I love how our BMB posting schedule has totally changed. Weekends use to be dead around here but now that many of us don't know what day of the week it is chatter stay consistent all week. Peak post time was around lunch before too. Which makes sense because we were all working. Now most of the post are between 10pm- 4am lol
I do do miss all the gifs. I think most of us bump from our phones now.
I love how our BMB posting schedule has totally changed. Weekends use to be dead around here but now that many of us don't know what day of the week it is chatter stay consistent all week. Peak post time was around lunch before too. Which makes sense because we were all working. Now most of the post are between 10pm- 4am lol
I do do miss all the gifs. I think most of us bump from our phones now.
I am just happy the BMB is still here!!
I took Harper out alone this morning. We made a 3 block walk to Walgreens and back take an hour! I needed to be out, and used every excuse to stop along the way.
I've been using a great app to track LO's feedings and diaper changes. MammaBaby. Just thought I'd share in case you ladies could use help keeping track of things. DH especially likes that we can sync the app on our phones. He feels more informed and part of caring for LO when he can track her dirty diapers or know when she needs to eat again too.
I know there was a thread about this quite a while back, but I'm not going to revive it at this point...
Because both my family and DH's family live out of state, I was really looking forward to labor and delivery being just DH and me with our baby. The plan was to call our parents when we got to the hospital, and they would then make their travel arrangements and be here sometime the following day. Now, scheduled to be induced Wednesday night (and probably deliver sometime Thursday). Since there is a more definite time frame, DH texted me from work this morning to tell me that his parents booked flights to come in Wednesday morning. I told him I don't mind them being in town, but I don't want them sitting in the hospital waiting room Wednesday night or even Thursday. They can still wait for a call before coming to the hospital. He got mad and said he wasn't going to tell them they had to stay away. I told him I wasn't going to have this discussion via text, and we'd talk about it when he gets off work later. I'm furious with him! My own parents will be getting in sometime Thursday afternoon because I told them I don't want them here before. The thought of having people waiting at the hospital stresses me out. I'm afraid I'll feel pressured to get this baby out because there's a whole room of people waiting outside, which will make the whole delivery more stressful. Not to mention, if I have a really rough labor, I doubt I'm going to want to see anyone at all on Thursday. Is it really going to kill them to stay away for at least the first day?!
I thought maybe the hospital would have a lounge area inside the secured L&D area where DH could take LO to visit with family without them having to come to my room, but I just called and they don't have anywhere like that. They do have a nursery (although they encourage parents to room-in with the baby), but grandparents would only be able to look through the window. I mean, it could be a moot point if everything goes well because I may be feeling okay and up to having visitors later Thursday. I just don't want to commit to having to see anyone until I know how I'm going to feel, and I'm really pissed off at DH for springing this on me just days away from delivery since it has never been part of the plan for the past 9 months! My ILs are really nice, reasonable people who would understand if he would just talk to them, so I don't know why he's making such a big deal out of it. I mean, it's not like I'm trying to keep the baby away from any of the grandparents - I just may want to keep them away from me, which I can't do if LO is in my room. DH apparently doesn't understand that this is going to be traumatic physical experience for me and there's a good chance I'm going to want complete privacy for at least the first day of my recovery. When he gets home later, I'm going to talk to him and explain my reasoning. If he still pushes back, I'm just going to do whatever I feel up to on Thursday - which may mean kicking him out if he can't be more supportive. When I spoke to the nurse a few minutes ago, she said that if I was concerned about visitors, all I had to do was tell the nursing staff and they wouldn't let anyone through that I did not personally approve. It's nice to know that they will act as bouncers if necessary, but I'd rather avoid having people there altogether until I'm ready. Either way, at this point I don't care that I may end up hurting some feelings, but I'm not going to be bombarded with people if I'm not feeling up to visitors. I've had to deal with that when I've been in the hospital before, and I refuse to deal with that kind of stress again! Ugh!!!
For you STMs or those who have already delivered, how did you deal with the visitor situation? Did you allow anyone other than your SO to come to the hospital during delivery (e.g., in the waiting room)? Immediately after delivery? Did your SO insist on having his/her family visit immediately? If so, how did you deal with it? Were you feeling up to visitors right after delivering, or did insist on some privacy before letting anyone visit? I'm just trying to balance our families' excitement with my own need for privacy.
Had some gnarly contractions last night and was feeling like I wouldn't make it through the weekend. Well, I was right. My water just broke. Heading to the hospital soon!
@swflJD during both of my labors it was just my husband and I at the hospital. Both of our parents headed to the hospital once I had moved to a postpartum floor. My main issue was I wanted to wait until baby was out and healthy and nursed. I think I communicated that with everyone and they totally respected it. The first time around though I remember being seriously overwhelmed bc all four parents were in the room and I was just in an alternate universe. This time I was like I'm gonna shower, can you grab me some food, here hold my baby, etc, etc. will you be switching rooms/floors where you deliver?
So my water apparently broke overnight, but it was more like a slow leak. I called the hospital and they told me to go ahead and come in and confirmed my water was broken. So now we're just chilling here, hooked up to pitocin because it's been about 12 hours and my contractions are still super mild. Looks like we're having a baby this weekend!
@That1didntcount I will be on the same floor after delivery, but I'll be moving from a delivery room to a private room after. I know it's going to vary by person and birth experience, but were you feeling up to visitors that sane day? I feel like I'm going to at least want to shower before I see anyone.
@That1didntcount I will be on the same floor after delivery, but I'll be moving from a delivery room to a private room after. I know it's going to vary by person and birth experience, but were you feeling up to visitors that sane day? I feel like I'm going to at least want to shower before I see anyone.
I had visitors about 13 hours after I had my baby. It was nice but only because they came, saw the baby, then tucked me into bed for rest. I absolutely could not have done anything else or a visit longer than about 15 minutes.
@swiflJD the first time, my immediate family and grandparents showed up at the hospital unannounced while I was in labor before my CS. As soon as I was out of the recovery room, they visited and it was very overwhelming! I was vomiting and trying to breastfeed and it was just a total blur. I know they were excited, but I felt terrible and was struggling and just wanted to do skin to skin with DS, and instead everyone wanted to hold him and ask me about the surgery. The second time, I also went into labor before my scheduled cs (2 breech babies in a row...) but labor progressed so, so quickly that I was wisked into surgery shortly after arriving at the hospital. There was no time for anyone to try to come to the hospital early and DH sent out a mass text to my family members just before going in the OR to tell them he'd update them and to not come until he told them to. Baby was born at 6:31pm and my parents and siblings brought DS to visit very briefly around 9:00pm, then came for a longer visit the next afternoon. It was so much better and I'm so happy that DH held the line for me. I really hope that your DH comes around and can be flexible for you.
@swflJD I had the same exact thoughts as you and communicated it to DH ahead of time so he knew when to alert the parents to come visit. I figured I'd want just the three of us in the private room after delivery to rest and recover but I nursed in the delivery room and we had a couple hours of skin to skin and bonding time there before they relocated me so I ended up giving DH the word to call our parents about 5 hours after I delivered and invited them to come to the hospital to meet the baby. They each only stayed for ~20-30 min and it worked out really well. I totally understand your reticence about having people sitting in the waiting room, I wouldn't have wanted that either and I think you just need to lay down the law with your husband and ask him to respect your wishes on that and that you fully plan to invite everyone to the hospital once you're feeling up to it. Play up that right after the baby is born is a special moment for your new family of three and it's really important to you that you get a couple of hours together at the start of your baby's life.
@swflJD I actually want my parents there - or at least think I do. They're very accommodating though and have agreed to be on call, so I'll tell them when I'm heading to the hospital, and then they'll just come if I specifically decide it will be helpful to have them. Once they're there, they say they're happy to come in and hold my hand, go get my husband food, or just sit in the waiting room, but will also be fine to just wait at home. Even if you don't want them there, maybe you can request a similar arrangement and just not have them come until after baby is there and you've rested. I think it's totally reasonable to just tell them you're not sure what you'll want/need yet, so it would be great for them to just stand by and be ready to come when/if you need them there.
I've never been so happy to pass gas in my life! Since my CS I've had the worst trapped gas situation, I never knew gas could cause that much pain. After many doses of simethicone, 100 gallons of water and walks around the PP wing... I. HAVE. FARTED!! DH and I literally looked at each other and started celebrating - he ran over and gave me a hug and then we laughed at what we've become. It was awesome
Anyone else kinda miss being pregnant?? I don't miss the aches and pains and discomfort but I do miss that special treatment people give you when your stomach looks like you swallowed a watermelon. And I miss feeling her kicks. I'm crazy, right?
Anyone else kinda miss being pregnant?? I don't miss the aches and pains and discomfort but I do miss that special treatment people give you when your stomach looks like you swallowed a watermelon. And I miss feeling her kicks. I'm crazy, right?
No I miss it too. Not the horrible heart burn or feeling like I may explode, but yes the kicks and getting the girls all to myself a bit. Andrea the special treatment!
@yogahh as one of the still pregnant ladies on here... Yes, you're crazy!! The cute little kicks and special treatment come at a very uncomfortable cost that your brain is already making you forget. Please appreciate all of the awesome parts of not being pregnant anymore!
Not to say I won't be there someday, but obviously not yet when I'm still in the trenches
Anyone else kinda miss being pregnant?? I don't miss the aches and pains and discomfort but I do miss that special treatment people give you when your stomach looks like you swallowed a watermelon. And I miss feeling her kicks. I'm crazy, right?
Not crazy. The hormones will get you - it's how/why these babes have siblings!
I've never been so happy to pass gas in my life! Since my CS I've had the worst trapped gas situation, I never knew gas could cause that much pain. After many doses of simethicone, 100 gallons of water and walks around the PP wing... I. HAVE. FARTED!! DH and I literally looked at each other and started celebrating - he ran over and gave me a hug and then we laughed at what we've become. It was awesome
Anyone else kinda miss being pregnant?? I don't miss the aches and pains and discomfort but I do miss that special treatment people give you when your stomach looks like you swallowed a watermelon. And I miss feeling her kicks. I'm crazy, right?
I'm the exact opposite. I think I hated being pregnant so much that the lack of sleep, screaming baby, and sore nipples feel like relief. Being pregnant was seriously, by far, the most uncomfortable, painful, exhausting experience of my life. The reward is worth it but I'm not sure I'd ever want to do it again.
I don't really miss pregnancy...though I do miss being able to go into my room and sleep anytime I wanted to. I had no idea just how much I was taking that for granted!
Definitely don't miss feeling those hiccups inside of me all day towards the end of my pregnancy...but loving them now that she's born. I swear to God, even my daughter's farts are cute. Wouldn't trade this for anything.
After vacuuming today, I'm really feeling hatred for our carpets. They're a weird beige color, they stain easily, they're not very soft. Cleaning them feels pointless, though I do it often because DH and DS have allergies. The carpet was here when we moved in, but there is hardwood underneath. We exposed the wood in DH's/ my bedroom and the dining room; it's beautiful. DH insisted we keep it in the livingroom, hall, and boy's room until all of our kids learn to walk. So, here I am hoping g that DS2 is a relatively early walker like DS. Let the 10mo countdown begin.
@kbrands7 we have hardwood throughout our apartment and it can be scary when they're toddling around. But we have area rugs with thick rug pads. Maybe you can have DH compromise and do something similar?
I hate baby clothes! They're super cute, but I can't figure out what size my LO wears. We have TONS of 0-3 month clothes and by the looks of it, LO won't be able to fit the pants until she's 3 months. Some of pants differ in size by over an inch! We have one pair of pants that I know fit and I have to compare every other pair of pants against these. Annoying extra work just to get her dressed.
@Charla1224 - I feel you! Depending on the brand, the newborn sizes either fit great or don't fit at all. Same for the 0-3. And after 2 weeks, LO seems to be between sizes. Too long for the newborn sizes now, but not big enough for the 3 months, and the 0-3 is hit or miss.
I hate baby clothes! They're super cute, but I can't figure out what size my LO wears. We have TONS of 0-3 month clothes and by the looks of it, LO won't be able to fit the pants until she's 3 months. Some of pants differ in size by over an inch! We have one pair of pants that I know fit and I have to compare every other pair of pants against these. Annoying extra work just to get her dressed.
Ughhh me too! And since every brand is different, some of our 0-3 fit him whereas some newborn sizes in other brands do and I have no idea until I try to get him dressed. Trial and error and a giant pain in the butt.
Anyone else have a terrible rash all over there body after labor? It kinda looks like I have hives. Red bumps with little white heads and super itchy. It started up around wear those mesh panties I would at the hospital would hit. So I thought at first that's what was what it was. But now they are everywhere. Any suggestions?
@yogahh - totally miss it too! I was holding my LO and thinking just a few days ago I was feeling her (not so little) kicks! DH said he misses my belly too. I had a super easy pregnancy so maybe that is part of it. Also, maybe that the hormones are making me a crazy sappy emotional person lately. Watching Game of Thrones tonight had DH and me bawling our eyes out.
@yogahh - totally miss it too! I was holding my LO and thinking just a few days ago I was feeling her (not so little) kicks! DH said he misses my belly too. I had a super easy pregnancy so maybe that is part of it. Also, maybe that the hormones are making me a crazy sappy emotional person lately. Watching Game of Thrones tonight had DH and me bawling our eyes out.
You know what I don't miss though? LABOR.
F*** THAT.
I'm three weeks pp and asked my husband when we could get pregnant again! I miss having a big ole belly and feeling my baby from the inside. Labor sucked (20 hours NO THANKS!) but I don't think I'll have a long labor every time!
Re: Weekly Randoms 5-16
I do do miss all the gifs. I think most of us bump from our phones now.
DD: 05/14/16
I am just happy the BMB is still here!!
I took Harper out alone this morning. We made a 3 block walk to Walgreens and back take an hour! I needed to be out, and used every excuse to stop along the way.
I've been using a great app to track LO's feedings and diaper changes. MammaBaby. Just thought I'd share in case you ladies could use help keeping track of things. DH especially likes that we can sync the app on our phones. He feels more informed and part of caring for LO when he can track her dirty diapers or know when she needs to eat again too.
DD: 05/14/16
Because both my family and DH's family live out of state, I was really looking forward to labor and delivery being just DH and me with our baby. The plan was to call our parents when we got to the hospital, and they would then make their travel arrangements and be here sometime the following day. Now, scheduled to be induced Wednesday night (and probably deliver sometime Thursday). Since there is a more definite time frame, DH texted me from work this morning to tell me that his parents booked flights to come in Wednesday morning. I told him I don't mind them being in town, but I don't want them sitting in the hospital waiting room Wednesday night or even Thursday. They can still wait for a call before coming to the hospital. He got mad and said he wasn't going to tell them they had to stay away. I told him I wasn't going to have this discussion via text, and we'd talk about it when he gets off work later. I'm furious with him! My own parents will be getting in sometime Thursday afternoon because I told them I don't want them here before. The thought of having people waiting at the hospital stresses me out. I'm afraid I'll feel pressured to get this baby out because there's a whole room of people waiting outside, which will make the whole delivery more stressful. Not to mention, if I have a really rough labor, I doubt I'm going to want to see anyone at all on Thursday. Is it really going to kill them to stay away for at least the first day?!
I thought maybe the hospital would have a lounge area inside the secured L&D area where DH could take LO to visit with family without them having to come to my room, but I just called and they don't have anywhere like that. They do have a nursery (although they encourage parents to room-in with the baby), but grandparents would only be able to look through the window. I mean, it could be a moot point if everything goes well because I may be feeling okay and up to having visitors later Thursday. I just don't want to commit to having to see anyone until I know how I'm going to feel, and I'm really pissed off at DH for springing this on me just days away from delivery since it has never been part of the plan for the past 9 months! My ILs are really nice, reasonable people who would understand if he would just talk to them, so I don't know why he's making such a big deal out of it. I mean, it's not like I'm trying to keep the baby away from any of the grandparents - I just may want to keep them away from me, which I can't do if LO is in my room. DH apparently doesn't understand that this is going to be traumatic physical experience for me and there's a good chance I'm going to want complete privacy for at least the first day of my recovery. When he gets home later, I'm going to talk to him and explain my reasoning. If he still pushes back, I'm just going to do whatever I feel up to on Thursday - which may mean kicking him out if he can't be more supportive. When I spoke to the nurse a few minutes ago, she said that if I was concerned about visitors, all I had to do was tell the nursing staff and they wouldn't let anyone through that I did not personally approve. It's nice to know that they will act as bouncers if necessary, but I'd rather avoid having people there altogether until I'm ready. Either way, at this point I don't care that I may end up hurting some feelings, but I'm not going to be bombarded with people if I'm not feeling up to visitors. I've had to deal with that when I've been in the hospital before, and I refuse to deal with that kind of stress again! Ugh!!!
For you STMs or those who have already delivered, how did you deal with the visitor situation? Did you allow anyone other than your SO to come to the hospital during delivery (e.g., in the waiting room)? Immediately after delivery? Did your SO insist on having his/her family visit immediately? If so, how did you deal with it? Were you feeling up to visitors right after delivering, or did insist on some privacy before letting anyone visit? I'm just trying to balance our families' excitement with my own need for privacy.
will you be switching rooms/floors where you deliver?
Not to say I won't be there someday, but obviously not yet when I'm still in the trenches
In other news, there are some crazy people on the Internet.
DD: 05/14/16
Definitely don't miss feeling those hiccups inside of me all day towards the end of my pregnancy...but loving them now that she's born. I swear to God, even my daughter's farts are cute. Wouldn't trade this for anything.
DD: 05/14/16
You know what I don't miss though? LABOR.
F*** THAT.