UO- 6/2

sammyl1221

Let's dish it out! 

sammyl1221

This isn't really an UO or maybe it is but duplicate threads drive me crazy. Search and search and search again before asking something on the board. We have so many threads and so many wonderful women contributing to them that when people ask repetitive questions/ start repetitive threads it just clutters the board. 

princesslockness

I second @sammyl1221. There really isn't a need for 3 'registry/buys/must haves' threads. especially not all on the front page.

My UO is that if you don't cash a check within 2 weeks then it should become void and you are SOL. It might be hard to hit a bank during their open hours, but they typically have an overnight box or an ATM that can do deposits.

Pgh_Kel

sammyl1221 said:

This isn't really an UO or maybe it is but duplicate threads drive me crazy. Search and search and search again before asking something on the board. We have so many threads and so many wonderful women contributing to them that when people ask repetitive questions/ start repetitive threads it just clutters the board. 

Ditto to this

LinziLoo09

@sammyl1221 totally took mine. Clearly not unpopular. I try to direct ppl to the original thread if I catch the post early. But most of the time I find that like 10 people have already responded, and I don't want to be the super-B who breaks up the party. 

Kristonita12

IDGAF which way the toilet goes on the holder. 

cjt121413

My UO is HATE the phrases "prego" and "about to pop." I'm not a jar of pasta sauce, and no baby ever "popped" out of anyone's uterus (I sincerely hope). Also why do people say "we're pregnant"? WE are expecting, but last I checked, DH is not nauseated, constipated, and getting bigger every day.

Not sure how unpopular these opinions are, but I seem to hear these phrases way.too.much.

beff12

My UO is that I miss the bump drama from back in the good old days. I love our group and the people in it, but there's no snark anywhere on TB anymore! It was so entertaining back in the day. 

Not to downgrade our group or anything. I always just enjoyed watching the blowups and white knights riding in to save the day. 

jenlynne0624

@beff12 YES YES YES. DS was born june 14 and it was such a different board. It got so sassy and fiesty sometimes. It was a totally different board than this, which I also love y'all and the support already, but like you said, the blow ups and white knights were pure entertainment. We had a few AE too which always made things exciting.

kbduke

My UO is that I hate the baby names board (not our thread but the board dedicated to it). I feel like there are a lot of super judgy people over there. I get it and I agree that no one should name their kid something crazy but if someone likes a name simply because they think it's pretty, who cares.

Also, it drives me up the wall that some of those posters who will attack someone for using an alternate spelling of a name (ie instread of y, etc) will have 10 misspellings/grammatical mistakes in their post doing so.

ashleaf2018

@kbduke Yes! Totally agree with you on that. I'm not a fan of the alternative spellings either, but honestly, it's not my kid. I don't see how some people can get that worked up over what other people name their children. 

Although sometimes I feel like the people who go on those boards are "asking for it" just in the sense that they know their name choice might not be popular and they are asking for opinions on it. So I guess my other thought is, don't ask what someone thinks of your name choices if you're just going to argue with them about why they're wrong. 

doodleoodle

@beff12 My November '15 board had so much snark! I've been waiting for people to warm up and get snarky, but I think everyone on this board is just really nice. 

princesslockness

@cjt121413 I say 'we are pregnant' as H is suffering through my outbursts, rages, cravings, and insomnia because misery loves company so I must drag him in. Preggo and Preggly make me rage-y.

@beff12 That is the main reason I don't hang out here as much as I could. It is entirely to calm for me most days. 

brittnic86

Soooo we should be bitchy to each other, rather than being nice?

Gizmo1231

My UO is: Just because I am better at something than you doesn't mean I should do it for you.
Back story- I'm on my third Thursday/Friday making baked goods and royal icing sugar cookies for other people's children's graduation parties. With no "thank you" no money nothing. The no gratitude is what sucks the most. I do not want to spend my days doing thing.
I should really learn to say "no"

beff12

brittnic86 said:

Soooo we should be bitchy to each other, rather than being nice?

Nope. It seems like everyone here is genuinely nice, which I love. I think there were more crazies on TB back then that kind of asked for it and it was fun to watch. My July 14 group had way more drive-by posters asking ridiculous questions which doesn't seem to be as much of a thing anymore. 

beff12

@cjt121413 I can't stand "prego" either (the word, not the sauce. I actually rather enjoy the sauce haha). I'm trying to remember if I say "we're" pregnant or "I'm" pregnant. I think I say we are, but you're right that it doesn't make much sense. Other than the fact that DH is the one that made me this way!  

mamabirdoftwo

I'm totally for breastfeeding in public covered or not. 

cgss11

The Sage ad that pops up on mobile is giving me rage.

DiFazette

beff12 said:

brittnic86 said:

Soooo we should be bitchy to each other, rather than being nice?

Nope. It seems like everyone here is genuinely nice, which I love. I think there were more crazies on TB back then that kind of asked for it and it was fun to watch. My July 14 group had way more drive-by posters asking ridiculous questions which doesn't seem to be as much of a thing anymore. 

I play nice but can turn into turbo bitch without much prompting.  I don't feel there's been infractions that warrant that type of response just yet.  No need to be bitchy just for the sake of it, IMO.  Our time will come for snark.  It's inevitable.  

My BMB from 2013 was ROUGH.  I try to be supportive since that was such a mean girl culture even if someone was asking a legitimate question, for the first time, in the right place - they'd still get flamed.  I like snark, when it's appropriate.  I also think I've calmed my bitchy down as a mother now - I try hard to lead by example and DS is super tuned in emotionally.  

mrsstarski86

My UO: I think there's too much pediatrician intervention and focus on exactly how much a newborn baby weighs early on. 

My SIL said that her pediatrician was super concerned that her son didn't bump up to his birth weight before they left the hospital. He told her that her breast milk was not nutritious enough (?) and that she should supplement with formula. She did and she didn't pump for many days after he was born, just gave him formula. When she came back to trying to pump, nothing came out.

A week later, the little guy still isn't back to his birthweight so they're changing more formulas and whatever else. 
I think that if they would have just let her nurse him the way she wanted to, this all (possibly) wouldn't be an issue. 

(Her son was born at 41 weeks and almost 9lbs, went down to just under 8lbs -if he was underweight or a premie this wouldn't be my UO )

cjt121413

@mamabirdoftwo I'm all for public bf-ing, too. But I'm also way too inhibited to actually do it. When DS was little, I definitely nursed him in the car many times rather than bf in public.

@Kate08Young Preggly is also atrocious.

As far as snark goes, I'm still hopeful that it'll come. We may start to get more randoms as time goes on. I have been snarky on this board a couple times when randoms ask questions that have been asked multiple times or start Dear Diary threads, but I usually feel like the village a-hole when I do it because y'all are so sweet. There's nothing wrong with being nice though.

jenlynne0624

mamabirdoftwo said:

I'm totally for breastfeeding in public covered or not. 

Omg this. If you don't want to see my boob in my kid's mouth, go back to looking at the Victoria's Secret poster you were just gawking out and get the ef out of my face. My kid is hungry and I will get ragey if I get bitten because of it.
 
I don't have a ton of shame will would nurse without a cover if my husband didn't get so weird about it. It's a boob. Seriously, just a boob.

phoenix870509

There's a time and place for snark.

I also vote BFing in public. DH just doesn't want me to cause a scene. I explained I wouldn't be causing the scene, ignorant assholes would cause the scene. Boobs actually serve a purpose. Society has sexualized them. Another reason I hate society.

My UO - Watermelon is gross. It tastes like water and sugar. There's nothing pleasant about that. Blech.

DiFazette

@phoenix870509 - I'm going to need you watch your mouth talking so rude about watermelon.  

I EP'd DS (since my pancake nipples and bowling ball breasts were too big for my 3 lb baby to eat from) but I will be freeing the breasts if I can nurse these babies this time.  I will have no time for modesty with two nursing babies.  I will also gladly tell people to 'suck it' at the slightest hint of disapproval.  

@Mrsstarkey08 - I'm sad for your sister.  I don't know if there were any other contributing factors beyond not gaining weight back, but I'm so sad nobody talked to her openly about what supplementing would do to her not yet formed supply.  My DS was supplemented from birth with high calorie formula which he needed to thrive.  My nurses were on my ass to pump every 2 hours despite that.  It's okay to need to supplement for a healthy baby, but sounds like she didn't get the right direction/support on the pumping side.  :-( 

slartybartfast

While the snark and stuff did provide some entertainment, I'd take our nice board over that ANY day. It got so disruptive and unnecessary. And there were so many people that would lurk waiting for the snark to be "safe" in a thread and then go off. I am loving the board sans high school.

My UO isn't really an opinion for anyone else because I honestly don't apply it to others or fault them for feeling differently, but sometimes people say things like... I'm not just a baby vessel or whatever. True enough, I mean I am still a person, but at the same time I really take the job of building the body that another human is going to have for the REST OF THEIR LIFE as an enormous responsibility. It definitely feels like the time in life I've gotta pony up and just give of myself. And this kid is definitely taking.

mamabirdoftwo

@phoenix870509 you leave watermelon out of this!


@difazette I totally hear you on pancake nipples and bowling bowl boobs!! I was so nervous I was going to suffocate my children and they were average size. 

I find winking at those who awkwardly stare at me while I'm bfing is such a great way to make things extra enjoyable. 

slartybartfast

Oh yea and by like 4 months in I was BFing everywhere in public, no cover. I was just so focused on feeding my baby I didn't care AT ALL if someone glanced at the fact that I have a nipple. Guess what. So do you! Take a gander! They are not that interesting.

JulieSmiles

I have a UO and a FFTC.
UO- I don't get the hype about McDonald's. The food is not that good. It is so fattening. 
FFTC- I just had McD's for lunch because it sounded SO good. 

phoenix870509

@DiFazette and @mamabirdoftwo will you put down the pitchforks if I say cantaloupe is amazing and honeydew is good, but only when it's super ripe????

bakerstreetboys

phoenix870509 said:

@DiFazette and @mamabirdoftwo will you put down the pitchforks if I say cantaloupe is amazing and honeydew is good, but only when it's super ripe????

Ack, I had to jump in here!  I love watermelon but ripe cantaloupe makes me lose my lunch even when I'm not pregnant!!

mamabirdoftwo

@phoenix870509 I'm all for ripe cantaloupe and honeydew!! I really just love melons. 

penelope4612

I think this thread would be more interesting if people expressed opinions that were unpopular (at least to some) and controversial.  Like the circumcision one last week.  We would also probably stop being so nice.  

One of the other boards (Oct? Nov?) has a good OU thread like every week.  It's interesting.

bakerstreetboys

@penelope4612 I always read those threads too!

JulieSmiles

penelope4612 said:

I think this thread would be more interesting if people expressed opinions that were unpopular (at least to some) and controversial.  Like the circumcision one last week.  We would also probably stop being so nice.  

One of the other boards (Oct? Nov?) has a good OU thread like every week.  It's interesting.

Then share one! What is your UO? 

cjt121413

I'm sure things will get a little more intense when people start talking about controversial things like co-sleeping, crying it out, whether or not to vaccinate, spanking, etc. But those things can still be discussed respectfully.

mamabirdoftwo

@cjt121413 I totally agree with those things being discussed respectfully. I was actually surprised at how well the circumcision UO went over last week. 

Lisa3379

cjt121413 said:

My UO is HATE the phrases "prego" and "about to pop." I'm not a jar of pasta sauce, and no baby ever "popped" out of anyone's uterus (I sincerely hope). Also why do people say "we're pregnant"? WE are expecting, but last I checked, DH is not nauseated, constipated, and getting bigger every day.

Not sure how unpopular these opinions are, but I seem to hear these phrases way.too.much.

Along with "prego", I HATE "preggers". A lot. 

whitneyp26

Kate08Young said:

I second @sammyl1221. There really isn't a need for 3 'registry/buys/must haves' threads. especially not all on the front page.

My UO is that if you don't cash a check within 2 weeks then it should become void and you are SOL. It might be hard to hit a bank during their open hours, but they typically have an overnight box or an ATM that can do deposits.

Omg seriously! I'm still trying to pay for our vacation LAST MAY because I wrote a check for the beach house we stayed at on May 2nd and the guy didn't cash it until August and it bounced!

bailando.bebe

My UO is that I don't like PB and J sandwiches. Never have, never will. I think it's a texture thing.

kbduke

I appreciate snark as much as anyone else does but I think there is definitely a time and place for it. I love how open and welcoming our board is to new people and different ideas. If it gets snarky down the road, fine. But I hope we can still keep the same respect we have now.