DH and I had a snack mid-afternoon. When I started getting DS's dinner ready around 6 I asked DH about ordering our food (we were ordering in Indian, not something DS typically eats). DH said "well I'm not hungry yet and neither are you, so I wasn't going to order it yet". Did he really just tell the pregnant lady that she 'wasn't hungry"???? By the time the food got here I was downright hangry!
Last friday, a forklift driver told me "Waddle faster, fatso!". Really? I was a whopping 99 lbs before I got pregnant and now I'm 119 at 28 weeks.
People are all the time commenting that I need to eat more for the baby and that I'm too skinny. WTF. It's 140+ degrees where I work... I'm not going to eat everything in sight only to throw up from the heat.
Oooh and the ones that get me are the women asking me if I'm going to name my baby after them and trying to touch my belly. If they didn't put it there, they shouldn't touch.
my DH's grandmother is constantly telling me I need to eat because I barely ate with my DS...not true. And then the next week she'll make comments of how I'm getting chucking in the back...I've only gained 16 pounds and I'm at 34 weeks. And she would always call my DS a little devil or cute little devil. And it makes me cringe. I hate that term, plus I'm Lutheran. Now with this LO she says he's going to be a little devil and is gonna give you a hard time. She's the worst at thinking before speaking.
Lady in store: "When are you due?" me: "end of August" lady: "oh, wow! Do you think you'll make it?!" me: "um..... I don't know? I hope so." lady: "I know a girl who just delivered 2 weeks early. She wasn't quite as large as you.."
Why, thank you.
TTC 9/2013
BFP#1: 9/28/2013, EDD 5/28/13, MC confirmed 10/15/13, D&C 10/17/13
Cute, perfect figured 22 year old girl: when are you due?
me (excitedly): 1 month and 4 days!
girl (disgusted look on her face): OH MA GASH! You still have a whole month?!
Um yes. Yes I do. And I was actually feeling cute for once until you opened your mouth. Then I went home and cried to DH about it. Damn hormones.
The last time I saw this girl was at a friends 30th bday party. She isn't a regular within our circle of friends (thank goodness), but at this party there were like 5 of us who are pregnant and most of the other girls have kids. She goes "oh my gosh, I've never been to a party with so many moms and pregnant people!". Oh Ok, leave then.
"You'll NEVER make it to August! That's going to be a BIG BABY!"
...probably will go past my due date, like I did with my 8lb son, I carry all in front, thanks so much, yes it's hot as it tends to be in summer, a/c is a thing, ok, thank you, BYE
Size of tummy does not indicate when I will deliver. Just stop people.
So this morning I went to the grocery store. There were only 2 lanes open, a regular lane and the "express lane" (although it's not labeled as such). I got in line in the regular check out lane, I had a rather large load. The lady at the express lane called me over, I said, "are you sure?" and she said they have to help each other out. So I thanked her and proceeded to load the conveyer. Well a couple minutes later two assholes get behind me in line and begin to haggle me saying how is my load allowed in the express lane, just bitching and moaning. I said I was waived over to this lane by the worker. Towards the end one of them proceeded to say, "oh are you going to give her those sodas and juice for free?" (The ones on the bottom of the cart that she scanned when I first came over) I turned around and said, "she scanned them in the beginning asshole, Jesus Christ!" He continued to haggle me until I walked out the door. Mind you there was no one at the self check-out lane ... Ugh sorry for the rant but man was my blood pressure up after that! Now time to unwind.
@jkershaw2013 I probably would have lost my cool on them and told the to mind their own business. In a not so nice fashion. I've been surprisingly mellow through this pregnancy but as time is winding down I feel all the rage boiling at the brim waiting for some ahole to cross me. Come on, poke the dragon! I dare you!!
I thought DH grandpa had finally figured out that he can't keep making comments about how big I'm getting... wrong. Now instead of saying "wow, your getting huge", he has just started referring to me as fatty. I normally go with DH to visit him at least once a week, but I just can't anymore. I'm afraid I'll lose my shit and slap him.
@lotsofsunshine that's awful!! does he happen to have his own beer-belly thing going on? If so I would give it right back and say "well I'm growing a child, what's your excuse?"
People are so rude. I'm usually okay with the "basketball" or "watermelon" comments, but not when they are in the context of how i couldn't possibly get any bigger.
@lotsofsunshine stay away from that man! How awful! My FIL has made a lot of super rude comments about my weight and apperance since the day he found out I was pregnant, but someone finally told him to knock it off because he actually complimented me last time I saw him, well sorta. I just avoid him as much as I can now, he is the only person who makes me feel bad about my pregnant body.
@caitlinj187, yes, he is very over weight. I'm afraid if I give it back to him, it will just continue. He thinks it's funny. This is the same man who at my wedding reception thought it would be hilarious to tell an entire table of people I'd never met that I used to be a prostitute.
@Stephanie7693 I'm sorry you are having to deal with that crap too. DH finally said some thing to him. But I think I'll keep avoiding him until my crazy pregnancy hormones have subsided. I'd hate to be the one who finally snaps and slaps grandpa. Lol
If my co-worker asks me ONE MORE TIME when I am going out... "So... two weeks? 10 days? A month? Will you be here for _____? Will you be able to do xyz thing which is in three weeks?"
Let me peer into my crystal ball, I'll get right back to you...
I'm tired of hearing "I can't believe you are still working!" Well, if you are going to be paying my wages for the next 3 months, by all means, I'll leave right now!
I'm tired of hearing "I can't believe you are still working!" Well, if you are going to be paying my wages for the next 3 months, by all means, I'll leave right now!
So much this!
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
At this point in my pregnancy I don't give a shit on how your wife's pregnancies went. please stop sharing with me. I'm in the thick of my own and its 93 degrees out. Plus if you asked her, I'm sure she would tell a different story.
Random comments I've gotten from my sister, who has already had 2 children and even not pregnant, is still larger than me:
Sis: "You're getting wider" What I wanted to say - "No shit, my hips are preparing to push a baby out" What I really say - sarcastic "Thanks, sis"
Sis: "You're starting to waddle" What I wanted to say - "You had your baby 3 years ago and you still waddle" What I really say - sarcastic "Thanks, sis"
And my favorite, from someone I'm not even close to anymore: "It's about time"
Why? Just why? 1) DH and I waited to have kids. We got married young and I am very thankful for the time we've had with just the 2 of us. Is there a problem with that? 2) NEVER say that to anyone, you don't know how long they may have been trying or what they may have been through in the process, asshole!
This isn't something someone said, rather something they did, but.. I was walking down a hallway at work and this temp guy we have working here was coming towards me. Our hallways are plenty wide for two, even three people to walk down easily. And yet this dude takes a wide path around me, walking right up against the wall. You'd think I was carrying a wedding cake or something with the wide berth he gave me.
I'm not that big, dude. I'm also not going to break, or lose my water all over your shoes if you get too close to me.I'm not mad, it's just funny. I think pregnancy really brings out the awkward in some people.
This is more funny than anything else. A FB friend posted her weekly pic today - 40w. Today is her due date. Someone actually commented "the baby definitely dropped, I think it's coming soon!" First off, babies can drop well before they come but also, "it's coming soon"? Yeah, Einstein, she's DUE TODAY. You think it's staying in there another month??
Just went to target and a lady in the parking lot walking next to me said, "It's so nice it cooled down for you. I was pregnant twice in summer and it was miserable."
Me: "I don't mind it being too warm. Only a few more weeks to go anyway."
Lady: "Just so you know, it's easier when they are in you not out."
Screw you lady, if you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say anything. Also for all you know I could have like five other kids at home.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
A coworker looked at me and gave me bug eyes and said, "Well you sure are ready to pop! Bet he comes this week. I can't believe how big your belly is." Um, no, he has 3 more weeks to cook but thank you for making me feel terrible about myself.
@midwestbaby that is one thing I can't stand hearing anymore it makes my blood boil. "It's easier when they're in there and not out" .. or when people are like "oh you think you aren't sleeping now wait until she's here" .. um well I'm not sleeping anymore and I'd rather her just be here and me not get any sleep. Ugh
@midwestbaby@jkershaw2013 I always point out to people that yes, that may be - but once he is out I can hand him over to someone else, and go take 15 minutes to myself. Have a glass of wine. I can't do that now, I am literally the only person able to care for the baby... So while caring for an outside baby may be harder, at least I can get some help!
@midwestbaby I've always wanted to respond to someone by saying "why I didnt even consider that when we decided to have a baby. I thought staying up half the night, tantrums in the grocery store, and teaching another human to wipe their own ass would be a walk in the park." Every aspect of this is hard but if it wasn't worth it the human species would've died out a LONG time ago.
every time my husband's aunt asks me how I am feeling I tell her "pretty good just feeling tired". She says "well you just wait until baby gets here" or "you think you're tired now". First of all, when baby gets here I won't have to work 9 hours a day and spend 3 hours commuting to and from work each day. Also, I've done this before. Yes, its stressful and I know I will be tired but i am NOT sleeping right now and I am expected to be at work and chipper every day while doing my job. This woman doesn't work by the way. She has no idea! Totally looking forward to maternity leave and getting a tad bit more sleep than I am now.
Not sure if you're actually catcalling a pregnant woman, or if you're just saying damn at how huge I am. Not sure which is worse. Either way, street harassers can go to hell.
@jkershaw2013 that drives me nuts too. People always said that when I said I was tired. I told people I'd probably get more sleep with a newborn, and so far, it's true! I can get a solid 3 hours at a time now! I also was talking to some lady at starbucks today... she was asking about the baby, and we were just making small talk about it. I mentioned how much work a newborn is and she said just wait til he's 2! I looked at her and said, he's my 3, I am well aware what I'm in for. Lol the look I get when I tell people this baby is my third is priceless, especially when it's some smart ass comment like that
I was walking (well waddling) into the grocery store with DD and this really gross looking guy goes "Wow you have that little one and are still about to pop." Yes, random stranger, I am about to have two babies fairly close together. It was planned this way and thanks for making me feel gigantic.
Ive been getting a lot more side eyes when I go out with DD and daycare baby, too. I don't blame them though it looks pretty crazy (DD and dc baby are 7 months apart and dc baby and this baby will be 8 months apart and people usually assume dc baby is mine when we're out and about.)
My mom's response to hearing the doctor wants to do another US since he is suddenly measuring "a little" large.
"Oh, well, you know your cousin had her DD and she was 9 pounds, and she tore her apart. She had to have an emergency hysterectomy as soon as she was born."
No. I did not know that. Also - whhhhhhhy would you tell me that now? Hopefully the doctor is right - she thinks he might just be tall - DH was 24 inches and still only 7 pounds at birth.
My dad came to meet my son today about 25 hours after I gave birth. He looked at my stomach and said "wow, I don't remember you being so swollen and big after having [3 yo]". Thanks. Because everyone's stomach immediately goes back down after having a baby.
I had a male cashier ask me if I was dilated any yet and when they'd check to see if I am. Then he told me my husband should be able to feel if we had sex and recommended that we do just that. It's really mind blowing what people think is appropriate to say just because I'm pregnant. I thought my husband was going to lose it on that guy.
Re: Stupid Sh!t People Say!
Last friday, a forklift driver told me "Waddle faster, fatso!". Really? I was a whopping 99 lbs before I got pregnant and now I'm 119 at 28 weeks.
People are all the time commenting that I need to eat more for the baby and that I'm too skinny. WTF. It's 140+ degrees where I work... I'm not going to eat everything in sight only to throw up from the heat.
Oooh and the ones that get me are the women asking me if I'm going to name my baby after them and trying to touch my belly. If they didn't put it there, they shouldn't touch.
HR lady: "When was her due date?"
DH: "July 30th"
HR lady: "And when was she born?"
DH: "July 7th"
HR lady: "Oh wow, she came REALLY EARLY!!!!!"
Wtf. Yes, yes she came early and has been in the NICU ever since. NOT what we needed to hear
edited bc quotation marks*
And she would always call my DS a little devil or cute little devil. And it makes me cringe. I hate that term, plus I'm Lutheran. Now with this LO she says he's going to be a little devil and is gonna give you a hard time.
She's the worst at thinking before speaking.
Me: Nope, it's a girl!
Girl: Really!? I'm never wrong.
Me: Well, I hope you are!
me: "end of August"
lady: "oh, wow! Do you think you'll make it?!"
me: "um..... I don't know? I hope so."
lady: "I know a girl who just delivered 2 weeks early. She wasn't quite as large as you.."
Why, thank you.
TTC 9/2013
BFP#1: 9/28/2013, EDD 5/28/13, MC confirmed 10/15/13, D&C 10/17/13
BFP#2: 1/10/2014, EDD 9/19/2014
me (excitedly): 1 month and 4 days!
girl (disgusted look on her face): OH MA GASH! You still have a whole month?!
Um yes. Yes I do. And I was actually feeling cute for once until you opened your mouth. Then I went home and cried to DH about it. Damn hormones.
The last time I saw this girl was at a friends 30th bday party. She isn't a regular within our circle of friends (thank goodness), but at this party there were like 5 of us who are pregnant and most of the other girls have kids. She goes "oh my gosh, I've never been to a party with so many moms and pregnant people!". Oh Ok, leave then.
"You'll NEVER make it to August! That's going to be a BIG BABY!"
...probably will go past my due date, like I did with my 8lb son, I carry all in front, thanks so much, yes it's hot as it tends to be in summer, a/c is a thing, ok, thank you, BYE
Size of tummy does not indicate when I will deliver. Just stop people.
People are so rude. I'm usually okay with the "basketball" or "watermelon" comments, but not when they are in the context of how i couldn't possibly get any bigger.
@Mfuller76 Would you? Please?!
If my co-worker asks me ONE MORE TIME when I am going out... "So... two weeks? 10 days? A month? Will you be here for _____? Will you be able to do xyz thing which is in three weeks?"
Let me peer into my crystal ball, I'll get right back to you...
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Sis: "You're getting wider"
What I wanted to say - "No shit, my hips are preparing to push a baby out"
What I really say - sarcastic "Thanks, sis"
Sis: "You're starting to waddle"
What I wanted to say - "You had your baby 3 years ago and you still waddle"
What I really say - sarcastic "Thanks, sis"
And my favorite, from someone I'm not even close to anymore:
"It's about time"
Why? Just why? 1) DH and I waited to have kids. We got married young and I am very thankful for the time we've had with just the 2 of us. Is there a problem with that? 2) NEVER say that to anyone, you don't know how long they may have been trying or what they may have been through in the process, asshole!
I'm not that big, dude. I'm also not going to break, or lose my water all over your shoes if you get too close to me.I'm not mad, it's just funny. I think pregnancy really brings out the awkward in some people.
me: "this is my second, and I have 3 weeks to go. I don't think I need to be doing squats now, but thank you."
What does he know?!?!?
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Getting my oil changed last night, the guy changing it found a problem with my car.
He pulled me aside and said "I have some bad news for you. Please don't go into labor or something."
Seriously?
I was so annoyed I called my husband and made HIM talk to the guy at the shop. #toopregnanttodealwithit
Me: "I don't mind it being too warm. Only a few more weeks to go anyway."
Lady: "Just so you know, it's easier when they are in you not out."
Screw you lady, if you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say anything. Also for all you know I could have like five other kids at home.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Not sure if you're actually catcalling a pregnant woman, or if you're just saying damn at how huge I am. Not sure which is worse. Either way, street harassers can go to hell.
I also was talking to some lady at starbucks today... she was asking about the baby, and we were just making small talk about it. I mentioned how much work a newborn is and she said just wait til he's 2! I looked at her and said, he's my 3, I am well aware what I'm in for. Lol the look I get when I tell people this baby is my third is priceless, especially when it's some smart ass comment like that
Ive been getting a lot more side eyes when I go out with DD and daycare baby, too. I don't blame them though it looks pretty crazy (DD and dc baby are 7 months apart and dc baby and this baby will be 8 months apart and people usually assume dc baby is mine when we're out and about.)
"Oh, well, you know your cousin had her DD and she was 9 pounds, and she tore her apart. She had to have an emergency hysterectomy as soon as she was born."
No. I did not know that. Also - whhhhhhhy would you tell me that now? Hopefully the doctor is right - she thinks he might just be tall - DH was 24 inches and still only 7 pounds at birth.
Saw this and had to share! This was definitely me today.