Randoms 6/26

ashleaf2018

My birthday's in October and I don't know why, but it always bummed me out that I couldn't have a party in the summer. So I'm not sure if having the party at their half-birthday during the summer is a better option, since there's more you can do in the summer. If we do that it won't be until he's in school so we have a long time to think about it between now and then.

mysteryship

@ashleaf2018 My sister's birthday is a week before Christmas, and she wasn't crazy about it as a kid. But she would do her birthday party early so that her friends weren't gone for Christmas, and we made sure to give her gifts in birthday wrapping to keep it separate, and it worked out.

And her 2nd kid was born on 12/28, so his will be even closer to the holiday...

sourlemon

My brother was born Dec 30. My parents always separates xmas presents from birthday presents. He could "swap out" some dollar amount of xmas gifts for a bigger birthday gift but that didn't start until he was a teenager and wanted more expensive things.  The hardest thing I saw wasn't the gift issue but the party issue. He rarely had more than 1 or 2 people at his parties when I  (July baby) always had 5+. 

I plan on keeping things separate for this kiddo but it will be born at least 2 weeks before xmas (repeat c section). 

BabyRobbinsAdventure

Also a December baby here. My mom did a really good job of making them very separate celebrations. I had birthday cake, a party or sleepover, and presents early December (when friends were not busy doing holiday things) and it never bothered me that Christmas was right around the corner. My brother was born in August, so I was somewhat bummed that pool party was never an option like he would have.

Just make sure your little one feels like they get a day to celebrate without any emphasis on Christmas coming up.

dmontgo

Ahh the nursery dresser is done!! It's a dark gray, but had to lighten it up! The crib will be white. Lurv it!

ashleaf2018

Gone With the Wind is on! We named LO Rhett after Rhett Butler. I will be busy til just after midnight.

jandd2014

I was team green all the way and DH just kept saying, "whatever you want," but he still doesn't seem like he's excited about Baby and every time I try to talk about it, he says something like, "we don't even know what it is yet" and changes the subject. I know it takes some men longer to become excited since they aren't the ones really experiencing being pregnant, but I'm wondering now if finding out what we're having would help him become more excited sooner... anyone have any thoughts on this?

princesslockness

@jandd2014 H was really excited last time, but only after we knew we were having a boy. So far he doesn't seem to care. I think once we know and have our name picked out my H will perk up. Maybe weigh what is more important to you. Team green(his comments seem to imply this should be an option)vs SO being excited.

tinattt23

@jandd2014 I agree I think it's just harder for some men to get excited when nothing has really changed for them yet. FI says he excited, but seems pretty uninterested. I think it will be more real to them once we're big and they can feel baby kicking. That's my hope at least. 

dmontgo

@jandd2014 I'm sorry your DH isn't as excited as you'd like him to be! I'm sure that sends confusing messages. I don't have first hand experience with this, but a friend who lives in a different state told me that when she told her DH she was pregnant, he didn't say anything...just went to wash his hands and cry  (not tears of joy!).
But, like @Kate08Young mentioned, once he found our what the baby was, he started getting excited...now he loves being a dad and they have another due in October!

So I personally would lean towards finding out the sex, especially if this is your first baby. 

LinziLoo09

@jandd2014 I've been fortunate in that DH has always been more gungho about kids than I have, so he's always been excited and involved. His excitement does, however, ramp up once we determine the sex. We always have our names picked out before learning the sex, so it really becomes a little person then. I've had other friends whose DHs also primarily don't get excited until they know the sex. That said, I don't know your DH and can't tell whether he'd respond the same way at all. 

I agree with @Kate08Young in that you should weigh out what is more important to you in making this decision. 

sourlemon

@dmontgo is that a DaVinci? 

We got the DaVinci signature dresser. We really need a nursery thread to start showing off all of our nurseries! 

dmontgo

@sourlemon It is a DaVinci! It took some time to assemble, but it looks so good! Our crib is the Sundvik from Ikea, but we haven't received it in the mail yet. It's going to be white. ^_^

Lots of pieces still that we have to get, but the end product is going to be amazing!

sourlemon

@dmontgo those DaVinci dressers are such a pain to assemble! Not hard per se...but 7 million pieces! Our top came damaged so DH set it up except for the top and it took him 5 hours speed over 3 days! Last kiddo we got stuff from Costco and the dresser was 5 pieces: the big thing then 4 screw on feet haha. That was so nice!

dmontgo

@sourlemon I initially wanted to get a gorgeous gray dresser from The Land of Nod. It was $1,000 and solid, but we are moving in a year and I didn't want to risk damaging it. Since it will be the last state we plan to move to, we had planned on getting nice furniture once we get there anyway. So I saw this dresser for $400, and although it's not super solid, it will get the job done. And I won't be sad if something breaks when we move!

jandd2014

thanks for your comments, ladies. If my pregnant self could have a conversation without getting emotional and crying, then I think DH and could talk about it easier. I'm such a mess these days that as soon as he isn't excited, I get mad, and he gets frustrated, and I just cry and walk away... not good for productive conversations. I'm ok with finding out, just thought it would be fun not to. Our anatomy scan is in a couple weeks so I have time to get used to the idea of finding out and I do think once he knows and we pick a name, he will get more excited. 

tinattt23

@sourlemon How was you Costco furniture experience? I'm considering ordering our whole nursery set online. 

sourlemon

@tinattt23 we bought stuff from the store and got it home ourselves so we didn't deal with shipping. I'd say the quality is about the same as most other sets in that price range. The crib did get a dent on the rail when we moved but it's not bad. Assembly was easy. I really liked that the set we got came with everything...the toddler rail and full size conversion kits and the changing table piece that goes on the dresser. The set has held up well through moving and my two year. 

My parents have had costco furniture shipped to them and it had a broken piece. They had no problem at all getting it exchanged for a new one. 

HairBossMama

This Is our 2nd and my husband just now got excited when we found out it was a boy. He is constantly throwing names at me. Like this with the first baby too. But he wasn't really interested until my first was actually born.
Even then he loved him of course but it was also a big change of losing sleep/constant crying blah blah. They are best friends now. My son probably likes him more than me now! 

HairBossMama

Talking about furniture assembly, DH and I just put together our ikea bed together. 3 hours later... everyone is still alive

maamawaabangi

@ashleaf2018
My second has a Xmas eve birthday which in my oppinion is super tricky and probably the most annoying day to navigate... It's just a busy busy day! But he LOVES it and feels like all the festivities are about him. The last two years (he's 10) he opted to start his birthday on noon the 23rd and it ends noon the 24th. That way he gets his birthday dinner (we let our kids pick) and also a fun day the morning of Xmas eve (usually tubing or something). It then allows us to have regular Xmas eve traditions withot feeling like we're ignoring his special day. We've also given him options like celebrating a week before or after, but he likes it because he gets to feel like he opens more presents than his sibs and enjoying the general delight of the day. I use to worry about it, but at least with him it's not a big deal.

beff12

@ashleaf2018 my birthday is December 4 and I still had friends combine my Christmas and birthday presents! Haha it wasn't a big deal - they were just lazy I guess My brother's birthday is December 22 and like others said, my parents just made certain to have two very separate celebrations for him and presents were never combined. 

I was actually really jealous many years because family would come to town for Christmas and because of the dates, they would celebrate his birthday was us too...it took me a while to understand why people didn't make a several-hour trip for my birthday every year haha. 

Our due date is Christmas Eve. We have talked about a half birthday party in the summer, but my main plan is just to have a distinct birthday party and gifts that day for him/her. And to not let cheap family members cheat the kid out of two presents. 

jandd2014

My ex's little sister's birthday was Christmas day. They always had Christmas day stuff until dinner was over, then they switched to her bday and had a cake and separate presents that were birthday presents. I only knew them when she was little (turning 5) but even at that age, I think she understood that she shared her bday with a holiday, but part of the day was still about her being special

jenlynne0624

FYI with the davinci cribs, that's what we have and it scratches if you look at it. Especially when a teething baby gnaws on it after their nap and you didn't hear it on the monitor. We have to get a crib rail guard for this next kiddo. 

dmontgo

We went to a friend's house for dinner last night, and he had a fully-functioning Super Nintendo. So much nostalgia. I asked if I could play it, and I played Super Mario All-Stars just like when I was a kid. I wanted to cry because I was so happy. I'm now on the lookout for a SNES to replace the one lost in my childhood...

princesslockness

H, FIL, and I just took L shooting for the first time. He got to sit in the truck and cheer at the loud noises.

R0824H

I just fell asleep in the pool.....thank goodness its overcast or else I would be FRIED *climbs into tub of aloe vera*

sourlemon

I power washed my back patio. DH comes out to do the last few feet...and hit his arm?!? Idk how he would even hit his arm! Of course he's mentioned how horrible it is and blah blah blah 100 times since it happened an hour ago. He googled it so now he's like omg my arm is falling off. 

He's missing about a dime size amount of skin. It's not.that.bad! 

R0824H

@sourlemon typical!!! lol one scratch and their lives are over *eyeroll* haha

phoenix870509

@dmontgo Play N Trade. They sell retro games and systems. DH and I almost bought a Dreamcast there.

ashleaf2018

FI and I went out on the lake with my family, we both got burnt to crisps and I threw up twice. It was still a pretty good day though.

phoenix870509

A/C went out at my house...again. Changed out the filter and reset the unit like the A/C guy showed us how to do Nada. This unit is old. I think it's time for our landlord to replace it. I know she'll get someone out here to look at it fast though. When they tented for termites she called the company when we were allowed back in and interrogated the head guy to make sure it was safe for me to be in the house.

LinziLoo09

I'm starting to think that DD has a proclivity to cocktails. Last week at the beach she drank nearly all of the virgin pina coladas I had, and today she drank my whole virgin bloody mary (spicy mix and all). Start 'em young.

Kacie209

@ashleaf - birthdays, ugh! If I go until my due date, it'll be after our oldest nephews (5th) and then a cousin of DH's son (7th?)... we're due on the 12th. They all joke that we can have combined birthday parties and I'm like... nope!! Maybe after ours turns 5 or something, but for these younger ones... I want to do themes and have everything match the theme. I also want it to be their own, as they also have Christmas to complete with.

I grew up having a lot of combined birthday parties with my sister cos hers a week after mine. Did I mind it? Probably not. And, as we got older...we'd have our own friends parties and then do a family one together. I just don't want this kid starting off that way when these 2 other boys have had separate ones. So, I am hoping I go until at least the 12th to avoid any same day birthdays.

I can handle separating Christmas... as we already do with that with the one nephew. My birthday is 1.5 months after Christmas so whatever I didn't get for Christmas, I'd just ask for, for my birthday. We'll split stuff up. Or do that thing I saw online with "1 thing you need, want, wear, read" and that's it just for Christmas.

Kacie209

@dmontgo I have our SNES from when we were kids. It's in a tote in the garage, but I used to have it hooked up pre-living with DH. All-Starts was my favorite... and Mario Kart! DH was able to get a simulator on our laptop that we keep upstairs for just Super Mario World. I haven't played it on ages, but it's still fun. That dang 96*... *lol*

karmba

Groups of teenagers at the airport is making me question whether or not I'm crazy for having a baby.  Well, not really, but they are making me dread the teenage years.

whitneyp26

karmba said:

Groups of teenagers at the airport is making me question whether or not I'm crazy for having a baby.  Well, not really, but they are making me dread the teenage years.

Oh gosh I am just getting an idea of how NOT fun actual children are. My oldest is almost 8 and im
like... Well this sucks. I love them being little and can handle the neediness ... But once they start having opinions and wanting to have free will. Forget this mess. 

jandd2014

I just realized that I am actually signed up for disability insurance through work, so I can use some of that to get paid for more of my maternity leave! Yay!!

maamawaabangi

I realized today while "helping" a child put a fitted sheet on a top bunk bed that I am fairly sure it's exactly like what it would be like to put a onesie on a hippo! 
Anyone? 

zubenescamali

maamawaabangi said:

I realized today while "helping" a child put a fitted sheet on a top bunk bed that I am fairly sure it's exactly like what it would be like to put a onesie on a hippo! 
Anyone? 

Oh crap. We are going to have to get bunk beds for the girls before baby comes. I never even thought about the logistics of changing sheets and making her bed. How do you physically do it? Climb onto the top bunk? Try to reach up and around? This sounds like a lot of work...