@seitzy3 you can have my husband!! I'm ready to sell him to the highest bidder...or, I may pay someone to take him.
in all seriousness, though, I feel you. My husband is gone 4-5 days out of the week. It's tough! We're scheduling an induction to be sure he's home. Good luck to you!
Does anyone else feel like their personality/attitude has changed in pregnancy? I've noticed I'm alot more assertive, blunt and sassy, and I kind of love it. I've told off MIL a few times (not in a super mean or agressive way or about sensitive topics) and DH loves that I'm willing to tell it like it is with her.
@AnnaS930 Ughh! I am NOT looking forward to hearing other people's opinions on how to raise my child and/or trying to butt in when I'm taking care of my child. That is sooo annoying that she did that to you!
And I agree, due dates are definitely a guess date. On average, FTMs deliver 10 days after their due dates which is fine with me! Keep baking baby!
My goal today at work is to track down the person in charge of desk chairs and other eugonomic supports. I am currently sitting in my very uncomfortable chair with a blanket rolled up behind my back for more lumbar support. I am so uncomfortable at my desk!!
@PoodleDoodleOoo My personality definitely changes a bit during pregnancy. I am a sarcastic person in general but apparently I don't show it to those I don't know very well because they all say I come off as this super sweet, positive person. (This almost, kind of makes me laugh.) But when I'm pregnant, the sassiness comes out in full force. So maybe it's not that my personality changes but that my filter goes away. Like you, I kind of like it. But it went away after I had DD and I bet it'll go away again after this pregnancy. Oh well, I'll give back the sassiness if I can give back the pregnancy ditziness, too.
@Sbrown721 - Umm, yeah. I'm super easy to read.. and when I quickly pick up my screaming child and rush into another room, then try turning away from you and keep walking a few times - FIGURE IT OUT! First off.. I was the one who hurt him, I'm not interested in telling you the story of what happened while my child is screaming in my ear, you don't need to know that right now. Get out of my space. I was so irritated. Even if I wasn't the one to hurt him, me or my husband would be the best options to comfort him, not a grandmother that he sees every few months.
Everyone else just carried on quietly in the other room, letting us have our moment (and it only took him a minute to settle down). She just imposes on everything. EVERYTHING. And everything Emmett does, she has to relate it to my husband as a child. "OH! He's a good eater... just like his dad!" "OH! He has big feet.. just like his dad" to which I say "no.. his feet are pretty average for his age" and the response is "Matthew's were pretty normal too" .... seriously lady, a baby is not a clone, he's a mixture of 2 sets of genes that when combined different features are dominant/recessive, and every child is their own person.
I think that's the end of my rant.. but it was a LONG 2 days. There could be more.
@AnnaS930 Sorry about your MIL that she sounds like a witch.
@PoodleDoodleOoo I've definitely lost some of the ingrained filter for my forthright/sassiness. However unlike you, I do not have the pleasure of being able to lose it with my MIL. She's a kind woman but loves to be passive aggressive with her children and instead of asking them for support, believes they should be able to read her mind/know what she means, and so will wait until after whatever she thinks they should do should've been done, sends out nasty text messages or comments on the situation. I don't take this well, especially when I see how it affects DH, but OMG if you call her on it - yea, no. So out of respect to DH, and because she hasn't pulled it with me (yet) I bite my tongue. But boy has it been hard not to respond to some of her PA statements with some straight up sass/sarcasm.
Along the topics of MIL, my mom was speaking to my aunt this weekend, and she was talking about her son (who is in college) and how when he settles down with his wife, that's where they'll move too so they can be close and have a close relationship with them and their future children. My mom burst out laughing to her and was like, no offense but in my experience the family/closeness grows on the daughters side and wains for the sons. Which looking at our extended families that's definitely the case. My aunt was shocked and was all 'that won't happen with my son.' Yes, auntie it will, it will indeed.
@JennM205 One of my dogs was trying to share my pillow with me every night and the other dog was sleeping on my legs. Also, I didn't bring my pregnancy pillow because I didn't want it all dirty. I hope you sleep better than I did!
@AmMcc12 I hear you! I literally just grabbed a throw pillow off of one of the couches in the lounge area at work to put behind my back in my chair. I am feeling the pain again today for sure.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Don't you hate it when you eat good for lunch and 15m later you feel just as hungry as you did before you eat? No more time to go out now, vending machine here I come.
@mrsvoorhees Thank you! That's more or less what I was thinking, but I was getting caught up in the "what if she's right?" paranoia.
Woke up this morning to Baby B's butt sticking out in a lump right under my ribs where it always is and nothing feels different, so I'm going to just write her off.
@Sbrown721 I am totally with you on not looking forward to all of the unsolicited advice that I know is coming my way.
My mother LOVES to give "her way" of doing things whether I ask or not and I already know that my MIL has been biting her tongue. She's flat out told me that she is consciously trying to not over step. I'm a little worried as she's also a big fan of "cry it out" and keeps pushing that mentality.
@seitzy3 No words of advice, just wanted to echo the others in that I hope you find a solution for your husbands schedule or that the baby waits. My fiancé's work wanted to send him out of town for a training workshop trip 4 days after my EDD and thankfully they understood when he petitioned to have it rescheduled.
Random: Currently on a mini baby moon with my fiancé, the weather forecast was supposed to be beautiful and now it's rained for 2 straight days. The a/c fan on our car just stopped working. We booked at the Fairmount hotel and got a room upgrade (yay)...with a view of the parking lot (not the St. Laurence river liked we asked). The hotel had a power outage this morning (2 minutes after I exited the shower) and our room was pitch black. Fiancé was upset that if nearly happened while I was in shower. Hotel could only offer a limited breakfast due to electricity. Needless to say, not going quite the way we pictured, my fiancé is not too impressed but I'm trying to find the humor in the situation and just enjoy the couple days away!
Ugh, now my mom just said I look like I've gained 10 pounds in the last 2 days and asked if the babies had changed position.
I know I've had a growth spurt in over the last week or so (the difference between my 30 and 31 week bump pictures is obvious), but now I'm worried all over again about there's something going on. Babies still don't feel like they've dropped, so I guess they're just sitting differently or the growth spurt is continuing.
@JennM205 We went camping a few weeks ago and had a great time. We did bring an air mattress instead of just camp pads. And I found it useful to have TP and a trash bag with me at night for my multiple nighttime excursions. I tried walking to the restroom the first time I had to go (we were car camping in a tent), but... It was a little too long to wait for finding flashlight, flip flops, plus the short trek. !! Good luck and have fun!
@MojieJo - I adore you, so I'm going to be straight with you... you are overthinking all of this. I get comments on how high/low I'm carrying throughout the day to the point that you'd think this baby was in my boobs or down around my shins. People don't know what they're talking about. Especially with twins, your bump is going to look different from day to day, and even morning to night.. I carry HUGE at night compared to in the morning.
I know you've had a friend freak you out about babies "dropping" but try to push it out of your head. Those babies are packing on fat these days and I'm sure they're wrestling for some space and will sometimes have a butt sticking out or be more stretched out which will make a huge difference.
Breathe. Try not to think about it until your next appointment, and certainly bring it up then to get some insight from someone who actually knows what they're talking about!
I considered starting a thread for this to ask for people's opinion, but then opted not to on account of sounding too 'Dear Diary...' But I really want to know what people think is going on here:
My DH works with this chick that he had a fling with back in the day before I ever met him. We've obviously all moved on and she recently announced that she is expecting her first baby in November (Thanksgiving Day) and she's having a shotgun wedding in her backyard in 2 weeks. She's always been very dramatic about everything and I've always gotten a little bit of a sociopath vibe from her (I'm not just saying that to be catty; I genuinely think that she's a little crazy). Last week I decided I wanted to try to find her registry on TheBump. She hasn't announced her baby shower date yet but I figured it would be close to when our baby is due so I wanted to get a head start on trying to find a gift for her. So I typed her name into the search bar on TheBump and sure enough she created a registry! Ah great! Until I look at her due date...well that's strange...she lists her due date as September 15th, 2016...wait a minute. That's MY due date. She isn't due until Thanksgiving...wtf?! I told my husband and he is just as confused as I am and we can't figure out what the hell is going on. It's like some Lifetime movie. I wondered if she meant that her baby shower was Sept. 15th but it's a Thursday...that doesn't make sense.
I considered starting a thread for this to ask for people's opinion, but then opted not to on account of sounding too 'Dear Diary...' But I really want to know what people think is going on here:
My DH works with this chick that he had a fling with back in the day before I ever met him. We've obviously all moved on and she recently announced that she is expecting her first baby in November (Thanksgiving Day) and she's having a shotgun wedding in her backyard in 2 weeks. She's always been very dramatic about everything and I've always gotten a little bit of a sociopath vibe from her (I'm not just saying that to be catty; I genuinely think that she's a little crazy). Last week I decided I wanted to try to find her registry on TheBump. She hasn't announced her baby shower date yet but I figured it would be close to when our baby is due so I wanted to get a head start on trying to find a gift for her. So I typed her name into the search bar on TheBump and sure enough she created a registry! Ah great! Until I look at her due date...well that's strange...she lists her due date as September 15th, 2016...wait a minute. That's MY due date. She isn't due until Thanksgiving...wtf?! I told my husband and he is just as confused as I am and we can't figure out what the hell is going on. It's like some Lifetime movie. I wondered if she meant that her baby shower was Sept. 15th but it's a Thursday...that doesn't make sense.
@MojieJo - I'm glad you saw it that way.. I didn't want to come off as too harsh at all. I have multiple things that I dwell on (have you noticed my obsession over the amount my toddler eats and if he's gaining enough weight?!?) I need the friendly slap in the face.. often. I'm sure the growth scan will look good, hopefully that gives you the final push of reassurance to be able to ignore others' comments (though it might not, and it'll be bugging you in the back of your head for 2 more months until the boys really do drop and arrive... and that's ok too. We all have our thing.)
@Megan324 I will! I'd be really interested to see if there are any people in our Sept group that have a background in psychology and interpret what it means. My SIL is a clinical psychologist...maybe I'll give her a ring and see what her take is!
@MojieJo I read your posts and I honestly thought "ugh, why do people keep doing this to her?". I would be thinking all of the same and would be very anxious but I have an anxiety disorder and, even though it gets the best of me sometimes, I can typically tell when my anxiety is rational and when it's not (even when I can't get rid of it!). Good thing you have an appointment tomorrow so the doctor can reassure you everything is ok. Babies have probably changed positions and that's why it seems like the bump is different. My belly has looked a little like baby's dropped about three times and then it goes back. I guess she just likes to bring her knees to her chest sometimes. Just remember that having a human moving around in there is weird and two is even weirder!
Yesterday while eating lunch, DD made a comment about someone or something being a nut job. After probing a bit, I learned that she heard the term in one of the Minions movies and, of course, thinks it's hilarious. I explained to her that while, yes, it is funny, it's also not polite to actually call anyone that. But it was just so d*mn cute hearing her little voice say "nut job" over and over again! THEN, she had gotten food all over her shirt (beef from tacos) and thought it was hilarious to say "beef job, beef job, beef job!" And the rest of the day, she went around talking about beef jobs. LOL
Tuesday confession? Going on our hospital tour tonight. I really would just rather skip it. We had to get friends to babysit and then we'll have to rush home and do bedtime and all the nonsense of preparing for the next day. Just tell me where to park and where to go when I'm in labor. All of your hospital policies and whatever else, I honestly don't care about. Because when it comes down to L&D, I'm going to do what I want (within reason, of course).
@JennM205 - hahahaha! Your DD has me cracking up at my desk!
@PSUBecky23 - Agreed. Our hospital does tours on Sunday afternoons. Which means the kids would probably have to come with us. I don't want to drag two 6-year-olds to the hospital for a tour. The only reason I'm even considering going is that this is a new hospital for us. I know where the entrance is. That's about it.
@UnwrittenN12 also a new hospital which is the only reason we're going. And not allowed to bring children on it not that my three year old on a hospital tour would be a good idea.
@PSUBecky23 We're going to a new hospital too, and no kids allowed on the tour. They just canceled my Saturday tour (with 3 weeks notice). Still annoying because we had care for the 3yo lined up. Pretty sure we're just going to wing it now. I know what floor L&D is on, I figure they'll tell us where to go from there...
@annas930 No worries, it wasn't too harsh at all. I'm used to reality checks, too, since I have chronic anxiety issues, so I'm used to being told that I need to take a step back and look at things a little more rationally.
@alwaysauntnevermom I swear it's like a chain reaction sometimes! One person says something and it just...continues. It would be almost funny (since the people saying things didn't even hear anyone else say anything to me), except that it's so frustrating!
I have an anxiety disorder, too. I've actually been doing remarkably well with it during my pregnancy, but it still rears its ugly head more often than I'd like.
I'm looking forward to my appointment tomorrow since Baby B was transverse at my last appointment two weeks ago and I'm convinced he's back to being head down, but obviously I'm not a doctor/midwife and want to see if I'm right. That and I can't wait to see how much weight my little guys have packed on since my last growth scan a month ago.
I've yet to get bad news at my appointments (although I was anxious that I would for a long time), so I'm hoping it'll put my mind at ease.
Confession: Employer and I have yet to have the "maternity leave" talk. We will be having the full-blown conversation this week regarding what my maternity leave will entail, I need to inquire about how I am going to pump during work, I am going to push for 12 weeks maternity leave although I may end up with 8...Also, I will be switching to my husband's (yes, we did the "courthouse thing" on Friday and will have an official ceremony within the year ) insurance. It is WAY better insurance and may cover our midwifery care which means at least $5,000 back in our pockets! I need to talk to my employer about putting the money the company will be saving by having me off of their insurance and getting that money into my paycheck so I can afford husband's insurance. EEEEK! We are a small company and there hasn't been a pregnancy in a loooong time around here...any advice, questions, or points for me to be sure to touch on would be MUCH appreciated!
Re: July Randoms Thread
in all seriousness, though, I feel you. My husband is gone 4-5 days out of the week. It's tough! We're scheduling an induction to be sure he's home. Good luck to you!
eta: the Bump ate half my post.
And I agree, due dates are definitely a guess date. On average, FTMs deliver 10 days after their due dates which is fine with me! Keep baking baby!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Everyone else just carried on quietly in the other room, letting us have our moment (and it only took him a minute to settle down). She just imposes on everything. EVERYTHING. And everything Emmett does, she has to relate it to my husband as a child. "OH! He's a good eater... just like his dad!" "OH! He has big feet.. just like his dad" to which I say "no.. his feet are pretty average for his age" and the response is "Matthew's were pretty normal too" .... seriously lady, a baby is not a clone, he's a mixture of 2 sets of genes that when combined different features are dominant/recessive, and every child is their own person.
I think that's the end of my rant.. but it was a LONG 2 days. There could be more.
We went a few weeks ago. Fun but rough.
@PoodleDoodleOoo I've definitely lost some of the ingrained filter for my forthright/sassiness. However unlike you, I do not have the pleasure of being able to lose it with my MIL. She's a kind woman but loves to be passive aggressive with her children and instead of asking them for support, believes they should be able to read her mind/know what she means, and so will wait until after whatever she thinks they should do should've been done, sends out nasty text messages or comments on the situation. I don't take this well, especially when I see how it affects DH, but OMG if you call her on it - yea, no. So out of respect to DH, and because she hasn't pulled it with me (yet) I bite my tongue. But boy has it been hard not to respond to some of her PA statements with some straight up sass/sarcasm.
Along the topics of MIL, my mom was speaking to my aunt this weekend, and she was talking about her son (who is in college) and how when he settles down with his wife, that's where they'll move too so they can be close and have a close relationship with them and their future children. My mom burst out laughing to her and was like, no offense but in my experience the family/closeness grows on the daughters side and wains for the sons. Which looking at our extended families that's definitely the case. My aunt was shocked and was all 'that won't happen with my son.' Yes, auntie it will, it will indeed.
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Woke up this morning to Baby B's butt sticking out in a lump right under my ribs where it always is and nothing feels different, so I'm going to just write her off.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
My mother LOVES to give "her way" of doing things whether I ask or not and I already know that my MIL has been biting her tongue. She's flat out told me that she is consciously trying to not over step. I'm a little worried as she's also a big fan of "cry it out" and keeps pushing that mentality.
@seitzy3 No words of advice, just wanted to echo the others in that I hope you find a solution for your husbands schedule or that the baby waits. My fiancé's work wanted to send him out of town for a training workshop trip 4 days after my EDD and thankfully they understood when he petitioned to have it rescheduled.
Random: Currently on a mini baby moon with my fiancé, the weather forecast was supposed to be beautiful and now it's rained for 2 straight days. The a/c fan on our car just stopped working. We booked at the Fairmount hotel and got a room upgrade (yay)...with a view of the parking lot (not the St. Laurence river liked we asked). The hotel had a power outage this morning (2 minutes after I exited the shower) and our room was pitch black. Fiancé was upset that if nearly happened while I was in shower. Hotel could only offer a limited breakfast due to electricity. Needless to say, not going quite the way we pictured, my fiancé is not too impressed but I'm trying to find the humor in the situation and just enjoy the couple days away!
I know I've had a growth spurt in over the last week or so (the difference between my 30 and 31 week bump pictures is obvious), but now I'm worried all over again about there's something going on. Babies still don't feel like they've dropped, so I guess they're just sitting differently or the growth spurt is continuing.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
I know you've had a friend freak you out about babies "dropping" but try to push it out of your head. Those babies are packing on fat these days and I'm sure they're wrestling for some space and will sometimes have a butt sticking out or be more stretched out which will make a huge difference.
Breathe. Try not to think about it until your next appointment, and certainly bring it up then to get some insight from someone who actually knows what they're talking about!
My DH works with this chick that he had a fling with back in the day before I ever met him. We've obviously all moved on and she recently announced that she is expecting her first baby in November (Thanksgiving Day) and she's having a shotgun wedding in her backyard in 2 weeks. She's always been very dramatic about everything and I've always gotten a little bit of a sociopath vibe from her (I'm not just saying that to be catty; I genuinely think that she's a little crazy).
Last week I decided I wanted to try to find her registry on TheBump. She hasn't announced her baby shower date yet but I figured it would be close to when our baby is due so I wanted to get a head start on trying to find a gift for her. So I typed her name into the search bar on TheBump and sure enough she created a registry! Ah great! Until I look at her due date...well that's strange...she lists her due date as September 15th, 2016...wait a minute. That's MY due date. She isn't due until Thanksgiving...wtf?!
I told my husband and he is just as confused as I am and we can't figure out what the hell is going on. It's like some Lifetime movie. I wondered if she meant that her baby shower was Sept. 15th but it's a Thursday...that doesn't make sense.
What does it all meeeeeean?!
BFP: 12/29/15 EDD: 9/15/16!! Please be our miracle baby!
BFP: 12/29/15 EDD: 9/15/16!! Please be our miracle baby!
I'm under a lot of stress lately and letting myself get freaked out about things that I'd normally write off. You're right.
I actually see my OB tomorrow for a growth scan, so I'm sure that if there's cause for concern, I'll find out then, but I don't think there is.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
BFP: 12/29/15 EDD: 9/15/16!! Please be our miracle baby!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Yesterday while eating lunch, DD made a comment about someone or something being a nut job. After probing a bit, I learned that she heard the term in one of the Minions movies and, of course, thinks it's hilarious. I explained to her that while, yes, it is funny, it's also not polite to actually call anyone that. But it was just so d*mn cute hearing her little voice say "nut job" over and over again! THEN, she had gotten food all over her shirt (beef from tacos) and thought it was hilarious to say "beef job, beef job, beef job!" And the rest of the day, she went around talking about beef jobs. LOL
@PSUBecky23 - Agreed. Our hospital does tours on Sunday afternoons. Which means the kids would probably have to come with us. I don't want to drag two 6-year-olds to the hospital for a tour. The only reason I'm even considering going is that this is a new hospital for us. I know where the entrance is. That's about it.
@alwaysauntnevermom I swear it's like a chain reaction sometimes! One person says something and it just...continues. It would be almost funny (since the people saying things didn't even hear anyone else say anything to me), except that it's so frustrating!
I have an anxiety disorder, too. I've actually been doing remarkably well with it during my pregnancy, but it still rears its ugly head more often than I'd like.
I'm looking forward to my appointment tomorrow since Baby B was transverse at my last appointment two weeks ago and I'm convinced he's back to being head down, but obviously I'm not a doctor/midwife and want to see if I'm right. That and I can't wait to see how much weight my little guys have packed on since my last growth scan a month ago.
I've yet to get bad news at my appointments (although I was anxious that I would for a long time), so I'm hoping it'll put my mind at ease.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
CONGRATULATIONS ON BECOMING A MRS!!!! woop woop, woop woop!