A friend of mine was dead set on circumcising his son, and was hardcore against being uncut (and made it extremely well known). Well they had their son, and found out that being on state health insurance, it wasn't covered and they had to pay $500 (up front) to have it done. He was pissed, but it was his own fault for not bothering to check and see if insurance would cover it, and what they would owe if it wasn't covered. They made an appointment later to have it done, only to find out that it was now going to cost $2,000 because their son was a week or so old. So needless to say, his son wasn't circumcised. Before their son turned two, they had twin boys, and at that point....he was very nonchalant about circumcision (after dealing with his first son), and although they had the money set aside, he decided against it when the time actually came. So Mr. "I have to have circumcised boys because I think that uncircumcised dicks are disgusting..." has three little uncut boys, one not by choice, and the other two by choice.
Its funny how sometimes things can change like that!
@elenabrent haha "in the wild" ....but yeah, made very little/no difference to me. Didn't really want to explain this to my husband, so I'm glad hospital staff made this decision for us. Our second boy will be a no brainer obviously.
@elenabrent I was once dating a guy and the circumcision talk came up with a friend who was expecting a baby boy. I said something along the lines of "Wouldn't it look/feel weird for the girls who they go to have sex with someday?" (yep- rude and presumptuous of me!) The guy I was dating was baffled and announced "Ummm I'm not circumcised and haven't heard you complaining." Apparently erect they all kind of look/feel the same... I started asking my encounters "in the wild" if they were circumcised. Sometimes it was obvious and sometimes I was surprised by their answers. Penises are weird.
I don't want to circumcise our son but I also don't want to argue with my husband every day for the next twelve weeks. We have agreed that he will do sufficient research since he feels passionately about doing it and that if he still wants it done, we'll have it done on the eighth day.
--I need to check to see if our insurance will even cover it, that could help my case if it doesn't
@PugLoveBug I learned my doctor's stance today, lol! We're team green, but thanks to her slip ups, we're pretty sure Team Blue. She asked us today if we have a boy, if we plan to do so. We said yes, it is our plan. Boy, once we said that she was pretty vocal about being pleased!! I found that interesting. I didn't ask her WHY, but I do know she has two sons.
As other posters have said, I really couldn't care less if people do/don't do so for their sons. It's not my place to tell you what to do! It's sure nice seeing the differing opinions, for different reasons, and everyone talking so civilly about it.
Wow, to top off my feelings about looking too big in pics, I just changed my FB profile pic to me from a wedding last Saturday, showing off the bump. I thought it was a really nice pic and it would make me feel better to embrace it. Then DH's aunt posts a comment "Wow! Looks like I need to finish that baby blanket ASAP!" Umm, no rude-ass, still only 29 weeks. This isn't so much an FFFC but more like a Twatwaffle/WTF. Maybe we can change it to F*ck You Very Much Friday.
This is probably more of a UO than FFFC, but I forgot to add mine yesterday so here it goes: I find labor buddies on social media boards weird. Why bother giving someone the play by play? Why not just wait until you are up for it, and then post that your baby arrived? My DD was after 28 hours of hard labor and a emergency c-section. I still found a few minutes a day or so after she was born to post on the birth announcement thread. I didn't feel the need to text some internet stranger, to inform her that I was in labor (just so she could post on my behalf), and I didn't read any of the random special snowflake threads just announcing that someone was in labor. I just wanted to see the end result....stats and a cute baby picture, on the birth announcement thread. My feelings won't be hurt if someone waits days after giving birth to post that their baby arrived....so I see no use for texting someone, just to have them do a special thread to say "Hey, just wanted you all to know that Knottie203u4520394 is in labor." In the time that it would take you to text the person, you might as well just get on the board yourself and announce it. Especially since for most ladies, you are in labor for hours and are surfing the web anyway because you are bored.....
I was just talking with a guy I work with who just had a son a few months ago. He said they kind of suctioned it off with a cap. Just put it on, and everything fell off a few days later. My hs sweetheart was uncircumcised and minus the way it looked, I couldn't tell you the difference between one or the other.
@Taymiller yeah, I really don't get the anger behind the debate. I can see both sides of the argument, and I get to chose based on my opinion. Other people's choices don't impact how I feel about them or penises. Also, penises are weird.
I've had a few conversations with friends that are RNs and doctors who are very anti-circumcision, and a few that are very pro. When I told my midwife we were having a boy she asked our plan and when I said we wouldn't circumcise, she responded "that's the right answer." There are a lot of decisions that seem like no brainers to me, and circumcision is not one that I've been struggling with internally. Whether or not my son needs me to make him another quilt on the other hand...
With the exception of the one mama on this BMB who rocks the matching ones with her cutie son (because that's adorable) for HDBD, I'm not a fan of LuLaroe. Maybe I'm missing something but they don't appeal to me.
I had to google LuLaroe because I've never heard of it. We have a similar thing in Canada called Sweet Legs - I wasn't crazy about them until someone gifted me two pairs, and now I'm obsessed. They're so comfortable and I get compliments on them all the time! But I don't take offense to people who don't like them since I used to be one of those people
@sboston06 I'm lucky because I'm Canadian and I get a year off with our baby so I'm not as concerned about going back to work. I know it's going to be super hard but at least he'll be a little bigger. I would stop working tomorrow if I could (well, that's how I feel today haha)
My heart honestly goes out to moms who have to go back to work during the first year, and so much love and respect for their strength. I sobbed on the way to work every day for a week when my year was up.
There was an oddly bloody anti-circumcision protest going on on a street corner on my way home last week. It made me happy I'm having a girl and mad at the unnecessarily graphic depictions at a random intersection. I could not see that it related to any of the businesses around there. Jack in the Box anyone? Make your own decisions people and let everyone else at least have a blood free commute.
FFFC: An assistant at my office apparently has an aversion to bathing. Being in his malodorous vicinity is one of my pregnancy aversions.
@Taymiller yeah, I really don't get the anger behind the debate. I can see both sides of the argument, and I get to chose based on my opinion. Other people's choices don't impact how I feel about them or penises. Also, penises are weird.
I've had a few conversations with friends that are RNs and doctors who are very anti-circumcision, and a few that are very pro. When I told my midwife we were having a boy she asked our plan and when I said we wouldn't circumcise, she responded "that's the right answer." There are a lot of decisions that seem like no brainers to me, and circumcision is not one that I've been struggling with internally. Whether or not my son needs me to make him another quilt on the other hand...
@oneliloaktree13 I'm really curious where I'll fall on that. I guess it depends on what his hair is like? And how hard it is to manage? My hair is a fucking rat's nest and constantly makes dreads. If it comes to me picking dreads out of his hair that'll be that and we'll get out the ol' flowbee.
@taymiller if you ever get more of those whale leggings in for kids, I want them.
@rnyland1 I have only met one adult uncircumcised penis in the wild, but I'll agree that it was a perfectly lovely experience.
Ditto, and I actually found foreplay with an uncircumcised penis way less.. work for lack of a better word. In terms of the sex itself, absolutely zero difference in sensation or experience for me.
We won't be circumcising if we have a boy. In my opinion it's not medically necessary, and we have no religious convictions that are relevant to circumcision. Also, even though the risks are minuscule I can't personally justify even extremely small risks for a procedure that's not necessary.
I don't know any male who openly wishes his parents hadn't circumcised him or feels that his body was mutilated against his will, and I don't have extremely strong feelings for or against circumcision in general, but I do feel personal discomfort with the idea of making a decision about my child's body, without their input, that can't be undone.
We normally don't cut boys hair till 1-2 in my family. I'm curious if my sons hair with be curly and blonde. I haven't had this conversation with my DH yet.
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@oneliloaktree13 I can't imagine we'll cut it before he's 1 1/2 or 2, unless it grows really quickly or is a mess. I am so curious about this kid's hair.
@oneliloaktree13 I'll probably let my son's hair grow for awhile. If we cut it, we'll probably keep it on the longer, shaggier side until he can help decide.
I just love a little boy with long hair and a beanie...
@oneliloaktree13 i have curly hair and I'm hoping this little guy has some curls too so we will probably not cut his hair for at least a year... Unless it's a crazy mess.
Can we have a debate on how long the ladies having boys are going to cut their son's hair? That's more interesting to me than flaps of skin.
@oneliloaktree13 this is so bizarre to me! I have a friend whose son has blonde, curly hair. it's so adorable. She didn't cut it for a long time and people gave her SUCH a hard time, I just couldn't understand it. He looked adorable both before and after his haircut.
@DobbysSock ugh that's horrible, I really hope no one wants to go down that road with me. We'd end up having a discussion about being a bigot. I will say I won't do what my mom did and cut my brothers hair into a mullet.
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Our boy will not be getting a circumcision, we talked about it and we're both on the same page as being medically unnecessary. I don't understand how heated people get about it though.
I used to work with a guy who was uncircumcised at birth and for medical reasons decided to have it done later in life. He was about 22-25 at the time. He had major complications, ended up taking a significant amount of time off work and when he returned it was with a catheter. By the end of the process I think he'd had 6 procedures or surgeries, including having the doctors insert progressively larger needles into his urethra because the scar tissue kept closing over and leaving him unable to urinate. He was also doing the online dating thing and was unable to have sex because it was so painful to get an erection. Everything eventually healed properly.
He was very open about the process and I hadn't really thought much about circumcision until he told me about it. I know it sounds like just another scare story, but for me it was a firsthand account from someone who wished his parents had decided to circumcise him at birth. We have decided to circumcise our boy but the decision was mostly MH's and I didn't disagree.
DH and DS are not circumcised but to me it seems like it's a bigger thing in the US. I'm from England and DH is from El Salvador and neither of us really considered it because it's just not 'normal' to do to us. DS's paediatrician had us peel his foreskin little by little during his first year just so it wouldn't sort of heal over and have issues when he's older but besides that there's nothing really to keeping it clean
DS didn't even have hair until he was about 18m old. He is super blonde and was bald as shit. Since he did start growing hair I've always kept it military short. He's got a crazy cowlick right in front and long hair would be unmanageable. Plus I like my men looking tidy nowadays. I cut both my husband and sons hair.
This LO is a girl though so I'm letting that shit grow. I had a bad bowl cut as a kid that traumatized me so I'll keep hers long and in ponytails until she's old enough to decide for herself.
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Its funny how sometimes things can change like that!
this just made me LOL! I've never experienced one in the wild... and am glad I'm having a 2nd girl and don't have a horse in this race. :P
@elenabrent haha "in the wild" ....but yeah, made very little/no difference to me. Didn't really want to explain this to my husband, so I'm glad hospital staff made this decision for us. Our second boy will be a no brainer obviously.
--I need to check to see if our insurance will even cover it, that could help my case if it doesn't
As other posters have said, I really couldn't care less if people do/don't do so for their sons. It's not my place to tell you what to do! It's sure nice seeing the differing opinions, for different reasons, and everyone talking so civilly about it.
I don't get the debate.
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I've had a few conversations with friends that are RNs and doctors who are very anti-circumcision, and a few that are very pro. When I told my midwife we were having a boy she asked our plan and when I said we wouldn't circumcise, she responded "that's the right answer." There are a lot of decisions that seem like no brainers to me, and circumcision is not one that I've been struggling with internally. Whether or not my son needs me to make him another quilt on the other hand...
FFFC: An assistant at my office apparently has an aversion to bathing. Being in his malodorous vicinity is one of my pregnancy aversions.
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@taymiller if you ever get more of those whale leggings in for kids, I want them.
We won't be circumcising if we have a boy. In my opinion it's not medically necessary, and we have no religious convictions that are relevant to circumcision. Also, even though the risks are minuscule I can't personally justify even extremely small risks for a procedure that's not necessary.
I don't know any male who openly wishes his parents hadn't circumcised him or feels that his body was mutilated against his will, and I don't have extremely strong feelings for or against circumcision in general, but I do feel personal discomfort with the idea of making a decision about my child's body, without their input, that can't be undone.
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@oneliloaktree13 I can't imagine we'll cut it before he's 1 1/2 or 2, unless it grows really quickly or is a mess. I am so curious about this kid's hair.
I just love a little boy with long hair and a beanie...
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He was very open about the process and I hadn't really thought much about circumcision until he told me about it. I know it sounds like just another scare story, but for me it was a firsthand account from someone who wished his parents had decided to circumcise him at birth. We have decided to circumcise our boy but the decision was mostly MH's and I didn't disagree.
This LO is a girl though so I'm letting that shit grow. I had a bad bowl cut as a kid that traumatized me so I'll keep hers long and in ponytails until she's old enough to decide for herself.
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