The lady taking my blood asked me if I had any children. I told her I have one son. She said "well, lets hope this ones a girl so you can be done!". I told her "oh, I'm done either way". And she said "But don't you dream of planning your daughter's wedding?" What a bizarre interaction...if this IS a boy, I am not looking forward to 7 more months of "oh...so are you going to try again for a girl?".
Has anyone had days where they feel like absolute crap from pregnancy symptoms, and then one day feel great and few symptoms? IF brain here and it always scares me if I'm feeling good that something is wrong. I had one ultrasound at 6w2d and won't get another until the 11-12 week mark. It's the IF what if brain.
I did yesterday. I had my U/S last Thursday at 7w7d (next one isn't until 11-12 weeks too), Iwas such a zombie all weekend then yesterday all of a sudden I felt okay. The house got clean as a result. My PGAL brain got worried, naturally. But today I'm feeling grumpy that DD woke up early from her nap because I was NOT ready to get up So to put it nicely, I hope you feel the symptoms again tomorrow and that you can just enjoy a little break today
starphish18 It didn't hurt for the skin to stretch, it would get itchy sometimes (some complained more than others). But it did get very uncomfortable to just try and roll over in bed in the middle of the night. At that point I had a snoogle on one side and a pillow on the other side so my belly would have something to rest on.
@Kipperoo People, especially in the medical professional setting, that say that kind of things make me just want to crotch punch them. I mean seriously? If that happened to me, I probably would be like oh well in that case, I rather have another boy and be done, and his future wife's (unless he's gay) family can pay for the wedding. It sounds like the appointment went well otherwise??
starphish18 , I agree with pshaortao --my skin never hurt, it just got itchy. I'd suggest picking up a good lotion or stomach oil--that seemed to help me!
And, pshaortao , I told her "well, hopefully it just means I get out of paying for it!"...yes! Aside from that, the appointment was fine! But I didn't get to see or hear the babe...that will have to wait until next week. Today was just signing papers with the NP and blood work, sadly. None of the fun stuff. :-)
@Kipperoo Agreed on not looking forward to people's comments! Especially if we are having another boy.
@starphish18 The skin stretching wasn't uncomfortable at all for me. Dry and itchy at times, but nothing some lotion couldn't fix. The weight of it toward the end is the uncomfortable part in my opinion.
@ShadeofGreen816 I understand social media being the most convenient way to announce. We moved a few times (as have many of our friends and family) and left a wake of relationships across the country. I know when we announce there will be friends and acquaintances that may take it hard. The ones we know of we will tell in advance. I will feel bad if I find out someone had a hard time with my announcement, but I cannot protect everyone.
I'm probably in the minority of people who have no plans to share anything about my pregnancy on Facebook.
On another subject... I'm mildly terrified about my belly stretching out so much by the end of this pregnancy. I'm a somewhat petite person and have a shorter upper body, so I feel like the baby is going to have to watermelon straight out to fit. Any already-moms, does it hurt for the skin to stretch that much?
@starphish18 I am in the minority that had painful stretching, that being said I was also pregnant with twins and measured 56 weeks the day before I delivered at 34 weeks so I was much larger than the average woman.
I thought I was crazy with the RLP already. Glad to know it's not just me. I'm 7 weeks 3 days, and I feel like the nausea is getting worse instead of better, ugh. And I've had some cramping today, which makes my What If brain go into overdrive too, despite knowing it's normal. Anyone else getting the infamous lightning crotch pains yet? Are they related to RLP? Mine started today, waaaay earlier than my last pregnancy.
@starphish18 - mine was also just an itchy stomach, not really painful.
@germangirl6988 - I've had this a handful of times, particularly after hitting week 9. They have always come back eventually, even if mildly.
@ShadeofGreen816 - I think that you are okay posting. I know it can be hard to see those posts but like stated above, it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact that there is an announcement that isn't their own. That can be hard to take yet those announcements are so common that I don't think any of your friends would take it against you. Plus I agree that it is the best way to announce to family and friends far away who would like to know.
@Kipperoo - those kinds of comments are really annoying but there is always someone who will make them. I have one of each and it really bugs me when people ask if I have kids and when they find out I have a boy and girl, they immediately say, that's great that you're done or something to that effect. Like, why are we talking about my family planning?
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@vrj0522 I also have one of each. A horrible nosey coworker overheard me talking about my pregnancy and said, you know you already have a boy and a girl, most people would just be done. Like, ok thanks for telling me how the world works. I wish I had consulted with you before making the awful mistake of having a 3rd for no apparent reason .
I really can't wait until my US! I just want to know if there is more than one kid in me. Twins run in my family and I have several family members with twins. I had a dream the other night that there were 6 babies in me! The doctor squeezed my belly and the sacks were glowing and then we had to buy one of those vans that large families drive. I know it was just a pregnancy dream and there is no way I have more than 2 in me, but man it felt so real!
@sarah0985 she then showed me a picture of her cat. We weren't sharing pictures at all. She wasn't even involved in the original conversation. So then I felt really smug.
I have my first appointment today for an u/s and nurse visit after. I'm excited and nervous all at the same time!!!
Question - I didn't get this far with my last pregnancy so what do I expect today with the nurse visit? bloodwork? reviewing the u/s? something else? I hate not knowing what to expect.
MTB16 , good luck on the first appointment!! My guess would be that you should expect all of those things. At my first visit, we did an ultrasound, reviewed the ultrasound, discussed the overview of care for the pregnancy, filled out my hospital registration paperwork, scheduled follow up appointments, and then they sent me to the lab for a bunch of blood work. I also had a quick physical and PAP--I'm not sure if that is normal, but I've had it with both pregnancies because it just so happened that I was due for one.
@Cubslove12@sarah0985 Same here with the cotton mouth! I wake up every night at 2am practically dying for water. I've started keeping a full water bottle on my nightstand.
@Abby7 I also have the horrible taste in my mouth (related to cotton mouth? who knows). I finally broke down and bought a tongue scraper because I was gagging every time I brushed my teeth. It sounds gross, but it's a magical invention. You can get one for like $7 on amazon. My altoid consumption has gone waaayyy down since I got it.
@starphish18 Yep. It comes and goes. It came on strong very early in my first pregnancy and it's been on and off since then. There are some stretches you can do that help a tiny amount. Once, I stood up off the couch and fell down because it hurt so much so quick.
ETA: ice also helps a bit. So does laying on a hard surface and putting a small hard ball (tennis ball) under the butt cheek that hurts.
@starphish18 I have but I've broken my tail bone before so I wasn't sure if it's related to that or pregnancy. I've always been worried that my lower back will give me problems during pregnancy
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Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
These work pants may kill me today. This momma needs to dig out her maternity pants because ughhh. I could have sworn it was way too early to feel this uncomfortable in regular pants! Really though I would make it another month before it was stretchy pants time.
WombThereItIs , I hear ya...I wear jeans nearly every day to work, but I've taken to using button extender things that I bought on Amazon. I can't bring myself to admit that I should be switching to maternity pants a solid 8 weeks earlier than my last pregnancy.
Guys....I have my first ultrasound this afternoon! There is no way I'm going to be able to work today. I'm so nervous. I'll probably be doing a lot of bumping in the meantime.
I'm also dreading any comments that will inevitably come if we have another boy. We'll likely be done after this baby, and I don't feel like I'll be 'missing out' if we have 2 boys. I think we'd be incredibly lucky to have 2 healthy kiddos of either sex, and am not afraid to snap that at anyone who says otherwise. When I was pregnant with my first, I had a few older men at work constantly tell me that I'd "better" have a boy for my husband...because we are royalty and only males can inherit our kingdom? I'm not quite sure the reasoning there.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@WombThereItIs, @Kipperoo - I am definitely with you. I have already busted out the my belly band on days when the baby bloat is especially bad. Any suggestions on good maternity work pants? I splurged on a couple pairs from Ann Taylor Loft last time, but they did not hold up well at all
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@kayemjay2 good luck today! I have my first appointment today since 6 weeks and I'm really hoping there's still a heartbeat. Also I hate those comments. Why are people so dumb?
kayemjay2 --Good luck today!! The nerves leading up to an appointment are always SO distracting. I've mentioned this before, but I, too, am dreading the comments if this babe turns out to be another boy. People are so weird and rude...there is nothing wrong with 2 boys. I keep telling people when they ask that I actually think another boy would be easier...secretly, I kind of want a girl, but I would be TOTALLY ok with another boy. This baby is the end of the line for us, so whatever it is, we will be happy with!
As far as work pants, I wear jeans to work every day, but had to dress up more with my last pregnancy. I liked my GAP khakis a lot--probably not as dressy as Ann Taylor, but I wore them with a nice shirt and heels and they always looked nice. They are soooo comfy, too. I can't wait to bust them out again. I missed them after I put them away last time. I've just placed an H&M maternity order with a couple of dressier pants--I'll let you know if anything works out/seems high quality there. :-)
Yes to the ligament pain, on laughing, standing up too fast, or after sitting for too long in one spot then standing, for sure. It's not so much a cramp as a sharp jab, like if you overextend your elbow and your bicep pulls too tight real fast. That's what it feels like to me, right down the side/middle of the pooch.
Yes to the feeling hungry and full at the same time! What is up with that?! I was so uncomfortably full after dinner last night, and I hadn't eaten a huge amount. Just.so.full! I internally yelled at myself "why did I just eat so much!" when in reality I hadn't at all. Thanks, belly, for messing with me, like, all the time.
@kayemjay2 I totally know what you are feeling! I think a lot of reasons I obsess over whether this baby is a girl or boy is because I feel so much pressure from DHs family. He has 2 brothers (plus one that died in infancy) and 2 sisters, and his brother has 4 girls. Both of his dad's brothers have all girls too, so the family is convinced the guys in his family can't have boys to carry on the surname (even though his dad had 4 boys). There are so many grandkids in the family, I feel like when/if we announce it is a girl then everyone will just kinda be like "yup haha another girl", whereas a boy would have everyone jumping up and down and cheering. It makes me feel so bad for the baby if it is a girl that she will get lost in the mix :-(. And BIL gives DH a hard time that he can't make boys, which is annoying (but I think that is really because BIL has always wanted a little girl and they have 3 boys).
"Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?...But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:26-27&33-34
@Kipperoo - I'll definitely have to look at Gap! I love the jeans I got there last pregnancy, but hadn't thought about work pants from them. I'm an attorney, so I definitely can't get away with jeans (jealous), but perhaps some dark trousers? I can dress those up. I've seem attorneys in court in flips flops, so it should be alright I've never actually purchased anything from H&M, but I've heard it's pretty good for the price. That might work out better this time around, since it will likely be my last time needing maternity pants.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@mamasmurf12 - I definitely understand that! My husband's family is the same way, but with boys! Everyone has boys, so I feel like, if we have another, he won't be as celebrated by the extended family as if he were a girl. My uncle and his husband recently adopted two boys, so everyone likes to joke that the family even marries and adopts only boys...haha!
As someone who grew up with only sisters, I can tell you that I absolutely loved it. Yeah, we fought (often), but now we are absolutely best friends. I know sibling bonds do not depend entirely upon biological sex, but I do like the idea of my little guy having a brother to grow up with
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@mamasmurf12 & @kayemjay2 I totally get where you are both coming from. My xh's family was all boys and we had a boy. It was like...yawn...so what. It was heartbreaking for me. My parents were thrilled because they only have 4 grandchildren and it had been 21 years since they had a second grandson. Fast forward 10 years and my fiance's family has 2 girls and 2 boys (if you count my son, which they do) so they will be thrilled with a girl or boy. My parents, on the other hand, have totally walked away from me because my fiance is 1/2 black. They will not be coming to the wedding or accepting this baby. My siblings and their families are great but my parents are awful!
JonesBaby0624, I'm so sorry--that sounds so frustrating and sad. At least you have supportive in-laws! I know that I shouldn't be, but I am still always surprised by racists actions. I'd love to believe that we are progressing as a society.
@kayemjay2 - I got all of my dress pants from Motherhood Maternity and Pea in the Pod. They held up well through both of my pregnancies and actual fit me better than regular pants.
@Kipperoo it is very hard but they are both in their 80's and grew up in a different south than I did. Obviously it wasn't passed on to me and it certainly hasn't been passed to my son.
Question for all the mommas out there: are the downs syndrome tests worth it? I'm low risk (apparently, due to age) and wouldn't make any decisions differently based on the outcome. Has anyone else opted out of the NIPT or NT scan?
Question for all the mommas out there: are the downs syndrome tests worth it? I'm low risk (apparently, due to age) and wouldn't make any decisions differently based on the outcome. Has anyone else opted out of the NIPT or NT scan?
@cclaineDC i can't tell you what to do and am not going to try. I can, however, speak from my own experience. My niece was born with Down syndrome and it was a total shock. They had forgone testing because she was a low risk momma due to age and they had the same argument (wouldn't have changed their decision about their baby). Obviously we love my niece and she's perfect the way she is! However everyone expressed their feelings about her diagnosis for the first few days in different ways. I think this was probably hard on her momma as the joy of her beautiful daughter's birth was a little sad for some family members. Based on that experience I would only ever find out before because I would like to set my expectations to where they should be and allow people their mourning period before the baby's birth to hopefully allow the birth itself to be the joyful experience it should be. Again, this is only my experience based on what happened in my family and it has shaped how I answer these questions for myself.
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The lady taking my blood asked me if I had any children. I told her I have one son. She said "well, lets hope this ones a girl so you can be done!". I told her "oh, I'm done either way". And she said "But don't you dream of planning your daughter's wedding?" What a bizarre interaction...if this IS a boy, I am not looking forward to 7 more months of "oh...so are you going to try again for a girl?".
@Kipperoo People, especially in the medical professional setting, that say that kind of things make me just want to crotch punch them. I mean seriously? If that happened to me, I probably would be like oh well in that case, I rather have another boy and be done, and his future wife's (unless he's gay) family can pay for the wedding. It sounds like the appointment went well otherwise??
And, pshaortao , I told her "well, hopefully it just means I get out of paying for it!"...yes! Aside from that, the appointment was fine! But I didn't get to see or hear the babe...that will have to wait until next week. Today was just signing papers with the NP and blood work, sadly. None of the fun stuff. :-)
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@starphish18 The skin stretching wasn't uncomfortable at all for me. Dry and itchy at times, but nothing some lotion couldn't fix. The weight of it toward the end is the uncomfortable part in my opinion.
@ShadeofGreen816 I understand social media being the most convenient way to announce. We moved a few times (as have many of our friends and family) and left a wake of relationships across the country. I know when we announce there will be friends and acquaintances that may take it hard. The ones we know of we will tell in advance. I will feel bad if I find out someone had a hard time with my announcement, but I cannot protect everyone.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
@germangirl6988 - I've had this a handful of times, particularly after hitting week 9. They have always come back eventually, even if mildly.
@ShadeofGreen816 - I think that you are okay posting. I know it can be hard to see those posts but like stated above, it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact that there is an announcement that isn't their own. That can be hard to take yet those announcements are so common that I don't think any of your friends would take it against you. Plus I agree that it is the best way to announce to family and friends far away who would like to know.
@Kipperoo - those kinds of comments are really annoying but there is always someone who will make them. I have one of each and it really bugs me when people ask if I have kids and when they find out I have a boy and girl, they immediately say, that's great that you're done or something to that effect. Like, why are we talking about my family planning?
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
DD: 6
DS: 2
DD: 6
DS: 2
Question - I didn't get this far with my last pregnancy so what do I expect today with the nurse visit? bloodwork? reviewing the u/s? something else? I hate not knowing what to expect.
@Abby7 I also have the horrible taste in my mouth (related to cotton mouth? who knows). I finally broke down and bought a tongue scraper because I was gagging every time I brushed my teeth. It sounds gross, but it's a magical invention. You can get one for like $7 on amazon. My altoid consumption has gone waaayyy down since I got it.
ETA: ice also helps a bit. So does laying on a hard surface and putting a small hard ball (tennis ball) under the butt cheek that hurts.
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I'm also dreading any comments that will inevitably come if we have another boy. We'll likely be done after this baby, and I don't feel like I'll be 'missing out' if we have 2 boys. I think we'd be incredibly lucky to have 2 healthy kiddos of either sex, and am not afraid to snap that at anyone who says otherwise. When I was pregnant with my first, I had a few older men at work constantly tell me that I'd "better" have a boy for my husband...because we are royalty and only males can inherit our kingdom? I'm not quite sure the reasoning there.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
DD: 6
DS: 2
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
As far as work pants, I wear jeans to work every day, but had to dress up more with my last pregnancy. I liked my GAP khakis a lot--probably not as dressy as Ann Taylor, but I wore them with a nice shirt and heels and they always looked nice. They are soooo comfy, too. I can't wait to bust them out again. I missed them after I put them away last time. I've just placed an H&M maternity order with a couple of dressier pants--I'll let you know if anything works out/seems high quality there. :-)
Yes to the feeling hungry and full at the same time! What is up with that?! I was so uncomfortably full after dinner last night, and I hadn't eaten a huge amount. Just.so.full! I internally yelled at myself "why did I just eat so much!" when in reality I hadn't at all. Thanks, belly, for messing with me, like, all the time.
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"Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?...But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:26-27&33-34
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
As someone who grew up with only sisters, I can tell you that I absolutely loved it. Yeah, we fought (often), but now we are absolutely best friends. I know sibling bonds do not depend entirely upon biological sex, but I do like the idea of my little guy having a brother to grow up with
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
EDD: 06/25/2006 M/C: 11/03/2005
EDD: 04/08/2012 M/C: 09/03/2011
EDD: 12/27/2012 Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
EDD: 12/07/2013 M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
EDD: 07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016
I am also experiencing food aversions! I just tried to avocado and it was horrible!
Last week, I attempted to eat a little bit of chocolate and almost passed out from the taste.
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EDD: 06/25/2006 M/C: 11/03/2005
EDD: 04/08/2012 M/C: 09/03/2011
EDD: 12/27/2012 Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
EDD: 12/07/2013 M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
EDD: 07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016
not going to try. I can, however, speak from my own experience. My niece was born with Down syndrome and it was a total shock. They had forgone testing because she was a low risk momma due to age and they had the same argument (wouldn't have changed their decision about their baby). Obviously we love my niece and she's perfect the way she is! However everyone expressed their feelings about her diagnosis for the first few days in different ways. I think this was probably hard on her momma as the joy of her beautiful daughter's birth was a little sad for some family members. Based on that experience I would only ever find out before because I would like to set my expectations to where they should be and allow people their mourning period before the baby's birth to hopefully allow the birth itself to be the joyful experience it should be. Again, this is only my experience based on what happened in my family and it has shaped how I answer these questions for myself.