UO Thursday

blissylissy86

share those unpopular opinions! 

LadyFleck

I just wait for Lindsey to redirect the speshuls now. I can't even bother to summon the energy. Have at it @backbypopulardemand! lol

allthingscozy

Maybe it's because I got like 3 hours of sleep but my UO is having to redirect those threads that have been discussed ad nauseum. 

Or the assumption that I do it the most seeing that I haven't actually done this in awhile. Again exhausted feeling like crap and today give no flying Effs 

LadyFleck

Backbypopulardemand said:

Maybe it's because I got like 3 hours of sleep but my UO is having to redirect those threads that have been discussed ad nauseum. 

Or the assumption that I do it the most seeing that I haven't actually done this in awhile. Again exhausted feeling like crap and today give no flying Effs 

Nooooooo! You do it the BEST! Not the most, silly!

God I wish we all had our energy back. I feel like a winded old bag. Seems like that is a consensus around here nowadays.

nikkimarie159

my UO is I think its weird for people to breastfeed their toddler.. I understand its natural and whatnot and kudos to you for keeping up with it for so long, but I think its creepy having your three year old sucking on your tatas.  

Weville

I think feeding your child is never creepy

thepen15ismighty

The further I get into pregnancy the more I can't stand people or find people annoying.

LDSJM123

nikkimarie159 said:

my UO is I think its weird for people to breastfeed their toddler.. I understand its natural and whatnot and kudos to you for keeping up with it for so long, but I think its creepy having your three year old sucking on your tatas.  

Extended breastfeeding is no more "creepy" than nursing an infant. It's not sucking on your "tatas" it's nourishing and sustaining your child, you know, what "tatas" are on our body for. The United States (culture) compared to other countries (culture) is the only place that doesn't fully support extended breast feeding. By comparison, and it's quite sad really. Every reputable source will tell you that extended breastfeeding has a laundry list of benefits. Verbage like creepy, isn't going to help change the stigma. 

Breastfeeding your child past infancy is NORMAL

• The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that “Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child… Increased duration of breastfeeding confers significant health and developmental benefits for the child and the mother… There is no upper limit to the duration of breastfeeding and no evidence of psychologic or developmental harm from breastfeeding into the third year of life or longer.” (AAP 2012, AAP 2005)

• The American Academy of Family Physiciansrecommends that breastfeeding continue throughout the first year of life and that “As recommended by the WHO, breastfeeding should ideally continue beyond infancy, but this is not the cultural norm in the United States and requires ongoing support and encouragement. It has been estimated that a natural weaning age for humans is between two and seven years. Family physicians should be knowledgeable regarding the ongoing benefits to the child of extended breastfeeding, including continued immune protection, better social adjustment, and having a sustainable food source in times of emergency. The longer women breastfeed, the greater the decrease in their risk of breast cancer.” They also note that “If the child is younger than two years of age, the child is at increased risk of illness if weaned.” (AAFP 2008)

HenchBytch

thepen15ismighty said:

The further I get into pregnancy the more I can't stand people or find people annoying.

THIS. I am tired of having the same damn conversation multiple times a day. I seriously need one of those shirts that has all of the answers to the stupid questions people keep asking.

ETA: Like this..

benten24

HenchBytch said:

thepen15ismighty said:

The further I get into pregnancy the more I can't stand people or find people annoying.

THIS. I am tired of having the same damn conversation multiple times a day. I seriously need one of those shirts that has all of the answers to the stupid questions people keep asking.

ETA: Like this..

I needed this shirt so badly at the nail salon the other day when I was bombarded with crazy questions. 

megstervt

I wish the symptoms thread was weekly instead of monthly

nikkimarie159

LDSJM123 said:

nikkimarie159 said:

my UO is I think its weird for people to breastfeed their toddler.. I understand its natural and whatnot and kudos to you for keeping up with it for so long, but I think its creepy having your three year old sucking on your tatas.  

Extended breastfeeding is no more "creepy" than nursing an infant. It's not sucking on your "tatas" it's nourishing and sustaining your child, you know, what "tatas" are on our body for. The United States (culture) compared to other countries (culture) is the only place that doesn't fully support extended breast feeding. By comparison, and it's quite sad really. Every reputable source will tell you that extended breastfeeding has a laundry list of benefits. Verbage like creepy, isn't going to help change the stigma. 

Breastfeeding your child past infancy is NORMAL

• The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that “Breastfeeding should be continued for at least the first year of life and beyond for as long as mutually desired by mother and child… Increased duration of breastfeeding confers significant health and developmental benefits for the child and the mother… There is no upper limit to the duration of breastfeeding and no evidence of psychologic or developmental harm from breastfeeding into the third year of life or longer.” (AAP 2012, AAP 2005)

• The American Academy of Family Physiciansrecommends that breastfeeding continue throughout the first year of life and that “As recommended by the WHO, breastfeeding should ideally continue beyond infancy, but this is not the cultural norm in the United States and requires ongoing support and encouragement. It has been estimated that a natural weaning age for humans is between two and seven years. Family physicians should be knowledgeable regarding the ongoing benefits to the child of extended breastfeeding, including continued immune protection, better social adjustment, and having a sustainable food source in times of emergency. The longer women breastfeed, the greater the decrease in their risk of breast cancer.” They also note that “If the child is younger than two years of age, the child is at increased risk of illness if weaned.” (AAFP 2008)

I understand that that they're supposed to nourish and sustain a child, and I should have used a different adjective to describe it, so I apologize. But, I guess that's what makes this an unpopular opinion! 

Edit: because the bump ate my post. 

LF93

I read an article online yesterday about a woman who quit her job in order to breastfeed her boyfriend every two hours. Bare in mind, she doesn't actually lactate and 90% of the time it leads to sex between them. Each to their own when it comes to deciding how long to breastfeed for but that to me is just too weird.

Edit to add link: https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/1242796/i-breastfeed-my-boyfriend-mum-36-uses-pumps-and-pills-to-help-her-feed-her-gym-buff-lover-every-two-hours/

mamafox14

thepen15ismighty said:

The further I get into pregnancy the more I can't stand people or find people annoying.

Yes. Beyond fucking over it. I have no desire to deal with anyone, they are all just awful. 

HenchBytch

LF93 said:

I read an article online yesterday about a woman who quit her job in order to breastfeed her boyfriend every two hours. Bare in mind, she doesn't actually lactate and 90% of the time it leads to sex between them. Each to their own when it comes to deciding how long to breastfeed for but that to me is just too weird.

Edit to add link: https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/1242796/i-breastfeed-my-boyfriend-mum-36-uses-pumps-and-pills-to-help-her-feed-her-gym-buff-lover-every-two-hours/

Well, that's a new level of kink.

Nerdchild

On the extended breastfeeding topic; personally, the emergence of teeth would stop me. That's the only thing that skeeves me is the horror-movie flashes of a toddler clamping down and not letting go. I mean....you can't scream and hit them until they stop like you would with literally anything else that latches onto your flesh. But to see another woman braving it is none of my business. 

Personal UO: I'm sick of people telling me that it's best for babies to 'cook a little longer' when I say I would be happy to have this baby at 37 weeks (next week). Especially if it's a dude, or one of my friends who hasn't had kids. You know who doesn't say that to me? Anyone I've mentioned my wish to who works in the medical field. My old boss (PhD and MD) flat out told me that anything after 24 weeks was survivable, anything after 28 weeks was 'practically a piece of cake', but that ideally between 37-42 weeks was 'perfect'. Um....I'm going to trust the woman with 2 Ivy League degrees on her wall. 

rnyland1

having trouble putting this into words but here goes: I think it's everyone's individual choice about whether or not they want to have kids and I think there's nothing wrong with not wanting them. It must be really irritating to hear "when are you going to have kids?" and "you'll change your mind eventually" all the time. That being said, I find it immensely irritating when someone who doesn't have or want kids talks about (or makes a FB rant about) how much they don't want kids because of how awful they are and how they don't think having/raising kids is an accomplishment or something to be proud of at all....and they talk about this stuff right in front of me all while knowing I have kids! There's also various op-ed articles out there regarding this subject, which IMO are written in a "superior" tone. I just find it a little insulting because I consider my son my biggest accomplishment yet and I couldn't be more proud! Anyways, I hope that makes sense. I think both sides need to respect each other more for their various choices.

Kellyj103

stellaluna14 said:

thepen15ismighty said:

The further I get into pregnancy the more I can't stand people or find people annoying.

Yes. Beyond fucking over it. I have no desire to deal with anyone, they are all just awful. 

Yuuuuuup, this is why I am so antisocial these days. There are more and more people I want to punch in the f'ing face. 

My UO: even though they can annoy me at times, I really like hanging out with my parents. I think I see them like once a week. My husband always makes fun of me for it. It doesn't hurt that my dad loves celebrity gossip and will binge watch real housewives with me. 

MamaBish

This sure seems like a UO but it shouldn't be: people should not go up to people who are in the midst of something scary/stressful/whatever and start telling them horror stories about all the things that could go wrong. It's not helpful at all.

PSA: don't do that.

HenchBytch

@Kellyj103 I'm jealous. I wish I had parents like yours!

dolewhipper

@Weville agreed. Never creepy. Unless you're the GoT kid. Then, a little creepy.

rnyland1

@MamaBish that's my mom! She always remembers to bring up all the "what ifs" at the worst possible time, even in a positive situation! This is why I avoid her at all costs.

ESchreinerWrites

My UO, I prefer "Grease 2" to "Grease"

MamaBish

ESchreinerWrites said:

My UO, I prefer "Grease 2" to "Grease"

My DH agrees with you! He knows all the words!

ESchreinerWrites

@MamaBish I obviously don't know your DH, but I like his style

Jodi1980

LF93 said:

I read an article online yesterday about a woman who quit her job in order to breastfeed her boyfriend every two hours. Bare in mind, she doesn't actually lactate and 90% of the time it leads to sex between them. Each to their own when it comes to deciding how long to breastfeed for but that to me is just too weird.

Edit to add link: https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/1242796/i-breastfeed-my-boyfriend-mum-36-uses-pumps-and-pills-to-help-her-feed-her-gym-buff-lover-every-two-hours/

https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Woman-Quits-Her-Job-Breastfeed-Her-Boyfriend-41588173

I just read the same story but different article and trying not to judge but how can you not:

"In order to start the process, the pair has consistently been dry feeding and pumping every two hours in an attempt to induce lactation. "I want to devote everything to making this work," she said. "Nights have been a struggle because Brad sleeps so peacefully but we manage to cope — until he falls asleep latched onto me, which is beautiful."

Oh man...I just feel like it's a fetish more than the aspect of breastfeeding but it's just my opinion!

Weville

@dolewhipper That kid is just creepy no matter what he's doing so that's different

randishane011804

My UO- I profession is in veterinary medicine, so my world pretty much revolves around animals.  I have 2 animals.  Unfortunately most animal do-gooders are batsh*t crazy and feel that they should impose all their feels upon you.  While I love my dogs, they are in fact dogs and I will not treat them as I do my child. His well-being comes first. Period.  So don't come up to very pregnant lady carrying her 30 lb toddler trying to get her dog back in the house and yell at her for being a terrible dog owner!  Keep your old judgmental self at home!  You have 0 clue about me or my home and you have no idea what I do to keep my little, a**hole dog in my backyard. She's gotten out 2 days this week and a few other times over the past few months. Side-note: I live in a rental house and our neighbors tree fell into our yard and damaged the fence that separates our yards (it is their fence) among other things.  They have yet to fix any of these things and my landlord is already out of pocket the expense to clean up the giant tree.  She is suing them for damages and such.  We have repaired the fence to the best of our ability, financially.  Our German Shepherd we have 0 problems with but our Boston Terrier X has figured out a million ways to escape and run down the street.  With my husband on 2nd shift, being 8 almost 9 months pregnant, and having a toddler to keep up with I have just about 0 f's to give if she gets out at this point.  I'm really at my wits end and I cannot chase her down. I do realize the potential of her being injured or being killed. I do know this.  We have located and fixed numerous points of exit, we have done everything but replace the fence.  Which isn't happening. I can't.  If I owned the house it would be a different story but I don't.  I can't wait till we find/buy a house this fall.  Anyone want a boston terrier x? J/K. Maybe.

mamafox14

Warning, I may have like a thousand UOs today, it's just that kind of day. But here's one to start: 

I hate it when people talk about babies that don't cry or whatever else and call them "good babies" as if babies who cry or have trouble sleeping are "bad babies". It makes me uncomfortable. 

Oh also if there's anything I've discovered about the way some of the people I know talk about kids now that I'm pregnant, I am genuinely concerned for any future children they may have. And they have been removed from any babysitting list that may have existed at one point. 

Nerdchild

@randishane011804 Most people would describe me as a 'batshit dog lady' (They wear seatbelts and *legit* cold weather gear, I brush their teeth, etc.) but dogs are happiest when they have a firm place in the hierarchy and rules that fit. Babying a dog =/= responsible pet ownership/companionship. 

Eta: The above was meant to agree with your sentiments that dogs aren't babies, even to a 'batshit dog lady'

How about one of these for your little escape artist until the fence is fixed? No judgement here, my neurotic lab is the bad influence escape artist in my house. She's only gotten out twice when the gardener failed to close the gate, but when she bolts, she bolts.

randishane011804

@Nerdchild you're the good kind!    My dogs actually also wear seatbelts!  We had thought about something along those lines, but really it would have to be a outdoor kennel with a top and a concrete floor.  She's a total Houdini dog!  Which if were planning on staying longer I would totally do!  But realistically we are moving this fall and with a new baby on the way I cannot sink a grand into something like that to not be able to take it with us or even just the kennel. I would also need permission from my landlord for the concrete floor and I'm not sure she'd go for it.

Nerdchild

@randishane011804 Oh man, she's one of those. I have one of those dogs, mine is just 55 lbs and easier to catch. Trying to catch little dogs is like trying to catch a snake in a pool of lubed noodles. I have no words for how bad I feel for you right now....

TiffRox81

I feel you, @randishane011804. We have a Boston. We've come a long way training him to listen. He was so much worse when he was younger!! They never really lose their energy tho. Even at 9, he can outlast most other pups! Is there anything reasonably priced you can buy maybe at like Home Depot? When we were doing fence repair with our neighbors my husband bought some cheap temp fence crap that at least kept them pinned up. If she's that mischievous tho she might escape even that. Maybe she's making herself an indoor dog, hahaha!! 

elenabrent

That adult breastfeeding thing is not the same as feeding a child. That's a sex fetish. To each their own, but that's not the same. 

fantasticmrsfox

elenabrent said:

That adult breastfeeding thing is not the same as feeding a child. That's a sex fetish. To each their own, but that's not the same. 

This. 100%. 

randishane011804

@TiffRox81 I totally understand! She's 6 almost 7 years old and hasn't slowed a bit!  The way the tree damaged the fence the whole thing needs replacing, the way the tree fell it crushed a large section of the fence and the rest of that side of the fence was then loosened at the ground.  We have repaired it in the most obvious places, but it's also a chain link fence so there's only so much actual "repairing" one can do. I honestly have no clue where she's getting out at this point.  We are going to look over the whole thing again this weekend to see if we can figure it out and go from there.  The only thing I truly know to do at this point is limit her time outside unsupervised. It's going to suck for me and her, because I really don't have time in the mornings (which is when this lovely problem occurs) to give her more than enough time to just pee/poop and come back in.  In the evenings and on weekends me and DS are generally outside playing so she doesn't escape then.  The thing is it's not like she can't come back inside or doesn't have anything to do because she can and does. She's just an a$$hole.

kellz14

randishane011804 said:

@TiffRox81 I totally understand! She's 6 almost 7 years old and hasn't slowed a bit!  The way the tree damaged the fence the whole thing needs replacing, the way the tree fell it crushed a large section of the fence and the rest of that side of the fence was then loosened at the ground.  We have repaired it in the most obvious places, but it's also a chain link fence so there's only so much actual "repairing" one can do. I honestly have no clue where she's getting out at this point.  We are going to look over the whole thing again this weekend to see if we can figure it out and go from there.  The only thing I truly know to do at this point is limit her time outside unsupervised. It's going to suck for me and her, because I really don't have time in the mornings (which is when this lovely problem occurs) to give her more than enough time to just pee/poop and come back in.  In the evenings and on weekends me and DS are generally outside playing so she doesn't escape then.  The thing is it's not like she can't come back inside or doesn't have anything to do because she can and does. She's just an a$$hole.

Ahhh so annoying. For the times you cannot supervise her, have you considering hooking her collar up to a really long chain/durable leash instead of letting her run free in the yard?

PinkLady2015

ESchreinerWrites said:

My UO, I prefer "Grease 2" to "Grease"

Yas!!! And now I have Cool Rider stuck in my head..,

randishane011804

@kellz14 yeah it's on my list of things she might be acquiring this weekend!

PootsDragon

UO: Bringing up a "fur baby" in a conversation about actual babies annoys the sh!t out of me. Your dog is to my baby what my cactus is to your dog. It's okay to have a "fur baby". I have 2 of them. They're dogs. They're not human babies and it's offensive to compare the two IMO.

This has been coming up more and more often now that the baby is almost here and I can't decide if I should bring up my pet rock to compare to their dogs or my cactus plant...

rnyland1

@PootsDragon That started me in an argument with my mother on Mother's day. She posted multiple times on facebook (at least 4) on mother's day: "Happy mother's day to all the dog moms out there" and nothing about mothers in general. When I called her out on it started WWIII between her and I. I have a dog and a cat and I agree with you that comparing dogs/cats to human children is nonsensical. This also comes up repeatedly from my childless co-workers. Infuriating.