'll resort to that, there is rhis suppliment called Papaya enzymes that taste quite good that help..."
It was all I had.
Due December 27th with baby #7
I know my caffeine limit. I got this.
I know there's an app, but being a visual person, I kind of prefer the long list of numbers so I can see trends/lulls/busy times over the whole day.
Anyway, hope this helps someone like it's helped me!
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
So we had our 5 year wedding anniversary and then 10 year together-anniversary just a couple of days later over the past week. DH was super sweet and had gifts for both (I just stuck to the wedding). He bought me some ridiculously comfortable suede and faux fur slippers that I had been eyeing for a while. And I've decided that they are shoe-like enough for me to pair with some leggings and a sweater once it gets chilly enough. Suck it, work peeps.
Baby #1
Baby #2
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DH said "but isn't that what killed Michael Jackson?!?" yes DH, yes it is. I'm sure they are not planning on giving me a fatal dose....
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
My random is I am currently laying bed watching L learn how to 'be nice' to the puppies. He likes to hug them then pile drive them.
ETA: but - that one word made a huge difference.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
OH and the checker (target... bless that place!) said when seeing the newborn diapers I also bought "Oh, do you have a brand new baby at home or is this for a baby shower?"
I showed her my bump and she said "Honestly I didn't even notice..."
I wanted to hug her!
Due December 27th with baby #7
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I swear, this child better be 9lbs....
What the hell is wrong wrong with people?
When DH and I were at Target a few weeks ago in the check out line, a woman with 2 boys asked me what I'm having. I said a little boy and she said, " Oh, thank God! Boys are really so much fun and it's such an adventure! You're lucky it's not a girl... girls suck!!"
I feel like some of our social barriers are being perpetuated because of other women more than men. I mean, I'm a lady... I don't think I'm so bad lol. The irony just gets me every time.
Boys and girls have their stereotypical "pros/cons", but then you never know if your kid will follow the stereotype anyways....plus, it's like "Hey STRANGER- it's not your life, so what do you care anyways!??!"
My MIL had 5 boys... I can't imagine the comments she's heard...
I get super ragey when people comment negatively about us having two girls. Sure, there may be some possible differences between sexes, but DD was the chilliest newborn and has been an amazing baby/toddler. I expect to have some rough moments with my kids, but that's going to come regardless of their sex. I remember with my SIL after they had their daughter and got pregnant the second time she would say, "What would make Mama crazy?" and have her daughter answer, "Another girl." It seemed so terribly cruel. I definitely went off on her eventually on how hurt I would have been if my mother had made such a big deal about not having another one of me in the house. The sexism (and I agree I mostly hear it from women) is ridiculous when it comes to having kids.
On a happier note, I just discovered that I've been approved to telecommute from home during the second half of my leave, which will alleviate the financial burden of maternity leave significantly. I have a meeting with my supervisor this week, and based on this news, I may request starting my leave a week early (if I need to) and working from home until the baby is born. It's not physically impossible for me to come to work, but my BH have been so bad that I'm anticipating the comforts of home being necessary in that final week.
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@linziloo09 your SIL shouldn't have kids if she's so backwards and cruel like that! (ok perhaps an extreme reaction but it's monday morning and I'm shaped like a bunch of beach balls)
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I also work for Target, so I'm only heading to one place since my discount more than makes up for the spreadsheets I don't make
My getting out of the house goals are:
- taking lunch down to DH at least once a week
- becoming a baby wearing mall walker
- stopping by my office once a week to pick up printed documents to help me with spreadsheets I'm keeping up with during leave/ to file paperwork
Those are my immediate goals, though I anticipate I'll have at least one family member a week scheduled to come visit to do some house work while I nap.