May 2017 Moms
kat81
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Second Time+ Moms check-in 10/12
kat81
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Come here for the official second time+ mom check-in. Check in about your kiddo(s), symptoms, appointments, whatever you want.
However, I do have a specific question to ask you today because I'm SO MAD about something that happened to my friend on facebook. She was having a debate about abortion (probably not a good idea to do on the internet with strangers), and argued that forcing unwanted childbearing is an unequal burden on women. This dude responded: "oh and by the way... who cares if your hips got a little bigger or you gained a few pounds because you delivered a beautiful young girl... I was always taught beauty is in the inside not the outside"
Regardless of your views on abortion, which I absolutely do NOT want to get into, we can all agree that this guy's response was completely out of line. So this is my question to you -- when you were previously pregnant (and including this pregnancy so far), was your increased hip size your only complaint? Your biggest complaint? Personally, it did not crack my top 300 complaints. If you had to respond to this guy with a lesson on what your top 10 or 20 or whatever inconveniences, pains, problems, complaints are of pregnancy, delivery, and post-partum, what would they be?
Sorry to make this into a bitchfest, but I really wanted some pregnant and formerly pregnant ladies to get my back on this one. Also, this friend in question had one of the worst deliveries I've ever heard of in which her life was threatened. I just can't believe people sometimes.
However, I do have a specific question to ask you today because I'm SO MAD about something that happened to my friend on facebook. She was having a debate about abortion (probably not a good idea to do on the internet with strangers), and argued that forcing unwanted childbearing is an unequal burden on women. This dude responded: "oh and by the way... who cares if your hips got a little bigger or you gained a few pounds because you delivered a beautiful young girl... I was always taught beauty is in the inside not the outside"
Regardless of your views on abortion, which I absolutely do NOT want to get into, we can all agree that this guy's response was completely out of line. So this is my question to you -- when you were previously pregnant (and including this pregnancy so far), was your increased hip size your only complaint? Your biggest complaint? Personally, it did not crack my top 300 complaints. If you had to respond to this guy with a lesson on what your top 10 or 20 or whatever inconveniences, pains, problems, complaints are of pregnancy, delivery, and post-partum, what would they be?
Sorry to make this into a bitchfest, but I really wanted some pregnant and formerly pregnant ladies to get my back on this one. Also, this friend in question had one of the worst deliveries I've ever heard of in which her life was threatened. I just can't believe people sometimes.
Re: Second Time+ Moms check-in 10/12
AFM, my next appt is 2 weeks from today - I'll get the Verifi DNA test done at that time. DS#2 turns 1 tomorrow. Busy week! Symptoms are still minimal. Some cramps here and there and fatigue but nothing unbearable. Whipped out the doppler this past weekend right at 9 weeks but couldn't (and still can't) find baby's heartbeat. I wish I hadn't of tried so early, trying not to freak myself out!
Surprise BFP# 5 - 9/2/16 - Due 5/13/17
1) Symphysis pubis dysfunction -- pain in crotch, inability to walk when it's severe, can't dance--my hobby, pain when lying down to sleep (or to not sleep), difficulty putting on pants, etc. Starts up mildly in first trimester and gets severe for the last 15 weeks or so. With #2, it persisted post-partum for about 4 months. Definitely my top complaint.
2) difficulty sleeping / sleep deprivation due to insomnia, need to pee frequently, and/or SPD mentioned above for a total of about 3-4 months each pregnancy
3) the hours and hours and hours of my time spent at doctor's appointments and commuting to/from them
4) Two months of nausea and a feeling of being constantly hungover in first trimester
5) the indescribable pain of labor and delivery, along with the feeling like you're going to die during transition (this is huge, obviously, but so short-lived and also so exhilirating that it's absolutely not the top complaint.)
6) post-partum boob pain from breast feeding and engorgement
7) food, drink, and activity restrictions
8) boob pain in first trimester (though for me, really only the first pregnancy had this bad)
9) heartburn
10) random charlie horses in 2nd and 3rd tri
I'm so excited for my first appt tomorrow. This pregnancy is so much different than my first. My husband thinks that means it's a boy this time but I keep reading that every pregnancy is different so sex doesn't matter.
I wish I had a doppler - After this first appointment, maybe I'll ask some Mom friends if they have one. (We haven't told anyone yet because we wanted to wait until our first appt). I just want to tell already!!! I'm tired of wearing baggy shirts. I'd rather just wear comfy maternity gear already.
I'm pretty sure my hips never actually changed size- I have "child bearing hips" anyway, so they're already huge
I'm so anxious about my first appointment on Friday! I don't even know why I'm so anxious, but I just can't wait to hear that heartbeat so that I can feel more confident that baby is really there and doing ok! I think for both previous pregnancies that first appointment was the time when I could then breathe a little easier and know that it's completely "real" that there's a baby happening!
I think "completely different" pregnancy is a sign of a different gender, maybe! I'm always team green but I love to speculate.
Not much going on in my life...I asked my 2 year old this morning what the baby's name is and he said "Fi-fuh"...he also says all of the time now "baby in mommy's belly! baby in Sullivan's (his name) belly!" And every time he passes the current guest room which will be the baby's room, he says "hi baby's room!". Melts my heart.
My biggest complaint from my (relatively easy) last pregnancy was getting diagnosed with GD. Sure, the diet helped me lose weight while the baby gained. But the constant stress over every morsel of food and every blood sugar test wasn't healthy. This pregnancy is already completely opposite and first tri is kicking my butt. So far, MS blows and I'd love to feel awake and refreshed just once every few weeks. Also, that man should be forced to experience an anal fissure for just a few months. Then he can talk about what pregnancy can do to a woman's body.
We told DD (3yo) a week ago about the baby. But I guess I forgot to explain that the baby was in my tummy. She's a little familiar with that because my cousin recently had twins and she loved to feel the babies move. Last night, I casually mentioned that the baby was in my tummy and she was shocked. Then she kept lifting up my shirt and saying, "But I can't see it!?" Now she's obsessed with my stomach.
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
Also add to the list the fact that EVERYONE now thinks it is your duty to divulge very personal and private information to anyone and everyone. say goodbye to privacy forever
Married: July 28, 2012
DD: July 29, 2013
DS: July 1, 2015
Current EDD: May 15, 2017
My biggest complaint last time - I gained a TON of water weight in the last month. Like, I had straight out cankles, I gained 6 lbs one week, my shoes did not fit, I looked morbidly obese from the knee down.
So excited for my appointment on Friday! I cannot wait to see the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat. Also DS started pointing to things over the weekend it is the new best thing ever. We have our fingers crossed that it will help him communicate. He he still only babbles and we are impatiently waiting for some words.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
We we had our second appointment yesterday and got to hear the heart beat. DD was very excited! She is still calling the baby Cece and gets upset if we mention any other name. For the past month or so I have had afternoon nausea and this morning I woke up nauseous and it hasn't gone away. I also slept horribly last night. I'm hoping I can get to bed early tonight as MH said he will handle all nightly duties at our house.
This guy sounds like a treat. It's honestly probably not worth your time to try to explain things to him. He is so far off in his own little world that he isn't going to even get what you are saying. There is SO much more to pregnancy than wide hips.
DS (3) will occasionally bring up the baby but usually only when he wants to lay on my stomach. He is worried about squishing him/her. My first appointment isn't until November 3rd and it feels like so far away. We are about to be on vacation until the 24th though so that should help time pass. Symptoms haven't been anything crazy besides my stomach constantly feels like I just got over the flu. That uneasy feeling just won't go away.
ETA: I've been meaning to ask - how have your SO's responded to your pregnancies? I wouldn't say that DH isn't excited but he's just kind of meh. With our first he was ecstatic so this is probably normal I just thought he would respond like last time. Now that I am thinking out loud I am only 7 weeks so I guess it is kind of hard for him to get into it when we have so much other stuff going on and it is so early.
Feeling like I have the flu for two months and having SPD from second tri on and barely being able to walk, let alone get comfortable enough to sleep are my top two.
My biggest complaint from my first pregnancy was exhaustion. Looking back, I had it so easy! This pregnancy is kicking my butt. Morning sickness is no joke and I didn't have it last time at all. I can barely function this time around. Fingers crossed that I (and everyone else) experience some relief soon.
BTW: I salute those that have dealt with/are dealing with SPD. That sounds horrific.
@Kipperoo your son sounds super sweet and my heart melted just reading your post. Boys can be sooooo endearing.
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
But, yeah, the kind of "meh" reaction, I'm sure, is just because it's early days. It's as simple as that. My H would say he's an open book, a WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get), and he's happy but more nervous/cautious/uncertain/unbelieving at this point. It's just early days. They'll come around.
Husband is actually better this time around. Last time he was in panic mode for about the first tri then kind of tried to ignore it until the end when he got super naggy and obnoxious about everything I did or ate. This time he seems a little more laid back.
May '17 labor memes
3rd degree tear down there broken tail bone. The hormones post partum. I could go on.