UO 10/20

slam1110

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Luckyu317

It's weird to me when people who aren't KU or TTC (and specifically say so in their posts) post on the baby names board asking for suggestions/opinions. It's even more weird to ask for suggestions for your pets names.

Luckyu317

It's super tacky to host your own bridal/baby shower. (I'm full of em today)

slam1110

If you are out walking your dog, they need to be on a leash.  I don't care if they are the most well behaved dog and would never bite or hurt you.  My kids are TERRIFIED of dogs, like if one comes up to them they scream bloody murder and will do whatever they can to get away from the dog.  Not everyone loves dogs and wants to pet your dog, so please, keep them leashed!

pshaortao

Luckyu317 said:

It's weird to me when people who aren't KU or TTC (and specifically say so in their posts) post on the baby names board asking for suggestions/opinions. It's even more weird to ask for suggestions for your pets names.

I rarely look over there. Last time was when I was trying to think of names for DD over two years ago. I had no idea that these people were doing this! I can't even start thinking about a name until closer to third tri.

ShadeofGreen816

Luckyu317 said:

It's super tacky to host your own bridal/baby shower. (I'm full of em today)

Please lord let that NOT be a UO. So ridiculous. 

Mine: I still stalk TTGP and secretly love the drivebys and the flaming that ensues. Wish that no one ever had their feelings hurt by it but aside from that I just love to watch the drama go down!

onebadmotha

The baby name board is painful. I hate 99% of the names suggested, so I don't comment much. But I stalk regularly.

My UO is that I think "gender" reveal parties (sex reveal) are ridiculous. It's a party to celebrate your unborn baby's genitals. It's weird. 

slam1110

ShadeofGreen816 said:

Mine: I still stalk TTGP and secretly love the drivebys and the flaming that ensues. Wish that no one ever had their feelings hurt by it but aside from that I just love to watch the drama go down!

+1 here!!!! 

onebadmotha

slam1110 said:

ShadeofGreen816 said:

Mine: I still stalk TTGP and secretly love the drivebys and the flaming that ensues. Wish that no one ever had their feelings hurt by it but aside from that I just love to watch the drama go down!

+1 here!!!! 

Ooooooo I will have to check this out! I love reading Bump drama on any boards. 

pshaortao

If anybody names their baby with a more unique spelling just to make it "different", I'm going to side eye you. That baby is going to grow up dealing with the wrong spelling for the rest of their life.

flychick-2

pshaortao said:

If anybody names their baby with a more unique spelling just to make it "different", I'm going to side eye you. That baby is going to grow up dealing with the wrong spelling for the rest of their life.

Not to mention never being able to find personalized souvenirs! I think my poor DH still has a complex with this due to his name being spelled unusually.

onebadmotha

I have another, which I'm sure will not earn me any friends...but I think home birth is selfish and reckless. Do I love being hospitalized? No. Is my house a more relaxing environment? Yes. There is too much that can happen in a split second for me to ever feel comfortable being anywhere but a hospital.  If I had been home for my son's birth, we would likely both be dead. And I had a perfectly healthy, normal pregnancy up until that point. 

slam1110

pshaortao said:

If anybody names their baby with a more unique spelling just to make it "different", I'm going to side eye you. That baby is going to grow up dealing with the wrong spelling for the rest of their life.

  I agree with you on spelling it unique just to make if different, that is silly to do.  But my name is spelled the "normal" way and I still have to spell if for everyone and most people get it wrong!  Unfortunately now a days, you just have to spell all names, because you never know...

Wildflowers and Ferns

kayemjay2 said:

My UO is that I think "gender" reveal parties (sex reveal) are ridiculous. It's a party to celebrate your unborn baby's genitals. It's weird. 

+1

Related, I think the very aggressive gendering of newborn products is creepy and strange.  Why are there boy and girl pacifiers and toys and furniture?  They are all babies, and their needs are the same.  Clothes kind of make sense, but even then, I would prefer gender neutral to be re-usable with future possible babs. Plus the clothes that are like 'future prom queen' and 'ladies' man' and stuff... .>.>  This is my side-eye.

onebadmotha

@Wildflowers and Ferns - I agree 100%! I hate how society wants to cram social gender norms down our throats from day one. 

CherylE418

I also think gender reveals are weird! I thought I was the only one. 

Ok ok this is going to be reeeeeal unpopular... But I think pumpkin spice lattes are way overrated. 

Squirtgun

@Wildflowers and Ferns I know someone who gave away ALL of her nursery furniture because her first was a girl, and she needed boy furniture for the second. (White everything for girl, boy needed Browns.) Serious side eye going on from me!! 

My UO- inspired by other conversations going on today- I think it's odd to make a Facebook group with people you don't know yet. Because there's not nearly as much privacy over there!  I want to get to know you guys over here without you having access to my name, location, kids names, and all of my kids pictures.  (But I know it's really common to have Facebook groups for everything these days, so maybe I'm just old.) 

carter604

I think it's creepy when my 18 month old daughter smiles at someone from the grocery cart and they exclaim "what a flirt!" Like you've just sexualized a smile from a toddler, you pedophile. I always follow up loudly with "she loves making friends in line ups" in hopes of changing their wording. 

MrsFreeman2010

I *hate* the term "natural delivery" or "going natural". Unless your planning on delivering an alien from your belly button, it's all natural!  There are medicated and unmediated deliveries, deliveries with no intervention, etc.

kat81

kayemjay2 said:

I have another, which I'm sure will not earn me any friends...but I think home birth is selfish and reckless. Do I love being hospitalized? No. Is my house a more relaxing environment? Yes. There is too much that can happen in a split second for me to ever feel comfortable being anywhere but a hospital.  If I had been home for my son's birth, we would likely both be dead. And I had a perfectly healthy, normal pregnancy up until that point. 

What do you think about a birth center? I ask because I have signed up to go that route (mainly because I wanted midwife prenatal care.) I have had 2 "normal" pregnancies & births already so I felt ok with this choice. It's also right across the street from the hospital and the midwives have admitting privileges there. They have specific guidelines for when to pull the plug and make you go to the hospital. If you do stay at the birth center, the midwives are trained in things like infant resuscitation and other stuff that could go wrong. But I'm still a bit nervous. Last time I had the best of both worlds -- midwife care, but in a hospital. But that was in a different state.

Luckyu317

If your child is old enough to (mostly) speak in complete sentences, and Old enough to communicate their needs, they should no longer have a pacifier.

otatop

Can we stop putting handfuls of cheese on top of everything and deep frying everything just cause you can?? I'm so over it! The food network is basically a "How to have a heart attack by 40." And I love butter too but MY GOD. 

ChristinaWild

@CherylE418 - second the pumpkin spice lattes! I actually feel that way about the majority of the pumpkin flavored things. I love a good pumpkin spice cupcake, but it can end there. 

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

kayemjay2 said:

I have another, which I'm sure will not earn me any friends...but I think home birth is selfish and reckless. Do I love being hospitalized? No. Is my house a more relaxing environment? Yes. There is too much that can happen in a split second for me to ever feel comfortable being anywhere but a hospital.  If I had been home for my son's birth, we would likely both be dead. And I had a perfectly healthy, normal pregnancy up until that point. 

You beat me to it! I should have checked this thread before commenting on the birth plan post.  I agree completely.  Whatever risks you think there might be with delivery at a hospital, they pale in comparison to the risks that come with home birth.

otatop

I agree @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot. And if something did go wrong and my baby didn't survive in a home birth...honestly I don't know how I could live there after that.

mamagain520

MrsFreeman2010 said:

I *hate* the term "natural delivery" or "going natural". Unless your planning on delivering an alien from your belly button, it's all natural!  There are medicated and unmediated deliveries, deliveries with no intervention, etc.

I hate 'all natural' brags when the whole process was 4 hours. The brag there should be how lucky you are that labor was short, not that you are the next coming of Jesus Christ because you didn't have medication, when in reality there probably wasn't enough time. With my first I had 19 hours of induced labor with no other drugs (oh and episiotomy, forceps, vacuum to get her out)  you know why???? Because it was 20 years ago and the rules were more strict on when epidurals were administered. I'm not a hero. Got an epidural right away with my son so that didn't happen again. I learned my lesson! Second was just as natural as the first:) 

Kipperoo

I hearted so many of the previously stated UO...so many good ones!!

Mine is, I don't understand when people give their child a name with the intention of only calling them by a nickname. Just name them what you want to call them! 

bacorrea

Kipperoo said:

I hearted so many of the previously stated UO...so many good ones!!

Mine is, I don't understand when people give their child a name with the intention of only calling them by a nickname. Just name them what you want to call them! 

DD has a nick name and so will this kid. I grew up with a nickname. I like long formal names with a fun nick name for when their a kid. 

WombThereItIs

Kipperoo said:

Mine is, I don't understand when people give their child a name with the intention of only calling them by a nickname. Just name them what you want to call them! 

YES x 1,000,000

My mild UO: I don't like food UOs 

slam1110

AnnieKnitsALot said:

Can we stop putting handfuls of cheese on top of everything and deep frying everything just cause you can?? I'm so over it! The food network is basically a "How to have a heart attack by 40." And I love butter too but MY GOD. 

CHEESE ON EVERYTHING!!!!!!

bacorrea

I think it's silly to "plan your birth" it puts stress on the mother. I'm fine with "oh I want an epidural, skin to skin, breastfeeding etc," but candles, lighting, time of day. You just can't plan that stuff.

It always make me think of Gilmore Girls when Sherry is freaking out screaming "she isn't supposed to come until next week!" Oh honey, it doesn't work like that. 

SKZW

My UO is that I really do like Donald Trump. Hear me out! He's right about a lot of things... women are mostly emotional trainwrecks... it's true, we are... and copping a feel whenever you want, is like, no big deal, or else why would our boobs stick out like that, in such an obvious grabby place... and this is on old topic but building a wall with Mexico still makes a lot of sense, because that's truly where all the terrorists and job-stealers come from... because in reality it is "the other" of us that causes all the problems, and we're personally at zero fault, am I right? And that's not racist or discriminatory, it's just the truth. And you can't argue with "facts."

And what does it matter that he's a businessman without any foreign policy experience, I believe that running this country solely like a business makes a LOT of sense, it's what we need, and it's what will help get us out from under this crushing, crushing debt. (Won't it?) Social programs and domestic issues are superfluous. One more thing. Here's the top-most reason why I'm a fan: A lot of seemingly well-educated, honest, hard-working, family-supporting, lovely women out there are following his lead and drinking up his every word like gospel, so, like, that's why I am too.

P.S. That woman with the "horrible" "offensive" "outrageous" "disgusting" crotch t-shirt on the other day? It was me. Proud of it.

otatop

@slam1110 lol more for you! 

otatop

Oh. Also I'm apparently the only one in my town that doesn't like the Instant Pot. Like eeeeveryone here is wild about it and I'm just like...it turned everything into mush. >.>

Abby7

I seriously side-eye parents who hover over their children on playground equipment, unless they are under 3 or so. If you are never more than 10 feet from your child when they are on the playground, you are being restrictive and neurotic. It strikes me as plain weird for a child to have their every move watched and followed while they play. Sit on the bench and let your kid have at it.

onebadmotha

kat81 said:

kayemjay2 said:

I have another, which I'm sure will not earn me any friends...but I think home birth is selfish and reckless. Do I love being hospitalized? No. Is my house a more relaxing environment? Yes. There is too much that can happen in a split second for me to ever feel comfortable being anywhere but a hospital.  If I had been home for my son's birth, we would likely both be dead. And I had a perfectly healthy, normal pregnancy up until that point. 

What do you think about a birth center? I ask because I have signed up to go that route (mainly because I wanted midwife prenatal care.) I have had 2 "normal" pregnancies & births already so I felt ok with this choice. It's also right across the street from the hospital and the midwives have admitting privileges there. They have specific guidelines for when to pull the plug and make you go to the hospital. If you do stay at the birth center, the midwives are trained in things like infant resuscitation and other stuff that could go wrong. But I'm still a bit nervous. Last time I had the best of both worlds -- midwife care, but in a hospital. But that was in a different state.

As long as hospital facilities are very nearby, I'd have no problem with that. I don't know all that much about birth centers, as my practice doesn't have one- they have midwives, but they come to the hospital. It sounds like you've taken into account what can go wrong and have options available that make you comfortable. 

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

SKZW said:

My UO is that I really do like Donald Trump. Hear me out! He's right about a lot of things... women are mostly emotional trainwrecks... it's true, we are... and copping a feel whenever you want, is like, no big deal, or else why would our boobs stick out like that, in such an obvious grabby place... and this is on old topic but building a wall with Mexico still makes a lot of sense, because that's truly where all the terrorists and job-stealers come from... because in reality it is "the other" of us that causes all the problems, and we're personally at zero fault, am I right? And that's not racist or discriminatory, it's just the truth. And you can't argue with "facts."

And what does it matter that he's a businessman without any foreign policy experience, I believe that running this country solely like a business makes a LOT of sense, it's what we need, and it's what will help get us out from under this crushing, crushing debt. (Won't it?) Social programs and domestic issues are superfluous. One more thing. Here's the top-most reason why I'm a fan: A lot of seemingly well-educated, honest, hard-working, family-supporting, lovely women out there are following his lead and drinking up his every word like gospel, so, like, that's why I am too.

P.S. That woman with the "horrible" "offensive" "outrageous" "disgusting" crotch t-shirt on the other day? It was me. Proud of it.

If this is sarcasm, I love you.  If not, just no.  And also:

psherman42wwsa

I don't like it when people say their kids are like 38 months old... lets just say the years

Kipperoo

lrwardrop said:

I don't like it when people say their kids are like 38 months old... lets just say the years

That drives me crazy! But it's even worse when they quote the weeks! A friend of mine recently told me her baby was 36 weeks old and I had to do the math in my head to figure out what that meant in months. 

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

I am pro-pacifier. DD would never take one and used my breasts as her pacifier for 2 years.  I'm pro-bfing (well, really I'm pro just feed your kid however you want), but it would have been nice to get a break for awhile.

SKZW