So I needed to go get stamps, but while I was out I went to the new Dunkin Donuts drive thru by my house and got an iced latte... Then I went to Taco Bell and got a cheesy gordita crunch AND a crunch wrap supreme (even though I swore off of Taco Bell two years ago. Oops). Now I'm sitting in my driveway eating it all because Isla is asleep in her carseat and I don't want to wake the beast. I'll have to dispose of the evidence at the bottom of the trash can so MH doesn't judge me. Im filled with so much shame right now! But hey, at least I got the stamps I needed, right?
Edited to add that my elderly neighbor definitely just saw me bury the evidence under a bag of dirty diapers in the trash can. Hope she knows that snitches get stitches.
I finally caved and cut LO's nails because he scratched his face 2 more times!
I started off by cutting the tips then filing the rest so I can't get skin. Then I just feel to see if it's still sharp. It's the worse hack job I've ever done.
@tgortney I have to cut S's nails again... don't want to because like you I'm worried I'll end up getting her skin. However she managed to gouge herself on the top of her head so I know I have to.
@tgortney I have to cut S's nails again... don't want to because like you I'm worried I'll end up getting her skin. However she managed to gouge herself on the top of her head so I know I have to.
Lo will be a month on Thursday and she still spends about 98% of her awake time screaming. I see other people's young babies and they're able to do tummy time and independent time while the baby is awake. but not mine. It really makes me sad. Honestly, idk if it's just her personality to be so clingy and needy or if I've spoiled her already. I guess my confession is that I'm guilty of comparing my sweet baby to others and feel sad about her characteristics sometimes.
Since we came home from the hospital I've been leaving the baby home with my husband or my mom for a few hours every few days so I can get out of the house... I feel so guilty because so many moms say it took them like a year to feel comfortable leaving their baby at all. I can't stay locked up in the house all the time!
@1mae2016 my baby also spends a lot of her awake time screaming. She is 6 weeks now and it's starting to get better. It was really bad but it gets a little better every day. Hang in there!
Lo will be a month on Thursday and she still spends about 98% of her awake time screaming. I see other people's young babies and they're able to do tummy time and independent time while the baby is awake. but not mine. It really makes me sad. Honestly, idk if it's just her personality to be so clingy and needy or if I've spoiled her already. I guess my confession is that I'm guilty of comparing my sweet baby to others and feel sad about her characteristics sometimes.
You can't spoil a newborn! Love her up!! Mine is able to play on her May and do tummy time, but gawd forbid I leave her alone in the swing so I can pee. She just wails!!!
@1mae2016 My LO will be 7 weeks on Friday, and I feel like all she does is cry sometimes. Our routine goes like this -
Nap Wake from nap - Cry Change Diaper - Cry Prep to feed - Cry Finally put her on the boob - Happy for 10 minutes Poops herself while eating so go to change the diaper - Cry Walk back to feed - Cry Continue feeding - Happy Done eating so burp - Eh... 10 minutes of looking into space - At least she's quiet Attempt to put in swing - Cry Attempt to rock - Cry Attempt to do just sit and cuddle - Cry Tummy Time - tolerates for about 5 minutes then Cry Admittedly rock to sleep for nap - Semi-cry, semi-sleep, until she finally passes out Repeat
I admit, I compare my LO to others on here, but I remind myself we all have our own share of issues. I'm jealous of those that have LOs that will just cuddle and lay on their chest and relax. I feel like mine has to constantly be rocked, I can't just sit still and hold her.
@1mae2016 My LO will be 7 weeks on Friday, and I feel like all she does is cry sometimes. Our routine goes like this -
Nap Wake from nap - Cry Change Diaper - Cry Prep to feed - Cry Finally put her on the boob - Happy for 10 minutes Poops herself while eating so go to change the diaper - Cry Walk back to feed - Cry Continue feeding - Happy Done eating so burp - Eh... 10 minutes of looking into space - At least she's quiet Attempt to put in swing - Cry Attempt to rock - Cry Attempt to do just sit and cuddle - Cry Tummy Time - tolerates for about 5 minutes then Cry Admittedly rock to sleep for nap - Semi-cry, semi-sleep, until she finally passes out Repeat
I admit, I compare my LO to others on here, but I remind myself we all have our own share of issues. I'm jealous of those that have LOs that will just cuddle and lay on their chest and relax. I feel like mine has to constantly be rocked, I can't just sit still and hold her.
God forbid she fall asleep in my arms and I stop moving. When we sleep at night I can be still, but not during the day. She's slightly high maintenance. Ha!
Since we came home from the hospital I've been leaving the baby home with my husband or my mom for a few hours every few days so I can get out of the house... I feel so guilty because so many moms say it took them like a year to feel comfortable leaving their baby at all. I can't stay locked up in the house all the time!
I've been like this with both babies as well, it's my sanity saver. I first spent a night away from my baby when he was 3 months old, had zero problem leaving him on his first day of daycare, went on a 10 day trip with my bestie last summer when he was maybe 20 months old and it was an absolute delight. I completely adore my kids but they wear me out and I do a better job parenting when I have my own shit going on from time to time. I mostly don't feel guilty about it either, but occasionally when I hear other moms talking about how hard it is to leave their kids I think, am I crazy? Or are they? But probably it's just a personality & temperament thing.
Since we came home from the hospital I've been leaving the baby home with my husband or my mom for a few hours every few days so I can get out of the house... I feel so guilty because so many moms say it took them like a year to feel comfortable leaving their baby at all. I can't stay locked up in the house all the time!
I've been like this with both babies as well, it's my sanity saver. I first spent a night away from my baby when he was 3 months old, had zero problem leaving him on his first day of daycare, went on a 10 day trip with my bestie last summer when he was maybe 20 months old and it was an absolute delight. I completely adore my kids but they wear me out and I do a better job parenting when I have my own shit going on from time to time. I mostly don't feel guilty about it either, but occasionally when I hear other moms talking about how hard it is to leave their kids I think, am I crazy? Or are they? But probably it's just a personality & temperament thing.
My mom used to occasionally go on these really cool trips to like Florida or New York City by herself. I remember really missing her but also really enjoying imagining her in different places. My brothers and I would keep a journal of what we were doing and how we felt while she was gone and give it to her when she came back. I think it made us a better family.
@1mae2016 My LO will be 7 weeks on Friday, and I feel like all she does is cry sometimes. Our routine goes like this -
Nap Wake from nap - Cry Change Diaper - Cry Prep to feed - Cry Finally put her on the boob - Happy for 10 minutes Poops herself while eating so go to change the diaper - Cry Walk back to feed - Cry Continue feeding - Happy Done eating so burp - Eh... 10 minutes of looking into space - At least she's quiet Attempt to put in swing - Cry Attempt to rock - Cry Attempt to do just sit and cuddle - Cry Tummy Time - tolerates for about 5 minutes then Cry Admittedly rock to sleep for nap - Semi-cry, semi-sleep, until she finally passes out Repeat
I admit, I compare my LO to others on here, but I remind myself we all have our own share of issues. I'm jealous of those that have LOs that will just cuddle and lay on their chest and relax. I feel like mine has to constantly be rocked, I can't just sit still and hold her.
This Sounds familiar… The first couple weeks he wasn't like this, but the last two weeks, it's been a lot of crying while he's awake Mine likes to be "walked and jiggled." I wish when he was awake we could sit down together, but no.
I intentionally stayed in the bathroom longer because I heard Munchkin wake up early from her nap and wanted DH to take care of her since I've been on day and night duty for the last 3 days by myself even though he's been home. Did I feel bad hearing Munchkin cry- yes, because I knew she just startled herself and wanted to go back to sleep.
Part of me enjoyed hearing DH try to figure out what she wanted though; especially when I heard him try to enter the main part of our bathroom with her to see if I was free...
Lo will be a month on Thursday and she still spends about 98% of her awake time screaming. I see other people's young babies and they're able to do tummy time and independent time while the baby is awake. but not mine. It really makes me sad. Honestly, idk if it's just her personality to be so clingy and needy or if I've spoiled her already. I guess my confession is that I'm guilty of comparing my sweet baby to others and feel sad about her characteristics sometimes.
*****stuck in the box******
DD1 was a really high maintenance baby and just turned into a high maintenance toddler. It's obvious now that it was just her personality. DD2 is super laid back, thank goodness! I can't have 2 high maintenance kids at the same time..
Lo will be a month on Thursday and she still spends about 98% of her awake time screaming. I see other people's young babies and they're able to do tummy time and independent time while the baby is awake. but not mine. It really makes me sad. Honestly, idk if it's just her personality to be so clingy and needy or if I've spoiled her already. I guess my confession is that I'm guilty of comparing my sweet baby to others and feel sad about her characteristics sometimes.
*****stuck in the box******
DD1 was a really high maintenance baby and just turned into a high maintenance toddler. It's obvious now that it was just her personality. DD2 is super laid back, thank goodness! I can't have 2 high maintenance kids at the same time..
Yep.... Same with my DD. The firey ones are feisty from a young age apparently. It's fascinating to be able to make sense of newborn behaviors 2 years down the road. My daughter STILL wants to be held and walked around when she's in a bad mood.
@Jparke2 I love that I am not the only one who hides the evidence!! LOL!!! I have a friend who says... "If you ate it in the car, it didn't happen" HAHA!
I don't really mind having my baby sleep on her side or belly during the night. I just want her to be comfortable enough to stay asleep instead of waking up after 10 minutes. All of my girls preferred side or belly over back and hated being tightly swaddled.
Lurking from July
I don't want to over step or be judgemental but this could potentially be putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS. There are a lot of studies that support this theory, even though they haven't pin pointed an exact cause. You may want to ask your doctor or do some further research of your own. Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending or rude- sometimes there's just so many do's and don'ts that it gets confusing for all of us and hard to keep track of!
@Jparke2 I love that I am not the only one who hides the evidence!! LOL!!! I have a friend who says... "If you ate it in the car, it didn't happen" HAHA!
I love this!!! That's going to be my motto from now on
I have never in my life wanted everything to have a drive thru like when I became a mom. Suddenly my perspective changed. With each baby the wishing became more real.
Why can't the summer fruit stand have a drive thru? Grocery store? My favorite Mexican restaurant? The children's place clothing store, gap, and carter's? Book stores, even the library? The inside of the gas station? Wal-mart? I need everywhere to just have a drive thru now.
Amazon has definitely benefited from when I became a mom.
Lo will be a month on Thursday and she still spends about 98% of her awake time screaming. I see other people's young babies and they're able to do tummy time and independent time while the baby is awake. but not mine. It really makes me sad. Honestly, idk if it's just her personality to be so clingy and needy or if I've spoiled her already. I guess my confession is that I'm guilty of comparing my sweet baby to others and feel sad about her characteristics sometimes.
*****stuck in the box******
DD1 was a really high maintenance baby and just turned into a high maintenance toddler. It's obvious now that it was just her personality. DD2 is super laid back, thank goodness! I can't have 2 high maintenance kids at the same time..
Yep.... Same with my DD. The firey ones are feisty from a young age apparently. It's fascinating to be able to make sense of newborn behaviors 2 years down the road. My daughter STILL wants to be held and walked around when she's in a bad mood.
DS1 too! I just had to walk and bounce him yesterday when he woke up startled at naptime yesterday. Thankfully, he doesn't require that level of soothing daily anymore.
I have never in my life wanted everything to have a drive thru like when I became a mom. Suddenly my perspective changed. With each baby the wishing became more real.
Why can't the summer fruit stand have a drive thru? Grocery store? My favorite Mexican restaurant? The children's place clothing store, gap, and carter's? Book stores, even the library? The inside of the gas station? Wal-mart? I need everywhere to just have a drive thru now.
Amazon has definitely benefited from when I became a mom.
100% this! My town doesn't allow drive thru's so there have been some days I'll drive to the next over in order to use the drive thru at Dunkin donuts
@camillaandcarson and @kbrands7 I was thinking these exact things as I was walking with DD the other day. EVERYWHERE needs a drive thru. "Hi, can I please have your largest container of oxyclean, the biggest sandwich you can make, some jalapeño chips because @camillaandcarson made me, a bottle of wine...or 10, 5 new clean outfits for my child who can't stop spitting up the past few days, some gas for the car, and some sanity? Sure...I'll pull up to the second window".
I don't really mind having my baby sleep on her side or belly during the night. I just want her to be comfortable enough to stay asleep instead of waking up after 10 minutes. All of my girls preferred side or belly over back and hated being tightly swaddled.
Lurking from July
I don't want to over step or be judgemental but this could potentially be putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS. There are a lot of studies that support this theory, even though they haven't pin pointed an exact cause. You may want to ask your doctor or do some further research of your own. Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending or rude- sometimes there's just so many do's and don'ts that it gets confusing for all of us and hard to keep track of!
Guessing you haven't had your baby yet? Considering this is her confession, I'm pretty sure she knows about the research and it's not her first rodeo.
What you find about all of these do's and don'ts is that they sometimes conflict with each other. Then you find yourself as a parent taking a calculated risk, having to weigh the research and make your own decision. I personally keep my mouth shut unless it's about car seat safety. Or, you know, if someone is actually asking for opinions.
Since we came home from the hospital I've been leaving the baby home with my husband or my mom for a few hours every few days so I can get out of the house... I feel so guilty because so many moms say it took them like a year to feel comfortable leaving their baby at all. I can't stay locked up in the house all the time!
Are you me? I went to get my hair and nails done at 4 weeks PP, and for Sushi dinner with a friend at (gasp!) 3 weeks PP.... DH and I have an agreement to give each other a half day off per week for me-time. It makes a huge difference and we each come back refreshed to our parenting duties.
Don't feel guilty, mama! I see so many moms saying that they're home alone with the baby while their SO is out and about having fun like it's the most normal thing. The way I see it, both mom and dad are halfway responsible for making baby, so they get to share parenting responsibilities halfway too.
Count me in for thinking my baby looks funny...I keep seeing Vincini (sp?) from Princess Bride. "Inconcievable!" And she's a girl. She's not ugly at all and does have her super cute moments and expressions but I'll definitely admit she isn't the prettiest baby In the universe. I'm kind if glad I can admit that and I'm not one of those blind moms!
I tried cutting her nails in week 2 or 3 and clipped her finger on the first try. I cried for half an hour (at least) out of horror and guilt and still get upset thinking about it. She just has to live with Velociraptor claws for a while. Not trying that again any time soon.
My big confession is that I am REALLY looking forward to her starting daycare in a few weeks. So far DH and I have been "rotating" our schedules around each other. Which really means I have her by myself on nights and days that he works (he does 3-4 12hr shifts a week)" on varying days) and we share her the rest of the time. I own my own business and do a good amount from home, so my flexible schedule means I don't really get dedicated time to actually work like he does, unless I have an actual client appointment to go to. It's near impossible to get any good amount of computer work done with her so awake and fussy or screaming most of the time. I'm really getting behind. Daycare is like the light at the end of the tunnel. I can drop her off, then spend the day getting real work done, catching a nap or two if she kept me up that night, get chores (our house is a disaster!) or grocery shopping done...and even catch a movie or sexy time with DH when we have a weekday off together. Man, I miss the movies...
I don't really mind having my baby sleep on her side or belly during the night. I just want her to be comfortable enough to stay asleep instead of waking up after 10 minutes. All of my girls preferred side or belly over back and hated being tightly swaddled.
Lurking from July
I don't want to over step or be judgemental but this could potentially be putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS. There are a lot of studies that support this theory, even though they haven't pin pointed an exact cause. You may want to ask your doctor or do some further research of your own. Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending or rude- sometimes there's just so many do's and don'ts that it gets confusing for all of us and hard to keep track of!
@PinkLady2015 I've actually tried to research to find out how much the risk of SIDS changes based on sleep position but haven't been able to find any hard numbers, just vague qualitative statements that back sleeping has the lowest or a up to a % reduction which has no real meaning without an initial risk numbers (a 50% reduction of 1/1000 is a lot more than 1/1000000 for example).
With each of my kids (this is my third) I've always tried to lay them on their back first but they would always wake themselves up within 30 minutes, then I would try the side, and sometimes it ends up being the belly. I did also tried swaddling with each but that would always just end up as a scream fest within the first few weeks.
So I've always had to balance the "back is best" vs making sure LO gets the right amount of sleep so she can grow and develop properly without being held the entire time (bad for my sanity). Just don't want you to think I'm just completely ignoring the guidance but I've had to adapt to what my kids will tolerate.
Every time I see a pregnant lady now, all I think is "you have no ideaaaaa!!!" ...unless she has another kid with her, then I think "you're better at this than I am."
and ive totally dropped my phone on her head
And I have a work trip at the end of July and have nearly zero qualms about going. I leave DH with her for hours every weekend and "vacation" at target lol.
Another sleeping position related one: there have been a couple of nights I've let LO sleep on the boppy. He is obviously so much more comfortable on it than in his crib or RNP and even though I know it's wrong I've let it happen so I can get a few decent stretches of sleep. bad mom alert
My DH sings songs for LO. Sometimes a swear word gets in there (in a cute way, he's not swearing at baby - he talks about cute effing toes etc). My confession is that I don't really care all that much...
@slfezz Our pediatrician told us that sleeping on the back is one of the few recommendations they make that isn't based on a scientific study, but on observations from firemen that visited homes on 911 calls. Apparently they noticed that almost all of SIDS cases involved kids sleeping on their stomachs or sides, and put that together with the significantly increased number of SIDS cases in the US versus other countries, where it's not common practice for babies to sleep in any position other than their backs.
Not telling you what to do either way, just passing on what I heard. And I think t makes sense that this would be something that they wouldn't want to do a controlled study on.
I don't really mind having my baby sleep on her side or belly during the night. I just want her to be comfortable enough to stay asleep instead of waking up after 10 minutes. All of my girls preferred side or belly over back and hated being tightly swaddled.
Lurking from July
I don't want to over step or be judgemental but this could potentially be putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS. There are a lot of studies that support this theory, even though they haven't pin pointed an exact cause. You may want to ask your doctor or do some further research of your own. Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending or rude- sometimes there's just so many do's and don'ts that it gets confusing for all of us and hard to keep track of!
@PinkLady2015 I've actually tried to research to find out how much the risk of SIDS changes based on sleep position but haven't been able to find any hard numbers, just vague qualitative statements that back sleeping has the lowest or a up to a % reduction which has no real meaning without an initial risk numbers (a 50% reduction of 1/1000 is a lot more than 1/1000000 for example).
With each of my kids (this is my third) I've always tried to lay them on their back first but they would always wake themselves up within 30 minutes, then I would try the side, and sometimes it ends up being the belly. I did also tried swaddling with each but that would always just end up as a scream fest within the first few weeks.
So I've always had to balance the "back is best" vs making sure LO gets the right amount of sleep so she can grow and develop properly without being held the entire time (bad for my sanity). Just don't want you to think I'm just completely ignoring the guidance but I've had to adapt to what my kids will tolerate.
I just wanted to pop back over and apologize for my initial post..... FTM here and being induced next week. I was definitely being a judgy mcjudgerson so sorry to May moms...
Here's a cat getting a brain freeze as a peace offering...
Re: Mom Confessions
Edited to add that my elderly neighbor definitely just saw me bury the evidence under a bag of dirty diapers in the trash can. Hope she knows that snitches get stitches.
Gif game strong
I started off by cutting the tips then filing the rest so I can't get skin. Then I just feel to see if it's still sharp. It's the worse hack job I've ever done.
Welcome to mom's ratchet nail salon
Nap
Wake from nap - Cry
Change Diaper - Cry
Prep to feed - Cry
Finally put her on the boob - Happy for 10 minutes
Poops herself while eating so go to change the diaper - Cry
Walk back to feed - Cry
Continue feeding - Happy
Done eating so burp - Eh...
10 minutes of looking into space - At least she's quiet
Attempt to put in swing - Cry
Attempt to rock - Cry
Attempt to do just sit and cuddle - Cry
Tummy Time - tolerates for about 5 minutes then Cry
Admittedly rock to sleep for nap - Semi-cry, semi-sleep, until she finally passes out
Repeat
I admit, I compare my LO to others on here, but I remind myself we all have our own share of issues. I'm jealous of those that have LOs that will just cuddle and lay on their chest and relax. I feel like mine has to constantly be rocked, I can't just sit still and hold her.
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Part of me enjoyed hearing DH try to figure out what she wanted though; especially when I heard him try to enter the main part of our bathroom with her to see if I was free...
Nothing like enabling myself.
I don't want to over step or be judgemental but this could potentially be putting your baby at a higher risk for SIDS. There are a lot of studies that support this theory, even though they haven't pin pointed an exact cause. You may want to ask your doctor or do some further research of your own. Hopefully this doesn't come across as condescending or rude- sometimes there's just so many do's and don'ts that it gets confusing for all of us and hard to keep track of!
Why can't the summer fruit stand have a drive thru? Grocery store? My favorite Mexican restaurant? The children's place clothing store, gap, and carter's? Book stores, even the library? The inside of the gas station? Wal-mart? I need everywhere to just have a drive thru now.
Amazon has definitely benefited from when I became a mom.
drive thru. "Hi, can I please have your largest container of oxyclean, the biggest sandwich you can make, some jalapeño chips because @camillaandcarson made me, a bottle of wine...or 10, 5 new clean outfits for my child who can't stop spitting up the past few days, some gas for the car, and some sanity? Sure...I'll pull up to the second window".
What you find about all of these do's and don'ts is that they sometimes conflict with each other. Then you find yourself as a parent taking a calculated risk, having to weigh the research and make your own decision. I personally keep my mouth shut unless it's about car seat safety. Or, you know, if someone is actually asking for opinions.
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I went to get my hair and nails done at 4 weeks PP, and for Sushi dinner with a friend at (gasp!) 3 weeks PP.... DH and I have an agreement to give each other a half day off per week for me-time. It makes a huge difference and we each come back refreshed to our parenting duties.
Don't feel guilty, mama! I see so many moms saying that they're home alone with the baby while their SO is out and about having fun like it's the most normal thing. The way I see it, both mom and dad are halfway responsible for making baby, so they get to share parenting responsibilities halfway too.
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I tried cutting her nails in week 2 or 3 and clipped her finger on the first try. I cried for half an hour (at least) out of horror and guilt and still get upset thinking about it. She just has to live with Velociraptor claws for a while. Not trying that again any time soon.
My big confession is that I am REALLY looking forward to her starting daycare in a few weeks. So far DH and I have been "rotating" our schedules around each other. Which really means I have her by myself on nights and days that he works (he does 3-4 12hr shifts a week)" on varying days) and we share her the rest of the time. I own my own business and do a good amount from home, so my flexible schedule means I don't really get dedicated time to actually work like he does, unless I have an actual client appointment to go to. It's near impossible to get any good amount of computer work done with her so awake and fussy or screaming most of the time. I'm really getting behind. Daycare is like the light at the end of the tunnel. I can drop her off, then spend the day getting real work done, catching a nap or two if she kept me up that night, get chores (our house is a disaster!) or grocery shopping done...and even catch a movie or sexy time with DH when we have a weekday off together. Man, I miss the movies...
With each of my kids (this is my third) I've always tried to lay them on their back first but they would always wake themselves up within 30 minutes, then I would try the side, and sometimes it ends up being the belly. I did also tried swaddling with each but that would always just end up as a scream fest within the first few weeks.
So I've always had to balance the "back is best" vs making sure LO gets the right amount of sleep so she can grow and develop properly without being held the entire time (bad for my sanity). Just don't want you to think I'm just completely ignoring the guidance but I've had to adapt to what my kids will tolerate.
and ive totally dropped my phone on her head
And I have a work trip at the end of July and have nearly zero qualms about going. I leave DH with her for hours every weekend and "vacation" at target lol.
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Not telling you what to do either way, just passing on what I heard. And I think t makes sense that this would be something that they wouldn't want to do a controlled study on.
I just wanted to pop back over and apologize for my initial post..... FTM here and being induced next week. I was definitely being a judgy mcjudgerson so sorry to May moms...
Here's a cat getting a brain freeze as a peace offering...