@BlondePeanut samesies!! My mom and dad bought us our travel system and I'm so excited! It was delivered a few days ago and I just keep looking at the car seat and imagining our baby girl in there.
That's awesome! @AfKash We set up the stroller the other day to play around with it, and we set up the crib yesterday. I can't stop touching the crib and imagining her in it....
My mom, MIL and grandma have all pledged to buy certain large items, but I won't let them buy until I see them on sale for an awesome price (the natural bargain hunter in me!) But our glider at Target was essentially $100 off today so my mom ordered it and we are picking it up at the store this afternoon after we finish painting! I can't wait!!!
@AfKash Glider was on sale for $50 off. Once added to the cart they give you the $40 gift card (which I'm counting as money saved since I know I'll use that)
@LivingLaVidaGinger I share your MIL issues. Except ours just wants to talk about why my FIL divorced her... it happened 10 years ago. I don't even know the last time she acknowledged my pregnancy or asked how dd is.
@Mamallamallama ugh it's such a pain in the ass. It's such a long story but my FIL has been in and out of prison all of DH's life. He just got out of jail again this year in March. Every time he gets out, they get back together and she blows all her money on buying his heroin so she can't pay her bills and then asks us. They came up and stayed with us for about a month over the summer and we'd find empty insulin syringes lying around. It's such a mess but she's doing it to herself so she really can't get mad at us when we don't want to send her money just to buy the FIL more drugs.
@LivingLaVidaGinger There comes a point when you have to say no. If she can't grow up and stop using hers and your money to fund an addict and understand that she is being used there is no hope for change. She sounds like a user - not a drug type but a person type- one of those well if you don't help me no one will blah blah blah... I feel for you and I slightly feel bad for her that she can't see the situation she is constantly putting herself in. Stay strong and don't give into her bullshit.
@Mamallamallama yes. omg. She is so quick to blame others for her own failures. And the biggest mooch I've ever met in my entire life. She claims she's living in her car now (I think she's squatting at a friend's house for right now) but blames DH, me, and my SIL and her H for her homelessness because we won't let her live with us. But we did! We gave her the chance, and all the tools necessary to get on her own two feet and she still refused to save money and find her own place. She even has a job now and still won't get her own place. I will never understand that. DH is 100% done with her though, he ignores all her calls and texts because he wants nothing to do with her (she didn't really raise him, like I said, long story lol) and she's taken to messaging me now. Ugh.
@LivingLaVidaGinger Thank goodness your DH is done with it, that is a big WIN. My MIL no longer texts or calls me, my only advice is to be passive aggressive. It worked wonders for me lol. My biggest pet peeve is people like that, you have no one to blame but yourself. You make good and bad choices and you have to live with the results; it's no one else's fault but yours if you make a bad choice.
Hey everybody, I'm back and I've missed you all! Still dealing with all of the fall out from my sister's admission, but it is much less now. The dog has been placed in boarding and all her bills have been handled through the end of the month. We still have no idea how long she will be there, so there's still a lot of things up in the air (like her job). She is doing OK and is safe, so that's all that matters. They still haven't figured out mediations that work, so she hasn't made much progress, but I get to see her every Saturday and Sunday, so that's nice. My heart breaks seeing her like this, hoping she gets better soon.
@scifichick09 Sounds promising at least, I know the meds part tends to be the trickiest. And good for you and your family- handling all her affairs and her dog also. I am sure knowing how much her family loves her has been the biggest comfort. Prayers for contuined improvement for you all!
@scifichick09 The meds take the longest-- and they will really take about 6 weeks to really kick in. I hope they are recommending therapy AND medication after she is released, that will be best. Keeping your family in my thoughts.
@scifichick09 glad to hear there has been some progress. Hopefully they can figure out the meds situation to continue moving forward. Hope youre looking after yourself too!
@scifichick09 Glad to hear things have stabilized for now, and you can see her! She is very lucky to have you in her life to support her as she goes through this time.
Glad to have you back @scifichick09! You're such a sweetheart for taking care of your sis. I hope they figure everything out soon. I'm so glad she's getting help.
@scifichick09 welcome back! I'm glad your sister is in a safe place and I hope they are able to get the meds figured out soon so she can start making progress. It's great that she has you to help out.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I kind of have to vaguebump about this because it's ongoing. But I've mentioned that my father passed away pretty horribly a year ago. He had been with his girlfriend for like 36 years or something and married her while he was in hospice to try to make her "more" part of the family. (I would like to mention that your married status has a LOT less to do with being part of a fucking family, as like being part of a fucking family does) Anyway, she was listed as the personal representative of his estate even though her family had to sue to remove her from her status as personal representative for her mother because she's insane. My dad just didn't want to deal with arguing with her.
Anyway, now she is saying that she wants to be compensated for taking care of my dad while he was dying. Which is fucking insane. Like he supported her for 30 years. And she did a terrible job. She did things like leave him alone over night while she was fighting with her family where he failed making it to the bathroom and just had to lie in his own shit for 12 hours on the floor. I'm so incredibly livid and have to think of the best way to respond to her.
@PerraSucia omg that's awful! From what I understood, they were in a relationship. It wasn't a business deal. And unless she has proof that she was to take care of your father in exchange for money, I don't know what the hell she's trying to do. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
@PerraSucia WTF. Sorry lady, the will is the will is the will. You don't get paid for being a decent (or in her case, crappy) human being in a committed relationship.
@PerraSucia what a nasty person! As someone who takes care of a family member she's off her fucking rocker thinking she deserves more for her half-assed care of him. I sure hope his will/estate was iron clad and she won't get away with this. I'm so sorry you have to deal with her
WOOOOW! @PerraSucia I'm sorry! What a b*tch! Is she trying to get anything out of the will or was she written into it? It's insane what people actually think is okay and how they can be so insensitive for the sake of money! If there was no contract saying she was his aide or anything, she doesn't get a penny! In my head I just thought "what if DH decided he deserves to be paid for all of his care for me during this pregnancy? Jeesh... I'd be broke, fast!"
Sadly, my dad's sisters used to pull nonsense like this with my grandparents. Every time they visited (a 3-5 hour drive, depending on the sister) they would take my grandparents debit card and go to an ATM and pull out $500 each to 'compensate themselves' for visiting their parents. They weren't even caring for them, as my grandparents had two 24/7 live in aides. Once my dad caught on to this, he deducted all of their individual 'payments' from their split of the will and they were livid... how do you find that as acceptable though? People are shadyyyyy!
So his will clearly splits all his stuff 3 ways between this lady, my sister and me and then on top of that she's entitled to 3% of the estate for being the PR. I guess for doing the work she hasn't done and stuff. She's already going to get fined for not filing his taxes on time.
This makes me so annoyed at my dad for being so unorganized and he KNEW this was going to happen when he died and just did nothing to prevent it.
What a mess, @PerraSucia I hope you are able to get it all sorted out. That lady is crazy if she thinks she's entitled to so much. And it makes it worse that you have to keep returning to loose ends and picking up after others when you should have this time to heal.
It sounds like your dad left her an additional 3% to compensate her for whatever she is asking for @PerraSucia . What a twat, sorry you have to deal with her insanity.
@PerraSucia that sounds like a horrible mess! Hopefully she quickly realizes she shouldn't try to pull anything else and just quietly back down. It's sad she was with him so long and is now trying to be compensated for being what I would call a normal committed wife/partner and care for the man she loved, when he needed it most. I hope it settles down without causing any more stress.
@PerraSucia this all sounds so terrible. i haven't had to deal with it directly, but I have seen a similar situation when my grandma died. She had 9 kids and not a lot of assets so things got crazy.
Its incredible what lengths people will go to when money is involved. I'd like to chalk it up to grief, and that maybe it, but it definitely brings out true colors.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
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We set up the stroller the other day to play around with it, and we set up the crib yesterday. I can't stop touching the crib and imagining her in it....
Links to the two on sale!
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Married: October, 19, 2015
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Anyway, now she is saying that she wants to be compensated for taking care of my dad while he was dying. Which is fucking insane. Like he supported her for 30 years. And she did a terrible job. She did things like leave him alone over night while she was fighting with her family where he failed making it to the bathroom and just had to lie in his own shit for 12 hours on the floor. I'm so incredibly livid and have to think of the best way to respond to her.
Sadly, my dad's sisters used to pull nonsense like this with my grandparents. Every time they visited (a 3-5 hour drive, depending on the sister) they would take my grandparents debit card and go to an ATM and pull out $500 each to 'compensate themselves' for visiting their parents. They weren't even caring for them, as my grandparents had two 24/7 live in aides. Once my dad caught on to this, he deducted all of their individual 'payments' from their split of the will and they were livid... how do you find that as acceptable though? People are shadyyyyy!
This makes me so annoyed at my dad for being so unorganized and he KNEW this was going to happen when he died and just did nothing to prevent it.
Its incredible what lengths people will go to when money is involved. I'd like to chalk it up to grief, and that maybe it, but it definitely brings out true colors.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17